I know I'm not the only one like this. Who else is sexually unsatisfied despite her being the love of your life?

I know I'm not the only one like this. Who else is sexually unsatisfied despite her being the love of your life?

>Sweet, cute, trustworthy, devoted, great family, responsible, smart, great wife material

>But not sexy. Never was, even at her peak. She's always been the "mom" type and had a mom-ish body. Great curves but sad, saggy tits and a big belly, and all the self esteem problems to match.
>But worst of all has no imagination or kink. DTF but painfully vanilla and passive. Everything we've tried has been my idea and I had to work on her for a long time before she warmed up to it. She likes D in her P but has zero ambition to be sexy, if that makes sense.

It's too the point where I'd rather have a good long fap than have sex with her. It's just so boring that as soon as I make her cum I'm done, just blow my load and move on. I've pretty much given up trying to make it anything more than a quickie because it's wasted on her anyway.

Don't belive the hype about virgins boys. A few are just late bloomers, but most that I know that "waited" for whatever arbitrary excuse just don't have the drive. If you are her entire sexual career, then for her it's all about getting attached to you and lusting after yor attention and not actually trying to have fun and get off.

But other than that she's a perfect life partner and I seriously doubt I could do better. I love her very much, but I can't help lusting after every hot girl I see like a hungry dog, and burning with jelousy over all the hot (or even the meh-but-confident) self-posting amature girls. I don't want those girls, or any other girl, I just want her to adopt a few of their traits. I love her and I do want to spend the rest of my life with her, but that means that for the rest of my life I will have this nagging, unsatisfied sexual appitite. And the more porn I fap to to sate it in the short term, the more painfully aware of how much I'm missing out on.

TL;DR. Is pic related?

right there with you man. im in the same boat

It's what I want, not what I have. She'd die if I ever posted her.

We're all gonna die. Post her my man.

"I'm sexually lacking so I'm going to blame my wife and her lack of ~sexual ambition~"
You faggot. Check yourself before you blame your wife. Do you really think the sex would be plain and vanilla is you were alpha and exuded sexual energy?
Watch a better, more dominant African male fuck her and see how enthusiastically she fucks back, maybe you'll learn a thing or two you cuck

I love and respect her too much to betray her trust like that.

Plus I have nothing to post anyway

Fag

I'm with you, man.
She's perfect for me in every way other than sexually. She'll just lie on her back and get fucked. She moves positions if I move her but she's got no sexual imagination of her own.
Hates anal, can't suck dick. Totally vanilla in every way and I honestly just jerk off more than I fuck her.

For me it's the BJs I miss the most. I once dated a girl who could suck a cock like it was nothing, took the whole thing right down to the balls. My girl rarely gets passed the head and if she does, her teeth scrape my dick and she can't manage more than an inch of shaft before she starts gagging. I've basically given up on blowjobs. I let her sometimes because she wants to but I always end up stopping her once it gets boring or painful and just jerk off on her tits.

You're not alone

Virgin. Also, never loved. Learn.

Sounds like my ex. Dump that shit, you don't need a mom, you need a woman.

I hate to tell you this but your wife is disgusted by you. You don't just "receive sex" as a woman without having some awkward internal monologue, to do it every time she must be trapped into it.
Try spending some time at the gym, see if she starts being lovey-dovey with you after you get a little back in shape

Nope. Mine is very lovey-dovey and wants sex, but she only wants the basics and has no desire or confidence for anything kinky.

Also, I did track in HS and used to be swole AF up until fairly recently. Again, anything extra I do is wasted on her because she doesn't really care.

Lol this nigger

Ditto. I'm a degenerate and she's pure. I think I've just watched too much porn and she hasn't watched any at all so I'm always the one to be more creative in bed, but I want to be surprised sometimes too. There's been periods of time where I didn't look at any porn or fapped and that made the sex more eventful but eventually it became stale. I don't know what the solution is. Maybe go to a strip club and take that energy home? Or you could cheat depending on your morality

I disagree. I've had sex with around 40 girls and some chicks are just crap in bed.

I'd say about 75% would be OK with choking and be turned on by it and calling me Daddy etc. But some girls you'll just slap them on the arse and they don't get aroused by it.

I'm comfortable to be very dominant with girls, but some just are not excited by it.

nice try feminist. nobody wants to date a dirty slut thats been rammed by hundreds of different guys.

this girl and no worth and will never stay loyal. her only use is being a cum dumpster and traded around to your friends when you're done with her

Was she always sexually boring or did it happen over time? It could be many things; hormone imbalance, bad self esteem, doesn't feel sexy or desired, or all of the above.

It takes two and although you may think it's just her, it's probably both of you making things worse.

Get her into the gym, improve her nutrition, "date" her again and bring back the spark.

Sounds like she's bored of you as well, maybe bring someone else into the bedroom to spice things up? Let her pick the new person but be ready to be ditched if she finds someone who fucks her better.

Fucking this exactly.

Honestly I have zero desire to cheat. I don't look at hot girls and think "I wish I could fuck that" the only thing I think is "I wish she was like that"

It's not even a drastic change. She's built on a good frame, I actually LOVE curvy soft bodies with big hangers, it's just that she just kinda drops the ball. "All you had to do was follow the damn train" is what comes to mind. I mostly just want to make the most of what she already has.

I feel ya man, I have a great woman but sex just isnt great. She used to blow like champ but now gags and I managed to get her into a little kink for a short time but she just has no imagination in the bed room, doesnt care to be adventurous at all.

Cheating has crossed my mind but I couldnt do that to her.

tuff stuff fr

She's just always been that way. Even has a hormonal teen she was just never curious, never horny, to her sex was "gross" and it took years to get even to this point.

Also I've heard and tried just about every piece of advice out there, at best some of them are only temporary bandaids. I seriously thing she was just born missing her sexy bone, so to speak.

You're seriously a colossal faggot

Unsexy, insecure, low ambition girls don't send noods

Not OP, but you're a fucking child. Grow up and "read the room" with this thread. Obviously not the place to score nudes - there are plenty of threads for that, do us all a favor and beat it. Loser.

Yeah, some girls are like that OP.

Some things in life don't have a right answer and this is one of them. Once you've made a girl feel comfortable to express herself sexually and push her comfort zone then that's it.

If you wanna stay with her then this is how it's going to be I guess. I hope you have some good hobbies to pass the time.

How old are you though OP? Do you feel you need a wifey ASAP?

Damn that hit me 100% bro. I do an amphetamine like drug to rocket fuel my sex drive, she's got a sweet body with perfect tits, but sober, I can't muster any drive. I even jerk off to our sex vids rather than have sex.

Yeah, whenever I see other hot girls with their asses looking good in leggings and showing off their cleavage in small shirts I think to myself "I know my gf can look just as hot as them, but she doesn't try." It's not even a matter of her not feeling like she has to try anymore because she never dressed that sexy in the first place. And now if we went out and bought sexy clothes for her to wear, it just wouldn't look right and I know how uncomfortable she would feel.

Not that guy but other that replied to him. Nope, I'm a gym rat.

try nofap for a while, or maybe just lay off the porn in general? idk if you ever had the fire at the beginning but it's natural for that to fade with time. have you tried having an open and honest conversation with her? maybe try some role play or something little by little to coax her out of her shell so to speak? is she insecure about her body?

Some girls know how to be sexy and others are clueless I guess

24 and honestly the rest of my life is going fairly well so while I'm not in a rush to get married, I realize that life is a series of compromises and overall I'm doing pretty well, especially considering that I'm a slightly spergish Sup Forumstard. I'm lucky to have a girl at all honestly.

This is almost exactly my life. We have been married for a few years already but we have been together for nearly 20. She is the mother of my child and We almost never fuck. The last time we ducked was 5 months ago. I was her first ever for almost every thing but kissing. As a result, I have cheated on her a few times. Only with friends and mostly just sexual things. They have been friends who just feel bad for me. Then eventually the guilt kicks in and they stop.

Bro, I'm 23 and got so much shit ahead before I get a wifey.

Stick or twist bro?

If you wanna have fun and literally transform your whole shit and bang some freaky girls then learn to game (pickup). As much as you care about this girl you've gotta step it up and go for what you want.

Stop with that low self-esteem shit. You can crush it.

Tried no-fap, it only got worse because the sex was no different and I never got to break the tension.

The fire was never there like it was with my other long-term gf who was hot but crazy and destructive. I love her but I don't get the racing heart and butterflies like I did with my other girl, at least not sexually.

Yes, tried being honest, she literally cannot comprehend how there could be more to sex than just laying there and taking it. "What's the point of that?" is her most common response to any new things i show her or want to try. "But we both cum from regular sex, why not just keep doing that?"

If i push it she just gets upset because "she's not enough".


Tried porn, she kinda likes it but mostly just absentmindedly scrolls through just like she would facebook, doesn't really get into it.

No role play or anything like that, she's way too shy and insecure and just freezes up.

Yes she's very insecure about her body and save your breath because this is something I and her family and friends have been working on for years and I've tried fucking everything.

any girl that craves the D will go out and find some the second u turn ur back. the safe bet is the boring one, but it is the safe one for a reason. a more sexualised woman will have men all over the place and u will constantly be wondering how many of them she is fucking (which will be a considerate number depending on her moods). in addition slutty women get harder and harder to please, constantly wanting u to go farther and farther, until eventually they force the relationship open, which they will then confess how many ppl they fucked behind ur back once they cuck u. she will lie of course, to hide the ones u didnt like, but she did fuck those guys too.

just liqueur her up when u want to smash and if that doesnt work thank every god in the pantheon that u dont have to worry about her cheating on u and eventually ruining ur relationship and ur childrens mental stability.

tl;dr : stop looking at porn

A lot of girls are just not as sexual as others. That's why marriage is fucking dumb and you're miserable because of you're dumb as well.

But I'd suggest you have her watch porn with you. Maybe let her know gently that you want her to be sluttier. Another good way to slut her up is to tell her what to do in bed (like tell her how to suck your dick; make her look at you how you want her to; make her go all the way down; say "good girl" when she does good). She'll learn; it's in her nature.

I already do that and she loves the praise and affermation and it did improve the sex a bit but it's plateaued.

Bait but kind of true, which is why I don't want to leave or cheat. I love her, she loves me, and she's a very safe and responsible choice for a wife.

Yeh, done this with the current girl I'm seeing and she's improved massively over 2 years... but it'll never be quite the same IMO

Although sometimes I'll choke her while we fuck and she'll be like "choke me harder" That gets me turnt on

Youve expressed my situation exactly. The way I have come to think about it though is that there is no perfect relationship. My neighbours have constant hot steamy sex. I know becuase I can hear through the walls. But when you look at them they are both complete douchebags, and will most likely ruin each others lives. It drives me crazy because try as I might I can't have that sex with my girl. But on the other hand, I know people around us envy how we just click together. So I guess the grass is always greener and no one is perfect

Propaganda to fool you kids into believing that you should date and marry that fucking slut who sleeps with every cock that speaks to her. Girls with 'experience' oh yeah sluts are incredibly loyal.

That's pretty much what I've come to realize too. But it really bugs me because for me, sex is 90% about the mental game, the kink, the tease, the buildup, and everything else besides the actual dick-in-pussy. She has none of that.

My situation is same as OP but not down to fuck , tiny tits. I've cheated a lot.

Yeah in my case specifically its compounded by the fact that a)i have premature ejaculation, so vanilla sex is over quickly and kind of boring and b) my girl suffers from migraines and avoids drinking, so its hard to get her into a sexier mood (its come out once or twice, but the booze helps massively on that front). Both these problems would be solved by a more "mental" sex, where its about the naughtiness, the mood, etc. This is what I see in kinks, but my girl doesn't get it that way

Good point. I've come to accept my relationship. My gf and I are compatible in so many ways, I love her a lot. There's more left to be desired when it comes to sex, but it's unfair for to compare her to Riley Reid. Gotta stop watching porn.

Gynecological fisiotherapy, for real. Maybe there is something wrong physically with her. Check for hormones, libido etc too. Also, psychological therapy.
If you love each other, you should have a healthy and happy sex life. Talk about it.

Amphetamine pal. Or if UK, get MCAT/mephedrone. You make pornstars look like faggots who stack shelves.

>can't have the best of both worlds
>she is as you said "the love of your life"
> & wife material
>meaning, she will cook, clean, have your respect and love you endlessly
>but what makes a women "hot" in your eyes by YOUR definition is knowing that the woman you lust for knows she is hot
>once an attractive woman starts to figure out how hot she is, it's over. Her being wife material is out the window.
>nice tits tho

When two people have been having sex for a period of time and no child is produced, eventually the male and or female subconsciously thinks the partner is defective and can't provide them an offspring so their desire for sex goes.

Same situation here

Met my bf when we were both virgins and while I have wanted to try a ton of things he doesnt seem to have many kinks or be very interested in anything other than a quick fuck on the bed. It gets harder and harder for me to get off every time we do so I just get myself off alone most days.

He can't really satisfy me and it has impacted our relationship negatively. I think you need to talk to her about this

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