Sup Forums I humbly ask you your sage advice and wisdom...
How do you, in 2017, meet people and form healthy relationships? I just don't know anymore
I give up. I am sick and tired, and lonely. Fuck this night, fuck society. Fuck this post
Sup Forums I humbly ask you your sage advice and wisdom...
How do you, in 2017, meet people and form healthy relationships? I just don't know anymore
I give up. I am sick and tired, and lonely. Fuck this night, fuck society. Fuck this post
No idea, I haven't made a new friend or met a person I would want to form a friendly relationship with since 2008
I still only talk to the same group of 5 or so friends I had.
I think I'll just kill my self in a few years or become a trap and then kill myself idk.
Wait until 2018 and make a bullshit new years resolution to become more social.
>repeat
damn. this hit too close to home.
Identify an interest of yours, find a way to pursue it, find the community associated with it, and join it. Don't force things, take it easy, things will happen naturally or not. If issues remain, consider self improvement, as there is such a thing as intolerable people. So perhaps the first thing you should do, especially if you aren't sure that you're not a piece of shit, is seek therapy.
That's solidarity user, true friends
actually me to a T
>pic related, it's who I want to cosplay as to a con I'm going to soon
I mean maybe I have met a few people and a few crushes that nothing came about in the last 10 years but 5 friends isn't so bad.. I got about 3 in my corner, maybe 4. But it's quality over quantity
I had a friend drop me after 10y but he didn't really drop me he just works a real job. All your friends and peers work real jobs when you are 25 and still *in school
yeah true fucking friends. Its like staring into the abyss, but only the abyss doesn't stare back; there is only nothing.
Its fucking maddening
There is no one to share my intrests with
There is no one to work on cool projects with
There is no one to enjoy anything I love doing with because there is no point to doing it for myself
real fucking neato
>and here I am posting anonymously at 3 in the fucking morning.
what happened?
and still posting animu fucking reaction images while I do it to
neat
You;re obviously in a bad mental state if you feel that way. Fuck other people get yourself healthy before you worry about that bullshit. Relationships are a way healthy people blow off steam and have fun, they're not a means to an end. You're never going to get something out of a relationship that you don't make yourself.
good goy, lack of human interaction is step two in the plan, good, good
I've been a bad mental state for a very long time. I am not going to take psychs and I probably will refuse counseling.
Any other suggestions?
>we should join the extraordinary gentlemans Sup Forumstard league together
no but seriously, your guess is as good as mine.
I think I am beginning to see why there are people that 'larp' as anime girls on this website now after all these years
Depends on environment, simple version is find a group activity of some sort your interested in and start going to it. But your here, so following through is an issue too. I've found positioning yourself in a way that makes it impossible to back out without embarrassing yourself can help force you to actually have social interactions and build up your skills. Once that happens it's basically just being persistent, because there's a decent chance a long fucking time will pass before you get any solid results. Once you do though you'll have been socializing enough to capitalize on those results and actually do something.
Also, if you want romance/sex becoming someone's niche helps. I accidentally ended up coming off as "ambiguously gay dork" and have had surprising success in a college environment, as I'm able to play into it (bi) and end up being the one example of many alternative girls very specific niche represented in the environment thats also into them. Adapt that strategy towards whatever niche you naturally lean towards and while results won't be numerous, they will be strong enough to make up for it (none of them stop after a coffee, only a few after fucking for the first time)
That's how to form a relationship, healthy relationship is taking those strategies, and doing them over and over until you end up with people in those normal relationships who are not toxic and you have chemistry with, and actively working to make those specific relationships stronger.
Holy shit. What are you?
...
Yeah lads I'm trying the whole bi thing and I'm not enjoying it nearly as much as I thought I would. I have a dude from Craigslist will jerk or suck me or anything I want anytime I want, and I can't stop trying to pick up MILFs or other scum. I did have actually one real encounter with a female from Craigslist, and she is in committed relationship of her own and I enabled her to cheat... Meanwhile I'm working on an intensive group project with girl I really do like and we talk everyday and in a weird way it's like we have a relationship because project we are doing is very important. I also friend request my ex on Facebook and I talked to her too, though she's just wildly more successful than me and has higher place in life she will actually humor some of my messages. I have no idea what the fuck I'm doing
i also dont have friends, am i supposed to want to?
An actual autist who spent years working my social skills up to the level of a Sup Forumstard, realized how shit that still was, and just kept going.
I applaud people who have *never had friends. I mean every year I lose another, at this rate I'll be 30 and friendless but I'm not sure that's too uncommon
i'm 28. i do have a gf, and have had friends before. it was good times when i did, but i guess i just dont care now? I just work a lot and find things to fill free time
You may not have any friends, but we're all
Sup Forumsrothers here, user.
We sold human sentiment for cold unfeeling technology.
I almost think it's better this way. Almost.
Empty promiscuity as a bisexual is so easy nowadays it's boring, you'll get more interesting and fulfilling results going for individuals while keeping your mind open to having others involved.
How is this better? How are we different from androids at this point? It's practically a part of my hand
You can still find it if you look, the problem isn't tech replacing it, but people being too eager to use tech as a substitute instead of using it as it should be, a tool.
Y'all need Dagorhir.
If a bad mental state is a legitimate concern i can only recommend therapy. Just chill with it, try putting words on your feelings and a good therapist will not judge you for feeling the way you do, but rather try and explain the reasons you could be feeling this or that way.
If you really detest therapy, try reading some studies in the field of positive psychology.
Locate your interests, dare to pursue what inspires you and relations will naturally occur if you can overcome any potential anxiety.