So I'm fucking lost, /b. So much horrific shit has happened to my wife and I...

So I'm fucking lost, /b. So much horrific shit has happened to my wife and I, and we have one family member who is offering to help us with a roof over our head. the only problem is she is all the way in Oklahoma and we're in California. We have a little over 24 hours of driving ahead of us in a shitty 95 honda civic.

I'm out of my anti depressants and antipsychotics as of this morning, and my disability insurance hasn't kicked in yet.

I'm beyond fucked, we are pennyless and can't afford the gas to get there or the refills for my meds which are just $5 each.

I don't want to be a fucking bum but asking for help is all I can do right now, we've already sold all our valuables to pay this last month of rent here. Watching my childhood zelda collection walk out the door made me sick to my stomach.

If you don't have any spare change to throw our way I'd appreciate some advice on moving state to state, or advice on moving or emptying out unsellable furniture out of an apartment. Advice on driving long distances. Hell maybe you know some nice free distractions on the way from california to oklahoma.

Anything would help, I don't have any friends or family here for me, I'm just so damn scared and depressed

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Bumping with random shit. I used to do game dev, still do a little sometimes, this is a puzzle game I did awhile back, it's free on itch.io.

It's called Blocks of Battle. Basically a gameboy style tribute to PanelDePon/Pokemon Puzzle League

I put in that 25 cent charge as a joke, you can just click no thanks and it'll let you download it for free.
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If you can beat unfair mode let me know, I still haven't yet

I didn't expect much help, but not even a post calling me a fag? Damn

nobody here has any money this is why pan handlers hold signs on roads, it's good money

>my wife and i
>wife
SoCal user here, i've got a couple extra rooms where you can stay, you don't necessarily need to pay me with money if you catch my drift

I don't just need money, if people have any advice or insight about moving across different states I'd appreciate it.

To be honest, I just want human interaction, I don't have anyone up here besides my wife, and I can't depend only on her for support

Trust me man, I love my wife dearly, and she loves me just as much, but neither of us are attractive enough to be worth the rent of a room. I appreciate the thought though, bro

you do know how to greentxt a story don't you?

Sprites I did for Wayward, a turn based roguelike survival game on steam. Awesome game, and it's cheap. The dev is chill too.

I do, but I'm in a bad state of mind right now and forgot it. Things are really dark for me today user. I'm trying my best to hold things together

Fucking begging scum. If you had a somewhat believable story i'd help you out since i'm sitting on a damn near 5 figure savings account.

Wife pics. Don't say you have none. Take one right now and post it. Nobody is going to offer anything else until you do.

if you don't say what's wrong nobody can help you, they can only pity you instead

>implying i have standards
Post pics

I have driven from socal to oklahoma many times.
where in ok you going?

Some of ym sprite work just randomly sitting put everywhere as a shitty attempt for a background for a game site I was working on.

I have nothing but my word man, I appreciate you took the time to post, and I'm glad you have a savings. Keep yourself and your friends and family top priority, life is shitty when you're unprepared for it like we were

I'm sorry man, in that regard I have nothing to offer. My wife and I have lived together for 2 years, and dated for 6 before that. We've always been close and have never had the need to send eachother pictures, I literally don't have any.

I'll take pity. I'm just glad people are actually replying, it's been so long since I've let myself talk to people like this

I appreciate your determination, but I don't have any pictures of us on this laptop, this is my super old one from 2008, sold my newer one and was too melancholy to think backing up my files was worth it

Wishing you the best of luck OP. Keep your head up man. You've got a wife that loves you, if anything you can hold onto that, because that shit ain't easy to find

We're heading to Bartlesville. Our aunt has a home there that is paid off, it's a 3 bedroom and there is no rent to pay, just utilities. We're hoping we can stabilize and start saving up money again there.

We hope we can start a family but due to a recent Er visit we found out my wife has ovarian cysts that may keep her from getting pregnant which is something she has wanted for a long time, she has always wanted kids. It hit her hard and she went into a depression like me and stopped going to work.

We'll be leaving from Sacramento and heading directly to bartlesville. We hope to get there within a couple days but we don't have any experience driving for that long

moved to the chicago area from SoCal about 3 years ago, most important method for my adjustment was immersing myself in SOME type of work and social interaction with new people

Thank you I appreciate that. I just hope I can do my best to keep her happy. We've been selling all our stuff to fund the move, I'm worried because she is so sentimental about her things but she seems so willing to sell all her manga and games. I don't know how much pain that is causing her internally but I'm trying to keep my head up and be helpful to her in any way I can.

One happy moment was our neighbor dropped off a big chunk of ahmish friendship bread this morning, we were dying for something sweet so that was very nice

My mom also has either uteran or ovarian cysts man and I'm here. Dont mean its imposible just a bit harder and painful as hell when they rupture but it ain't dangerous

Besides registration for your car and getting a new state ID, was there anything you had to do after the move that caught you by surprise? I'm trying to be as prepared as I can be

Have you thought about murdering your wife and selling the pieces online ?

me
Well my advice is that it is a long assed trip. dont try to do it in one stretch.

You are going to have to pan handle for some cash. Make a sign, one for her too. Stand on different corners. One day you should be able to bag 50 to 100 bucks.

Do stay in new mexico at some cheap dive for the nigh.

buy bread and lunch meat for food.

Also dont forget water to drink

That's comforting, she is afraid of losing the child mid term which is higher risk too, but I told her to not worry about that until we speak to more doctors about it.

For now I've been keeping her hot pad hot, and making sure comfort food and anime is readily available if she needs it. She has kind of shut down from talking to me about how she feels but I'm not going to let that stop mefrom trying to keep her happy

I'm sure it's hard for her as well man but she cares about you enough to do it and without letting you know she doesn't want to. You seem like you have a good heart. Once you make it to your destination I have no doubt you won't do something to make her happy

That picture is fucking gold.

And no, she has joked about killing herself in a way that gives me her life insurance money, but I told her if she dies I'll be right behind her, so hopefully that stiopped any ideas she's had about it. I'm worried about her because she hasn't been talkative at all for weeks

still me
My first wife had ovarian cyst. they removed it and we had 3 boys after that

Sell car, take bus, buy bike, start life fresh

Pan handling is going to be the next step if we don't get any help via that gofundme thing.

I'm hoping to buy a big thing of water bottles before we leave, although the car will be cramped I'm pretty sure even if it's a huge container I can put it on the passenger side front floor or something.

For food we were thinking of just doing granola bars since they don't go bad and take up teensy amounts of space. I'm sure after 20 hours on the road a sandwich would be kickass though.

We're clinging to the hope that's going to be the same for her. We've been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years now, no dice. (Saved a shit ton of money on condoms though)

I thought about it, but my wife is a little materialistic and wouldn't take too kindly to that idea. I figure keeping our trash car and some of her things could help her transition a little better. I love her to death but hot damn does she love her little trinkets and collectibles

Why would you want to bring a baby into your situation when you're literally begging on the internet for money? Are you crazy?

me again
So you are going to want to go south to the 40, then east. I personally like taking thee 395 south because it is so beautiful.

This

Thank you, all we can do now is keep emptying our apartment and prepare for the trip. I've never seen too much truth in "The grass is always greener on the other side" but just this once I'll throw my eggs in that basket and hope things will be better over there.

We haven't been trying for a child since about 6 months ago when my diagnosis hit and the doctors took me off of work, which started our financial crisis. We are not currently hoping for a child and haven't even been intimate for months because we just plain aren't happy and don't feel safe or secure right now.

We are hoping our situation will improve after we move so we can start saving money and raising a child becomes a possibility again

go to a food bank
you may need to bring a library card or some form of ID/ and some mail

they give ya food

still me

What language(s) do you code in?
You can freelance from anywhere

Driving long distances: one sleeps while one drives. Also helps if you buy snacks like pistachios WITH shells pumpkin seeds or sunflower seeds they help you stay up because you have to crack the shell and stuff thats what I do anyways move around a lot so also do most of the drive during the day. Be careful when merging into the highway and be aware of roadworks around you try to coast to improve gas mileage from California to Oklahoma you should only need 2 tanks of gas.

I'll save this for later, a beautiful drive would definitely help put our minds at ease, thank you :)

We've hit up the banks here and have gotten by on grains and breads, some canned veggies they've given us as well. One place had milk and sugar and flour, had homemade pancakes for breakfast for like a week, it rocked.

Sadly I am fluent in GML, Game maker language, for GameMaker Studio. It's a powerful tool, but everyone who uses it usually works alone or never finishes projects.

I DID make a ton of money as a writer for a few adult visual novel style games, but once my depression kicked into full swing it became impossible to write imaginative believable romance stuff.

I still write freelance contracts for people who need blank custom contracts for hiring third party artists and stuff, but haven't had any work for that for awhile

Luckily our little old 95 honda civic has pretty good mileage surprisingly. We're hoping 2-3 gas tanks can get us there, it all depends on traffic.

The pistachios is a really good idea though, hard to fall asleep if you have something busy to do. It's easy to lose focus when driving on autopilot all day.

We were going to try and drive from early morning to night and sleep at night. Less cars at night is nice, but sleep is important

Shit man no rent once you get to where you're going. The grass will definitely be greener

yup me
Listen - you are going to pass many things that you might never see again.

Death Valley, Vegas, Grand Canyon, Painted Desert, petrified forest, meteor crater, The corner in Winslow AZ.

If you do Death valley, get the week long all parks pass - that will get you into Grand Canyon too.

Plus a small yard, and more space. I know once we can make it there we will be ok. I still wont be able to get a job because of the disability insurance thing, but we won't need much income to stay alive there

I've heard the Grand Canyon is amazing to see in person. If we do find the time to go see it I only hope my wife doesn't convince me to look over the edge haha, super scared of heights

mainly just address change stuff, nothing really heavy. cell phone was a must.

OP here again. Thread looks like it's dying. I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who talked to me, I appreciate all the advice and kind words.

My wife and I are going to keep fighting and keep our heads up as much as we can.

I hope all of you have a great day and an awesome life ahead of you

clearly you're UNEMPLOYABLE which is why you're BEGGING
just go into any restaurant and offer to do dishes for $5/hr
or uber with your civic
or go into any pizza place and offer to deliver pizza

>normie from socal with wife begging for help like a beta bitch on Sup Forums and linking their r*ddit account
>trying to guilt trip us into giving you money
Also, this is a scam. Anyone who falls for it is retarded. Fuck off idiot.

I appreciate the advice.

I've been in the workforce since I was 16, over 8 years of working my ass off in resturaunts and also doing sales for the devil (comcast).

My doctors deemed me unfit to work and put me on immediate sick leave and Iwas told not to go back to work and to just apply for SDI/SSI.

Without my antipsychotics I'm a danger to myself with constant hard to resist urges to cause pain to myself.

And even on them the occasional urge can be too much to resist and I end up self injuring at work, so I was pulled from the work force but am still waiting on SSI/SDI.

Trust me, I have the skills to work, I'm a fucking great cook. My body is just all sorts of fucked

>first post says you have 24 hours of driving ahead for free room/board
>can't drive for uber

Call a suicide hotline in your current town They can tell you where you can get help with meds free or low cost

you make way to many excuses, man.

It's not a scam, I don't have any need to lie, my life is plenty fucked enough to just be honest.

Shit sounds fucked up because it is. I'm not claiming none of it is my fault either. I mean shit, I could have just not tried to kill myself, then my wife would have never forced me to seek treatment, and I would have never been taken off of work.

I'd still be doing 60+ hours a week in the kitchen for 13.50/hour, getting home at 3am smelling like oil, charred beef, and sweaty seafood juice, and I'd still be pulling weekly paychecks of 600+.

Or commit suicide. Who needs drugs when you have a bullet?

Lookin good op

weren't you like a game dev awhile back?
You a cook now?

This is pleb teir victim/excuse level bullshit
you're functional to make sentences on b
and get meds and fill a script
yet you can't drive for uber/lyft
go to home depot and paint someone's house for $10/hr
literally I hate people like you that just want a handout or play the victim card
>boo hoo i'm depressed
kys

Just line up with all the beaners OP

Why can't you get your aunt to send you cash?

I'm so unsure how the fuck people get this far, I live with my girlfriend, we are both working part-time, minimum wage, about 20 hours a week, we are both students, rent is 600$ for half a basement with commodities, we have no exterior help whatsoever from the college or the government and I pay 100$ a month for Concerta meds, not covered.

I have about 600$ saved in my account and it is still going up, same goes for her, credit card is empty.

Just how bad can people be with their finances ?

just an fyi. op likes dog porn.

I'll try that, thank you for the idea

I drive a filthy honda civic with peeling paint, tons of dents, that just barely can still pass smog. Anybody who would willingly get into my vehicle for a ride is either brave or already planning on robbing my broke ass.

Sometimes all you have are excuses

Anyone who says they make a living as an indie game dev is a liar or got lucky.

I said I did game dev for fun, and did side work doing writing for porn games. I'm a nobodydev who worked a normal dayjob and devved in my offtime for fun :)

Thanks, you should see my fat ass now though, my face is a jungle of ugly ass facial hair. Can't grow a good looking beard to save my life

Hey man, I see what you mean, I'm not going to try and say anything to change your viewpoint. I appreciate you took the time to post and I understand I am begging like a bitch. Desperation and fear/uncertainty can lead to that. I don't take pride in it, but this is the course of action I'm hoping works

I'd do it if I could, but the closest home depot is pretty far away and there's no guarantee I'd get any work. Who'd hire a fat white nerd to weed their garden or paint their home over a thin worker with experience and skill doing the same thing faster and cheaper?

OP DID say they wrote porn for money, I guess they just whored themselves out to all genres like every other autistic nodev

If your wife is down on fucking during the first date I can take her out and make sure she has enough gas to get to where shes going after and a donation to you for meds.

> Working in grocery chain
> Diagnosed with Dysthemic depression, PTSD and Borderline personality disorder.
> Turn in doctor accommodations
> Hours were cut
> Treated like incompetent garbage.
> Pulled out of favorite department
> Put into bagging/collecting carts.
> Start getting more sick
> Not going to work
> Begging for money


the big chains don't give a fuck about you... you are an ant in their eyes, a number on a sheet of paper.

One financial misstep can cause a domino effect. You could also have a medical emergency that costs big time. There are a multitude of reasons why someone may be down and out. It doesn't always mean someone is bad with money. Learn how to see past your own fucking life.

i regularly think about what i would do if i was homeless and poor. I have a brilliant idea that would work for free food. Have an outfit that looks like you do construction or road work... get a dirty hi-vis vest and wear it and every morning find a nicer hotel and take advantage of the free breakfast. They will think you are staying in town for work and they wont say shit. I know this because i work on the road. Even super8 has decent breakfast.... and bread and peanut butter for you to make sandwiches for lunch. i just solved your food problem. youre welcome.

I looked at your plebbit post and man you just sound like a professional victim. It's pathetic any of my tax dollars are going to you.

right. wasn't expecting someone to write about doggy shit. that's gross as fuck.

you have excuses but you've had literal years to solve these problems. you've done nothing to improve anything. people operate day in and day out with your issues and they're not well off either. you have all these talents and you're making shitty excuses. go live off the government if you're incapable of working.

yet you sent pics of you fucking your wife to her sister? man, i'm starting to think half of the shit you're saying is just bullshit. i cba to inspect your Reddit to see if there are any consistencies to your stories or not.

> Who'd hire a fat white nerd to weed their garden

Told you it was a scam
Remember to sage, kiddies.

Oh right, Mericans Doctors will save you but fuck you up financially, I forgot that you rather have military than education and health.
My bad.

JUST BORROW 200$ FROM YOUR FUCKING AUNT... FUCK

THIS IS FUCKING BRILLIANT!
And would absolutely work

...

Yeah, I was too optimistic and trusting.

In my head I literally thought they would be supportive after learning about my rush to the ER after my suicide attempt, but they just treated me like a tumor they had to remove

True that. My goal in the future is to have a fund saved for our kid so if/when this happens to them we have the ability to get them back on their feet.

When I was younger I actually used to offer cooking classes haha. The people would buy their own ingredients, I'd teach them some simple recipes for soups or appetizers I'd make at work, and then we'd taste test (As in, we'd feast) and I'd still get paid a bit.

Had to make money somehow, the worst jobs were the ones involving inflationist or scat or bloodplay. that shit really grossed me out, but always paid better. I'd do 6 cents a word, which turned into quite a nice profit.

And yeah, that picture thing fucking sucked. My wife and I had a mutual female friend we had both dated, and she sent us some pictures, so we went to send some stuff back and wife accidentally sent it to the wrong phone contact. It was horrifying then, but we all laugh about it now.

My life just sucks man, trust me, my reddit history is pretty consistant. I've bitched about all my problems on there, from intimacy issues to housing crisis to my favorite recipes and my political views. shits like a diary.

My reaction as well. I wouldn't hire my ass for anything besides cooking food. That's like my only marketable skill.

American health system is pretty bad. We're getting on Medicaid which is a health care for poor people, but it takes a month or so to get on it. All the government safety nets have an application time which means immediate assistance in an emergency is difficult to come by

We've asked, and are waiting on a response, in the meantime I'm just trying to keep busy and stay sane

Me here again
I am a software developer
hit me up at [email protected]

Whenever you're down, and you feel like giving up, just remember:

HyunJin believes in you.

That really sucks OP... I feel for you. Hope you'll get the cash some how. Stay sane! stay safe!

Snap out of it OP! Fuck that self-loathing shit! Fuck that grocery store! I believe in you! Go out there and get it!

KYS BRO LOL

bumping for op

thanks man... and i know itd work because i live in hotels during the week.

Yeah I have stayed in a bunch. Oklahoma has work crews that go out for weeks at a time and do just that - stay at a motel.

I am sure the clerks dont even look at them if they are in boots and denim

I appreciate the positivity everyone. Despite some of the negative people I'm glad I posted here, people have been friendly and have had a lot of good advice I intend on following.