Ok I can’t hold it in much longer

Ok I can’t hold it in much longer.
>pic sorta related
>it’s not like I’m starving for sexual relations
>however ever since I got married, sex has become a trivial thing
>I could cheat but that doesn’t feel right
>is a hooker the way to go to let out the frustration? Or is it a short term solution to a long term problem?
>my wife and I have been married for 10 years
>I don’t want your judgement, just your thoughts.
>I’m not about to do anything stupid.

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>i don't want to cheat
>so hooker?

If a prostitute defeats any feeling of cheating, Why would not paying for sex and then going home to your wife be any different.

Talk to your fucking wife about it like a grown man you cuck.

how DOES your wife feel about it

lol this.

Come on man, tell your wife how you're feeling. If she doesn't want to fuck then go get yourself a hooker

>I can have sex but I don't wanna
This is the definition of a first world problem.
Buy your wife some lingerie and a strap on and make your sex life amazing

well uh duh, isn't sex a part of marriage? tell your wife you want whatever ect. ect. then if she wont satisfy get a damn divorce. talk about it like a god damn grown up.

>>is a hooker the way to go to let out the frustration?
yes

Same situation here. 12 years relationship, 4 years married. 2 months without sex and counting.

Fair call. I guess paying for it in my mind is no different to getting a simple massage - what’s the difference in getting your dick jerked off to say releasing tension in your back. I don’t think I’m thinking logically

I dont understand you people, if she hasnt asked for the dick in 2 months from you, shes getting the dick somewhere else.

Thanks man for understanding

That’s the thing bro, she’s been so non sexual since I’ve known her that I honestly believe dick from somewhere else disgusts her. Or she’s been doing a pretty good job of lying for a decade.

In my own personal case, my wife was diagnosed with Obsessive–compulsive disorder and is taking sertraline on a daily basis. One of the side effects is Decreased sexual desire.

What should I do, Sup Forumsros?

Is that a ssri for depression? If it is then dude, there’s not much you can do.

Buy porn with your wifes credit card or bank card, when she sees the transactions come out and say you aren't doing anything so I had to do this.

Similar, it's a Tricyclic antidepressant. In theory it works better than SSRI

Man, I’ve bought plastic pussies, onaholes, wanking machines - she just says enjoy

Im in a similar situation i jerk it every opportunity i get and u hate her more by the day

Trips checked. Then I have no idea. I know SSRI fuck you up sexually but no idea on your issue

Know the feeling bro

Ps: im also close to being an hero so something's gonna give soon

This is why I posted. I knew guys were in a similar situation but I never read about it. Keep strong bro.

I don't care anymore
I achieved much in life in my 42 years
Except finding peace
Maybe its at the bottom of the gap bluff for me
Leaving with my head held high
Without being anyones cuck
Fuck the wife she can suffer like she made me suffer
Fuckin fat pig

Same here. If it helps, you are not alone.
Going for 12 years in 30 days.
It sucks. She doesn't

A wife of 10 years is probably not something you want to see in lingere

Same age. I know what you’re feeling. It’s fucking hard. Have you thought of anyway out that is an even way to keep on going?

I hear you man, I was like that at 10 years. Talk to your wife, it won't make a big difference, but it might make a small difference. Tell her sex for you is like hugs for her, ask her to imagine a marriage without that physical connection. After a while your sex drive will go down (mine did at about 12 year mark), and you'll be glad- a sex drive is actually annoying at the end of the day imo.

Cant do it man
Its either this or death
Im not going through a second divorce
First nearly destroyed me
Im seriously out of options

Dude, I’m 42, any girl over a 5/10 is a 10/10 in our book. I’m not gonna shit on you cause you’re young. But believe me when you reach our age and married for a decade - the world is different.

Don't get a prostitute when you have those feelings. It becomes an addiction. That's what I'm going through right now. I have an appointment set up for two days this weekend. Unless you can afford it, and do it often, don't do it.

If she's a decent person, she'll take care of you. Tell her you still want her and have needs; if she refuses to participate, then talk about solutions - from her giving handjobs and making pics to watching porn together or whatever.

Thing is, if a person loves you, they'll do things they don't necessarily want. Just make sure that you sometimes go out of your way for her sake too.

Jesus, does she not care at all? This sounds like an uncaring person. Ask how she would feel if you fucked someone else - perhaps she'd be o k with it, might even suggest somebody.

Just present the ultimatum - either she puts in effort or you find something else. Make it fair for her and yourself by disclosing your neeeds and considered courses of action. I'm guessing your non-sexual relationship is not in its pristine shape either.

Same boat. Mid forties, busted my ass all my life. Everyone my income supports is living better than I am.

Actually a good point. I don’t know if it’s looking at porn or what, my drive hasn’t died down since I was 12. Maybe it’s time it should.

Honestly, u should try doing more things around the house like little work. A little cleaning, fix something. Women love that a lot! Then give it a little and try to just keep it fresh give her some kisses make her feel important. I've been there too bro, worst comes to worst. Just talk to her about it.

Key point = Women love men that can do a bit of it all, work, help around the house, and be assertive in choices.

I don’t even pretend to know what that’s like. Still my first marriage, so it seems even if I did go to “greener pastures” it would be the same.

Dude, I'm 43, married for 9. Wife isn't fat but seeing her try to be sexy in lingerie has the opposite effect.

Also, this. Extra attention and help can do wonders. II can imagine the numbness after cleaning up, cooking and washing for 10 years +.

You could help her lose weight. Take her for a walk, help her cook a healthier dinner, give positive remarks about low-cal dishes, maybe buy her a dress one size too small 'because you thought she lost weight recently, she looked so pretty'.

Women even from not-so-well-off backgrounds can have a waist even at 60 if they don't eat too much and do light exercise regularly (10 mins/day is enough, basic stuff like lifting legs or bending sideways).

Probably feels about the same as going to a dead end job for 10 years as I have for her and the kids.

she'd probably be double mad if you get a hooker, since it's not just cheating it's also a waste of money

this is coming from a single guy that fucks a lot of hookers

She's a stay-at-home wife?
Yes, exactly. She's as numb as you, probably a bit more, because staying at home provides far less stimulation and grounds for self-worth.
It's not a 'oh poor woman' situation, it just is as it is. Maybe she could get at least a part-time job, maybe you could help her by doing little things like cooking and washing dishes once a week or something like that.
Routine and unwillingness/inability to make at least some changes can be tragic. How do you imagine your retirement years - feeling resentment for each other for not understanding and helping? Being bored together? Life does not end after 50, you know.

Watch some Jordan Peterson. Maybe that will help you sort yourself out a bit, make terms with your suffering.

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Not fat, just sort of busted. Besides, she is an American women, any implication about her weight will be treated as an affront to her femininity. Meanwhile in her next breath she will tell me I need to exercise more and lose weight "for my health" when I've been the same weight since we married.
And then be pissed at me because the workload at my $50 an hour job interferes with her ambitions to start a new career at her $12 an hour, 10 hour a week job.

Sex with a hooker who knows how to do GFE is like interactive performance art that you cum to. I do it whenever I travel to solve the same problem OP’s got.

try being a little more spontaneous... instead of the routine place and position, change it up... maybe go to dinner and a movie together... feel her up a little in the movie like you're kids again to get some spark... bang her in the back seat of the car like she's some college slut...
maybe plan a little vacation or weekend getaway and be romantic if that's what she likes... maybe try some things you used to do when you first started having sex, similar places etc...
often times the man feels that the woman is the one who is becoming less sexual (and sometimes it's true) but sometimes the man loses that 'i wanna fuck you here and now' attitude and the chicks just fizzle out along with him...

my wife and I were at the movie a few months ago... i did exactly what i suggested you do and I had my hand on her leg, i had my hand between her legs ect... after the movie she was so turned on we kissed in the car for like 5 minutes... kids were at home, nowhere to go, so we went to a fucking construction site down the street (sunday evening so nobody there) we went inside a new-build and i banged her doggy style in the half built house... we hadn't had sex in 3 weeks before that... gotta spice it up to keep the fire hot, banging her missionary in the same bed for years on end is not fun

Are you me?!
Or is this just that typical here in murica?

I just find gay dudes to suck me off. Lots of actualfags really get off on swallowing a married daddy.

You should have been Europeans, its great here. Wfies are much less bitchy.

It's somewhat comforting to know one is not alone.

>won't cheat
>should I get a hooker?
>not gonna do anything stupid
Please choose only one

check out reddit deadbed I think it's called.

Start working out together.

I cannot imagine my retirement years. If I didn't have to work she'd try to schedule us/we (meaning me) for some "exciting, fun, important" thing every day. No matter how many times I express interest in doing something else. Every. Single. Fucking. Goddamn. Day.

That, or I'll be dead. Because marriage and kids are killing me; I can feel it. Every time I walk into my house or get a call from my wife I feel like it shaves minutes off my life.

treat your wife like when you first met
or start doing experimental shit with your wife to make it interesting

You are in the marriage trap, my friend. There is no answer. I cheated, and it was NOT worth it. If no kids, GET OUT!

bang a neighbor or woman from work...
maybe bang one of your daughters friends or better yet, bang your sons gf... maybe bang a chick from your church?

hookers are fun

protip: if you kill her you get your money back

Get out of here with these healthy, logical responses. That kind of stuff has no place here!

But really, losing your sex drive is just a natural part of life for most people in America unfortunately. It's a health problem and should be treated as such, if there's medications that are causing it, maybe try to get off them if possible? Other natural shit to try includes getting real massages because it can help improve circulation.

Usually though, it's a 2 way street. She's just bored of the same dick after however long you've been together, which is also totally understandable. Guys want to fuck a different pussy every now and then too. Nobody knows why people are like this, it's part of why monogamy doesn't work very well.. but then neither does polygamy. You're kinda fucked either way. Or rather not fucked.

At a certain point it all boils over and you cheat, and she finds out, and you get a divorce and she takes half your shit. Save yourself the trouble and be honest about what you want and if you can't get on the same page, break it off. It sounds shitty but it's better than the alternative