Has anyone ever dated someone who's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder?

Has anyone ever dated someone who's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder?

Need some advice on how to deal with my grillfriend who has bipolar.

bump pls

Yeah mother fucker. Run. I dated a bitch for a year and half, didn't get the diagnosis till the last half. I now have scars on my face cause I tried to love her through it. My mom was diagnosed bipolar too. Last time I saw her, she tried to murder my dad with an ice pick 18 years ago. You have been warned.

run. run as fast as you possibly can.

Get out of there asap

Tell her she is a piece of garbage and never talk to her again.

They are the most messed up women ever.

Learn when she is in each and every stage and axt accordingly

I might... but I have a 10 month old daughter with her so I fucked up son. She wasn't that bad before she got pregnant, but now she's a fucking total mess every other week.

It's hard to do that because no matter what I do when she's in a crazy stage she gets irritated sometimes by me just being beside her. She's total fucking nuts.

Legit a better idea is to take the kid and run, no bullshit.

>diagnosed bipolar currently refusing medication
Learn the behaviors and tones. It can change slowly over time or very quickly depending on life circumstances. If they aren't very social you'd best learn their vocal tells. Look for ques and understand how to approach them. Understand what pushes them one way or the other and try to find a balance. Consistency and regularity is key in absence of medication. Even with medication avoid significant and sudden changes to life or environment.

Made the mistake of marrying one. Run like you have never run before - it only gets worse . my wife has destroyed all my friendships and torn my family apart

They're right.

She takes meds, but they hardly work. She's been through 2 different kinds so far. She claims they work but she still gets into manic/depressive stages.

I've developed severe anxiety from dealing with her bullshit for the past 2 years, I'm about to snap and just say fuck her and move out, pay my child support, and never look back.

But everytime I go to leave, I can't. Because I still love her very much, but not when she is in fucked up states.

Plus I don't want to go back to being a loser in my dads bedroom, drinking booze all night, and playing vidya.

> OP here correction
> dads basement*

I'm type 1 Bipolar, with a Schizoypical personality disorder, AMA OP.

I will never marry her, she has yet to destroy my friendships or relations with family, but the moment she does I'll dip.

Did she threaten to kick you out often? Get mad at you for ridiculous shit? Manipulate you into feeling bad for her when she was in the wrong?

>OP here
When you get in the depressive/irritated states, would you rather be left alone, or have someone with you?

Run?
Or just know it's a swing set. You'll have some super great times and then the shittiest

It's a tough decision to make. My mom is also bipolar, albeit much worse than I am. It's a life long commitment to deal with on your part. My wife understand that my mood can and will swing wildly at any give ten with little to no warning. I'm still learning how to cope with it myself. If her meds aren't working properly she should see another doctor. I don't blame you for not wanting to leave her because of her condition, that's as good of a reason as any. But if her treatment isn't working seek another method.

I tend to prefer solitude, but it depends on the current m,ood, its just that participating in social situations during a fucked up mixed episode can lead to messed up shit.

> OP here
That's what makes me stay is the great times, and wild sex.

How should I go about getting through the shittiest times without being stressed or getting anxiety?

If I play it off as I don't care when she's ranting because she's in a crazy stage, I almost always get threatened to get kicked out.

Also I heard that people with bipolar tend to have risky sex, do you think her bipolar could lead to her cheating on me?

I'd dump her ass in a heartbeat if she ever did cheat on me, but I still am curious.

Well when im in a maniac state i tend to be super manipulative, and i have used it to my advantage.

Yes

I also tend to spend all my money on drugs and chocolate when im like that.

we'll since you've got a kid it seems you have to tough it out until it breaks.

not the kid, but the relationship

>girlfriend
>have kids with her
You fucked up when you didn't wear a rubber. Good Luck with having to deal with a bipolar bitch for 18 years AND your daughter might develop bipolar.

Hang in there OP, we are a tough to deal with. Work with her. Do you know what meds she is on?

I'm bipolar 2, 18 yrs old. If anyone has any questions I'd be glad to help out

I dated a borderline and a bipolar
both dumped me as soon as they get on meds

The first one was cold hearted told me she didnt feel nothing anymore and just plain deleted me, 2 months before she was all "i love you forever you will neer lose me" crap

the second one was hell, suicide threads everyday, panic attacks, anxiety, plus she was seeing somebody else the whole time and at the end she wanted me to be her spiritual friend while she fucks other guy, I finally get over her suicide threats and leave her, she is now a socialist radical feminist and acta like nothing eve happened

my advice, date normies, or at least no mentally ill people, they drag you down, it may sound hard but is the truth, they dont need a relantionship, they need prozac not love

Protip: All women are bipolar, some just hide it better than others.

That's some cruel shit to think. My wife's bipolar and is not a piece of shit at all. Some people have meds that let them live a normal life.

Also have a GF if that brings up more questions you might wanna ask

agree. my bipolar single mom fucked up my life. Dad was no better tho

Mylan-Bupropion XL is what she takes, I think it's 300mg per pill, once a day.

Yeah because people choose to have mental disorders and are, therefore, garbage people. Fuck off m8.

How often does your mood change, and how often do you think about breaking up with your GF when you get in depressive/irritated stages.?

Always remember who she is when shes on her meds isnt who she really is

That's double the normal dose unless she's a landwhale.
It's generic Welbutrin, and that shit can seriously fuck you up in the head. They say "vivid dreams" but what they mean is "you can't tell if what happened yesterday was real or a dream, because your dreams are just like being awake doing normal shit."

They are garbage. Their DNA is fucked. Their children will be trash too.

Thats only an anti-depressant, she should be on a moodstabilizer too.

It's just a timing issue!

Advice from personal experience: If you think she's doing something to hurt you, she's not.
Bipolar people are paradoxically egotistical and focused on those around them. When they're in a down cycle they'll sadomasochisticly hurt anyone they can.

>their DNA is fucked
That could include a fuckton of other people in the world. I'd prefer people with fucked up DNA than fucked up attitudes though.

That's what the doctor gave her, I'll see if she can bring this up in her next appointment. And what I find strange it says that it's used for autumn-winter depression. But wtf about summer and spring? Why would the Dr. only give her seasonal meds when she needs it to work for all around the year.

i'm not the same poster, and this is not exactly the same thing you're talking about, but I always wonder if someone being mentally ill excuses them from hurtful behavior.

I don't mean like in the eyes of the law, but in scenarios related to OP.

For example, a girl with a diagnosed disorder lashes out verbally but viciously towards her partner during some of her episodes that she has several times a day.

Does the partner take what is said by girl seriously and allow it to wound him because "it's not the girl's fault," or does he simply ignore it and see it as his gf not being on equal footing as him during the exchange.

So, do you excuse their hurtful behavior, or do you ignore them effectively seeing them as less than a human being?

the other option is to retaliate and tell her to fuck off and treat her like a normal person who purposefully tried to hurt you emotionally.

Has she tried lithium yet? Yeah, something seems off there. It sometimes takes multiple doctors and meds to get someone relatively normal/stable. Sounds like a shite doc.

You say that now, but when all of your children are genetic fuck ups costing you millions and you know they will never be happy or have a job you will think differently.

When you realize how wrong your care bare attitude is, remember me. I will be living it up with normal healthy children.

She is pretty big, before the baby she weighed 150 pounds, now she weight 210 pounds.

She never mentioned anything about vivid dreaming yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't tell me it was happening.

Does her name start with an M and end with an onica?

go away faget i'm in this thread but didn't start it

I'll just leave this here.

Well im on 150 mg of zoloft, and 1300 mg of lithium a day. the antidepressant keeps me from crashing into depression, whereas the lithium keeps me from spiraling into mania. So in combination they keep me relatively stable. However i can feel the cycle, but the meds keep it in check, and i can function well. (im still a bit odd, but w/e)

I have also hurt many people close too me when for one reason or another i get off the meds (dont let this happen), i do regret it, and wish it had never happened.

I don't believe she tried lithium yet. The Dr. just recently upped her dose to 300mg about 2 weeks ago (things seem to have gotten worse).

She did take Sertraline at 50mg though before these new meds, but they didn't work either.

I was once on 200 mg of sertraline, and it sent me straight to mania.

I get what you mean here. And, no, I don't think mental illness excuses anyone from hurtful behavior. It's a pretty shitty situation, and I really feel for OP. :( I think people who end up with a significant other who has a mental illness have to find a balance. It's not a relationship for everyone, and the person who doesn't have the disorder will suffer. I think it's just a matter of them finding a way to cope with it for the sake of a relationship they believe is worth fighting for.

Or one of your children could have a genetic fuckup too. It's not something you plan for. Good luck finding a girl with a pedigree to procreate with tho.

Thought this thread was going to die. In any case, I have vast experience with mental health. Not going to type it all out. More than ever, there are more fucking meds that doctors are encouraged to prescribe to people who are convinced that they have a mental illness.
Yes, there are absolutely people who are mentally ill and need to be medicated. I know from personal knowledge that there is a push for a dx and over-prescription. "Well doc, some days I feel good, and others I don't." Bi polar dx. Medication. No, idiots, that is normal. What the "new normal" is zombified apathy?

She also went into mania with Sertraline, but not the good mania, she was always irritated instead of euphoric. When she is euphoric, and has high energy she's amazing. But when she gets irritated she is completely miserable to be around.

And you are?

If she bitches which she will, beat the fuck out of her till she learns to like it

Obviously you don’t understand genetics.

My mom and sister are on lithium. My mom swears by it. And she's both worked in and been placed psych wards. It might be another option for your grill. I really hope she finds something that helps though. It's not an easy disorder to deal with. Especially without the right meds.

Well I can verify that the Dr. most likely didn't do this in her cause because her stages can last for weeks at a time. It's usually not for a short time like a day or two but weeks at a time.

In my case mania eventually evolves into a psychosis, marked by paranoia, and the occasional voice. Eventually irritability appears since i haven't been sleeping shit.

Sometimes I do feel like beating the shit out of her (grabbed her by throat once, but stopped immediately once I realized I was doing it) but then I have to remember that I'm not the one who's mentally ill.

so, it's the first option. you take what they say seriously, let it hurt you, walk on eggshells and make it work somehow so that you're both not that miserable.

that's the option that seems the most morally correct, but it still doesn't sit well with me.

Can't say as I'm an expert on the subject. Just seems pretty shitty to tell people to fuck off if their family history shows some sort of mental health problem. I get wanting healthy children. I don't get belittling people who can't control something out of their hands.

Again, I think it's something that takes a lot of work and collaboration for both people in the relationship. And, I totally don't blame you. It's not ideal; it's not for everyone. But if your SO can get their mental health in manageable condition and you can find ways to cope with their low periods, the relationship might be worth it for some.

>OP here
What would be the best ways to cope?

When she gets into her low stages I get severe anxiety because any little thing I do can upset her and she's relentless in making me feel like a piece of shit when she's in these stages.

It might be a good idea to distance yourself from her, if possible. It's not really possible to help someone in mania anyway. She really needs to get her condition managed as well, though. It's not fair to you to have to deal with it every other day.

enjoy the manic stages, breaks up with down trips., hot make up sex... lots of hot sex, lots of drama.. eventually get tired of it, dump her for good...
maybe cheat with her when get another GF/wife, maybe not. jodi arias potential every time ..

I would love to distance myself when she has the episodes, but we have a child together so I can't.

Convince her to kill the child. Problem solved when she is in jail. You can start over and make normal children.

i'm the guy that was asking the questions.

the reason i was asking is because i have more or less successfully dealt with my gf with severe anxiety for 10 years and it more or less turns her into a selfish, hurtful monster several times a week for no real issue.

I know relationships like this are hard as fuck but can be rewarding. I just sometimes space out when she's being horrible for hours at a time thinking whether I should be taking her seriously, or not, or yelling back etc.

The best way I've found to cope is to not yell back but let her know that she's being hurtful and it's not okay. I also get intense anxiety attacks when I do something small which I know will set her off, but there's no real way to stop the onslaught.

You can always fight back, but it'll get way uglier and last way longer and will be deemed your fault in the end after she's crying.

or you can stay quiet, take all the punches, let her know it's not okay but without criticism, and hope she'll feel guilt and apologize/make up for it.

or you can ignore her and see her as a child for those instances and imagine it's your toddler who can't control horrible shit coming out of her mouth.

i go for the middle one or the last one most of the time.

I love my child tho Sup Forumsro.

wow you must live a shitty life. Fuck all that noise, man up and get out of there.

There's only two ways out.

That.

And killing yourself.

Icepick lobotomy, simple as that

For you and your child's sake, don't take the abuse. If you do want to continue trying to make the relationship work, it's going to take work and adjustment. Don't argue with her while she's in mania. Try to talk to her about how you feel when she's in a healthy state. Try your best not to take things personally. There are also bipolar support groups out there.

Spoken like a true spastic

I think I'll try the middle option as well. But sometimes she gets me fired up so much that I just can't control what I say, and I end up being brutally honest with her then she begins the "YEP YOURE RIGHT ITS ALL MY FAULT, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, ITS ALL MY FAULT" shit.

or i can just move away, pretend to want to keep a long distance relationship which you know she won't be able to do at all, and wait for her to leave you and if something happens to her your family won't hate you for the rest of your life.

that's literally what i'm doing.

you're going to lose a lot of hair and drink a lot if you take the middle path.

you will be relatively happy tho.

And if she insists that she wants to move with you?

yes

dump her

Oh boy losing hair and becoming a drunk... sign me up for retard pussy please.

If losing some hair, and becoming a heavy drinker makes a happier life with her, I'll be pleased. I just can't deal with the shitty anxiety that comes with being with her... its beginning to take a toll on my mental health big time.

she won't unless she's engaged to me, and I already told her I wouldn't pop the question until I had money to afford her lifestyle. that's the reason I'm moving.

I once went on a 7 day family vacation out of town and she'd get so anxious she threatened to break up with me at least 3 times. So, I'm fairly confident she won't be able to stand 2-3 years.

Just call her and tell her its not going to work out you fucking beta.

Had a girl like that a few years back, I wasn't the most mentally stable person out there either, so while she brought herself down, I went with her.
Her shit made me get severe depression, but I still felt like I loved her so I couldn't bare to leave her. Then she ended up leaving me for someone else, just as her best friend told me would happen at the start of our relationship. And I ended up being brought over the edge of depression and tried to commit suicide, which landed me in a mental hospital. It basically fucked my life over because I was in college at the time, and even with talking to professors and university workers, I lost that entire semester.

My lesson: Don't date crazy chicks, run at the very first red flag. Has worked out great in my past few relationships

i'm mostly dead inside, bruh. waiting a year or two and hoping she find someone else while i'm gone means nothing to me.

If it makes anyone feel better, I'm diagnosed with Bipolar and my relationship is flourishing. It takes a lot of maturity on our own to come to terms with our disorder (identifying phases, using proper terminology, taking precaution/future safety nets), so if she's not there yet it's a completely different situation. There's a self-relization that needs to be made with this mental illness surely in order for progress to stability. However, you don't have to necessarily be perfect at it to start looking ahead. There is skill to it that you just have to acquire over time.

Bipolar is a fucking CRAZY illness in the thralls of it, though, and I'm going to warn you things could and most likely will get ugly- especially if she hasn't found ways of managing it or restraining herself (usually there's many difficulties here).

The only reason my boyfriend and I have been successful in really making strides in my response to this illness is because I smoke SO MUCH WEED. A ridiculous amount. Without it, I would in no way, shape, or form found the ability to be calm enough to clearly think through things without the insane lenses Bipolar can put on you. I'd like to one day move to CBD drops, which might be a better option for you two as well!

Anyway, good luck. There is hope!

Sorry I disappeared. I'm really rapid cycling. Talking like multiple times an hour sometimes. Fucking sucks. I sometimes think about breaking up but she means so much to me and she's always here for me through everything, I love her so much

Are girls like that more open to being worshipped since you have to walk on eggshells around them? Couldn't you just lick their buttholes nonstop?

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Yes, definitely for some.

Are redheads bipolar by default?

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