Do you believe you're married to the love of your life?
Is a man supposed to settle for a woman who is supportive, faithful, helpful and friendly or are we to look for that almost blinding/obsessive "true" love?
I've been with someone for 10 years. All going smooth. All of a sudden meet someone new who makes me question everything. Am I being "emotionally ambitious" by wanting her/the feeling she comes with, or should I wake the fuck up and realise it will not last forever and that I should be grateful for what I have and enjoy a simple life?
TLDR: is there such a thing as the woman "you'll continually fall in love with" for you or are we to settle with the one who ticks the most boxes, logically and objectively peaking?
James Murphy
You've become bored in your relationship, just like everyone else. Now you found something new and shiny and it too will eventually lose its luster.
Juan Nelson
bump
Isaac Powell
You just want to fuck other women not love them. You love your wife, obviously.
Xavier Thomas
i hate my life. an hero is the only way to fix things. do not get married. be lonely and single.
Justin Jones
OR this new thing is the real thing. Who knows? Hence the question, should I settle for some certainty, or keep looking for what may be (and certainly appears to) the real thing?
Jaxson Diaz
bump
Michael Clark
Then do it. No one cares.
Austin Bell
This
Chase Butler
>ruin stable relationship on a whim
the jews have already won
Luis Perez
>whim has been going on for a year and a half...
Alexander Miller
Just like how you thought your current lady was the real thing a long time ago?
Samuel Williams
Hey I'm an idiot thats why I'm asking for help.
Nicholas Jones
Wait, wait, you call yourself an oldfag an you're married and yet you use the expression "true love" unironically?! There is no true love. If you're happy in your marriage consider yourself lucky, because a lot of people aren't. If you're not, then it's a different story.
Josiah Lopez
Yea man i thought the next girl was better than ol girl but when i jumped ship i quickly realized how wrong i was. Now im here shipless. Dont let ur dick fuck up a good thing.
Grayson Gonzalez
>oldfag an you're married I never said either of those things. I'm 27, so hardly an oldfag, and together with someone for 10y.
Jack Edwards
I feel you cause I've thought the same thing. If you are chasing the feeling of a new relationship, you are going to go through a lot of women and my guess is that will eventually ruin that "new relationship feeling" And you will be worse off than if you just stayed with the first one and daydreamed about a second. Idk Life is pain
Kevin Martin
OP pls don't exchange your stability for just one night
Liam Cooper
How do you know it's just one night? Could be "the love of my life".
William Robinson
>Is a man supposed to settle for a woman who is supportive, faithful, helpful and friendly Yes, sounds like a good plan. Settle with someone whose personality traits and temperament complement yours. If you're high in neuroticism, someone who's emotionally stable AND can stand living with you will literally save your life. As a man I you'll be happiest with a woman who's at par with you or slightly less intelligent than you. >are we to look for that almost blinding/obsessive "true" love? You can care for other women, sure. You just don't have sex with them. If you feel adventurous and want to seize the opportunity to have an affair for one night with someone you won't meet again, do it. You just have to shoulder the responsibility of not telling your wife.
Cameron Walker
23 and married for 3 years. Wife is 26. She's wonderful to me, but there is another women who I've been very close with for about 8 years, who knows every dark secret I have and even my infatuation with her. My wife also knows my infatuation but doesn't mind as long as I don't mention it again or act on anything. This women, I have slowly pieced together, feels a need for me in her life as well, but because anything but perfect monogamy is seen as evil by both society and my wife, and this women is held hostage by her families religion, nothing will ever happen. But if I had known these feelings for other people would still be in me after marriage, I never would have married. But I'm not going to let my wife down, and in a way, I have the relationship with this women I have wanted. I am unreal close with her. I just can't let my wife in on it, be open about it in any way, or do anything physical. So almost secret. This world isn't ready for open relationships, but it would make life so much better for everyone. Emotionally and physically.
Tl;dr Unless you're lucky and have an understanding wife and "other women", don't act on any urges.