There's nothing harder than breaking up with your boyfriend because you're just not in love with him, when he's a complete sweetheart and perfect saint who considers you the love of his life.
I tried to love him. I did. We've been together for a year and a half. But I just can't view him as anything more than a friend.
I know I'm going to hurt him. I put this off for too long.
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Tell him you hate him and never want to see him again. If you let him know you still care, it will be much harder on his end.
Hey look, it's all two of the people I tried dating in my life!
You just broke my heart, OP, something similar happened to me a few months ago, but, I was the one that got hurt
What exactly do you think love is?
Where are you from
Missouri.
Romantic love is more than just friendship. I've been in love before, both passionately and more calmly. This is neither.
i was in your boyfriends shoes about two years ago.
for his sake, just tell him asap. let him down easy. be honest. don't talk after it happens. it will hurt him, yeah, but he'll get over it quicker that way.
Please tell me you gave the nigga some pussy before you decided to end it
KC or Saint Louis?
I was hoping we could stay close friends like we were before. Ghosting him altogether could make him feel more rejected.
Baby, please don't cause me harm.
>If you let him know you still care, it will be much harder on his end
no, that would not make it easier. it makes it much harder. it will give them trust issues because theyll wonder how they misjudged a person so wrongly. theyll second guess themselves more. it will make them more jaded. its one of the worst feelings in the world to have someone you care about reveal that they dont give a shit about you. obviously youve never had this happen to you because if it did you wouldnt advocate for that. i see what youre going for. you think if he thinks shes just an asshole he can just be angry instead of sad. thats not exactly how it works, and it makes things more bitter.
just sit him down and be honest. you really tried, but youre just not in love with him. its not anyones fault, thats just how things turned out. then cut all contact. and if he knows whats good for him, he wont try to contact you.
Oh, we've had sex plenty of times, since the first week or so of the relationship. If sex could have saved him, he would have lived forever.
>I was hoping we could stay close friends
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no dude. maybe you can be friends in the future but don't talk for a while after you break up. my ex and i still talked after what happened and all i could wonder was why we couldn't continue as something more if we are capable of an enjoyable friendship.
Just cut all ties after you say goodbye. I've been on the other end and it hurts so much worse when they try and stay friends.
no. no. no.
do not stay friends with him if you want whats best for him. it will drag out the process for him. let him get over you.
Tell me you at least let him put it in the pooper before you crush his soul
No you will never be close friends again, I speak from experience because my ex did the same fucking thing to me. And now I cant even begin to attempt at another relationship because of that....
this
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I wish I didn't know this feel. Maybe someday we can try again.
>And now I cant even begin to attempt at another relationship because of that....
shut up, youre just going to make it even harder for her to go through with it. sounds like more of a problem you need to deal with than a natural effect of getting dumped anyways.
Wanting to stay friends is like wanting to keep a dog after killing it. It just rots, and it ain't good at all.
I... maybe I should just ask him what he wants? Some people prefer to remain friends with their exes. I won't force myself on him, but I won't vanish from his life unless he wishes me to.
Im going through this rn, as of a month ago. I finally just last night got her to tell me she wanted nothing to do with me. The fact that I knew she still cares made me think there was a chance where there really wasnt. Im glad she told me because now Ive accepted the fact that I am just gonna have to move on. Its so much easier once you know they want nothing to do with you. At that point you can finally focus on yourself and not on how to get them back.
kek, this faggot is still hoping. give it up, jesus christ you guys are pathetic.
seriously. whatever you do just do something around what i said earlier.
i'd hate to sleep tonight knowing some dude might have to go through what i went through.
you can make it easier.
Awww, so naive...
Friends = false hope for the entire 'friendship' which will eventually disintegrate anyway.
he's gonna want to stay close to you, of course. if he really loves you that much then honestly he's gonna want to keep you around. but he'll be hurt longer since he's gonna stick around a girl who broke his heart not too long ago.
trust me.
>maybe I should just ask him what he wants?
nooooooooooooooo. if hes anything like the old me, he will say he wants to be friends in the hopes that he can stay close to you and get back with you. for both of your sakes, just break it off.
>Some people prefer to remain friends with their exes.
yeah, usually if they werent in a long term relationship, or if they had a good while of time apart. you cant just break up and then be friends. you need to cut ties for a long time.
That's what I kept telling myself every day we talked, but it was never to be, I was nothing to her except a way to make herself feel better
Hey I'm in your shoes but as a guy
She's that best gf I've ever had and probably will have
We have fun ass dates
She isn't beyond staying in and playing vidya when we're feeling lazy
I can watch a football game with her and she'll bring me food and beers
She's not drop dead gorgeous but she's an easy 7/10
Her sex drive matches mine
But I just don't feel "love" for her
I never fully got over an ex and I know with 100% certainty that I "loved" her more than I do my current gal
I'm sure I'll regret breaking up with her but I also know I can never return the affection she shows me
For his sake just end it....the longer you stay around, the more it will tear him apart inside. You will do more damage to him if you stay. Like I said earlier my ex stayed in my life for years after we ended it, and it has done nothing but torment me
im not in your situation yet OP, but i fear i may end up having to do the same thing.
This, just be honest. The worst feeling is not knowing why it didn't work out
Just tell him what you've just told us. If he is really a good guy, he'll understand. And I want you to know, I understand. You can't force love, or it wouldn't be love. And you both need and deserve happiness. It's going to suck for both of you, but don't back down. You're doing the right thing. Godspeed.
Here's some advice nobody else has brought up: don't leave him.
You dumb whore. You rancid fucking bitch. Don't destroy a good person. Fuck you.
Why did you fall out of love? Not good enough for ya? Another guy in the picture
in a similar situation, though it has nothing to do with not being over an ex. i just dont know if i ever see myself being "in love" with her.
Are you me? Same shit literally a month ago.
>There's nothing harder than breaking up with your boyfriend because you're just not being showered with money anymore, when he's a complete scumbag and lonely virgin who just got played by his little whore.
Fixed and trimmed your post to a more accurate state.
I didn't fall out of love. I was never in love to begin with. My heart chose him to be a friend and nothing more, not me. I wish I loved him. If I had one wish, it would be to love him the way he loves me.
This. My last ex broke up with me over a text, refused to take my calls, and said I was an asshole and she hated me. It was a completely senseless breakup that came out of nowhere and should never have happened.
I know for a fact I treated her better than anyone ever treated her in her entire life. I genuinely loved her and wanted her to be happy and I did everything I could to try to make that happen. In the end, though, nothing I did mattered, because she resented me because I was more successful than her and she hated her job, even though I honestly would've had no problem supporting her until she got a new one. She basically hated me because of how generous and good I was to her.
To learn, in the end, that she cared so little about me that she was able to just cut me out of her life with a single text and never talk to me again when she was so important to me was heartbreaking. It's been 5 years now and I'm still not totally over it, if I'm being honest. That was the hardest thing I've ever been through. It absolutely broke me, and I don't know if I'll ever be what I was before I met her ever again.
aww, has someone has his lil heart broken?
shut the fuck up, faggot. no one is obligated to stay with anyone just so you dont hurt them. if you dont grow to love someone, you shouldnt stay with them, for both of your sakes.
That's a lovely sentiment, and I think you should tell him that to help the break-up sting less.
if you need someone to talk to for advice on this, coming from the guys perspective, you can always hit me up on kik or something.
I said that wrong
I'm over my ex in the sense that I know that's done and we're never getting back together, I accepted that
I'm more in a position of "I know how I can feel about a person when I love em, and I don't feel that for my current girl"
Lol there is another dude.
Why be a lier
>posting in a b8 thread
If this is the honest truth, this whole situation is your fault. Why even get into a relationship with someone you never loved? are that fucking dense? He deserves better.
>still think this is all b8
Admit it, you've been cheating on him and you just want to openly fuck the other guy.
This. He still loves you. He'll always still love you as long as you're around him. How do you think he'll feel when he starts seeing you with other guys? How do you think he'll feel knowing there's someone else fucking the girl he loves?
If you care about him, it's best that he never sees you again.
I'm sorry, user. I went through something similar, except with two of my best friends. The pain has dulled, but it effects me every day. I hope that you can heal.
You have been together for less than 2 years and you are giving up...Well, to be honest, work on your relationship! It dosnt come free, and you need to work for it every day. Steady relstionships arent a walk on clouds. You have been together for some 600 days, and expect to be in love for all your life. Not how life works, and if you cant understand that in your 1,5 year long relationship, maybe relationships arent for you.
>this
spotted another butthurt child who hates women because he had a bad experience. stop projecting you little faggot.
I'M A GURL AND I NEEEEED ATTENTIOOOOON
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While it's a nice sentiment, don't you think you've been kinda leading him on this whole time? Why have it go on or even start if you didn't feel the same way?
this.
exactly this.
Shut up and go find a nigger and take in his dick you typical heart broken whore
she sounds like a selfish cunt. youre better than her, user.
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I'm this user I came so fucking close to playing this song for her this last time we were together
She told me "I love you" today as I was leaving but the truck next to us was really loud so I pretended like I didn't understand what she said and she said "nothing" with a smile on her face
I don't want to hurt her, she's such an amazing person
Wow, you are actually evil! Why the fuck did you even get together with him if you didnt have feelings for him in that way? Holy shit, you are pure and utter trash!
No wtf, that's only gonna make him hate himself and have major issues down the line
I admit to nothing because that isn't true. I have such a soft spot in my heart for him, the guilt would be unbearable.
He's always been a good friend, and I've never been good at saying no. I did everything romantic and sexual under the sun with him hoping that one day, something would click and I would love him and I wouldn't have to do this.
Yeah, I mean, I've had good things in my life since then, I've done a lot of cool things and been happy for a time. It's just that before I met her and while I was with her, I was the best I've ever been. The best shape physically, the most confident, outgoing, the most happy, it felt like my life was finally all together, like I was really coming into my own.
The breakup sent me back to a very dark place. I gained a lot of weight back, I barely left my apartment for a year, I lost a bunch of friends, I just stopped caring about anything. I've had to struggle just to get back to baseline, just to get back to not completely falling apart. I don't know if I'll ever get back to that happy, confident, charming guy that I was. I just feel... hollow. I don't feel that same drive I had before to be the best me I can be. I just don't really give a fuck anymore.
I don't know if I can ever go back.
Fuck you. You're the worst kind of person. He needs someone better than you, but you fucked it up by letting him feel what he feels, and now no matter what you do he's gonna be broken.
You're a cunt.
Be upfront, I wouldn't talk to him for a while tho, he'll either hate your guts or try to win you over somehow, better to leave him be, nothing you can do
>worst kind of person
what kind of person do you mean?
Obviously the one that gets together with someone and teases a relationship for 1,5 years and then breaks it to him that she never felt she loved him...
I mean, she was in hindsight, but I still can't hate her. I just feel sad whenever I think about her. I know I should be angry at her, I've tried to be, but whenever I think about the things she did to me, whenever I try to get pissed off, all I feel is a profound sorrow. It shouldn't have been like this. It wasn't fair. I did everything I was supposed to do, I don't understand why things turned out like this. I know it's not my fault, I know what she did was shitty and selfish, but I still can't make myself hate her.
Oh sweetie, no, ya see, if someone loves a person, and then they're told by the person they love that the feeling is not mutual, they will not take it well at all if you say "but we can still be friends tho", rip the bandaid off and don't talk to him, it really is best for him
Maybe after 3 years or more. otherwise he will feel led along or that he still has a chance.
"My heart chose him to be a friend and nothing more, not me."
Why the fuck even lead him on then? If you knew from the start, why cause him pain that's likely to last years? That's fucked. You can take someone's belongings, beat the shit out of them, but they can get new things and heal. This kind of shit never heals. Mortal fucking emotional wounds, caused by people like you.
Are you a fucking anime character that falls in love with people before you date them?
Grow up child, adults get into relationships to see if they develop into something more
Well, soon enough he'll be gone from your life if you really want what's best. You reap what you sow Artyom.
Wow what a cunt
>the guilt would be unbearable
Which is exactly why you're breaking up with him. There is no point in lying, we're all friends here, even if you're an evil cheating asshole who's only redeeming quality is that last little shred of conscious you have.
>Missouri.
thank fucking god now I can pretend my relationship is still alright
.........Artyom?
I've explained that already, but... it doesn't matter. I'm trash. I deserve all the harsh words you can throw at me.
Assuming I even go through with this today. The more negative posts are making me lose my nerve.
You are just a SLAG
No, user, she's just a human being who got herself in a messy situation. The same might happen to you one day.
I dunno, OP. I don't think you're a bad person necessarily, but you have to u derstand, you did a really, really awful thing. I think maybe you did t understand that what you were doing was bad. I think you thought you were doing a nice thing by being in a relationship with him and thought you would grow to love him one day. But what you've done here, is you've put him on the path to ruin. You are going to shatter this man. There is nothing you can do about it. You can't stay with him knowing you don't love him, and leaving him is going to break his heart,
Learn from this experience. It's not nice to give people false hope. It's not nice to let someone you don't love love you. It's cruel. Make sure you never do this to anyone ever again.
Don't let them discourage you.
I've been in that position and I'm still friends with them. It took me a few months of me moping to come around, but I did.
Just do it clearly and honestly, but gently. You need to do it now.
All you can do is tell him. What happens happens. Get away before he does something really stupid like propose. You can't be friends.
It would only be fair
OP you just need to say something like
"I love you, but I think I've realized with the time we've had together that it's friendly platonic love, not romantic love."
At least give him the idea that you didn't go into this not liking him that way, and feed him the idea that you believed you liked him but realized you didn't (so that he won't crumble)
This is what I'm saying, but with a lot less personal anguish behind it. Thanks.
Jesus, women are scum. They can't commit to anything. Even among the women I do know in relationships, most of them would rather not be with their partners because they just get bored of relationships so easily.
Sounds like you didn't try at all if he's that good of a person, you cunt. I guess you just want to run off and get dicked down by total strangers that are half the men he is, and migrate from relationship to relationship like the rest of women. All for excitement.
You will never have a lasting relationship.
I'm fapping to this thread, is anyone else
How old are you and your bf?
kek.
I'm 23, he's 26. We became friends in high school when I was a freshman and he was a senior. He had feelings for me from early on, but was too scared to confess until January of last year (his new year's resolution was to tell me he loves me).
i wasnt saying you should hate her. i just think you should take solace in the fact that you did everything you could and that its her problem, not yours.
Welp
No, because I'm not a hypersexual teenager. Get off Sup Forums and go to pornhub if you want to masturbate constantly.
>If you knew from the start,
youve never been in a relationship before, have you, retard.
you dont know from the start. the average couple doesnt even start using the L word until 6 months in.