Marriedfag here with a kid. Not getting enough sex from the wife. Talked about it a lot and it's not getting any better...

Marriedfag here with a kid. Not getting enough sex from the wife. Talked about it a lot and it's not getting any better. Went to the strip club the other night with some buds and got a phone number for asian qt3.14. Should I call her up and make rabbu or be faithful and continue jerking off to japanese cartoons on the chins? Pic sort of related.

Sup Forumsumping because reasons

Stay loyal to your wife or atleast have the balls to divorce her I understand I can't resist asians either but I'm dating one.

Shouldn't you be asking the wife this question?

It just sucks because everything else besides the sex is fine. I'm just so sick of jerking off every night.

Scared af, tbh. How the hell do you ask your wife if it's cool to get a bj from a paid professional?

Go to couples therapy. Seriously helps a lot.

I'm married 34 years don't wait.

Whats wrong with the sex are you just not getting enough? Is she being loyal to you?

I think a mixture of the posted responses is a good call:
Mentally prepare for possible fallout from it, but discuss your need with your wife and if she cares she will make an effort to help. If she doesn't then be ready for a lambasting and maybe a few nights on the couch before you decide to do anything brash like cheating with some ho

I wouldn't ever cheat on anyone I like my car too much.

Good question. Maybe you could fill me in on what talking so far has been like, what you're saying and how she's responded.

This might be the direction we need to take it.

It just doesn't happen. We didn't have it for about a year and a half (from the time she got pregnant to about nine months after.) Then after that, we started up again but it was maybe once every couple weeks. That only lasted a couple months, then the sex sort of ended again. We haven't had sex more than maybe twice this whole year. It just really sucks.

Maybe depending on your girl I don't know her or you she might be open to the idea of fucking some other people.

You have a kid your fucked user. She will get to take your money from you. Also twice the whole year? You need to talk to her about sex and what the fuck is going on maybe you both need time away from the kid.

Talking has been very open. In a nutshell, whenever this comes up, I usually just explain that for me, the physical interactions we have are equally as important as any other aspect of our relationship. I explain that for me, that's a big part of how I feel connected to her. She understands where I'm coming from, and for a week or so we might be a bit more touchy-feely (not in a sexual way), but then even that gasses out and we're back to square one.

That's a valid point. We haven't had any time away from the baby since she was born. We got a babysitter a few weeks ago and went out on our own for the first time since she was born, and it was nice.

OP go for the Asian side dish life is short and a man has needs

it's almost as if her interests and priorities have changed after having the kid.
definitely get a sitter more often. impose upon the family and in-laws if it comes to that. they're the ones who are freeloading off this sacrifice you're making. they can put in some effort too.

Tell the wife this. We need to have more sex its ruining the marriage. When she freaks out and she will keep going back to the one and only point, do not argue with her.

If at any time during this she accuses you of having an affair. Look her right in the eyes and ask her who are you sleeping with? She probably is since she isnt giving it up to you also where dem noodz yo

I think you're right. I think she gives so much of herself to being a mom that there's not any room for us as a couple.

No, she's not sleeping with anyone else. She's never been a sex demon or anything, but our sex life at least had me feeling content before the pregnancy.

What a load of fucking horseshit. Raising kids is the easiest fucking thing in the world. They ask millions of questions but they are super easy why is the sky blue why do dogs bark on and on. You will feel like a trivia god after 2 weeks with these idiots. Also you get to buy fucking ice cream all the god damn time.

how old is the kid?

OP here. Did any of you marriedfags ever have a one-nighter or pay for sex?

Lol faithful. Who gives. You're not exactly given many options. Become celibate lol? Hit her up just keep it underwraps

that's percisely what happen.
and if a threesome with an asian professional just happens to be one of the things you two indulge in without the kid around, you fucking won.

>t.grandpa

No i get the offer every once in a while but I like my girl so I stay true to her.

topkek. Parenting is definitely easier now than it was early on.

about a year and a half

You buncha darkside mothafuckas

And you go play at the park go to the zoo watch kids movies take naps. If any one ever tells you raising kids is hard laugh your ass off at them.

You should try to take a vacation or something for a week somewhere to fuck the shit out of her. Not a marriedfag but my parents did that a lot. It also may get harder to fuck when the kid is older so you should be fucking as much as you can now. My dad told me that he had to leave for lunch to go fuck my mom since I pretty much stayed at home the whole time growing up. You have to try though I don't know how old the kid is or the time frame but I can't stop you proceed with caution unless she is into it.

have you tried turning her on? getting her on the mood? kissing her, maybe have a bottle of wine together, you know, so she feels the need of having sex with you

>My dad told me that he had to leave for lunch to go fuck my mom

kek father-son relationship goals
i wish i were that close to my old man

hail satan

Fuck when they are moving its even easier they eat shit cry sleep what a cake walk.

She needs to be giving up that sex dood. gotta talk to her. Tell her it is essential for your survival as a man. and stop jerking off.

That would take divine intervention, or maybe some sort of exotic love serum.

pot is legal in some jurisdictions

Well of course. And that used to work nearly every time, then one out of five times, then one out of ten times. Now it just doesn't work and frankly I don't want to be the one hustling for it every fucking time. It would be nice to feel like she wanted to fuck me even once.

know how i can tell you're larping or get even less action than OP?

Why would I stop jerking off?

>Fuck when they are moving its even easier they eat shit cry sleep what a cake walk
best thing I ever wrote on the chan.
>when they arent moving
they eat, shit, cry, sleep

Because im living the dream and you want to an hero?

If you took care of yourself over the years and put in some effort on your site to get the romance going I don't see what you can do. Maybe your wife can try some stimuli substances and see if that gets her going. Like a few gs of ginseng over 2-3 weeks and exercise would be a good start. sometimes it's the body not the mind.

I've gained weight. But when we got together, I was a fat fuck. I had lost a bunch of weight, then wound up gaining a lot of it back because she doesn't fuck me anyway and I lost my motivation entirely. She's said before that that's a part of it, but give me a fucking break. That doesn't explain this degree of acrid vaginal climate.

Dude, the communication is key, tell her how you feel, tell her that you also, as a man, have the need to feel desired by your wife. Tell her that you understand the responsability of being a mother but that she is also your wife.
Ask her if she still finds you sexually attractive or if she is still interested in sex, remind her that you are a couple and that the healthiest thing for your kid is to grow in a family where the mom an the dad are as close as possible.
Tell her that eventually if you stop all sexual contact you will drift apart as a couple because that's how it works and that you need to make an effort to stay close as a couple.
If she does not accept this tell her to help you giving you options to calm your urges (this is a last resort) and maybe she will be open to let you fuck a prostitute every once in a while

building up some testosterone over the cause of 2-3 weeks could affect your wife as well. we are animals after all we notice that shit on a deep level.

I'm jealous of him he's been together with my mom for 34 years since he was 19. He's been pretty loyal to her but she almost fucked another guy she used to know some a little while after I was born. I'll have to ask him if he ever thought about cheating on her he doesn't seem like he would but you never know.

Get some tribulus from a GNC its the same shit they put in dick pills for a fraction of the cost.

Well is she some kind of super model after the kid? She isnt fulfilling her part of the bargain bro something is amiss and it probably isnt you.

With the exception of your last sentence, these are all parts of discussions we've had recently. Well, I've explained these feelings to her, and she seemed at least to understand. It's the execution that seems to be lacking.

She's asian (yeah, I know, I want to fuck an asian prostitute too. I'm a fucking weeaboo), so that weight flew off of her within weeks. She's tall and thin.

1. taking care of yourself is for yourself first, not her. 2. exercise will mske you way more willing zo have sex and do would your wife. consider convincingbhrrbto do sport together like running. surprise her. 3. if you do it for some time the brsin gorms new connections and you start liking it. it can bebresl fun after a while. xou need to understand that some evolutionary mechanisms in our body prevent us from doing the good stuff for reasons we as a species moved pass. like resting to preseve energy while we have nearly unlimited foodsupply available.

This seems pretty valid. I've been thinking of starting to run again or maybe get back into martial arts, but I just haven't pulled the trigger on it yet. I know I'll feel better once I start again. Maybe I'll start by doing this.

Well go work out lose the weight. Think in terms of the worst thing that could happen its over you just havent gotten the news yet well you want to look good to get some more puunanny right?

>mfw you would be an exellent grandpa
I'm not sure if you would be a good parent on the other side, maybe

It sounds like she lost interest in sex, user, and you obviously have not. At this point I would recommend you to go fuck a prostitute, be very careful, use protection and never ever confess.
You will be satisfied and maybe, when she feels that you're no longer constantly asking her for sex, she may start to wonder if you no longer desire her and she might take steps towards sexual intimacy.
This will help with the sexual urge but if you don't get your sexual life going you will drift appart as a couple.

Married guy here.
IMO you shouldn't have an affair with a woman unless she has as much to lose as you do, or you just don't give a shit about being divorced.

I think dating a stripper would be a one-way ticket to blackmail city. This chick's job is to extort money from marks.

Surely it's a win/win. Ok, I'll get on this. Thanks, user.

Dude its so fucking easy. My wife is a doctor when she had the kid she went back to work and I stayed home with kiddo. It was the best time I had in fucking years. My little dude starts kindergarten next year and I have to get a job Its going to suck.

Jesus I didn't even think about the threat of extortion. I'd need to carry burners and fake IDs if I met with her, lol.

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Additionally you will get some confidence back. remember when you started dating? what did you like about each other? how did your relationship evolve? and on a final note dude, I'm not in any way suggesting that you should be the only one putting in some effort into the relationship. after one or two years after the kid was born your wife needs to start taking part in your couple life again as well.

This especially because he has a kid. I don't know how long they've been together with the kid but for 3 months after a kid is born.

This is what keeps me from having an affair - have similar circumstances to you - cute asian wife that just isn't interested in sex.

I just haven't found another woman yet that would be just as motivated as me to preserve the family marriage. Everyone I meet is single, a little off, and likely to spill the beans if they get too serious.

>be me
>give my wife gift card to victoria's secret for birthday
>don't notice any lingerie show up
>give her another one for christmas
>still no lingerie
>me: "What did you do with those victoria's secret gift cards I gave you?"
>her: "I bought hand lotion"
>me: is there a foul bachelor frog for this??

Last girlfriend I had I cheated on her for this very reason and I see myself as a pretty emotionless person but it broke me user idc don't cheat the pain gets less and less each time you do it but you get more and more empty inside which only spirals you further into drinking and getting with random sluts, I wish women would just fucking understand this shit never been to couples therapy go figure but I can tell you the path I went down wasn't a fun one so take that for whatever it is

I used to travel a lot, and would occasionally pay for sex.
It wasn't great, but it was better than the nothing I was getting from home.
I really like to eat pussy, and that just wasn't what I wanted to do with a hooker. Same for kissing.
I'm sure there's plenty of guys who are completely happy just sticking their condom-wrapped dick in a cheap hooker for 30 minutes, but that isn't me.

kek
if you're not getting handies from her, start using her lotion for your own

You really have to find away to make it work user not for you or your wife but for your kid don't make another single mother you faggot.

>if you're not getting handies from her, start using her lotion for your own

Good comeback! But I'm not into flowery smelling cocks.

Your wife might

checked. and the name of the game, after all, is making her more interested in your cock.

She's prolly getting it on the side if you get sex 2x a year. I'm single and I manage more than that. Check out this dude he got some asian pussy everything worked out for him

At this point I'm pretty damn sure she isn't interested in anything
that she can't wear on her feet or over her arm.

tell her to get some gloves and start fisting you

time for someone to negotiate 'open marriage' rules with the missus.

also, did she marry you for money?

OP I'm in the same boat. My kids are 9 and 6 and this shit has gotten worse. I beat off every night. I sleep alone. My wife sleeps on the couch ever night, because the kids always wake up in the middle of the night and have to come find their mom. We can't all fit in one bed so she just sleeps on the couch so that she doesn't have to get up in the middle of the night and move there -or so she claims. I get it maybe 2-3 times a month. When I do, it's the hurry up and get it over with variety. All sorts of boundaries that were never there before, only this position, only this way etc. We hardly ever do it when the kids are home. They almost always wake up and come knock on the door, and honestly that just kills the mood. My wife claims she just isn't interested in sex anymore. We have had the same almost identical discussions you have, so I know exactly what you are saying. Might get better for a week, but then back to the same old ways. I don't know what to do eiher. I have often suspected her cheating, but I don't know for sure. In my mind it is the only explanation for her actions. But she isn't protective of her phone or anything so in a sense, she doesn't try to hide anything that might be there. Who knows. She is however a very good mother though, and a good wife in every single other aspect. It is frustrating.

here you guys are worrying about whether or not to 'cheat' on your wives...

...when they're probably already fucking around behind your backs!

that's why your dicks aren't wet.

>I have often suspected her cheating, but I don't know for sure. In my mind it is the only explanation for her actions. But she isn't protective of her phone or anything

is me.

I work at home, my wife works late, I've also figured she has plenty of opportunity to cheat.
But I really don't think she does. (I probably wouldn't care too much anyway.)
Same, she's not protective of the phone, she's easy enough to reach when she's working, etc.
I just think lots of married spouses turn into roommates and life just isn't sexual anymore.
But because they're women, they're not big on letting someone else get a piece of their man because they have to protect that stability.

know how I know you've never been married?

hm, in your case, if teaching the damn kids to grow up and be emotionally self-sufficient doesn't work, I would recommend negotiating open marriage rules.

>know how I know you've never been married?

because I don't speak like someone who believes in the sanctity of marriage?

guess what ... I've been the guy that your wife is probably fucking while you're at work.

i bet she likes it hard, but prefers it doggy style & really likes it when a man grabs her hips while fucking her.

know how I know you use reddit

>know how I know you use reddit

i don't. haha.

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you married cucks who complain about sexless marriages are all the same -- pathetic, disconnected, stale shits.

Fuck off with that reddid pic

Because you just came from reddit?

No one replied because we're all smirking at you -
where we are, you too will be someday.
That's the wisdom of age - you can't imagine our lives, but we lived yours years ago and had plenty of time to learn from it.