Where can I find a depressed and hurt girl to protect and love, ultimately entering a codependent relationship?

Where can I find a depressed and hurt girl to protect and love, ultimately entering a codependent relationship?

try being successful and meaningful and they will find u

go to an AA or NA meeting, rooms of fucked up sluts with daddy issues

lol no

deviantArt, tumblr, or fanfiction sites

sadly yes

any suicide chat out there, most girls from 18-35 in there are not depressed they just want attention. Also an easy way to get nudes and videos

damn being that adorable without make-up should be illegal

Magic show at public library

Try fetlife. Lots of them have issues from their past that lead them to being nicely submissive, wanting to be spanked and screwed roughly, but by someone they see as protective.

I don't just want a quick fuck, I want a meaningful relationship please.

you don’t want one, trust me.

Please expand on that one?

This. Any place that has mentally imbalanced girls. Met so many when I was in a mental ward and afterwards at meetings. I wouldn't go for any of them, but if you're that desperate or just get off on being an abuser, that's the place to go.

Codependent relationships are bad and unhealthy for everyone involved and they'll eventually end in disaster that could possibly involve one of you being an hero

online games
mmorpg

ik minecraft has a lot of them, but i dont really play many other online games.

I agree, had 3 already, fuck that shit. They get needy, like too needy, like "I'm not eating at all unless you make my favorite food" needy, they get unappreciative, lazy, and sometimes even abusive because they're so used to abuse that they don't realize it's bad. The littlest things set them off too, like the wrong pairing of words and suddenly it's "Do you even love me????" which no matter how you answer doesn't matter. It's a lifestyle of constant guilt trips

Also, what are the risks of dating a girl that's depressed?

what is a suicide chat?

im here

chaturbate.com is a good start.

Were you a child of an alcoholic, OP?

Anywhere really. You can find desperate and broken people just about anywhere on this earth. But online is the easiest way. /r9k/ has plenty of fucked up bitches on it for example. I met a real wackjob on there once. But because I wasn't fucked in the head, I didn't like her.

Nope. I just feel like I want to protect these kind of people. Not just a quick fuck or anything of the sort.

Tell me more about you?

POF.

You can't save someone, op. They have to save themselves.

Also "codependent" implies unheathly for both parties. Not sure if that's what you were intending, but.

nigga you sound like a super cuck what the fuck.

Let these retarded pseudo-depressed girls fix it on their own, so that they're stronger emotionally and mentally without needing some retard from Sup Forums trying to comfort them.

Obviously, they can fend for themselves if they function enough to not kill themselves, or do stupid shit. Go find a girl in-real life that isn't depressed and stop making other people's issues, your issue to solve, you're not a saint, you're just a loser trying to get recognition for other people's grief/sorrow.

lol
go ahead, you are not the first or the last.

after you tried, you will see them for the time wasters and headscrewers they are.

good to fuck, bad for longtime.

OP literally wants a parasite.

Well, in any way, help them save themselves then.
And no, that's not what I was intending, but you got the idea.

when i grow up i want to have a money leach

Please expand on this.

Look for a healthy woman. Maybe you think that your intentions are noble, but really this kind of fantasy is just about having power and ownership over someone. The same way you get rich guys who in look for the poorest and most desperate woman they can to take as a wife; as the benevolent benefactor who "saved" them, they reckon the woman will never dare betray or disobey them.

Silly user. You'd have to at least leave your home to find them.

Sounds like my ex.

We met on OKCupid.

You might be right, but the fact is that I always felt unwanted/useless in my life. I want to be useful to someone without them dropping me off right after.

Are you looking for something that reminds you of mother?

I was and have dated many women like this. Is there some kind of connection?

>implying I don't leave home
That's why I'm asking, because I can't find any outside.

is it weird that I’ve never felt that way? im aromantic awell as asexual and i find it odd that most people i know seek an emotional connection of some sort with someone of the opposite sex. i’ve never felt that way.

it’s how i’ve felt my entire life and I’ve only recently started to realize how different i am from other people. at times i feel so alone but even then, i dont long for emotional attachment, on contrary, i hate it.

Make yourself useful then. Maybe someone who is not fucked in the head will appreciate you.

>Tell me more about you?
18, from sweden
was diagnosed with bipolar type II a year ago
i study science atm and want to be a biomedical analyst
i'm very open but also a bit shy ;v

Yes. Read "adult children of alcoholics" it will explain your entire life and why youve never felt normal.

Well, alternatively, I would like a mommy gf, but those are significantly rarer and I'm too tall to appreciate the size difference.

Post pics of self

Same. Met one at the ward and we fucked after we got out she was a qt skelly too

>Make yourself useful then. Maybe someone who is not fucked in the head will appreciate you.
Thanks, but I've yet to find someone who will appreciate me romantically.

Do you have any means of contact outside of Sup Forums with which we could talk?

She'll an hero and if it's actually a codependent relationship you probably will too

You know the rule femanon

If I were you I'd get through therapy myself and invite the person I'm with to do so too.
One person alone can't "fix" or "protect" someone, it must be a process and that ultimatly require outside help.

Oh great. So there is actually something wrong with me

they have a dick.

>Well, alternatively, I would like a mommy gf, but those are significan
Cattigg at kik

welp replied to the wrong post xd

If you're useful, socially active and you're not a complete tool you'll find someone. Just a matter of time.
If you're into the whole power-dynamic thing like this user said you should probably get some professional help.

here. Serious advice for op:

Alright then, I get the desire. I've had a little experience there myself, and here's the biggest thing I learned.

I'm going to go ahead and assume you're a great person, op. When you're dating someone with serious issues, you're going to have to be damn vigilant to stay a great person. If someone has, let's say, daddy issues, they're going to project the image of their father onto you. You might be nothing like him, but it's going to be a lot harder than you realize to not BECOME like him. She's always going to expect, and even subconsciously encourage, the kind of bad behavior her dad did. Over time, as you let your guard down, it'll be harder and harder not to fall into the habits she expects of you, because those habits are generally easier than actually being a good person. If you accidentally let your guard down during a stressful moment and take the easy way out, you could find yourself becoming someone else you never had any intention of becoming.

This applies to any issue--you're going to get the cause of the issue projected on you, and you have to constantly remember that you are you and not what other people are expecting you to be.

C. G. Jung's archetypes shed a lot of light on this, although most of his interpretors have mangled his theories, so go straight to Jung himself and ignore the secondary sources.

I see. Thank you very much for this advice.

U prolly dont know how to connect with ur emotions. Easy fix

>Where can I find a depressed and hurt girl to protect and love, ultimately entering a codependent relationship?

Don't do that shit, those people can't even mean good if they want to. It will only end up hurting you in the end, especially once she discovers she can get the same gratification from multiple people.

Also, /r/gonewild.

Not OP but what if I'm just looking for someone in the same position as I am? Someone that I can relate to and grow with?

awful photoshop, get those titties out.

You don't actually want a depressed and hurt girl to love and protect.

Good luck, tried it out last year. She was super clingy to the point where I couldn't stand being around her. The only thing I got out of it was unbelievable sex

Transferance !!!!

dude trust me, you don't want a hurt and depressed girl. Chances are, you'll become her "daily therapist" and bunt out yourself. After spending years with a depressed girl, you'll surely become emotionally colder and possibly somewhat depressed youself

How do

It's already the case, so I've got nothing to lose.

I wouldn't mind that, really. How clingy are we talking?

literally this

This. AA/NA higher percentage of girls there are trying to be sober - now if you want the same kinda fucked up with a bitch who ain't trying to get sober Al-user people raised by addicts who have no idea they're addicts. Give em the time their daddy never did ;P

They need to talk to you 24/7, take up all the free time you have, get jealous when you hang out with friends, text you the whole time you are with these friends, and demand to see you when you're done hanging out with said friends. It was too much for me, ended the 6 month relationship and she pretty much just held suicide over my head over it. Cried for 3 hours about it and begged me not to leave. Shit wasn't fun and 0/10 would not recommend or ever do again. Find a normal girl who doesn't need your/everyone's attention 24/7.

Thank you everyone for your help and discussion. You really helped a lot in sorting my thoughts and stuff. Have a good night!

Then it's trying to fix yourself by trying to fix somebody else.
It's self-destructive...Reading about codependency and transference might help you reduce the harm.

Go see a psych specialist, don't listen to a Sup Forumstard's diagnosis. Remember, if they're on Sup Forums there's about a 99% chance they're not a doctor and in fact autistic.

>so I've got nothing to lose.
You have everything to gain though... Why not work on improving yourself instead of making a stupid ass investment like this?

You're going to find yourself in X years having gone nowhere, and that girl with the help of you and the 10 other guys orbiting her will have made something of herself.

She will eventually become disgusted with you and only look down on you for even being willing to help her in such a pathetic state.

It's a comforting notion but I think it's better to try and sort your own shit out to a reasonable degree first. If you put two broken people together more often than not you hold each other back rather than elevate one another. If one of you makes some progress that the other hasn't, the latter will get resentful and things will get more and more toxic.

fucking moron everyone here has a doctorate in what ever they are talking about. U gotta be high iq to browse Sup Forums tbh...

do not enter into long-term relationships with depressed people. Once they're out of their parents care they'll turn you into their parent. and if they haven't found the anti-depressant that works for them, good luck. you'll basically have to rape your wife if you ever want to have sex with her because most anti-depressants kill your libido. This is different for teens and really young adults because they're hormones make them horny regardless, but once most of puberty is over, anti-depressants are relationship killers via making your bitch not want to fuck you anymore.

Guys op here as i mentioned before why the fuck you cant read shit up? Even tho its gonna be a nasty destructive trip for both. Atleast i get the chance to have unbelievable good sex and that will satisfy my intentions after all why the fuck you wont understand? Sure meanwhile my balls recharge i do act as im the caretaker and daddy and listener whatever but the real reward is gonna be wild unprotected sex with my dick in all her holes. That saturates the whole goddam relationship for me ok?

>they just want attention

Duh. And they're willing to trade sex to get it dumbass

universities, hospitality, extra rare pepes if online/gaming

True story. Girl has PTSD and depression from being raped as kid/teen. Takes anti-depressants to feel stable an find relationship.
Get relationship an partner wants sex. Anti's kill her sex drive - partner explains he sees no benefits in this relationship without sex. Off her Anti's she has flashbacks and ruins sex experience for both - on antis she ruins sex for partner by being completely not into it. Break it off with girl - the twist - she's crazy and accuses you of rape, has documentation of history from childhood rape with shrink. Either go to court for it or continue relationship and become essentially their parent.

I thought the same thing, but it's not as simple as it looks. It's tolling and you need a shit ton of patience to deal with they're fucked up psyche. I wish you the best but I don't really think you know what you're getting yourself into.

Thanks for the advice

look in the mirror u faggot

Must've been a good time of year. When I went all we had was some ugly land whales, old people and drug addicts

in your head, mate
in your little silly head, full of fantasies like that. I bet that when you save the kingdom from the mighty dragon, just as prophecy has told, your innocent princess will find you momentarily

Were you raped as a child?

Just hang out around state sponsored orphanages or other institutions and wait for girls who have aged-out of foster care.

That's not how it works.
What happens is they get better then dump or cheat on you when they realize they can do better.

i WANNA FUCK VAGENE

Just do it. When an emotion comes up, embrace it. Everything u need to know can be found in "the power of now". And stay sober

You'll just make yourself miserable and someone else miserable/even more miserable than they already are.

no.

actually just go on any dating website, look for camera angles that don't show anything but an eye and a cheek or something. worked for me every time

/r9k/

>im bipolar

Good luck anons

with the top off preferably.