Quick and dirty relationship/Q&A thread. If you have a question, post. I'll only be around for an hour

Quick and dirty relationship/Q&A thread. If you have a question, post. I'll only be around for an hour.

Older anons help younger anons etc.

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Is watching porn a bad thing? Cause my gf sure as hell thinks it is, even tho I don’t see why it is. At least I’m not fucking cheating on her which I’ve told her

I really want to get cucked or at least have a mmf threeosme with my gf, but whenever I nut I end up getting hella jealous at the thought

How to satisfy the need and not get stupid jealous?

Should I even attempt to satisfy the fetish?

Wat do if you keep seeing that one cuts girl walking in the hallway and the only thing you can do is just watch her cause you can't do shit?

Yes find a girl you want to fuck more than your virtual harem

>Should I even attempt to satisfy the fetish?
Always

Grow a pair

Cuck user

I feel like it would be detrimental to the relationship, because If i end up going through with it and then regretting it, and it's something I can never take back

Explain to her that masturbation is different from sex. That with masturbation it's more focused on you, and that porn is just a tool that you use to get yourself off.

Don't be bitchy about it, don't be an asshole about it, just explain why it's seperate from sex. More than likely she also used porn (or erotic lit, which is still smut) and maybe feel ashamed about it herself. Be understanding.

If she has trouble with it, suggest that you could masturbate togeather or watch porn togeather. It can be a good bonding activity.

If she thinks it's bad, it is bad. In her eyes it is cheating.
Either talk to her, wanch it together or something, or stop the relationship if it is important

And if you never go through with it, you’ll always wonder. Don’t stay comfortable

It's sounds like you like the thought of being chucked, but in practice don't want it at all. It could suggest that your just looking for something new or looking for something to spice up your sex life.

Try looking into other options/other types of fetishes and forget about Cucking. If that doesn't work and you still want to be cucked, you have to work through your jealousness.

Become someone who can do shit. Improve yourself so that you can walk up to her and talk to her. Make it so that you have something to offer. Learn to cook, develop a hobby, talk about the hobby, go to the gym, get fit, leave humanity behind.

Otherwise someone else will step up to the Playe while you sit there letting her pass you by.

I want a mff threesome aswell

Should I ask her for a mff if she'll do a mmf?

Again, I say avoid it. Find a different fetish, or look into yourself to figure out why you so desperately want this. Generally there's usually something unhealthy about the relationship if your looking to swap partners or have others involved.

Okay sage give me your advice.
> Be me dating this girl
> Things go great
> Like real great, she is pushing new dates aswell
> We are going to the same college and she is not good at social media (She can answer though).
> Aka most communication is verbal
> Anyways we verbally agree to go on another date
> We decide a date and approximate time
> Issue is we did not have time to arrange a specific time before I was going to be away from school for a month.
> Work practice thing.
> I do tell her I will text her a specific time in the evening (almost 3 weeks ago)
> She never read any messages after that op...

Ask yourself “am I ok being naked with another naked man with my gf?” If the thought turns you on instead of enraging you yeah why the fuck not

The worst thing you can do is keep messaging her. Be busy with your own life, she needs to put as much effort in as you

Try and get in contact with her again, in person, but be prepared that she might have just moved on.

You know her better than I do, but most people are well enough connected to the Internet/social media that there is SOME way to get in contact with them, or there is something that they always use. (For example, I don't use anything but email and steam. If I like someone enough, I'll give them my steam name so that they can always get a hold of me.)

That brings me to the next point. If she liked you enough, she would try and keep in contact, even if she didn't like or was bad at social media. She would put the effort into using it to keep in contact with you. The fact that she hasent (and the fact that it's been 3 weeks) suggests that she's dropped/ghosted you.

But again, you know her better than I do. She could just be socially inept, or maybe she's just been really busy.

The point is, go and talk to her in person, but expect to be rejected/left in the dust. Get confirmation.

Thanks op. Nice dub streak btw.
Yeah I did messege her like three times and tried calling a few incase facebook was acting up. But that was mainly cause we had a table booked in my name, Last message was sent like two weeks ago.

That is the thing. Most cases I would belive I just got ghosted, but this time... Idk. I have a really hard time seeing she does not like me anymore considering the way she acted before our date.

You got any fetishes that I can explore?

I just find it hard to look up "fetish porn" or whatever because it generally ends up being intense ass BDSM

Then like I said, get confirmation. Talk to her in person rather than over messaging, just be prepared to be let down.

I've been with a girl for 2 years. She is fantastic in a ton of ways. But.. im not sure i really feel anything.
I was the same way in my last relationship. Felt nothing at all until i ended it, now a few years later i regrett it. I feel like ill do the same if i split with this girl who is so damn good to me.

But I used to be a huge slut and miss the freedom, one of those few guys on here that i guess isnt a hopeless virgin.

Anyway, can you force yourself to develop feelings for someone? Am I emotionally i ono..wrong in some way? My mom tells me i should see a therapist

I recently got me a gf but I´m 6 feet and she´s 4´8 . How do I handle her with daily basis stuff?

Oh a side note about my little bit.
I also have absolutly almost nothing else in my life. No school, or job or reall commitments besides a few hobbies.

Maybe if I had a fuller life I wouldn't place so much importance on my relationship?

>fetishes to explore

The go to is bondage or BDSM, but that takes a bit of research to get right. 50 shades of grey is not informative.

Pegging/anal play is my personal favourite. Go slow with it and take your time. It lets your wife be the more active one which is a nice change of pace.

I'm sure other anons have a couple of other suggestions. Otherwise ask your wife if she has any fetishes/kinks she wants to play put and explain that now is the time to try them since your looking for something new.

So, to the anons that have been/currently in relationships, how the hell do you even go about starting them?

I know it's kind of a dumb question, but I'm a fucking retard in any kind of social situation, so I need all the advice I can get.

Not everyone is happy with the “normal” routine of full time job, relationship, kids, etc. You’re already aware of what you’re giving up since you’ve done it before. If you’re still considering it, you should do it

Not op just a wandering user. Np. I know it sucks to hear but you should move on

Mine start as hook ups and either I or she will bring up a relationship eventually. It doesn’t always have to be this way though, you can start out dating with intent for a relationship. Ask her out and see what happens, that’s all you can do

>Maybe if I had a fuller life I wouldn't place so much importance on my relationship
Winner winner fidget spinner. You know what you need to do

Porn can be bad for multiple reasons. Porn addiction is a real thing. It also can cause unrealistic expectations of your partner in the bedroom.

Enjoy the neck and lower back pain!

Ive had 2 3somes in my life, and both times it ended the relationship. Life is not like the movies. There is pressure, expectations, and awkward moments you would never expect.

Its kind of a joke but kind of serious too. "If I wanted to disappoint 2 people at once, Id have dinner with my parents"

Alright I really got to go, but I'll give you a quick and dirty.

You can develop feelings for someone but it takes time. In a relationship love eventually fades away but it is replaced by a long lasting friendship/companionship. So, you need to work on bonding/building a friendship with your partner.

You don't have to "feel" anything. It's hard to describe. But generally if something good happened to you, you would want to tell her first. That's the sign of someone who you love.

So work at that.

Beyond that you sound depressed. Your devoid of anything giving you purpose. Your quite literally a NEET. A NEET without a purpose doth not a happy user make. I would suggest working towards something and improving your life. Learn a skill, become better. Become fit. DO SOMETHING.

Honestly, from the sounds of it, you need to improve yourself before you can work on having a relationship with others. But it doesn't mean you have to break it off with this girl, she can help if you let her. Just explain your predicament.

Anyways I have to go. I'm already late as fuck

OP OUT.

Usually ghosting occurs because they found someone they think might be better, but want a Plan B just in case they are wrong

thank for input OP

I am 6'1 and my wife is 4'11 in heels... not really sure what you mean by handle her? I never dated a girl taller than 5 foot (kind of my fetish I guess) and I never had a situation where her height was a problem other than constantly getting asked "can you get that for me"

My wife and I just separated our finances, because she got money/control issues from her parents. She spent $500 from my account last month. Do I bring it up, and/or how, or do I just let is pass as the cost of doing business?

She's bad with money, so splitting finances isn't a bad thing.

IF she did ghost you, you lost absolutly nothing of value.

It is probably the most cowardly childish ways to end something with someone. It showed they didn't have the balls to discuss it with you in person, a phone, or hell if a pussy text message which is common now.

If someone ghost you, forget them with a smile, you avoided a very small person.

I would say bring it up (calmly) and just discuss the what/why details. Ask if she will be returning what she BORROWED, be sure to use this word, not take. If she says fine sall is good, if not, consider making your funds inaccessible to her

If you arent supposed to spend money, and you did, you should tell her. You never lie to your partner and hiding things (which also tends to lying) is almost as bad.

Me and my wife have separate accounts as well, but we have a third joint account for all our bills. Basically if each of us owes 1500 a month for bills, we each put that into the third account, and anything left over in my account can be "blown". I have a gun habit, she has a purse habit. We dont need to tell each other something was bought because chances are good she will walk in the room while I am cleaning the gun, or she will come home wearing a new purse. We will then usually make fun of each other. "thats a really ugly purse" "oh god you got another one? Can your penis get any smaller?" shit like that

Absolutely bring it up wtf

Well fuck me sideways... I read the post wrong and thought you spent your own money without telling her

>email and steam
>relationship advice

lol fuck off sperg