Forced my gf of 7 years to dump me. Just now realizing my mistake. Could use some advice Sup Forums fucking heartbroken

Forced my gf of 7 years to dump me. Just now realizing my mistake. Could use some advice Sup Forums fucking heartbroken.

I dated my ex for almost 7 years, we started when we were both 18. This is our 4th time breaking up, the first two times I don't recall, the third was because I was 23 and wanted to see what other women were out there, but I came back to her.

This last time, I really fucked up. I got into a bit of a rut and lost confidence in myself. I projected my insecurities onto her, all the while she stood by me. Eventually though, a woman could only take so much and she broke up with me on bad terms. During this time, I avoided her but I'd see her at the gym, or reading a book outside the gym (it's at an outdoor mall area). This went on for about 2 months before I realized my fuck up.

I texted her apologizing, sent her flowers and a letter. Told her I wanted her back. She told me to move on, to work on myself, and that she can't tell the future. She said she needed time to be single and that I needed it too.

A few weeks had gone by and I was making a huge effort to improve myself, for myself. I came up with a plan to get her back. A really heartfelt, but clear letter. I was set to give it to her this Tuesday.

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On the Saturday before the Tuesday of my plan, I ran into her at the store. We exchanged some small talk, and then I lost it. Told her I missed her. She awkwardly smiled and told me she doesnt know what to say that. I said "nothing to say" and said bye and left. I got home and proceeded to text her. I figured I might as well expedite my plan since I ran into her today. I thought I was being a man by committing to my plan but she saw it as a dick waving contest, me just trying to do this for my own pride. She told me to fuck off, leave her alone because she's never coming back, and to move on.

The next day, I went to the gym with a buddy and saw her on a date with some dude from Tinder. I know she had been on tinder for like 2 weeks or so, so I reckon this dude is pretty new.

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kys

The break up was in May, just to give a time frame.

Anyways, I'm pretty beat up...

I think I realize that she's moved on, but I want to hope just a little that I can rekindle something.

Like I said, I'm moving forward, but I'm conflicted. We have so much history and so many good memories together.

What should I do? Is there any hope?

just leave it you two may have been attracted to eachother in many ways, but the long term is too cloudy to do things like marriage. Find someone else and don't let your emotions or your dick control your life.

The last time she texted me she was very angry. I was told that if someone really doesn't care about you anymore, there'd be no emotion?

I'm really trying to move on and better myself and shit, but all things considered she was a great gf!

she's gonna get blacked son. sorry op, sometimes being a faggot makes women wanna try something different.

OP - At this point, she's established who her #1 is at this point. If you're not her #1 concern, it's time for you to move on to different things.

Never be an option for someone. If she doesn't have to have you - the feelings should be mutual and it's a big bloody pond out there.

Time heals wounds. Move on. 100% separation from her is required, otherwise you're not allowing time to do it's job.

Best of luck.

I gave you seven years of my life

>apoLOGizing

No hope OP. Time to drink the Clorox cocktail.

Listen to "Lost in You" then "Wake me up when September Ends". Will more than likely make you fall apart and start balling in sadness if you're anything like me, but then you just have to sit and let all the pain out and do that until you move on...

Gr8 B8 M8 R8 8/8

Yeah I have. I'm kinda hoping that in a few months she'll be back. We've done this before only last time I broke up with her to date other women. Came back because I found no one else good enough. Kinda hoping she has the same shit happen.

When I saw her on the date with that dude, it seemed awkward. They weren't talking, weren't even really looking at each other. Fucking scrawny ass motherfucker.

I can't cry for some reason, even when my dog died I didn't cry. Anyways, I'm over feeling shitty, just feeling kinda lonely now.

My dude, feeling emotions is what makes us human. Crying is a healing process. I think that is a greater issue than even this one. You feel empty and try to chase what you think will fix this to no eval. You must find your purpose in life again and only then will you learn to truly laugh, cry, and feel again. I recommend reading the Tao Te Ching. Short read but full of the worldly wisdom you will need to find peace and balance again. Good luck Sup Forumsro...

>Sage

Kys

Too long didn't read. My advice:

I mean I feel sad and shit, I feel happy, I have feels. I just cant cry

Don't embarrass yourself any further. If she's not into you anymore and is already dating other guys maybe you should take a hint and start dating other girls.

You were with her for a long time that's why you think you can still make it work. Don't be an option for her to fallback on when her tinder dates don't go well.

Eh it's a bit different than that. I drove her away.

I am, I'm on tinder too, slowly getting myself out there again. Just curious really if there's a chance of her coming back

There's other girls out there. You may feel like shit but it gets better. There will be someone out there willing to stay with you no matter what. Keep your head up and go to sleep. You need to focus on your career, family, and education. Good luck bud, there really is plenty of fish in the sea.

You're better off without her.

You know, a lot of people say that. But she was a good gf! There's literally nothing I couldn't ask her to do for me. She gave me my space, she put up with my shit, she let me pursue my hobbies and kick it with the boys when I wanted to. She was great! Why not try and hope she comes back?

>This is our 4th time breaking up

Either you plan to try another girl or better be ready for the 5th, 6th and 7th...

love does not exist. kys. faggot

You lost her the moment you got desperate and and needy. That shit makes women dry like the Gobi desert. At this point the wisest thing is moving on with your life and working on yourself. See this as an opportunity to start anew. Lift, meditate and read. Go out there and meet other women. Seriously, even if your goal is to get her back, seeing other women, lifting and improving yourself is the best way to do it although I don't recommend to waste time thinking about her anymore.

op here.

also, i find myself watching porn a bit more for some reason? but it's just a bit different now i suppose (actually,m it's really different).

i'm really into scat porn now.

can anyone read into that a bit more since i'm hearing pouring my heart out and you guys know where i'm coming from? it's strange but i love it.

I know that feel. Time will heal.

Yeah, I did realize that. I was having some serious feels. Never felt such feels, turned me into a wimp. I've been lifting 3 years now, don't get me wrong, I aint about to stop but I'm not self conscious about my looks. I aint natty limit or on gear, but I'm pretty damn fit if I do say so myself.

I read half of that before losing. Let me give you the best advice possible, and it won't even cost you a dime.

Cut contact with her completely, and actually move on with your life. If she needs her stuff, or mail, or whatever else, work it out with the least amount of talking and interaction. Keeping avoiding contact.

If you're lucky, she may contact you for reasons that seem outside logistics, and you then ask her what she wants. If she says that she misses you, act 'cool' and then say maybe you can get a coffee sometime.

There, that's the best you can do. Whether or not you take the advice, is completely up to you, but you have no better chance.

It's not a bad thing if you learn from it. I've been through a breakup recently and I kept catching myself fantasizing about the possibility of us getting back together again. It's just your mind fucking with you. You see, in retrospect it might seem like she was the perfect person and yadda yadda, but if you look closely you will see that picture falling apart rather quickly. Feel grateful for the good times and learn from the bad ones.

Roger that man, I've cut it all off. What do you reckon the odds are of her hitting me up though?

About 50/50. I've done it myself, but I also have advised other people. Worked for two of them, failed for a woman trying to win back a man, and the last one worked to the point where she wanted to meet him but nothing came of it because he sperged out and left.

Worth a shot. At least it lets you put your pride in your pocket.

How'd you do it? Just waited it out? Like I said, I cut her off, no more contact. I reckon she'll be thinking about me in 3 months though. Nov 18th was supposed to be our anniversary.

Three months is a good time period. I think mine was something around two months, but you're definitely thinking along the right time-line. It's the long con. I did almost exactly as described. It's simple evolutionary biology. You're making yourself more valuable and you're creating regret that she missed out on landing your good genetics. Even if it doesn't work out, you will have regained your pride. confidence, and you'll start to move regardless. It's nearly perfect.

Good call man. I really appreciate your input. 2017 has been a shit show for me thus far. Dog died, girls gone, moved between jobs I hated...

Hopefully things start looking up. I've bulked up a bit, got a good chance at a job I'm gunning for, I got back into reading which is doing loads for my world views and what. Reconnected with a lot the boys... Hopefully shit works out. And yeah, you're right. I work on myself, fuck it matters if she comes back?

No worries, man. You're on the right track. 2017 has been pretty terrible for me as well, but we'll handle it. Have a good night.

You too bud, thanks again.

Tried girls
Didnt work
Time to come out of the closet op
Imagine her face when you say you never liked her pussy