I'm 26, spent 7 years with my beloved one and now I'm about to marry her. The things is, I'm not jealous at all...

I'm 26, spent 7 years with my beloved one and now I'm about to marry her. The things is, I'm not jealous at all, but she is constantly bitching about "how I look other girls", or how "i'm dangerously too attractive to have friends".
But that makes me wonder, what happens when one of this sittuations take place?

Share your stories with me, have you been cheated on? Did you cheat? How was it? How was it for the other person? How did you end with that situation? What happened when you got caught? Do women cheat more than men?

I guess I'm a bit too naive, trying to red pill myself

It's projection, she thinks what she accuses you of herself all the time and makes it your fault

what do you mean with projection? Sorry but I'm from Spain

I was once a serial cheater, now I'm reformed. I can pretty much reject the urges and turn down girls now, but I feel I am going to slip up soon. It's an addiction and it's easy to relapse. Don't start

She probably cheated on you and projects her guilt

hod does it feel? how did it affect your relationship? did you get caught?

naah don't believe it, we are about to marry, and she only goes out with her female Friends, she doesn't have any male Friends. What I don't get it's the constant bitching, specially lately, I've considered bringing the problema to a couples therapist

Projecting means you claim something about someone else because you feel that way yourself.

So he means that your gf looks at other dudes, but gets mad at you because you could be doing what she is doing herself.

I felt nothing. It was just sex. I had regulars, but a lot of the time it was random girls. It's a power thing. I'm sure my wife had an idea, cause she would usually want to fuck right after I got back from having sex with another girl. Never full on caught, but she seen some texts once that were bad, I talked my way out of it

I'll be honest dude, it seems like she feels guilty about something. Girls are like that

Lol you're just an uncontrolled beta fag that can't fucking controll his urges, because you don't have enough willpower.

>trying to red pill myself
lol you've come to the right place for intelligent, fact-driven education on women and relationships. I think you're going to be all set by the end of this thread.

Dipshit.

I also have a big dick that I like to show off too, but you're right

but that has no sense, isn't that irrational?
if that's true she could've cheated in her past relationships

Do yourself a favor and never marry any woman.

Marriage is essentially a 'support this person for your entire life' contract with zero benefits for the provider.

should I bring the thing to a therapist? Maybe I'm just paranoid because of all the marriage thing

This. She hasn't been faithful. When a woman starts accusing you of cheating, then she feels guilty and is projecting it onto you. Look it up if you don't believe me. But if I were in your shoes, I would be suspicious.

Thats good for you m8. But you really have to work on that, cheating is just a major sign of weakness in my opinion

tripquads of truth

care to explain?
also remember, I don't live in EEUU

She's extremely insecure. Her insecurities will plague your relationship for years to come.

Run mother fucker. Run.

dubs don't lie

cheating is natural, it's in the women's interest to keep all relations monogamous. I'd say we would be better if anyone could fuck anyone at any given momento, fuck marriage, it's a disgusting way to let the government get inside your bedroom

We've already spent 7 years together, she wants me to get a floor so we can live together after the marriage, but I don't know if that's a good idea, I'm finishing medschool but she left her studies when she was 19, and hasn't been working since that momento, I find it highly suspicious

ooh, red flag. i worked while my wife went through school, now she's working while i go through school.

She has either already cheated on you or is planning to cheat on you. When a woman cheats she begins to project her cheating bahavior on a man in order to rationalize her own behavior. Example: "its ok that i fucked another man because hes probably fucking other girls behind my back or will do so eventually"

The chemical in your brain that causes "love" only lasts on average about 5-7 years. Her honeymoon phase has worn off and shes already bored with you.

yeah i find it a bad sign, I'm not commiting to that floor... maybe a rent but not anything that definitive

Been in a relationship with the girl I love for 10 years, I'm 30 now and official marriage will probably happen in the next few years.

Some years ago she told me she was constantly afraid of losing me, she felt that I might just move on on a moments notice. I never knew how she felt, we didn't talk about our relationship and I always just assumed everything was ok.

I think I've managed to ease out her fears, I just need to ask more often how how is she feeling.

Talk to her more, and now and then tell her that you love her like mean it.

what's a floor in this context?

I mean I know 'floor' like the thing you stand on but you seem to have it in some other meaning I'm not following.

I cheated a billion times. Even banged a fat hairy black hooker when I had an 8/10 Lao girl with natural DDs at home. Damaged a lot of girls' minds and hearts. Been monogamous for like 4 years, and it is good. But I needed to get that stuff out of my system, so I don't regret it. Even though I have 2 children that I haven't seen since before they learned to speak. That part sucks, but I am playing the cards I was dealt. I'm a bit crazy. Plus, the testosterone and trenbolone I was shooting had me fucking everything in sight.

floor = a flat (sory again, I'm spanish)

pardon my english

Dude. Your past the 7 year romance phase and shes unemployed with tons of free time on her hands. Also, she is projecting cheating behavior onto you. This women is probably fucking one or several men while you are in class. Buy a GPS tracker and put it under her car and then check where she goes over a few weeks. also setup a hidden camera with full view of your apartment door so you can see who comes and goes while you are out.

The camera and GPS will costs you less than 100$ from amazon and will settle once and for all whats going on. If you dont do this then you are retard and deserve the horror show thats coming your way.

thanks for the advice, I will do that, hope a month is time enough for that. Divorce is really hard for men where I live, I don't want to get screwed

Tell her to eat some pussy and suck some titties and she will understand you better.

Speaking for myself: OP shouldn't do it. Dangerous and addictive.

No need to buy a GPS tracker. Just enable the timeline feature in google maps on her phone. If its an android phone, it is probably already on tracking her every move.

fpbp

Why would you marry a person that hasn't done anything since 19. I mean, thats when you really start doing stuff you care about. Seems like she has no interests. What do you like about her?

Actually I'm not sure... She doesn't have a drive, no interest, no nothing...
I'm considering marriage as a bad option
And then there's the whole jealousy problema all the time, it's really obnoxious

I just cheated on my girlfriend of 3 years. I told her immediately, this girl was the love of my life and we were planning our future together. I dont know why I cheated on the girl that I wanted to be the mother of my children but I did and now she's gone. If you really love this girl OP I can promise you it'll never be worth hurting her. You don't think about that until it's too late. Cheated and never cheating again, it's not on my moral compass and it's not worth it. If you really seek that shit elsewhere just end it. 1 month single now though. Miserable all the time

>told her immediately

That's where you dun goof'd

Women are glued to their phones 24/7. Theres no way for him to get it to enable timeline and theres the risk of her seeing timeline was activated. A basic GPS stuffed in the wheel-well of her truck is much easier and safer.

well my last girl was jealous af, even though i didn't even care abou others.

She cheated on me.. It is just projection of their own problems..

wtf user this is fucking me (the guy) in that gif
did porn for a 4-5 years and I just can't recall that scene... sauce?

women will always bitch about that if theyre insecure, just keep watching bitches and if you can and want just fuck some on the side while being careful. That's just women for you,.

I'm just going for the gps, the cellphone is a suicide

It's pretty selfish to tell someone you cheated on them to relieve your own guilt. That's the only reason you did it, was because you thought you'd feel better if you told her. Selfish motherfucker. I've cheated on my gf 3 times the past year and I feel guilty as fuck and it eats at me but that's not her problem it's mine and I'm not gonna crush her world because I'm not so selfish that I have to tell and crush her so I feel like shit a little less.

google, literally Wattractive couple fucking" and images (it's a gif)

u're handsome tho, wish you have luck with the girls

btw, did you heact? have you been cheated?

prove it user what's your name? who's the girl?

>3 times
at some point you shoudl tell her so she can break up with you, you're clearly not learning anything from the guilt

>telling her is selfish!
>cheating on her for your own personal pleasure is not

Gtfo faggot

Do. Not. Get. Fucking. Married.

That said:

I cheated on my high school gf (flirting, making out, oral...everything but sex) with two other girls. I feel bad about it, but the relationship kinda sucked so whatever. Been dating the same girl for 10 years now, no desire to cheat but now I just rub one out when I get bored of fucking her.

To be fair only one time was intentional. The other 2 we're me inviting a slut over for a bro then got drunk & she came onto me instead. I'm done tho. Got 2 good a thing to fuck up. But there is no reason to tell a girl you've cheated on her unless you got STD other than selfishness from inability to deal with your own conscience

Didn't say cheating wasn't selfish. But the only reason you're telling someone you cheated on them is to salvage your own conscience, which is even more pussy a move than cheating. If you wanna be done, end it, if you realize you're done fucking up, then be done. Can't change the past can only be a better man from here on out. But confession infidelity is only something a true coward who can't handle their own guilt does.

absolutely true, no reason to do more harm. You fuck up, you fix it, it's that simple

>implying women aren't irrational

never cheated, always have ended the relationship before, though sometimes it was sloppy and did not wait a day to get to the next

been cheated on multiple times though, it fucking hurts when you really love the girl.

sorry I can't recall the scene, I did this with pegasproductions dot com between 5-10 years ago, and that girl was my girlfriend for 7 years and we did most of the scenes together, so I would need days of digging through a porn ocean to actually find that back

anyway, just really surprised to see a gif of me, considering I did this with very small producers that are light years behind the bigger in the industry

cheers user, leaving work now!

Second the other guy, she's projecting, prolly has a side dick

Been cheated, got cheated on.

How good the cheating felt wasn't comparable to how bad getting cheated was though.

how did it feel? both times

well the thing is most guys who accept it as cheating are the ones that got hurt by it. The type of guy who doesn't give a fuck about the girl fucking around is fucking around himself anyways.

So yeah, being cheated sucked but it was good because it kinda opened my eyes. Every guy has to go through that shit to toughen up I think.

Cheating was different. I thought I'd get this "yeah I'll do the fuck I want, I dont give a fuck" type of mood but that didn't happen. Can't change who you are overnight.

this was meant for you bro

apretiated
how did you find?

You are about to finish medschool and will probably earn a fuckton of money. She isn't doing shit since she was 19 and is not planning to. For her you are just her financial stability while she probably fucks other dudes. I mean, if she does not work, it means she has a lot of free time, while you are always out studying and soon working. Definitely red flag man.

sounds like shes feeling guilty and projecting it onto you. if thats true, shes already cheated. but hey im just some dude on the internet

thanks for the advice man, apretiated
have a nice night

I'm sorry user, but this guy speaks the truth

t to do if that's the case?

I am just pointing out the obvious. Sometimes it is hard to see the situation in an objective way when you are in the middle of it, especially if it contains emotions like love. I hope you will make the right decision dude (no matter what that would be).

You know how easy it would be for her to say she's heading out with female friends only to hook up with some guy?

what should I do?

RUN

Look into it before marrying her. Divorce will be a pain in the ass after you get your degree. Trust me I'm about six month from getting my law degree.

Also, sorry for the bad english. Spanish is my first language

Well, as said before, it sounds like she is projecting her own guilt on you. I have never been in your situation, but the tracking idea with the GPS sounds pretty good to me. Besides that, you could set up a camera in the bedroom or something. I guess when she will find out that you stalk her, she will go batshit crazy though.

Another thing you could do is talk to people to find out, I guess. You could talk to her, but she will probably deny it. You could talk to her friends, but they probably have her back and not yours. You could talk to a therapist, but I do not know if that will help in any way. Maybe you could discuss it with your friends or with other people who know her well, and see what they think of the situation.

In a relationship for about a year, got into a fight at hockey, she saw the fight, used it as leverage, we stopped sleeping together under the guises of "I have body image issues" and "Your temper scares me" (I had never raised my voice to her before, nor did I have anger issues) so we stopped fucking, she stopped sleeping over, she made me see doctors that were costing me 900 dollars a week, weekly, for four months (14,600 dollars spent)
I get a call at 5 AM from her best friends boyfriend saying she's only staying with me cuz I pay for shit, confront her, find out she's been cheating for 4 months.
We get into an argument, she calls the cops and alleges I struck her, broke into her house, stole money, etc. I get charged with a boatload of shit, some withdrawn (I.E. Assault, no one believed a 6' 9" 240 pound athlete could hit a 5'0 100 pound woman and not leave a bruise), some are still in court.

Totally ruined my ability to trust women.

Entonces me entenderas, no se si casarme, la ley de "igualdad" en España es un suicidio literal

Fuck, I feel your pain bro... I hope the both of you will get justice one day.

OMG that happened to me recently! she says she's "scared", dude I'm just a suicidal beta cuck wtf
bet that bitch is about to leave me

also to OP, marriage is ALWAYS a bad idea buddy, it's game over

This this this.

I wasted years of my life married to an insecure jealous bitch. Convinced myself she would come to trust me after years of fidelity. She became a nagging control freak to prop up her insecurity. Ironically, she cheated on me as I became too beta trying to prove myself to her.

Run, user. Run fast, don't look back.

Desconozco lo especifico del Derecho Español ya que soy latinoamericano, pero casarte con alguien que no trabaja significa que en caso de divorciarte buscaran que pagues una indemnización grande.
Si decides casarte ve la posibilidad de pactar un acuerdo prenupcial que cubra en parte lo que tu régimen matrimonial no cubra, ademas de obviamente elegir separación total de bienes.
Otra buena opcion es crear un par de sociedades para esconder bienes.

People in General who are VERY jealous about you having friends, are themselves very Weak. They cant comprehend why you can have friends without cheating on her, because they are not able to do so.

She will ALWAYS be that way, and even if you work in the same building as another woman she will think you are cheating on her.