Huge gambling debt

Huge gambling debt
Crippling depression
Drinking heavily
No sex life
No social life
Used to be fit, now in worst shape of my life
Fallen behind on rent, getting evicted in a few days
Can't tell anyone

Wat do and how are you?

just start over.

with that gambling addiction, you gotta see some specialist, also about the alcohol... talk with others people about your problems and they will either laugh about you or help you.

live is still going on, it just feels different now. you shouldnt think about all the bad shit youve done, think about the good youre gonna do in the future. it may be a long way, but its worthwile.

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Starting over seems like a good idea, but with no place to live in a few days it seems impossible. And there is now way people can find out about my situation. I've been able to hold it together, but losing my apartment is going to be hard to explain. If its happens, I'm literally going to run off to another country

Also that moment when you get sound advice from a neo nazi online :)

Sounds fun

Check out couch surfing online. Maybe there will be someone whose willing to give someone down on their luck a helping hand? Start working out, or at the very least exercising and getting fresh air in the morning and evening. You can get over this low point in your life OP its a lot about attempting to have a positive mentality. You can do this.

Made me chuckle

Living in a country where couch surfing online isn't really a thing, I think. Working out should be really good for overall health/mental health, but all the other things make it seem like a insignificant thing. Also, when your only eating oatmeal and pasta it seems pointless. Can't afford to require more calories. Maybe I will autimaticly get more fresh air 24/7 from now on though

Time to make friends, pronto. There have got to be support groups at a nearby church/etc....Even if you are not religious at all, a lot of the people who go to those kind of places are interested in helping people going through some tough shit. Stick w/ it op. Everyone goes through ups and downs. You are just in a down time.

why would you flee the country if someone found out you lost your flat? can you crash at a friends place or at your parents?

Been in a self destructive spiral for the last 10 years. Seems like it isn't just down time. I'm started to admit to myself that I really just am a piece of shit. I've been bailed out of a similiar situation before and I think I have exhausted the few people that can help from any trust/help etc. I have thought about seeking help at a church or something like that, but I am living in a very priviliged country so it seems so outlandish, even though it might be some sort of last resort

Basically it would reveal that everything would be revealed. I have been bailed out of a similiar situation before by my parents, but that was a once i a life time thing. I have done a very good job of pretending that everything is OK. Now, I don't really talk to my mother, and I'm 100 % sure it would destroy her if she knew what was going on again. My dad is also termanilly ill now, and I don't want to bring him that kind of pain again in his last few months.

If I am not able to sustain my lies, I will have to cut all ties and go somewhere else. I would not be able to live with myself otherwise, even though it would be a piece of shit move

>Huge gambling debt
Your choice to gamble
>Drinking heavily
Your choice to drink
>Used to be fit, now in worst shape of my life
Your choice not to exercise and eat well
>Fallen behind on rent, getting evicted in a few days
Your choice to prioritise other expenditure

Your choice to fix your life. frankly, I don't give a shit, as I'm unlikely to ever meet you.

Sorry to hear your going through this rough stretch man. Exercise is my main bit of advice.....If you feel just 10% better about yourself going forward that will be a positive gain for you that will propel you forward. Stop thinking about how you fucked up in the past and start thinking about how your going to do right for yourself and others starting today. You got this.

THIS. Complaining about it online is perpetuating the downhill spiral. Go outside and start breathing fresh air.

You are right, everything wrong is only my own fault. I don't know why I can't fix it

chris cornell and chester bennington knows the method

>I don't know why I can't fix it
You can. You just appear not to want to. Only you can do it. Start now. Grow up and take some responsibility.

You may need professional help if you are weak. If you are strong, you can pull yourself up, and get make something of your life. Its really up to you.

Even though it has been on my mind a lot, it's something I would never do. I truly hope that there is no after life, whether it's heaven or hell. I can't stand the thought of so much more time. But, while I'm here, I might as well live it out. Whether I get 20 something years or 70 years doesn't really matter, it's all just a blink anyway

Shit always gets better. Just got to stick w/ it. Whether your stuck for 2 months or 20 years. It really is up to you and how much effort you want to put into getting better.

Yo are all right, and I probably need help. I truly don't know if I deep down enjoy feeling sorry for myself. I probably do, and living this lifestyle allows me to wallow in all of my pity and addictions. I wouldn't say that I seek pity thongh, as I have told literally no one this in real life. But, I must admit, it does feel good to get it out

If you need someone to talk to even if annon online kik me omo jowotter.y no space no period. It does feel good getting shit like this out and having someone to talk to is 1/2 the battle. I understand how we cant really talk about this IRL....Its strange how well the internet helps us to express inner feelings etc.

You are still here. Fuck off now and start putting your lifer back together.

You may ask yourself if you can do it, if you need help. Assumiong you have enough math to work out a simple budget, ypou have all the skills you need.

Imagine you went to a therapist for help. They'd talk to you, but they wouldn't DO anything. They'd just point out to you the self-evident truths of your situation and how to fix it. But you know at least 90% of that. Stop gambling. Stop drinking. Work out a budget. Man up and talk to your landlord. Be humble. Apologise. Ask for his help and understanding. Say it'll get better (and make sure it does).

Do these things, starting now. Go pour the booze down the sink. Now. Don't post again. Don't even acknowledge this.

This instant is possibly the start of the rest of your life. Choose well.

That's a really nice offer man, I don't actually have kik, bu tI will definitely save your name. Can't promise I will hit you up, as procratinating is one my skills that has led me to this glorious life. If I do, I'll make sure to make a fitting screen name though

>procratinating is one my skills that has led me to this glorious life
I told you here to fuck off and start.
You're still fucking here. I'm done with you

Get a fucking Job

I'm about a half a bottle of rum deep now and I feel kind of good. I had planned out to start making changes as of today actually, but my eviction letter threw me off completely. And yes I know, it was an easy excuse to give up once again. I did call my landlord today, problem is, it's not a landlord, but a big company. They said, I have until tomorrow to come up with the money. I know I can't though :) So tomorrow, I will have to call again on my begging knees. If it doesn't work out, I'm fucking bailing

Boo fucking hoo.
This was me
You don't want to fix your life. I don't want to waste any more time on you - you are now confirmed as one of life's losers, as that other half should be down the sink right now and you have NOTHING to feel kinda good about - yet.

I just hope you're a troll and I've taken the bait, because if I haven't then you really are that much of a sadsack. I'm closing this tab. Fuck you.

How did you fix it? Haha, I know that I'm a fucking loser. Theoretically, I think I'm kind of smart, but I have absolutely no life skills and no implulse control

high schooler going to uni, no social life and not in shape, can't blame any of that on "pressure" im just fucking lazy. at least i got parents to mooch from.

Ok, so now quite half a bottle. Shitty rum, I know

By all means, spend a lot of time on Sup Forums

Finish that bottle and get down to the casino. You're due for one, final big score that will get you out of debt for good!

>No gambling debt
>Severely crippling depression
>Drinks occasionally to often
>average sex life
>almost no social life
>I could do better with my physique
>I have my own apartment and I always pay rent on time

I may have my shit together but I seriously wanna kill myself

Hahaha, didn't know my inner self had a 4 chan voice

So why do you want to kill yourself?

If you're content with being lazy, I guess it's fine

Maybe because he can do better? We can all do better. You'll never know if you rage quit though.

everything that led me here basically. loneliness, the crippling depression, empty friends, toxic people i can't get rid of because if i did then the only thing i have to a social life will be gone.

sorry, I meant empty sex

tell ethan. that's what I always do. he usually listens

Loneliness is a killer. All though for my part, it's mostly my own fault, since having no social responsibilities is mostly my own fault, since I feel inaduquete to hang out with people + it gives me more time to follow my vices.

I don't know if I'm a depressed fuck because I'm a lazy fuck, or if I'm a lazy fuck because I'm fucking depressed. Sounds like you might not have too many external sources of trouble though, so maybe seeking profesional advice would really help

He won't listen ot me though

I've always considered therapy but I've always had the thought that it'll be fucking worthless anyway

Get your ass to a gambler's anonymous and/or AA meeting, talk to the people there, do what they recommend. Get a sponsor, work the steps. The shit you're in sounds pretty miserable, but it's not the end of the world, and it won't last forever - that is, unless you keep doing the same shit that got you to where you are now over and over again and expecting different results. Good luck, fampai

I always heard that it would be a great help. I always postponed it though, until I got my first real job though, so I thought I had to clear my life up before starting. So I went to the doctor and it was a kind of an awkward experience. I think my problems are rooted in some sort of deeper depression, but obviously gambling/drinking are my main problems now. Since I seem so " well adjusted" it kind of baffled him that I came with so much at once. He told me to come back, but I never did since I was too busty with work and couldn´t "deal" with anything else. I think you should definitely reach out if everything else seems in order but you just can't seem to shake that something wrong

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From what I'm reading it sounds like a 12 step meeting would be enormously helpful. What you're describing is very similar to where I was about three years ago - I finally had to ask people for help once I was facing six months in jail, I ended up doing inpatient rehab and have been sober/getting my god damn life together since then. AA is pretty cult-y and there's a bunch of shit in the literature about god with capital G (which really chaffed my taint at first), but it's a huge relief to talk to people who are just as fucked up in the head as you are and realize you're not alone and that there's nothing you've done that's so bad no one else has ever done it before. Sure, shit will probably suck ass for a while, but until you're willing to ask for help and take some advice, you're gonna be stuck in a vicious cycle. My heart goes out to you user, I know that feel.

Went to the doctor with all of it, as written above, he seemed kind of baffled. He suggested I contacted AA, but since it is a kind of smaller town, theit office is literally located right next to where my father lives. I know, I know, I have excuses for everything. I should try to contact gamblers anonymous though. Problem is, I have a huge debt because I gamble, but if I don't gamble, I will only to be able to pay 1/3 of my bills.

one of the really 'fun' things about alcoholism, gambling/drug addiction, etc. is that we're incredibly good at justifying all of our bullshit. Just go to a meeting and see what happens. Stand up and introduce yourself when they ask if there are any newcomers - people will approach you afterwards and introduce themselves, give you their phone-numbers, and tell you to call them if you need to talk about any of your shit. They won't pay off your gambling debt, but it's entirely possible they might be able to help you find a place to live, and will have a lot of insight into how you can go about un-fucking your life. Granted, there are ratchet-ass lunatics in every AA/NA (and I would assume GA) meeting, so you don't have to take anyone's word as gospel, but it sounds like you don't have too many other options my dude. Also, from my experience, it can be an incredible relief to finally admit that you can't do this shit on your own anymore. There's definitely help out there, but you've gotta be willing to ask for it and seek it out. Try it for a while - if you don't like the results, you can always go back to what you were doing before

I don't live in the States, so I don't think we have the AA/12 step program in the traditional sense. I am not religious at all, but from what I understand, AA is about accepting that you have no control over your addiction and that there is a higher power that you need to accept that will help you overcome it. As of now, drinking is a mean to escape the other problems, not the root of it. All though, it is probably the most physically harmful

How much shit do you have possessions wise?

Should also mention that since I got sober I've made a lot of new friends and have been getting laid much more often - including a threesome with two women I met in AA.

Throwing this out there in case the whole "your life doesn't have to be such a hot pile of garbage" thing isn't compelling enough

Ex-military guy from a few days ago that fucked his dead best friends wife/became a stepfather to his daughter reporting in
Moved in with them, just put her to sleep, gf is now sleeping next to me, both of us had a long day at work and we went out for a swim. It's pretty hard to not start drinking again, mostly because of all the pictures that his wife aka my gf has of him around the house. And no, I won't post pics of gf, out of respect to my best friend

Trump... is that you?

I'm so sorry man... are you two in love? Is it something you feel your friend would have wanted?

Your higher power can be whatever the fuck you want it to be, the important thing is to realize that you can't try to control everything. Personally, I get down with some Zen Buddhism, but I can still find a lot of value in the 12-step stuff. I recommended AA since it's what I have experience with and it's also probably the most wide-spread in terms of you being able to find a group where you live. Try googling Gambler's Anonymous/AA meetings in your area - there's usually an online list of meetings for whatever city/town you're in, unless it's incredibly rural ..12-step shit is all over the globe, so stop making excuses. Also you just said there's a meeting right next to where your dad lives, so try that shit out.

Just remember, there's nothing anyone else can tell you that will fix your shit - there's no magical piece of advice that's gonna make you say "ah hah!" and suddenly know what to do. And of course no one can convince you to get help with your situation. You've got to decide this stuff for yourself. All I can say is that if you're out of options - which it sounds like you are - and if you're drinking a lot, and in a "downward spiral for the past ten years" then AA might be a decent place to start. You may not be an alcoholic, or a gambling addict, but since it sounds like drinking and gambling got you to where you are at the moment, it may be prudent to address those issues before you try to fix anything else.

I have about 250 dollars in my account after all bills are paid and I'm still behind 1 months rent, which is about 1350. Besides that my I have fuck all. Have a shitty laptop, shitty phone, and a a watch that was gifted to me in the drawer. I guess I could sell the watch for 100 dollars. I would have gamled the 250 away like the did the last few months, but I was living og nothing but oatmeal and pasta for the last 2 months, so forthis month, I have been able to save a little for food this month.

I'm not sure, I posted about it a few days ago, since we first fucked when we both were drunk on his birthday, last friday, moved in yesterday, so far it's pretty much been like were one of those families in the stock "Were a happy family with no problems" type of pictures. I think he'd disaprove of me fucking his wife, but he'd aprove that I'm trying my best to raise his daughter to not be a slut

You can always donate blood and/or give handjobs

You sound like a good dude. I would never be able to live with/support a woman/girlfirend, especially someone with a kid. But I see no shame i being with a woman who has a kid. I get that you feel guilt about your best friend's girl, but since he is no longer here, there is probably no one that he would rather have be with his family than you. And, it could easily become your family if you let it. This is OP btw, I'm starting to get too drunk too know who I am answering

Donating blood doesn't pay here. I doubt anyone would pay to receive handies from me :)

My tip for you to stop drinking is think about how much money you could save by not drinking and about me feeling guilty, it's not just that I'm now fucking his wife, but it's also the fact that we were in the same squad when we were deployed, hell, I still feel like I could've saved him if I called in the shitskin on the mine faster...

Holy shit, I am Trump. Only difference I use Sup Forums and not Twitter... He wins again

I don't think I'm an alcoholic, but I am definitely a gambling addict. Got paid yesterday, played about 20 poker tournies from about 5-20 dollars and breaked even. Won about 1K on sportsbetting, was so close to being able to pay the immidediate bills off, then lost it all on the roulette. But during it, for the first time I realised I probably loved the gambling more than the potential win