Why do you have trust issues?

Why do you have trust issues?

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Because my first gf pulled a horrible ass move on me after making me put in so much effort

I don't have trust issues. What makes you think I have trust issues?

My mother bailing on me.

My ex and I dated for 2 and a half years, told me all the time how often her ex cheated on her and hoped that I never did it to her.

She went away to med school september of 2014, I spent money I didnt have, begged for vacay time at work I shouldnt have gotten, and traveled halfway around the world to see her.

Found out she was fucking some other guy and ghosted me after I got back home.

I didnt lose trust, I took it out back and put a round in its fucking head.

seems about right for a reaction

>it

was he a nigger?

is not caring at all the same as having trust issues?

Because I lie to a lot of people and figure they do the same to me.

because grils are evol

That sounds awful. Sorry about that bro.
Got any pics...

Because these femanons start threads without tits and a timestamp

No, burned the phone along with her box of shit.

>almost all of my high school friends have abandoned me
>my family no longer speaks to me or even checks if I'm still alive
>everyone I've trusted in my adulthood has revealed themselves to only be out for themselves, royally fucking me over in the end
>own parents fucked my life over early in adulthood, and are now straight up denying having any part in it
>haven't had a gf since 2005
I've learned that I can only trust myself, and even that's sketchy sometimes

Because it's a simple fact that humans are untrustworthy.

Trust was needed in tribes because you encountered the same people over and over, so betraying someone's trust really meant something. Today, one has much more power and opportunity to deceive.

When placed into positions of power, people become monsters. The only thing keeping people from revealing the sick desires they have deep inside them is the fact that they are not powerful enough to have their wishes granted.

Fair, did that help?
How long ago was this?

Sounds like you are the perfect candidate for ISIS, step up nigga.

Meh, fuck ISIS/Daesh. I still have anime and vidya to keep me from losing it.
>tell ISIS

>bottom text

I went down to visit in June 2015, Found out they had been fucking since at least her birthday (May 23) and mosg likely earlier.

I'll never forget the messages I found on her phone either.

Him: I can't wait to have you again
Her: After my period and after he's gone I'm all yours.

I lost my shit and campus security had to escort me off property.

It's kinda pessimistic to say I've lost trust in women after only one relationship (in all honesty I haven't because I know good judgement on my part will prevent shitty future relationships) but women just like men operate as individuals fallible both to time and change. It's a fools game to fully put your "trust" into someone. The person you trust might always be faithful but realistically that's the exception not the rule.

And it sorta helped

had 5 GFs all through highschool, unfortunately they all cheated on me, none lasted more than 2 months.......

i maek big cums?

Wow. That's fucking brutal.
Don't let her ruin you man. There's girls out there who aren't completely dicks.

I dont think people are evil I think people are weak.

Are... are you stupid?

Because my ex gf has turned all my friends against me out of revenge

>Why do you have trust issues?
Because after 11 years of marriage she basically admitted she tricked me into knocking her up because she knew she couldn't afford to raise her other two kids by herself.

Single mom... NEVER AGAIN.

lol, i don't

Well yeah dude. You should've seen the hints if she was actually having financial trouble as a single mom. That would've been my first red flag, but hindsight is 20/20 I guess. It's fucked that she even brought that up. She could've taken that info to the grave.

Because you're the most disgusting, immature piece of shit ive ever met.

Also nosey as fuck, creepy and invasive and a genuine piece of manipulative shit. Fuck you

The first girlfriend I ever had was in my freshman year of high school. After two months of dating she dumped me and told me that the only reason she said yes when I asked her out was because she felt bad for me because I was more of a nerdy kid. Fucked me up real bad and it took me years to ask another girl out.

because im obsesssd and mistake politeness for romantic interest. in reality i just come across as a batshit crazy mentally unstable stalker

Few reasons

>Brother would beat my ass and bully me, parents mostly did nothing
>After kindergarten more bullying until my junior year in high school (stayed in the library, became a bookworm)
>Been betrayed and/or left by any 'friend' I had
>Had only one relationship that marriage was on the table, breakup occurs, ignores me for a couple months and rides the cock carrosel, and finally tries to literally cuck me around Christmas

Life now
>Haven't really left the house in 5 years
>Been offline on steam for 3 years because getting a message sends me into a mental shitstorm
>Can't even into online friends in general, have a great time and game for a few weeks/months; and then I disappear/abandon them and add to the pile of shit I feel like
>Fail almost every in-person class because I flip my shit at the thought of being around people

So yeah. Been getting slowly better with going to the local pub, microdosing mushrooms, and working out. I mean lately I've accepted the shit that's happened and I've been feeling okay for the first time in a decade.

But the thing that crushes me more that anything?

The loneliness.

I just want to connect with someone, and I can't do that being myself.

So
>pic related

Because I can't even shitpost in peace

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i don't i just pay attention

how do you know this????

I don't.

trust is earned, only a fucking idiot would blindly trust anyone, especially some cancerous piece of shit that you already know isnt trustworthy

Because-- wait, why do you want to know?

Altruistic approach that sees people for what they are. Best sentiment in here.

Eh, emotionally stunted, used to being surrounded by sadists who like to blame-shift, could never really accept that people cared, ended up being gratified by hatred for who knows why
Ah well, guess I'm a piece of shit and just have to live with that

GF of 9 years has just left me two weeks ago.
Told me she was going to work. I got home early. I got into the bathroom while she was showering and saw her save her pussy. Saw the matching underwear. Heard her bullshit story about having to leave for work a little early today. Things just didn't add up.

She confessed she was going to see another man ("for the first time, I swear user"), colleague from work.

Things have been tough this past year, but I was not expecting this. I was going to marry that woman. She knew I already had trust issues because my ex had done THE SAME THING after 3,5 years.

Now I am 31 years old. The past 2 weeks consisted mainly of crying my eys out when I am alone and fucking the living shit out of 2 girls that have had a crush on me forever.
I fuck them to kill the pain, but once I am alone again I am back in hell.

good one

Because a lot of girls can be extra slutty at a young age and even MILFs can be slutty like wtf I mean I trust my girlfriend out of every female I ever talked too but like idk

Why would you not?

Have you left your basement enough to socialize more than an hour collectively? You can't trust people. It's something that you should really probably not give to more than a small handful.

You guys need to get over yourselved and let people in. Most people can be trusted once you get to know them a little. Let people in to love you, be more open about your thoughts and feelings. People are a lot nicer than you think, and don't worry so much about what they are thinking.

Can't man, tried and they ended up mangling my infantile little insides just to string them up and mock me while I sputtered uncontrollably
Now I get to watch as people live happy fulfilled lives while I'm stuck in condemnation
Go me

I think if you are talking about males then that's somewhat true, but woman can never be trusted.

Open up slowly. Try to tell your coworker one or two more revealing things about yourself. Doesn't have to be anything ridiculous or anything stupid. This whole life thing isn't as big of a deal.

Let people in? Oh I have let her in. She was my life. She knows everything there is to know about me. But I'm through with it. I will never give that much to anyone again. With the exception of my children if I'll ever have any.

I know I sound like a kid, and I am pretty sure it is just the pain, but man, fuck women.

I do begin to realize that I am in the wrong thread thoug. Sorry bros

You haven't found the right women. Focus on searching for one and you will find her.

Nah man, as of now I'm a pretty grotesque shell of who I was and my entire history stacks up to shitting on everything worthwhile out of the incessant need to ensure that I'm fucking miserable and worthless
I don't open up because there is nothing but hideous, vile shit on the inside

I definitely found the wrong one

...

You are probably right. I thought I had found her theough, and I have invested 9 years of my life in the wrong one. And right now I am way too tired and hurt to search for a new one.

Because a wise man once said "bitches ain't shit" and I have not met one that disproved the theory

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>women
>we are all humans who make mistakes everyday
>i've never met a couple who've not failed at least once according to cheating
>Sup Forums
>all women got nudes
>keep looking for at least one who isin't promiscuous
>memes

lol dude sounds a little ironic

Sorry to hear that man.
If you don't mind me asking, what does she do for a living?
I track mine through GPS, but this is a fear of mine
>Together 8yrs

Because everyone is in it for themselves.

she is a cop.

Male dominated field. Figures.
Did you see it coming?
Did you keep tabs on her at all?

Because humons are despicable pieces of shit.

I guess a part of me did. Things were weird for the past 2 months. But where I saw the need for a "okay, we can't go on like this, we need to talk to fix this" talk, she had already made a different choice.

As for her working in a male dominated field: Of course I did not like her carreer choice and I kind of expected this shit to happen some day. I am a good looking guy with a very nice carreer ahead of me thoguh, everyone who hears about our break up is like "what the fuck is she thinking", her mother even called me last week, crying, telling me it is just a phase and I should forgive her daughter, she would make things right eventually, I am the perfect man and so on.
But that does not help. I even know the guy. He is just a random average joke. Nice guy, but seriously, he is a joke compared to me. Still, she is not with me so I guess I'm the fool.

Loneliness is the most poisonous thing for a depressed person. Gotta' find some way out.

I joined a local crossfit gym, so far it's been fun. Also thinking of taking a cooking class here soon, and dance lessons.

I feel for you bro.
I hope you done mind the questions, I'm going through my own things right now.
How did she pick/end up in that field?

Don#t worry man, it's cool, it is actually nice to tell the unfiltered version.

She always wanted to be a cop. I have a picture that she drew when she was 7 or 8 where she was a cop and throughout her whole life she has always told everyone "police officer" was her desired carreer.
This is not a bad carreer choice where I am from, it is not easy to become a cop here.
Fuck, why do I feel the need to defend her?

It's cool man, after 9 years, there's always going to be something there.
I hope you somehow, someway you come out of this user.
Like I said, in a similar situation. But I'm trying to keep it together.

because females have honesty issues...

this is pure honesty. practice that more often to over come your trust issues, homie.

in what way is your situation similar? Do you suspect your girl to be cheating? Or are you guys going to a rough phase?

My girlfriend is a firefighter/Paramedic.
We have been going through a rough patch for 7 months now.
I been with her 8yrs.
I picked EMT as her career, not thinking it through.
>We were 22 tt the time
I didn't know.much about it besides it paid well and pretty easy career path.
>Fast forward to now.
The only great career for a Paramedic is to join a firefighter department.
>What can I do? Tell her not to join the best thing for her for a career I picked?

That whole "Brotherhood" mentality is annoying as hell to me.
She doesn't exactly believe in it, but it's either be a slut(Normally friendly) or be a bitch (reserved).
I see her GPS, and nothing out of the ordinary.
The department she's in is small and very strict, so I doubt she's getting banged at the station.
But somehow, I just can't shake the feeling something's off.
>I even check her cell phone records.
Things are getting a but better, but I just feel this job will be the end of our relationship.

you know... you can own up to having made a bad decisions. we make bad decisions all the time. sometimes they don't matter and we can brush them off. can you brush that one off? talk to her, make her quit if you want the relationship to be stable unless the instability is merely coming from your side

Without going into to much detail.
It's literally too good of a job.
>Great money and safe
>She's been in there 9 months, not even a fire, making 57k
If I made her quit, she would probably end up cheating and leaving me out of resentment.
And she gives me 3somes and buys me whatever my heart desires.
Everything except the way she use to look at me, like I was her hero and I could do no wrong.
You been in a long term relationship. You know what it's like when everything looks great on paper, but you know something is off.

wow, sounds like your situation is really not that different from mine.
The whole "brotherhood" thing was/is annoying as hell to me as well. They all do a lot of stuff together when they are not at work, like BBQs and trips to a lake and all that shit.
You can't tell her not to go because all her colleagues/friends from work are there and you don't want to isolate her. You also can't join, because it is a work thing where noone brings their partners (wonder why hu?). And you can't be the paranoid insecure boyfriend because that is unattractive as hell, too.

All that is left is to trust her and be such an awesome guy that she does not even think about cheating. I tried that route but it seems I did not have enough to offer. I wish you the very best user, I hope you can make her stay.

I don't know if I would track her gps and all that, it does not really help you. If she decieds to cheat on you, you will notice anyway.

To touch on your relationship user, purely out of curiosity, do you think you could find it your heart to forgive your ex?
>What did she say/do when you found out?

this is another user

l don't l'm not autistic

Yeah, luckily for me (at least for now), she does not partake in that after work bullshit.
But they're always inviting her.
You're completely right about having to be super awesome and hope she won't cheat, and the work related stuff, and looking paranoid.
>No way to win

I wish you luck as well user.

you need to address that something is off; if you don't, you literally KNOW it's going to end. Perhaps it will either way but if you don't address that you feel something is off, it also ended due to miserable communication. Just tell her everything you feel is wrong and why. Be honest, not demanding or confronting; speak only for yourself and your fears.

The feelings we have throughout the day towards the other person are the substance of the relationship. If that is miserable, you shouldn't want to be in it anyway.

Ahhh, ok.

I confronted her, she did not deny it, startet to cry of course. I said "this is it then, it's over" and went to a friends house, she went to her parents.

I have no idea if I could forgive her. I know that she has slept with that other guy 3 days after we broke up (she told me, I had asked) and it hurts like hell. like motherfucking hell. The thought another man having her is literally too much to bear. I have been drunk every day since then, nice hu?

To know that she is deliberately putting me through this makes it impossible to forgive her now. Maybe if we meet again in a while, I don't know

forgive but never get back together, it will not be enjoyable.

You're right user.
I'm gonna hit the ole dusty trail now.
Hopefully get some shut eye, even though I doubt it with all this going through my mind.

Does she believe in that whole "Brotherhood" bullshit?

there is not much to believe in, they are a tight pack, like a family. Seriously. She knows everything about all her coworkers lives, the problems, the dirty stuff, everything.

Just to get a little more details, as you every culture is different.
What are you all white/Hispanic/black, etc?
I've seen this be SUPER prevalent in whites.

white, european

Alright man. Again, I wish you the best.
First user on b/ that I'd like to grab a beer with.

I feel the same way! Keep your head up bro

somebody got me banned on CSGO and now I'm out $350 in skins

don't get back with her, if she does it again then it will be the end.

just do your best to forget about her, make her feel like shit by being the best person you can possibly be and show that she will never experience you at your most loving

First ex cheated on me, caught her in bed with another dude
Second ex used to be batshit crazy, hit me in public, hide her phone, and dated while we were together, she is still with the dude
But it started from my very first datee, she would get guys over to party and sleep over

I will not get back with her, that is completly out of the question.

Sad thing is she has experienced me at my most loving. i have given her everything and she knows it. A week after we broke up we met to sort a few things out (we have been living together for 6 years) she told me crying that she already knows she will never find a better man but she just could not keep on going this way

I don't know man, currenlty I am just waiting for the pain to fade

> father transparently preferred brother to me
> would take out his anger at things on me
> including if my brother made him mad
> mother didn't particularly care as long as I did everything she said and didn't question her
> other kids at school excluded me from shit
> people I'd never met seemed to hate me from the get-go
> this continued from when I was 5 years old to the present day
> make friends, a lot of them abruptly stop talking to me for no apaprent reason, never figure out why
> get GF, she's a bipolar alcoholic who had a kid when she was in high school
> she'll say and do anything to get me to stay in the relationship, including threatening suicide
> just stick with things because I have no self-esteem

Am I irrational?

It is time to move the fuck out, start a new life in a different city/state/country, get a therapist to heal the wounds and dump the shit outta your girlfriend.
If she an heroes it is HER fault, HER mental illness and HER choice to do so.

Best of luck, check em