Im a 21 yo male virgin

im a 21 yo male virgin

shame me

Do you want me to shame you because you take pleasure in it?
If so I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with that.

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no i dont take pleasure in it, who normal would?
i just dont get why are males shamed for virginity while female virgins are blessed for it

clearly you didn't throw your virginity away like those faggots who dramatically regret it soon after

the old lock and key analogy pops to mind.

Girls get teased by their friends for it too, it's only in conservative and religious settings they get praised for it.
Is being a virgin your choice or did you just not have the chance yet?

>no i dont take pleasure in it, who normal would?
I forgot to answer this.
This is Sup Forums, people get off to the weirdest things here, shame is one of the more vanilla options.

i had a chance when i was 17 but i blew it by being too drunk

to have sex you need to have friends
if you are introverted you wont have many friends
but it is not really about sex, it is about loneliness

I'm a 24 y.o virgin, I'll shame you for giving a shit about it even though you're so young

30y/o virgin here.
feels pretty good to be a wizard

Have you been putting yourself in situations where getting that chance is more probable since then?

Get the fuck out cancer

how the fuck could it feel good

Shame *rings bell*
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Shame on you for coming to Sup Forums about virginity. Keep that candle in-lit till you know you got the real deal wife. Once you have sex with someone, you become spiritually attached. Whether you know it or not, that spirit can manifest in your life and give you hell until you confront it and the act. Just saying, coming from a fool who slung his tool.

have you tried yet, perheps they'll be more sympathetic

no
because i can not get meet girls through my friend circle i am left with approaching them on my own
and that takes shit ton of confidence, which i obviously dont have
i can not even afford a hooker since i am a student, and yes i am a stem student to make things worse
feel like there is nothing i can do but try and fail miserably... over and over again

there are no spirits or demons or god, get that shit out of here of show me evidence for it

If you're studying there gotta be parties where everyone in the school is invited.
Go to one of those with your buddies, drinks some beers, go dancing. The chance of striking up a conversation with a girl through this is pretty high.
Otherwise make a craigslist and offer up your virginity for free to whichever woman wants it.

i am that weird lonely guy who avoids everyone, do you really think i would be invited to parties
and i am not living in american pie movie where there are parties every day
>craigslist
id rather die

Okay, then my advice is going to change.
Look for a social hobby that you can partake in with other people. Use those people to train your socializing skills.
Start working out, it'll raise your self esteem and make you feel good physically.
If you have social anxiety, I can recommend you look up Cognitive Behavioral therapy and mindfulness meditation.

my problem is that i started to avoid people because of hate that sprout off fear

i see them all as one big interconnected mass through social media or something which i will never be part of no matter how much i try

but at the same time i feel so lonely and i want to make someone happy

i workout, i am not ugly and i dont even have that bad of a personality, i can make friends but i intentionally avoid people

>i can make friends but i intentionally avoid people.
Then you need to get into cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness meditation.
I used to be agoraphobic to the point of having to psych myself up for 8 hours before going grocery shopping. All because of stress induced anxiety.
Cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness meditation helped me get away from that state and got me to a point where I function practically normal now.

>Cognitive behavioral therapy
i dont think making lists and charts about what i did good or wrong will make me more social and open, it would be forced

i need to change my view on people but that seems to be so hard after so many years of loneliness

meh, i lost my virginity when i was 21.
I think my count is around 15 or so, i dunno i stopped counting.

Got into the swinger scene + im bi + athletic (not swole) + sexually open to pretty much anything (thanks Sup Forums) + people tell me im handsome + not autistic means i can fuck pretty much whoever.

doesnt stop me from coming on Sup Forums and fappin to trap porn tho so i guess im back where i started.

Best advice is dont worry about it. Try and put yourself in social situations/ pick up a social hobby. Go for drinks with people and dont hit on them immediately, just talk normally about whatever. Most people take a while to become comfortable around other people. If you really struggle with meeting/talking with people then dont think about sex at all. your goal should just be to get out and meet people an be comfortable with talking to random people. Its probably gonna suck and you're probably gonna hate it to start off but just fucking do it anyway.

Also, start going to the gym or doing something to improve yourself and your perception of yourself. my favourites are cycling, rock-climbing and jiu jitsu. All three are very supportive communities in my experience and good ways to go out an meet people that are interested in the sport. If you can improve your self esteem and feel good about the way you look, it might be easier to take the step to talking to people. If you meet people doing whatever thing you choose to do, invite them out for drinks or something if the conversation is going well (if they are talking to you as much as you are talking to them, they are continuing/contributing to things, if they seem interested in talking to you) Most people that i know in the scenes i mentioned like drinking, and its a good way to loosen people up as well. Id also recommend mindfulness meditation like Dont beat yourself up about it though, my buddy just got engaged and is 26 and didn't have sex until he met his fiance last year.

haha what a loser, I'm only 20 a virgin. haha what a faggot

It's not about what you did good or wrong, but about how you felt and reacted to things.
It's about recognizing what things scare you, accept that you feel that way and then going ahead and doing the thing that scares you.
Even if it is offering up conversation to someone and they reject you, you'll realize afterwards that the rejection didn't kill you.

I'm not going to shame you for being a virgin. And you also shouldn't be ashamed, it's normal.

i know all of those things without cbt, even think that rejection wouldnt hurt as bad but i still can not bring my self to a girl .. or anyone
i am not gay and i hate traps
>dont worry about it
oh yes dont worry about the thoughts that you are a failure of a man if you dont have sex or that you are a social outcast for who it is realistically too late
i workout and dont have a bad body at all
>your goal should just be to get out and meet people an be comfortable with talking to random people
yeah that is hard when you know that every single one of them have a social life and is probably not a virgin

there was a thread like a hour ago here where op asked for your age and number of people you had sex with
only few with 0 sexual partners number
know that this is Sup Forums and people lie obviously but still i dont think most people lied
so it is definitely not normal

I don't think this is what they had in mind when talking about the master race

I'm just saying find someone who can help you, you're standing around complaining about lacking tools and refusing to go to the hardware store.

You're what I would be if I didnt fuck 4 years ago. Just in time before I probably would have killed muhself

I cant even imagine your frustration. Have you learned to accept your shortcomings (heh) or are you still trying to get ĺaid?

well i hoped someone could do it here..
and i am not lacking tools completely... i hate the hardware store

i am not trying to get laid
i am not trying to get in any contact with people unless they come to me first, if they do, they generally accept me (im not an autist)
my problem is that i dont want to get near people but i want a girl.. and to get a girl you need to be around people... and be good with people..

im 32 and?

Getting over stuff like this is rarely as easy as going to Sup Forums and asking.
You need the help of someone who does it professionally user. There is no shame in it, it's basically taking responsibility for your mental state and getting the help you need to alter it.
Find a male therapist above the age of 40, that'll help you to avoid most feminist therapists.

why male?
not all girls are feminists

You're 21 chill out. You're perfectly young and as I already said there's nothing to be ashamed of if you are a virgin. If people actually shame you for it fuck them. They just want to feel superior to you.

do you feel loneliness?

>yeah that is hard when you know that every single one of them have a social life and is probably not a virgin
I never said it was going to be easy, but you gotta force yourself to do it. Then after a while it wont seem so hard, and you might feel like you are comfortable with it, but thats not going to happen if you dont work at it. Working at it constantly is the entire point.
If youre focusing on the fact that you're a virgin youre focusing on the wrong things. Way more people are virgins than you would think.

most of the time. keep going back 5 years in my memory as if i could change that night

if they had sex they probably are, they have social lives and they proved to the opposite sex their worth
>you are perfectly young
21 fucking year old virgin is not young, there are kids who have sex regularly

To be honest I feel shame after i lost my v card than before I had it, and it was only a few months ago. I learned a lot from it but I'd still take it back if I could.

True, if you can find a female cognitive behavioral therapist, you'll probably have a good time as well.
I just think that adding patriarchy theory to anxiety disorder would be a bad idea.

sorry to hear that bro, hope it gets better for you

to an anxiety*

This guy knows whats up.

nah, i blew it. and it was THE one. now i feel that even if i put some effort and get a gf ill end up hating her for not being the thing of my past... does this make any sense?

use tinder if you are like a 6/10

Same age, same situation. It's a lot more common than you'd think. Still embarrassing though, that's what gets me the most. I'm not too bothered about the virginity thing, it's just that other people know I'm a virgin and think less of me for it coz it's pathetic.

I've felt like that, but no it doesn't make logical sense. You shouldn't be with someone if you don't love them for being them.
The only way you'll get to love a new person for who they are is to be out there meeting them.

only 14% are virgins age 20 and up
and fitting in among normal extroverted people would be like rolling a stone up the smooth slippery hill
think i will end up devastated after being rejected over and over again
think i might lose it and kill myself after a while of rejection

guess ill get there eventually. or get too old in the process

i know how you feel exactly

Dude men in their 90's have fathered children, your window of success is rather large.

>so young
only three years difference

Ugh, man the fuck up. Keep it up with the negative attitude and you're right, it'll never happen. Go to the gym, get some damn self confidence and give the world the finger. This isn't going to drop onto your lap one day, it all starts with YOU.

>man the fuck up
girls want you to be happy and energetic
how the fuck could you do that if you are a depressed misanthrope

i wonder what is next after resignation

You're right, I guess you should just kill yourself.

People are different, not everyone is looking for the type of person you think they're looking for.

NOT A SINGLE girl want a depressed or clingy guy
yes, guess i should... what is the point of life anyway