Be me

>be me
>18yr old dude
>little sexual experience from parties (about 5 one night stands)
>get a girlfriend
>first time a person ever actually means something to me
>basically the first time i love someone
>finger her after 4 weeks of relationship
>she never masturbated in her whole life ever
>proceed with tounge, then she tells me she wants to have sex
>I havent had sex in over a year
>get nervous
>i cum after like 5 minutes and turn flacid
>she didnt cum because it was too painful for her yet even though i didnt really go fast
>3 weeks later
>repeat last time, but only last 3 minutes

i never came this fucking fast with a girl
have the loneliness, excessive porn consume and having feelings for a girl for the first time in my life ruined my dick? how do i last longer? what the fuck should i do?

i've been in this position before after going a long time without hooking up and just jerking off and watching porn to get off

if you actually like her, you don't have to just fuck her. take your time make sure you get plenty of foreplay in and go slow at first when you start fucking. you don't have to rail the shit out of her instantly build up for a bit, pull out to regain composure say some shit like you're so fucking tight it feels so good w/e you want make her think she's so fucking sexy is why you feel like cumming so quick

also if you don't mind wearing a condom, you can start bareback for a bit then pull out when you get close and say you need to put a condom on. gives you time to not cum, and fucking with a condom makes most people last longer anyway

firstly thanks for the response
i did take care of the foreplay but at a certain point she told me to get the condoms and get started
it's really embararssing and frustrating because i want to make her cum, but i think her never having done anything like that whatsoever and her body not being used to this at all really makes this difficult for me

even if you ask her what she likes, she probably has no idea what actually turns her on and only knows about just sex. unfortunately you'll have to just experiment with different shit until something hits that she really gets into
a lot of girls are into atleast a little bit of dom/sub try being a little forceful nothing crazy, hand firm around her neck while kissing (not tight), grab her by her wrists and hold them above her head, lots of teasing make her tell ask/beg for what she wants tell her to repeat it.
girls usually take a lot of build up to cum and if she's inexperienced she might not even know how to cum, hell she might have never cum before so it's kind of on her to figure out what she likes

i know for a fact that she is submissive, but i dont really know how to use it to my advantage asides from tying her up before/while foreplay
but yeah you're right she otherwise has no clue what she enjoys yet

Why not finish her off after with hands and mouth? You can still make her come after you have.

Never had the problem of coming too soon, so can't offer any advice on that. Good luck OP.

Have you tried fapping not too long before sex?

tried, but after 10 minutes of eating her out and another 10 of fingering her she told me to stop as she started feeling a bit sore
thats what i did once before, but with her the problem is that she usually comes over to my place for the whole weekend and we usually chill after she arrived at apartment and by the time we might get something started the numbing effect would have worn off already

If shes on birth cotrol just bust and wait ljke 10 seconds and kiss her but really focus on regaining composure.

Should still be semi hard
Slowly begin sex again
Never pull you dick out when doing this.

Congrats you came in 1 min but shortly after that you killed it for an hour.

>Have sex
>Come
>Wait 40 minutes
>Have sex again, longer

she isn't on birth control, as she currently has to take enough meds anyways and adding more would be bad for her according to her gynecologist and internist
wait a minute this idea is actually good

also while i am at it:
since i started smoking i have lost about 1,2cm/0,5" in length, is there any way to "revert" this? I have quit since a few months now

...

Never heard of anyone losing length from smoking, are you positive?

>after 10 minutes of eating her out

Dude you gotta give the clit attention. Every single girl I've eaten out has came in less than 2 minutes. Every. Single. Time.

Work on your technique, if she loves you then she won't judge you and you can get better with her.

thanks my man
yeah i am pretty positive i used to have ~16cm and now i am down to 14,8-ish cm and since smoking tightens your venes and it therefore cannot expand as much anymore
yeah i know my technique is pretty bad, but i seem to improve every time

Amazon has desensitizing spray. Expensive but works.

But really; if she likes you it wont be an issue. Makes her feel attractive. Also be glad your situation isn't reversed. Dated a chick who i would fuck for hours and couldn't fun. Now THAT caused problems...

Focus the tip of your tongue on the clit, you can't go wrong with that. Go up, down, and then around the clit. Change directions every 30~ seconds and you're good fam. Don't be afraid to slobber either cuz shit's wet asf anyway.

Fun==cum

Glad I could help.
You're still big enough, don't worry about it. Maybe if you quit smoking your veins will go back to normal. No idea.

Haha yeah I've had a girl cry because she couldn't make me cum. Feelsbadman.

>don't think of lolis to last
>think of lolis when i want to finish
At least thats worked for me so far
t. fellow porn addled brain

i actually apologized alot both times and told her how embarrassing this is for me and she constantly reassured me telling me its not a problem and she loves me, but it still is frustrating
also i might try out that spray thanks
ay thanks for the advice, really apprechiate it
yeah i got that, thanks for clarifying though
i dont know dude it feels like its small as fuck i dont know even though every time i measure it it says something around 14,8.. but yeah maybe it will, thanks for the encouragement

try not being 18

Does feel bad. Though it also makes you feel like Hulk after her 5th orgasm. I guess it depends on where your priorities lie ha.

Haha my dude it's not small as fuck, 14,8 is still above average. And it doesn't really matter unless it's a good deal below (or above) average. Don't let it get to you.

yeah i think you're right man, really thank you for cheering me up, i kinda have some issues about my dick

Haha yeah, there are good things and bad things about it. Generally, I do worry about it though, like people think it's weird if the guy doesn't come easily. Just gotta be confident either way I guess.

Any time :)

It's funny. I had the exact same problem with my last relationship..

Protip: Keep banging her. Your dick will get used to her pussy the more you bang and then you'll last longer.

My dumb ass nutted in my pants during one of our grind/makeout sessions. Shit was hella embarrassing and I instantly rolled over and scooted off the bed saying I had to go to the restroom. She wasn't aware of what just happened, until she moved over to my spot on the bed and realized what had happened by the giant wet spot. We both laughed about that situation a few weeks later. I also ended up cutting her clit with my fingernail, and the first time I had sex I lasted less than a minute. But a month or so later I could bang her for 15mins, and by the end of our relationship (4 months lol) I could bang her for 30-40.

It takes time buddy, just be patient.

Confidence is definitely key OP. Stop apologizing for something you can't control. Or just blame it on how fucking hot she is. Also do you try for round 2?? Round 2 is always better than the first anyways.

Damn.
So basically I should just keep "practicing", right?

I did, but she told me she started feeling sore, so we stopped
Or do you mean a round 2 like an hour later?

Exactly, you'll get better. I promise.

Alright sounds good, thanks alot

Either. Unless your that new to orgasms, your dick won't know the difference and you'll last longer.

Also protip: ask to watch her play with herself. You'll learn a lot about what she likes, it'll work out that pussy, and it's hot as fuck

She has never masturbated in her life, so she doesnt know what she likes, thanks for the tip

Choke her, slap her, spit on her, and be extremely rough with her pussy
Women love that rough shit.

*still thanks for the tip, didnt mean to sound like a cunt

Trust me she'll figure it out quick. Did it take you that long figure how to stroke your hog? She probably already has at least once since you've been together...

true you're right
I doubt she ever has, as her room has got really thin walls and her younger sisters are in the two rooms alongside hers

Nobody asked for this, but here it is. A high resolution version.

OP here, thank you very much
you are the hero noone asked for, but everyone apprechiates