i'm 22yo virgin, no friends, no job, living with my mom. What i should do? I'm thinking of starting college again but i dunno about hanging with 18yo kids how already fucked....
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I'm 22yo virgin, no friends, no job, living with my mom. What i should do...
My self deprecating, sacrifice worthy, and currently relatable hero (in 4 years)
get a job just to get some sort of income even if it's food service
grow a beard
start lifting
Im 19 and my best friend is 22. Stop being a fag and go back to school
OP check this out.
I was in the same crap you're in right now when I was 22. At 23 not knowing wtf to do with my life I joined the military. Wasn't sure about it and kept having second thoughts all through till my second year in. Long story short, had the best four years of my life there. Got out at 27 and went back to school. Don't sweat 18 year olds, there will be enough of people your age for sure, but even forgetting all of that you'll get an 18 year old hottie in no time. OP, grab life by the balls and stop giving fucks about petty shit. You got this.
join the army, kill some wogs, get injured, rotate back to the states, spend six months of hell in a VA toilet and become cynical and embittered like the rest of us.
>get a job just to get some sort of income even if it's food service
anxiety
>grow a beard
takes a bit to grow, is still pretty shit
>start lifting
I do on and off due to lack of motivation
Do you have any kind of college degree?
If you have my name I'd be convinced you were me in the future. Except anxiety, I am seeing more and more that has a such wide range of severity it's almost a natural way ti brainwash yourself into low self esteem and shit
in high school i used to be pretty active and had 2 or 3 good friends but since i moved out i got depressed and dropped out of college after 2 years. Now i'm in the house all day just getting fat with no motivation at all...how u guys get motivated?
Get high, live dope and find your fucking path, don't be so scared. Master your own mind.
Virginity doesn't matter. Your life won't magically improve by losing it.
But I was in a similar position. Joined a board game club at uni even though I'd never played a board game beforehand. Every wednesday and friday I have friends now. Something to get out of the house for and something to look forward to.
The job will help with the anxiety if you manage to push through the first couple weeks of it.
The beard and lifting don't even matter. Lifting is only as good as any other form of exercise, but if you are anything like me just getting a job will be a fair bit of exercise compared to your lifestyle.
>anxiety
take xanax
weed culture is so fucking gay lol
get some help with your anxiety. I might be making a ton of assumptions but it sounds like your entire life is controlled by your disorder. There's no shame in it. You can actually make it better though. Don't count out medication, I'm on some stuff that makes a big difference and has minimal side effects. Exercise helps IMMENSELY and once you start getting counseling and possibly medication you will find it easier to jump into a fitness routine and take better care of yourself.
Anxiety means that nearly all of the obstacles you see in your life are in your own mind. This means you can control them. I know you probably think you can't fix or control your anxiety, but that is what your anxiety is making you believe. It's really not true.
xanax is probably better for acute anxiety attacks but I don't think it is a great long term solution for the kind of anxiety that holds you hostage inside a bubble of failure in your own life.
Honestly man in my opinion, getting layed isnt nearly as big of a deal as most make it out to be. I still think jerking off feels as good as sex.
1st rule... video games are for actual fags
2nd rule... 22 is not too old for school, not at all
3rd point... job
4th point... if you heed 1st rule, you'll be able to talk to chicks at school and eventually get your dick wet
5th point... probably lots of virgins at college, and dude, guys dont have virginity the way girls do... you know how i felt 2 days after i fucked for the first time? same fucking way i felt before i did... it's fantastic don't get me wrong, but it's just sex... just like beating off, it's over and then you're normal again lol
>job will help with the anxiety if you manage to push through the first couple weeks of it.
In my experience, that's not how "real" anxiety works. If you don't address the anxiety and deal with it up front, you will just get more and more stressed and fall farther into depression if you just try to jump in and "fake it till you make it". You can beat anxiety but you have to tackle it head on and not just hope it goes away by ignoring it.
Join the military. You are likely to make friends, you will get fit, probably won't have to fight in a war, and also get benefits. It's almost all ups.
>Excuses
It sounds like chad advice, but get over yourself and your pussy shortcomings and simply do what you want to do, or at least try. Trying and failing is 100x better than doing nothing. I've been there, unemployed not in school sitting on my ass and playing vidya. The best way to fix it is take a leap. Getting a job and working is easy, but only once you get a job and start working.
Do you see what I'm saying here? You can continue to moan and ask fucking Sup Forums for help, or you can type up your shitty little resume and send out some apps. It doesn't even matter if you aren't qualified, apply everywhere. Be honest at interviews or on the phone. Tell them straight up you don't have a lot of work history, or education.
Or go back to school. Why should you give a fuck about the age of your classmates? You're there to get an education not be cool. How do you think fucking 40 year olds feel when they go back to school? Your still a kid for christs sake.
Better yet join the military, do something cool like intelligence or cyber shit or medical, see the world, get free education and benefits!
Things are only going to get better if you do something.
try being 24 and in the same position
Go to trade school to be a plumber or electrician. Much higher pay and job security than whatever four year bullshit job your university will get you. source: my dumb ass with a bachelora degree that gets paid less than his shit head plumber friend
Once you have a source of income locked in, then you can afford to fix your personality. Expand your hobbies, meet people, all shit that costs money. Until then you can go exercise, try to get /fit/. Try to find a means to socializ just ti maintain the bare minimum of social skills. I played magic the gathering in college just for that purpose. Any excuse to talk will maintain speaking skills. But be warned that hanging wth gross dudes will make you sound gross too. So avoid weird nerds if possible, but you might not have that luxery
>Trying and failing is 100x better than doing nothing.
Be careful OP, there's a lot of advice on how to beat anxiety in this thread from people who obviously have never dealt with it. Trying and failing is just going to make things worse if you don't deal with the root of the problem.
>Four year diffference
You dumbass. Come back to me when you’re 38 and fucking 19 year olds.. like me. It’s great man.
This. I ended up staying in but it makes you realize some things. Give it a shot.
i'm 27 and just went back to school last semester... there's literally no better place to meet quality chicks... They're young af, but not too young... most are smarter than the average chick or at least somewhat ambitious... at bars you'll meet dumb girls who get drunk and get fucked on a regular basis, not quality at all...
and you only have the access while you're young... if you're too old at 22 you mine as well quit now... when you're 32 you'll be hitting on crackwhores through craigslist or perving on milfs at walmart... not a good look man, go to school and find your wife
>but i dunno about hanging with 18yo kids
What else are you gonna do? Rot away in your mom's basement? Go to fucking college man, future you will be thankful
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Group work. Be smart and you will be able to get girls numbers
I went back when I was 23. I’m 27 now, 22 year olds and 18 years olds act about the same. Just go back and don’t be a snob.
22 years old is not too old, in fact its the best age because you seem more mature but not out of place at college. 25+ is when it starts to get weird
group work lmao
if you are in the states, tech bootcamps. Get some skillz and get fucking paid. Seriously.
>start lifting
This. Started lifting 1.5 years ago and the feeling of walking into a room and knowing you're the alpha male is the best in the world. All social anxiety wrong, everyone is just trying to impress you. Start lifting/focus yourself on making yourself the most attractive person you can be- tooth whitening strips, new haircut, face wash, new clothes, good posture, all will lead to an unmatched confidence