I just need some people to talk with

I just need some people to talk with.

My mother just passed away from cancer 2 weeks ago. She'd been living with me for almost 7 years because she lost her house in the market crash, and then with the cancer couldn't really work.

I wake up in the mornings now and have no motivation to do anything. I haven't worked out in weeks because prior to her passing I was having to provide basically 24 hour care. I've been working from home for the past month (this last weekend legitimately because I was sick), because I can't even be motivated to go into work - not that anyone would bother me, but because at least if I stay home I can play video games to distract myself from her being gone.

I'm trying to empty my house of stuff she had collected over the years that I never wanted, and so I have no idea how to even approach selling some of it. Think antique items and large, heavy furniture.

Do yourselves a favor - if you have a good relationship with your parents, go spend some more time with them. Despite all of the years of feeling trapped caring for her, I would do it all over again if I could see her one more time.

That sucks man... You really want to tell Sup Forums all this? Good luck user

Im sorry for your loss bro, that shit sucks

Before the shitposting commences. My condolences for the loss of your mother. May she find which ever Afterlife she prefers.

She must have been proud to have raised such a kind and caring child. I’m sure she loved you very much. Take care of your self user. Do your best

I mean truthfully, yeah, whatever. Mostly I'm just anonymously talking without spamming friends on Facebook. People text me a lot asking how I'm doing, and I've been telling them "I'm alright now" but truthfully I'm kind of dying inside.

Your parents almost always love you unconditionally, and it's easy to take it for granted and feel like everything is fine, but the moment they're gone it's just this vacant feeling in your soul and you'll wonder if you didn't spend enough time with them, or if you got upset with them over stupid shit.

You're a good son OP, I'm sure she was extremely proud of you till the end. Now in my opinion you have to put yourself first, clean the house or even move, find yourself a nice women and carry on, that's what she would have wanted.

It's guna be ok user. My dad has stage 3 in his throat and hes gone through chemo and rad treatment. Were just waiting on his next pepscan to see whats left. Im so scared of losing my dad. I know times are hard, you have to let yourself grieve.

My mom passed 2 years ago from cancer. It never stops hurting. Solid advice about being close with your parents, I was lucky enough to have the kind if relationship with my mum where we can smoke a bowl together and talk shit about people over a movie. She was great and I miss her voice everyday.

Same user, this was my dad before he was diagnosed

sorry to hear about your mom, lad

hope you and her both find peace, wherever either of you are

The part that kills me the most is the day she passed. I got her into hospice care the day before and worked that night. In the morning when I got up, I just.. mentally took a break. I lingered around the house and read for a bit before showering and driving in to see her - I was 15 minutes away when they called me to tell me she passed.

That's the part that really, seriously fucks with me. They said she was sleeping and hadn't woken up all day, but I feel like had I gotten there in time, she would have woken up and smiled. And I would have told her how much I loved her, and she would have said, "I love you too, Juju". And I didn't get that. I wanted just that.

My ex fiance and I broke up a couple of years ago because she wanted me to kick my mom out of the house, and I told her to fuck off. And then I stupidly got back together with her, only for her to cheat on me last year. I've been fucking around so much since.

And this is him now about 8 months or so later

At least your mom loved you. You should be happy she is in peace. Quit feeling pathetic, that's the last thing she would want. What are you really accomplishing when you aren't truly living? A fucken waste. If anything LIVE for her because she can't and would do the same for you.

Shit man, this was the hardest part. I watched mom go from being 150~ pounds to 115 from this shit. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

>My ex fiance and I broke up a couple of years ago because she wanted me to kick my mom out of the house, and I told her to fuck off

What an absolute bitch. You did the right thing obviously. I'm sorry about your pain. I sometimes think I'll fucking lose it when my mom passes. I hope I'm in a good place in life and that won't happen.

Stay strong.

Smile you little shit head.

Talk to someone in your who's a specialists in antiques user. After my father passed I inherited a lot and I do mean A LOT of war and history text books that could be worth a bit and I've been told find someone a specialists in it (though mine aren't antiques)

You're going to have to realize that that moment will always have come and gone. And unless you accept it and forgive yourself you're going to feel so much guilt and so much pain. You didn't know user you had no idea of knowing. It's ok that you took your time that day.

My deepest condolences OP.
Damn man I never asked for this feel

Sorry to hear that, user.

Kek thats my lil bro hes an asshat sometimes but good in his heart.

I know this is what I'm supposed to do, but it's just hard right now man. I just turned 31 (5 days before she passed) and every single day I came home from work or the gym or the store or whatever, I'd go up and talk to her and see how she was, tell her I loved her, how my day was, etc. When I was in college I'd come home from school and she'd ask how my day was.

Sometimes I felt annoyed, like she was trying to live vicariously through me, but looking back at it, she was just being a mom and wanted to be involved with her son. I'm a stupid asshole for having ever been mean to her when it wasn't warranted.

I’m visiting my mother now and you have me thinking... I lost touch with my dad about 2 years ago and now I feel like I gotta call him tomorrow. Shit.

You're a good son user, look after yourself for your mum's sake

Haha we all have regrets user. You could try taking up journaling as if she was still there, tell her what you need to. I feel like that'd help.

Do it man. Go schedule some time and have lunch or go do something together. Make good memories so when they leave this world someday, you'll have things to remember them by.

Also take pictures. Lots of them. It sounds dumb but honestly I don't have enough of them of my mom and I'm bummed because of it.

More than words is all you have to do to make it real

Dunno if this makes me sound crazy, but I'm kind of doing that, except verbally. Like I'll do the dishes and kind of just vocalize to myself and an empty room, "Alright mom dishes are done.".

All I can say is you are a great son, who was there for your mom when she needed you. She would probably want you to carry on though, the last thing she would want is for you to suffer now that she's passed. Do
something she used to enjoy doing, and I know it sounds corny, but pretend she's there and make a joke about how she would've enjoyed the activity.

I miss how I would talk about my workouts to her or that I wasn't big enough, and she'd just kind of roll her eyes at me and say, "You just like looking at yourself in the mirror."

You were a good son. Cherish it. The pain will be replaced with fond memories. Cherish those days. You'll be alright. Good luck. Now im off to be cancer somewhere else. Take care.

Look OP. I want to pull the "do you think your mom would want you to..." line but you are greeving right now so I just want you to keep that in mind for the near future. It's now your time to make her more proud than she was before, she's gonna be watching out for you and helping you from now on.

Not at all user. You're coping with a big loss in your life and it's totally understandable.

whoa what the fuck user

It'll be okay man. Your mom loved you and you loved her, that will be with you forever. Love you user I know things will get better for you

Sorry for your loss OP.

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