ITT: Relationship advice

>ITT: Relationship advice


- be me, 25
- have gf, 26
- dating for 3 years and a half
- she's a 6 - 6.5, I reckon I'm a 7 - 7.5
- we connect great, have very big trust in each other
- each only had 1 bf/gf before but she has had 3 or 4 sexual experiences before we started dating. I only had 1
- she has low sexual drive and I have a very high one, plus I'm still in Uni

I'm so unhappy with our sex life (we've talked about it many times but it comes to nothing). Our sex is just boring and I see so many hot girls I KNOW I can get with, but me and her are a great match when it comes to trust and tastes that I have so far opted to stay in the relationship so far.


but Sup Forums, what do I do? Is it really worth it, staying?
I feel like if I stay I'll eventually betray her.

I was a 7-8 in college too. I'm old now, so not so much anymore. I fucked almost 30 women in college, and I never went to bars, so it was just friends of friends and women I met on campus. My only regret as a man in his late 30s is that I didnt have sex with more college women. That I dated some bitch for a year and a half and only cheated on her with four women.

If you're not going to marry her, if she isn't perfect, ESPECIALLY in college when the pussy is the best you'll ever get and you'll be fapping to the memories for the next 30+ years, so not stay with her.

The next 15 years will go by SO FUCKING FAST. You'll blink and you'll be old and you'll miss simple things like firm breasts. FIRM BREASTS! Jesus.

My situation is even worse:
Me 24 her 21. No sex at all and has hardly any time for me. Constant conflicts because I am unhappy and she does jack shit about it. We did not break up but we are pretty distanced. Last time I saw her she wrote a lovey dovey message right after we said bye. Women do not know what they want. Next time I see her I will treat her like meat. Grope, fondle and make out with her. Either she accepts and I get some fun while looking for her replacement. Or she rejects me and this istuation is done.

My advice, escalate the situation. I will.

How. How?? I never had the early teen experience with girls. I simply do not know wtf I have to do at all. Looking back I had girls throwing themselves at me and I was completely oblivious. Guess it still happens according to a hint my friend gave me.

What exactly is wrong with your sex life with her? Like does she only fuck once a month or something?

Bro. This hit me in the feels. This story was exactly me 1 year ago. I can tell you the future of what happens if you end it - you won't get back together.

That's what happened to me. I ended it, thinking I could let off some steam and get back with her. Turns out she's lost all respect for me and she said we will never be back together. I miss her. Don't do it bro. If there's one thing I've learnt it's take nothing for granted

You are not supposed to get back together. That was your mistake. She does not care about your needs and therefore does not care about you. You were convenient, nothing else.

If I don't insist, she only would fuck like once a week, if that. Plus, she only wants to fuck in the morning, when she does want, when I'm sleepy af.
No anal, no facials, no swallowing. Also, never dresses sexy, which is a turn off.

I've broke up with her before because of this, but after a day or 2 I missed her and she missed me so we got back.
But, fuck, I feel like I'm missing the world. I want to have more satisfying sex and our sex life has sucked for the past 2 years. I feel like I'm just lying to myself and to her and that I'll eventually betray her.

I was NOT an early teen. I was a nerdy, goofy, awkward, slightly autistic acting (not spazzy, just not socially adept) teenager. Good enough looking, but fucking weird.

Starting at 17 or 18 I worked out a ton on almost exclusively dips, crunches, lat pull downs, and pull ups, and I ate really light, I had big muscular arms and a six pack. I also got into photography and carried a camera with me half the time because I was still retarded, but women wanted to know why I had a camera. I said I take pictures of people (which I did). That starts conversations, eventually you're photographing them in their apartment, and eventually their mouth is on your dick.

I was 19 my first time, and I had sex with three women that week. I'm still kind of an autistic old guy, but I fucked more women than most people I know just from working out, and being into photography.

Bro trust me. I thought the same, like I could fuck so many girls, but once you're out you'll realise most girls are just all talk. Yeah sure, I've fucked a few girls since then, but seriously, it's all the same. I thoughmy sex life was boring n shit but looking back, it was the best of my life. It's how you both feel and know each other. Knowing what each other likes n shit. Trust me bro, don't do it. Or you'll realise how cold the single life is

Ok I have to work out harder again. And find something that makes me interesting. I get enough attention but it never leads to anything. I would say I am passive but probably more like a dense brick head. Any advice how to relax? I am and was tense all my life. Up to physical effects even though my mind is calm.

And no sex at all? Worth the effort?

it sounds like she deserves someone better than you.

The things you should be most concerned about is her Loyalty, devotion, and honesty. If she has those, then sex should not be your priority.
Yea, I feel you man, sex once a week would suck. Try talking with her more, or something.
I had a gf for years, sex was pretty much her being a fuck doll as in she was very lazy, she'd pretty much just lay there. Never that great. But I loved her immensely. She ended up cheating on me with two different guys at separate times (who I heard through the grapevine they said the same thing I said about her being a lazy lay), being the stupid bitch she was. But I connected on a level with her that I've never had with anyone else. We clicked so well that looking back on it now still hurts, and I still miss her even after everything. She really was my best friend.

The girl I'm dating now, is sweet, nice, cuddly, etc, but it's hard to connect with her. Sex is amazing and constant, and her body type is my ideal (short, big ass, nice tummy, perfectly shaped and sized tits, everything)

Which would I pick? The girl I connected with more.

Sex isn't everything you horny fuck.

But, like, she knows what I like but she won't do it. Swallowing? Never. Anal? The tip once for 20 seconds. Facials? 3 times.
All this in 3 years. It sucks. Plus, she only likes slow boring plain sex...

Wait what? Even though she cheated on you?

Having a deep connection is amazing.
But wanting back a cheater?!
WTF dude??

i don't actually want her back, I'm just saying I'd rather be with someone I connected with and was a shit lay, than a girl that I love to fuck but can't hold more than a 10min conversation with.

You're asking wayyyyy too much. In 4 years my gf tried to swallow once and she hated it and I was fine with that, who cares? It doesn't affect your orgasm.
My gf said we would never do anal, you'll find most girls don't actually.
Facial? Think I did it once. Again, who cares? How's that affect your orgasm?

Just try work with what you have and spice it up from there. IMO there's no better feeling than shooting your load inside a pussy with no condom on. Surely she allows that

this guy gets it.

Next OP will be asking his gf to fuck black dudes.

>she won't do anal

Maybe that's a good sign?????

Oh, ok sry my bad.

Having meaningfull conversations with women huh?
Last girl i truly believed was smart and an equal to me showed her real self after 1 year. Deep down all women are just silly girls. They get gradually more rational with age.

Yep. I fucked up big time. I tried to take her back but it was too late, I destroyed her feelings for me.

You don't know what you're throwing away OP. take nothing for granted

Yes, but like, should I spend a lifetime wondering what could have been and settle for just a pure psychological relationship?
Is it worth not banging other chicks? I've only fucked 1 ex-gf before this one. no more sex partners.

Life isn't porn. I've had sex with over 30 women, never once anal. I haven't asked, but only one person offered. Facials? Really? Maybe two women were into that, but they also watched porn.

Also, anal is a lot of work. You cant just stick it in like in porn. There is a lot of before hand prep work that needs to be done. Ask your gay friends about it.

>relationship advice
God gave you two hands and a brain. He did not give you infinite wealth and time. Use what you have and jerk off to some porn then carry on with your life.

only you can answer that.

If sex is more important, then break up with her and go fuck some whores.

The grass always seems greener on the other side, and if you're having sex it's not a "pure psycological relationship"
If you're fucking her at least 2-3 times a week, you should be satisfied.
Sounds like you're just a man slut that has been brainwashed by the Jews to want to humiliate your girl by fucking her asshole and cumming on her face instead of just respecting the fact she doesn't want to be treated by the man she loves like a dirty slut.

Sex, even bad sex, is 1000x better with someone that you love.

The more of your reasonings that I read, OP, the more I'm starting the think you're one real piece of shit.

>aw man, my gf won't let me fuck her ass and cum on her face, and we only fuck like 4 times a week, and she's horny in the morning

If she loves you, is a good woman, is loyal, devoted and honest with you, then you should cherish what you have. It sounds like you just want to go fuck other woman and fulfill your shitty fantasies and are looking for excuses to do this.

Sorry dude, but your girl not wanting to take it up the ass is not grounds for breaking up with someone you love.

Faggot

And yet she cucked you. You're a fool for tolerating that during the best years of your life

I wanted a wife and children. I thought she was the one. I don't regret what I did. I just wish I hadn't wasted time on her when I could have been with a better woman.

It's not about the fetishes. It's about that even the normal sex is just boring as fuck and that she barely has any initiative and I'm afraid I'm going to spend my lifetime wondeing about what could have been, having only fucked 2 girls.
Plus, she's like a 6-6.5 and I know I can get 7's, 8's and maybe some drunken 9's.

If you're having all these thoughts then let her know all that if not you should move on because eventually you're going to act on those feelings and you'll be a real piece of shit then

OP confirmed a POS

break up with her, so she can go find a better man, and you can go fuck some whores up the ass.

Don't forget to cum on the face. It's very important

Can we see a pic of your gf? I want to see the type of girl that only likes normal slow sex

Bro it's called the honeymoon period. Sex dries up over time regardless of what girl you're with. That's your job to keep it alive and interesting.

But if you really really wanna go fuck other girls (trust me it's not that good) then get her to agree to havea break, but make sure you will get back together, then go do what you want. But I can't guarantee in that time she will still have feelings for you, if not met someone else

Ok here's the deal. Women think about sex very differently from men. We need it every day like a shower or out mind starts focusing on it 100% like a retard. This is biology and especially true when younger and hormones are raging.

Biologically women have to be more careful with sex parters because they have far more at stake and responsibility.

So if you truly love her you have to make her feel sexy. Invest in kind words, hugs and other non sexual activities to make her feel secure and that you care about her. Then they open up like flowers and are responsive in fact will take the lead because you have treated them like they believe in their mind a true mate should. With kindness and respect.

Whining, pleading, tantrums and demanding are beta activities and she will be looking for another mate who is more confident. Eat right, exercise, have activity outside your relationship, go to the gym, have friends. That's the alpha way.

If it still doesn't work out then you know you have it your best and have her the best version of yourself.

I really have to disagree with
I'm single now for over a year, and I started to really love the single life. I also broke up with my ex bacause I wanted way more sex than she did (and because she cheated on me - lol).

At first the single life REALLY did feel cold and lonly. But now it's just amazing and I fuck even more often than I did with my ex. I really try to fuck as many bitches as I can and it's going kinda good so far. I will start worrying about relationships again when I'm older (25 now).