My gf told me last night that she lowered her standards when she decided to date me...

My gf told me last night that she lowered her standards when she decided to date me. Because she's attracted to big beefy guys who are older and im "scrawny and nerdy, but thats ok cause im cute". I guess she just meant that she usually doesnt go for my type but it still hurt a lot. She doesnt seem to realize how much it got to me either. Idk how to feel, can anyone give any kind of input? pic related thats her

Tell her what a relief that is because you also had to lower your standards. Because even a nerd like you has unique preferences and you chose her because you felt pity.

She said shes attracted to me im just not her 10/10 guy. Like who just says that

This. Your gf is a bitch for saying that.

OP is a fag

Isnt this the same girl that cheated on you with a baby faced babby bitch?

Don't worry about it. Just make sure you treat her well, and control that pussy without acting controlling. Make her cum like a geyser however you can, maybe try to get her into being submissive and calling you daddy or something. Makes them feel more owned and devoted, and gets yiu some great sex.

Im confused lmao

To me, it sounds like a person who has self-esteem issues and is trying to cope with her not being 10/10, because by the picture you posted. She's far from a 10/10 herself. She should feel lucky to even be with you

Just seems like she said what she meant in a horrible way. It sounds more like you're not the usual type she seeks out. That kinda makes you special if you really think about it. But user, in all honesty, letting her know how you feel will probably help ya out a whole lot. Communication is key. I figured that out too late. Broke up a few days ago bc well, closed mouths don't get fed. Speak up.

Lol sort of insensitive, but because you've got low self esteem you'll probably ruminate on this for a long time rather than just letting it go. Sounds like she didn't necessarily mean to hurt you, but obviously put it poorly, and probably didn't need to be said at all.
My advice? Get over it. No need in being petty and getting back at her or over analyzing it, because those options will just make you miserable.

I know it's gonna be difficult, but your best option at this point is to break it off with her. Be honest with her: tell her that what she said is not the kind of thing that you would expect to hear from someone that you care about.

Be firm. If she tries to keep you guys together, tell her it's too late, that the damage is done.

Because it is. You will not be able to forget that she said that, and it will always hurt. And she will know that she can treat you like shit and that you will put up with it. It's only going to get worse from here if you stay with her.

The point of dating is to "kick the tires" with potential mates. It's *not* to find "the one" after just a little bit of trying.

Have some self-respect and wait for someone who knows how to treat people decently. If you're a good person, then you deserve at least that in this life.

That isnt a bad idea.. I almost feel like i have to work out more and try to get big for her. Some background info though, ive been rapidly losing weight recently, i have a mix of anemias, one of which is pernicious which has given me some severe nerve damage in my legs, which caused some autonomic neuropathy. Basically my body is attacking itself and i weigh like 124 pounds now.. So i guess im trying to work out anyway just for my health but it really just makes me feel like less of a man, if that makes sense. Im 19, shes 18 and turns 19 this month.

Kinda same thing happened to me, it hurts but at least you know whats goin on. As soon as wild fkoy appears you'll be kinda fked. GL OP, fuck her while u can and keep an eye on her surroundings.

Depends on her intelligence level, if She's smart:
This is obviously a setup for cheating on you either now or in the future so that way if she gets caught it won't be a major shock which increases her chances of getting you to stay after.
If she's dumb:
She's trying to suggest you bulk up. But if you're truly scrawny that isn't possible without steroids but again if dumb she won't know that

>Le owning women meme

Listen you little edgy fucking faggot teen. The only thing that controls women is money and powerful men. The rest they just pretend to like to stay with rich and powerful men. Fucking hell I can tell you're still in college and you think you're a pussy master cos you fucked one slut.

If you ever consider working out, NEVER do it for anyone else but you. Simple as that.

Sounds like her psyop yo get you ready for cuckoldum is in full swing.

Stop being a snowflake and brush it off. Tell her you didn't like that but don't break up over this. That is stupid. Most advice here is retarded 12 yo virgins who just want you to be as miserable as they are.

You're right, i really should work out more though. I used to a lot but its been difficult i guess

Don't get too attached to her Sup Forumsro. might sound harsh but it's reality.

>Like who just says that
Adults who've been in relationships before.

I think this is the best advice tbh, thankyou user like actually

so let me get this straight. you have a gf who told you the god honest truth about her thoughts, no bullshit and you hold it against her? why the fuck do you care what she thinks how you look? your looks are determined by nature. just take care of yourself, workout, eat well and have good hygiene and you have no problem. Other than that just enjoy life, don't give a shit what others think about your looks and fuck the shit out of your girlfriend until she is unable to walk in the next room just because you fucking can. why are people so retarded to make everything harder than it needs to be.

Tell her you like beefy too. Find a fat black chick and bang her. GF will be jealous and never say some dumb shit again. Have threesome. Problem solved.

Lol she loves tennis too

The fact you're shitposting on Sup Forums about her instead of fucking her is the real reason she lowered her standards. BRB, fucking your gf while you're too busy shitposting from your computer about her. Hopefully you guys aren't in college yet, sounds like you're about to learn some hard lessons in genetic diversity.

also what some other dude said. if she starts anything like remotely talk about shit like threesomes or shit just fucking dump her. A partnership is trust and wanting too intimate contact with others is no bases for trust. same applies for people who can't keep their short term desires in check for a healthy mental state and relationship. only kids and mentally disturbed dumb people think otherwise.

advice from virgins on Sup Forums is the best advice

kek

Threesomes can be loads of fun though, it's not always bad. Though I agree, if OPs girlfriend would say that at this point in the relationship that would be a huge red flag.

or from retards who still think there is only your imagined stereotype of a white 22 year old virgin browsing this website.

Lmao

You are right, I didn't want to generalize but I did in this case. The circumstances matter and I neglected to mention that. It's also depended on the personality type and upbringing to some degree.

Tell her, "I can honestly say you are my 10/10, then again I have a fetish for ugly girls. No offense."

Beef up. She can only love you more.

That's a really shitty thing to say. If she actually thinks that, she doesn't love you, OP. She has major self-esteem issues and has to work on them. From the sound of it, your self-esteem has been affected a bit as well.

I have the reverse problem for example, where I think that my long-term BF has lowered his standards for me because he's 8/10 to me, but I'm a weird, ugly, autistic girl. I look at other girls and think that I'd like to be like them, and look like them, but no matter how hard I try, I'm still an outcast. I believe I'm 3/10, maybe. And my low self-esteem is affecting the relationship negatively. You have to talk about these things with your GF if you're taking it to heart. Either extremes will wreck your relationship.

LOL, i did tell her she was my 10/10, i mean she knows what porn stars i like and she thinks thats my ideal 10/10.. If im being honest i really do like her. She makes me happy, we have a ton in common and i like being around her. She can be a bit clingy but, i kind of like it a little bit. The sex is weird. We could be fucking the shit out of eachother and right after she would act like ive never even seen her naked. She even tells me that she wants to have sex, gets me all excited for it over the course of a week or more and when k finally come over, she suddenly changes her mind and says she isnt in the mood, calls me gross for trying to eat her out after she egged it on for like a week. So then with all this shit about her saying she lowered her standards for me its got me questioning my self esteem.. Maybe im just being a little bitch and need to get over it, idk. Maybe its all a misunderstanding. or maybe she really doesnt like me as much as i thought she did.

>This.
Just putting some effort into going to gym will make you more appealing to her.

Also, never let her play those mind games with you. No matter how close you are with that girl.

it's cool - that just means she wants to get fucked by real studs, while you watch

"That's ok, Hun. I, too, settled for an easy lay to end the dry spell while I was seeking a quality woman. Glad to know we're on the same page, Sweets."

>PUA meme

user, op here, take it from me, be honest with your bf and dont hold that stuff in. If you want to look different for you, try for it, if he finds you sexy own that. all i can say is that the whole shy thing is super unappealing, and i would love it so much more if she just didnt care so much.. Like i call her beautiful and she instinctively says no. She cant take any kind of compliment and just always thinks shes ugly, always thinks she needs makeup when in reality i actually prefer her without the makeup covering her beautiful face..

lol just her scrawny ass way of saying she loves big nasty daddy dick

just stroke her head like she's a good girl while she gobbles that goblin cock

You fuck her one last time and then bust fat load all over her face then never initiate contact with her again. I did this to a girl 7 years ago, to this day she is a borderline stalker always trying to find out what I am up to.

>be honest with your bf and dont hold that stuff in. If you want to look different for you, try for it, if he finds you sexy own that. all i can say is that the whole shy thing is super unappealing, and i would love it so much more if she just didnt care so much.. Like i call her beautiful and she instinctively says no. She cant take any kind of compliment and just always thinks shes ugly, always thinks she needs makeup when in reality i actually prefer her without the makeup covering her beautiful face..

Thanks OP. You're right, and I know that. I believe my BF when he says so, but deep down there's something wrong with my perception of my own self. I try hard (have always worked out and watched my diet, take care of my appearance), but I still feel "weird". I just want to fit in with other girls, sometimes I feel like an alien... I don't know if it makes sense. Either way, I keep thinking that I don't deserve my BF, etc. And it's been getting worse, but I'm trying to work on that. I know how nonsensical it is, though. I think it's a mental illness TBH.

With that face she isn't even supposed to have high standards bro

Cunts who cheat

No i understand. I think everyone feels that way on some degree. I feel like that sometimes, i care way too much about my hair looking right, or how im dressed, in reality nobody gives a shit. And no matter how much i tell myself i dont give a shit i do.

Honestly i think you gotta do whatever you can to make yourself really feel like a woman, like really just make yourself feel sexy. And i say that because i feel as though i need to make myself feel like a man. Give yourself some self esteem.

>A mental illness
It's called insecurity

Lol

Pass that bitch over here OP. Im what she's looking for.

Don't take it so personal. So you're not her 10/10. So what? Most people don't meet and have relationships with their 10/10 anyway for a multitude of reasons. Just be happy with your life and be happy with her. Don't listen to these autists telling you to break up with her just because she won't lie to you and tell you you're her 10/10. Hell, I would even say you found a winner. She's brutally honest. That's a rarity these days.

>or maybe she really doesnt like me as much as i thought she did.

After reading all the posts, let me add my redundant post: It sounds like she wants you to know that she thinks she could have done better than you. If she's as bold as to tell that to you in your face in a serious way, I would say you have a problem in your hands.

My wife used to tease me when we were dating that she liked "wild" guys (i'm the opposite of wild), but it was more like friendly banter we threw back at each other. I would tell her I only fell for her because of her boobs or if I did something stupid I would blame it on me trying to be "wild" for her. If you are in a situation where you guys can joke about what she told you, then I think you're okay. But if it's not simply a joke, which it seems it isn't, then I would say she's growing distant.

When girls grow distant, it's very hard to recover your image. If you don't dump her, she will probably dump you at some point in exchange for someone she thinks is closer to her standard, or she might give up on her standard but remain resentful to you.

I know it's hard to think about losing this girl, but you're only 19. Consider her as an experience in your life and move on. Find a girl to whom you are that 9/10.

kek, I didn't think I'd get some really nice advice on here. Thanks again, OP. It's really simple but it's great to hear from someone else. I honestly wish all the best to you and your GF, hope you figure this stuff out.

Regarding self image, I think mirrors and lighting also play a role. If I look at myself in a large mirror with lots of natural light, I am happy with my appearance. If I look at my reflection in a small, dimly-lit bathroom with artificial light that falls straight down, it exaggerates any flaws I might have, but since it's the only mirror I have at home, I believe it to be an actual representation of how I look like. It fucks with my head.

Probably going to get a large mirror just to calm myself down.
Sounds pretty narcissistic though

>talking to a tinder whore
>she asks if i have tattoos and a checkered shirt
>i say no
>she says it's a pitty because otherwise i would be 10/10
fucking roasties want men looking like faggots

To me it sounds like she would dump you the moment Khal Drogo comes up from behind her and slaps her ass. I wouldn't get too attached to her if I were you. Try to find a side chick to keep you happy. Don't take her too seriously.

It's not a gf if she says and does things like that. Unless she was mad and you two were arguing, then she could say shit for the sake of saying shit, I know I did.

You're highly insecure for this to bother you. Either you man up and stop acting like a fag or get ready to be cheated on or dumped.

She isn't truly interested then. Possibly already is looking into other guys but has just enough morals and guilt to be with you. I dunno why they fuck she'd ever admit this but take this as silver lining. Least it isn't going to be a surprise if she leaves or if things go south.

She must be the type that is afraid to have anything average or looked at as such. She herself is nothing but average looking. But albeit wants to feel or have something to show off in her life.

I bet that phone of hers is basically welded in her hand at all times as well. If all it takes is for you to be more muscly just start hitting weights brah

Dat belly tho, I have a thing for nice bellies. Would cum all over.

Have you heard of Shoop Da Whoop? its fanny meme

OP, that fact of the matter is that she told you the truth. Women want an alpha so be one. But now you know that she's immature.

She's testing you to see how you react. Women love shit testing but they almost all have low self esteem.

Don't freak out or call her names. Now you know that she's just another whore cumdumpster. Enjoy that snatch while you have her but be looking for other girls in the time being. Don't waste your time on her.

Little by little you need to make her feel insecure. Women love mind games so turn the tables on the bitch.

You have objective evidence that she's garbage so stop paying for her shit if you're already doing it. Fuck her and make her cum buckets. That's all most women care about: money and good dick.

Give her a good dicking but don't buy her anything. Split the bill with her always. If she asks why you don't pay for her then tell her you're not an ATM machine.

You're young and inexperienced. A lot of women are good-for-nothing whores. Treat them as such unless they prove otherwise.

A woman should do your laundry, clean your house, cook your meals, and swallow your dick. End of story. If you find a woman that's happy to do this then you can treat her to nicer things like meals, movies, and even the occasional dress.

But if they don't do the basic shit a woman is supposed to then they're just cumdumpsters.

I posted earlier and forgot to mention that a similar situation happened to me with my ex. I should have seen it coming because she told me the exact same thing: she's into big, muscular guys.

I'm not big or muscular. I was in shape and by no means fat at all. But I wasn't a football player. In the end I broke up with her because she didn't have the balls to break up with me... It hurt a lot, but I moved on, found a girl and married. But she, on the other hand, never found a guy and now she's 36 and single and becoming a cat lady.

I don't mean her ill will, but I'm pretty sure when she looks at my FB page she regrets it. (I make tons of money and have a nice family)

Looks like there's a lot more going on here than just this one incident. Abort.

Id say always show self-confidence, and you might have to fake it every once in a while

If you're not her 10/10 what's gonna happen when she finds one?

Truth is, she'll always think she could find someone better.
And she's probably was lonely and that's why she started dating you.
Some women just can't be single.

You think that's bad? I had a girl tell me the guy she works with sent her bdsm videos but it's okay because he's a nice guy, just doesn't have boundaries lmao, talk about red flags

>If she's lying:
fuck this manipulative bitch... then dump and move the fuck on.

>if she's being honest:
she'll always have a physical attraction to that body type (i.e, other men). Maybe worth fucking, but definitely not relationship material. Dump and move the fuck on.

>TL;DR:
MOVE THE FUCK ON.

Stop being a lil baby. She was just talking and doesn't and didn't know it would hurt you. All girl are attracted to insert blah but are looks all your relationship is about?
Don't listen to this mook. Cause then your just intentionally trying to hurt her.

Could get her back by destroying he asshole, trear up her pussy then leave.