My gf just broke up with me. How to avoid depression and turning into a NEET?

My gf just broke up with me. How to avoid depression and turning into a NEET?

faggot

Some background: she was my first girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend.

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The best way to get over the last one is to get under the next one.

Wash off her stink with some new pussy. Get a whore if you have to.

I don't want to off myself. I am still young. It's not like we're 50 and have 5 kids and 10 pets or something

I agree. I need a new girl as soon as possible, but I am not very attractive and I have been a kv untill I ended up with her. I missed a crucial point in my emotional development in my teen years.

exercise

That explains everything.
Use the 1-year rule, for sure:

NO contact with her for at least one year. (NO letters, texts, emails, cards, mixed tapes, smoke signals, etc)
NO contact with her family for at least one year.
NO contact with her friends for at least one year.

Return all of her stuff immediately. Boxing it and send it to her is a better idea than seeing her.

Remember that if she broke up with you she will try to keep in touch so that you two are friends. She doesn't really want to be friends, what she ants is to not be thought of as "the bad one". By trying to be your friend she'll just make everything worse for you and even if she knows that she won't stop, because the need to be seen as nice is too great. Have zero contact. Zero.

Now, find another female asap. Several is better. Don't be afraid to go to a massage parlour, call an escort, whatever. Once you understand that sex and relationships are two different things, you'll be on the road to recovery.
ALSO: there are very very very few older guys who look back at their first gf and say, "I wish we were still together". Plentyof twenty-somethings who say that, but that's just because they haven't moved on properly. You need distance and time to really "see" her for who she really was - not that she was evil or anything, just that your infatuation will cloud your judgement. You fill in the blanks, always elevating her character at the expense of being realistic about her. In other words, boys put girs on a pedestal, especially first loves.

Noted.
Sounds good. How did you know she wants to be best friends with me?

Use her breaking up with you as motivation to make yourself better in the ways you know you need to be. Do you need to be more fit? Hit the gym. Are you kind of addicted to porn and jerking off? Go nofap. Do you have some idea you've been nurturing but never get around to doing - learning an instrument, writing a novel - well now you do that thing.

Jesus, what a pig.

This is not my room.

>How did you know she wants to be best friends with me?
because every girl does this, it eases their conscience

I don't want any more friends. You can't fuck your friends.

>Sounds good. How did you know she wants to be best friends with me?
Not to sound sexist, but they all do.
98% of women have an overwhelming drive to be seen as "nice" in these situations. Make sure you understand that she is doing that for HER, not to help you. She probably doesn't even realize she's being selfish, but she is. It's just the nature of most females.
No one gets over a break-up by keeping in touch. It is tempting, but you are infinitely better off by having no contact at all.
If you keep in touch with her, her friends, her family, you are anchored to the relationship - and the relationship doesn't even exist anymore. That's really unhealthy. For you, and for your next gf.
It is a fantastic ego boost for your ex-gf, though.

Cut all ties, now.

wish i was single

I am nit going to lie. I dkmon't want to break up, but she really does. I asked her why and she said that she doesn't see her future with me. She says I am really sweet though.
Wow it sounds like she read that from the Internet.

You don't want to be single. First thing I said when I ended up with her was "I never want to be single again."

Grow some balls faggot

lucky you

Guess what? I'm single again.

even better

>I asked her why and she said that she doesn't see her future with me. She says I am really sweet though.
Imagine if her friend asked her why. She'd say the same thing (or worse), but without the part about you being "sweet".
The only reason she said that was so you wouldn't think badly of her.

I just wish I knew why she started to dislike me.

Just be manly

if that indeed is your bedroom then her decision is just. no one wants to date a kenny

Things which annoyed me about her:
-she had the lowest libido in the world and denied me sex way too many times and i had to talk her into it every time
-she liked cats too much
-she had no friends and had to leech of mine
-she has horrible relationship with her family
-she never took me home
-she disliked my family
-she wanted to travel everywhere

Why avoid it? I enjoy my NEET life. That room in the photo looks comfy as hell to me. Right now I live in an unfinished, unheated, cement and cinder block basement in a century-old abandoned factory and it looks similar. I have no fridge, no stove, and no shower, but it's familiar and comfy and no one bothers me.

This is not my bedroom. It is a random bedroom I have found on Sup Forums a long time ago.

That would lead me to suicide.

maybe you should start to travel everywhere too and leave your shitty place

you may be the problem if she didn't wanted to have sex with you

I have to learn this the hard way, i suffer a lot for one girl i fall in love to, not my first gf or even the second one, but this random girl that was perfect that time.

Why would I be the problem why she didn't want to have sex? I bought her food, made her food, massaged her, lit the candles in the room (not pic related by any means) and I even went to Czechia with her.

How old are you me boi

I am twenty years old next month.

Nah. Human beings are resilient. We can get used to almost anything. People survived in Auschwitz and Buchenwald, after all. It's all about how you approach it. I go so long without talking sometimes that I forget how; I'll try to say "thanks" to a cashier and all that comes out is a croaking noise. But I have my computer, my vidya, and an Internet connection which gives me access to every television show and movie ever created. And when I'm feeling down, I grab my pipes and a pouch of tobacco and head down to the river where I can sit and smoke quietly and watch the cargo ships churn by. It's a comfy stress-free life.

That sounds nice? What do you do for a living? I smoke pipe too!

you don't satisfy her sexually idk I'm not your girl, if you're not doing well in bed with with your partner, at least, don't expect her to stay with you

NEET life ain't so bad mate. Embrace it and live like a king. You'll enjoy it.

I do tarot readings on a little folding table on the street. I make about $40-$60 a day for a 12 hour shift, but it's not hard work to sit in the sun and smoke my pipe. (I have a lot of pipes, but my favourite smoker is a Brigham Voyageur bent apple briar. Not an expensive or fancy pipe, but it smokes nice. I have a weakness for old, vintage basket pipes, the very plain one which you would have found for sale on the counter at a barber shop or a general store. Not fancy, but functional with clean lines.)

Well, sorry for skipping through obligatory sex technique for young men class in high school...

fuck. if only i'd read this sooner.

Wow, how did you know I find tarot fascinating too? I have done some readings for people too.

if your gf is sexually frustated, she will always be in a bad mood and don't expect her to stay with you anymore, even if you're good in other domains, sex is an important part in a couple (there are always exceptions)

I'm not blaming you buddy, the best way to learn is to practice

I was the one who was frustrated. She didn't need sex. I did. And now I'm possibly never having sex again.

Bingo

Lurk moar

Well there you go. I'm you, in 30+ years. I'm here to tell you that being an outcast is not so bad. I've had a pretty adventurous life for a hermit: I've run for public office, been published as an author, hosted radio shows, been to prison, set up an NGO, and am well enough regarded that there's a Wikipedia article about me. If you just let go and stop worrying about what the world expects of you, and instead follow your genius wherever it leads you, you will have a wonderful, painful, exciting, lonely, utterly unique life. I regret nothing.

Pic related: me.

how old are you and how old is she??

>now I'm possibly never having sex again.
you seriously need to gain in selfconfidence

You just have to move on, womans don't tent to think logical, it's almos impossible for you to know or even understand why she left you, and if someone tolds you u're not going to believe it, move on user, good luck

Wow, sir you look like Rasputin! I wish I were cool as you. I just regret a lot of things, but I want to change things.

We are both nineteen and in college. I am two months older.

Just be a man you faggot, birches ain't shit but hoes and tricks

Post her tits here. It wil help. I was depressed and now i post her nudes in a thread any time i feel sad and it helps me get over the slump

She never took nudes.

Have you read any Nietzsche? I think existentialism would really help you. The main thing Nietzsche writes about is something he calls amor fati, literally meaning "love for one's destiny." What it refers to is living constantly so that you regret nothing. The decisions you make should be made on the basis of how you want to feel about them later. Will you be proud and glad you made the choice? If not, then don't do it. If you do this consistently, then you will have the best possible life, since even if you did it again, you'd make all the same decisions.

In Walden, Thoreau put it this way:

>"If one listens to the faintest but constant suggestions of his genius, which are certainly true, he sees not to what extremes, or even insanity, it may lead him; and yet that way, as he grows more resolute and faithful, his road lies. The faintest assured objection which one healthy man feels will at length prevail over the arguments and customs of mankind. No man ever followed his genius till it misled him. Though the results were bodily weakness, yet perhaps no one can say that the consequences were to be regretted, for these were a life in conformity with higher principles."

I have read Beyond Good and Evil and Thus Spoke Zarathustra when I was 17. I thought it was too complicated.

A lot depends on the translation. German is a very complex language because it has no words per se. You construct new words as you need them, so you're able to get very complicated words with extremely specific meanings, which makes it great for philosophy -- but nearly impossible to properly translate. It doesn't help that sentence structure is different too, so that texts which translate literally end up having page-long sentences with all the verbs at the end of the sentence.

If you find a good translation, Nietzsche is really not overly hard to understand, and what he teaches is exactly what you need in your life right now: how to take control of your own destiny and ignore what the world is telling you so that you can manifest your own Will and make yourself what YOU want to be.

She's got another dick in her m8.

She hates dicks. I know from experience.

I never learned German, but I am sure the books are better when you read them in their original language.

probably just yours

>She never took nudes.

well than it looks like she was never your GF and someone else has them kek

She does not know any other guy.

Get a social hobby. That's not mtg, warhammer or computer gaming.

I wish I could, but I am too autistic in public. I get sweaty and all. People often laugh at me.

being a neet isn't so bad desu

work out. even tho you are "alone", not hang out with friends etc, you'll still feel better about yourself.

Mourn
Move on

I do not have many friends. Soon, I will have even less.

Hang out with friends.

I will.

Just remember op. She was probably getting some dick before you broke up

I said this multiple times. She said she did not.

Simple, go to work. Make your own money. What other option is there? Steal it from the taxpayer?

I cannot work. It would ruin my studies.

Ugh, ducked a bullet. Too much drama with the family shit, and guess who would be expected to cough up for airplanes and hotels to not Have sex in.

Me. I would pay for it. My parents would pay for it.
What's up with girls liking travelling so much?

She has big time intimacy problems. She will do this again and again.

Intimacy problems? What the fuck is that?

Can your parents pay me? I don't have tits or a vagina. But I can draw you a picture.

My parents are poorer than hers. She just likes it when I pay for stuff.

Yeah. Okay. Can I borrow 50 bucks then?

Cant get close to people. No family contact and no friends? Plus shes 19. People are supposed to break up.

Why is breaking up more important than staying in relationship to people?

I already gave tis tip an other user:
Your first priority is not to be alone the next days. Surround yourself with good friends. And get out together do something you always wanted to do. Ideally something that pushed your adrenalin that will help you to reconnect the chemic reaction you call love to other activities/people

If that was an option, I wouldn't be posting on Sup Forums, would I?

Get a toom with natural sunlight, open a window for fresh air

Ok what then?

Dude, you're so fucking young. Believe me and don't waste your time getting caught up in this relationship at this point in your life. you have PLENTY of time to find another one even if it seems like you never will. Cutting all ties is the best decision you can make right now.

legit wisdom in Sup Forums .who would have thought?
Anyway... the problem with wisdom is that most people are too stupid to apply it.

OP... don't ask questions. Don't second guess any of this. Just do it. You'll thank this user later.

Well then you're in education, not NEET.

Well, what can I say? I am young and that is good. I mean, it's better to break up after 2 years than breaking uo after 8 years. The thing that scares me is the fact I have to attract someone else now.

Antifa, bro. Or a Nazi. You get to dress up, act all revolutionary, and wave poiNY sticks. They always Have openings.

Simple as that.

go to jail it will be better than your room you currently live in KEK

Okay bro get you some shrooms and eat a quater oz at a time for however long you feel you need to, not only will you see some cool shit but you will understand how to fix all pronlems in your life..probably things you've been told 1000 times but never understood why you needed change

Take this as you feel but this is no bs

You're still in college, just be yourself and you will be fine. Just dont let there be any "what ifs". if you see a girl you like, go fucking ask her out, worst she says is no, then you walk away and never see her again.

>Look, Tracy that guy just asked me out LOOOL
>Ha ha, Stacy how gross. Better tell all my girls to stay away from him.

Ffs that is not my room...

I don't do drugs.

You literally have so much to learn. Girls dont see see that as gross, as long as you arent a fucking weirdo about it and start stuttering or something. Its seen as being extremely confident. But when they do say no, just act like nothing happened and it didnt affect you at all. Especially in this day and age where every one is asked out online. Doing it face to face is almost unheard of and most people wont say no.