Bored Bdsm instructor. I like answer Sup Forumsastards and degenerates questions...

Bored Bdsm instructor. I like answer Sup Forumsastards and degenerates questions.So ask me anything in regards to sex and BDSM.

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youtube.com/watch?v=XcU6-Fr6fiA
youtube.com/channel/UCM5WPHGRarPW3XtKgzNFYvg/videos
youtube.com/user/CrashRestraint/videos
youtube.com/user/ShibariShamster/videos
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Where do you teach your "classes"?

mostly at local dungeons and sometimes I private lessons for couples or groups at a house.

>local dungeons
kek is it right next to the Costco and McDonald.

Chick wants to be a sub.
I'm not a dom by any means, quintessential nice guy material...asking permissions and such.

How do you go about being someone's dom when they are more sexual experienced, and you're not sure if that's your roll or kink anyways?

dungeons are often in warehouse districts or in other secluded parts of a city. It's almost a guarantee that if you live in a major city like Seattle, LA or NY that there is a dungeon near by

Most specificially being choked, and being controlled?

In could probably fake some dominance but the choking part scares the shit out of me too.
The few times I've seen choking in porn my dick starts questioning it's hardness and I start wondering wtf is wrong with this dude...

being a dom isn't a set behavior. to be a dom is to be comfortable with having power over someone. What you do with that power is up to you and your sub. asking for permission is always a good thing to do;especially when you're just starting out.

talk with each other about both of your desires and find common ground. When you are about to do a scene. talk before to make sure your on the same page and after to get feedback.

It's not going to be perfect the first time so don't feel like you need to be her dream dom. If you both put efforts towards this then you will make it work.

If I only feed my slave canned dog food over the course of months and years, will she be able to get all the essential vitamins and nutrients?

everyone has there own spin on dominance. It just takes time and practice.

as for choking look up martial art videos on choke. essentially you want to have her adam apple in the pit of your elbow. from there you can squeeze your arm together slowly. you can also prop her up by bending backwardswhile holding her in starting position.

This will restrict blood flow and not air which is important. A good sign for enough is tapping on the arm or shoulder when she has had enough.

My gf is a definite sub. Sometimes when I'm shitfaced I do mild dom shit. Telling her if she masturbates she's gonna be punished, if she mouths off, I'm gonna fuck her in the ass.

TBO I'm not really into it. I'm dominant by default in sex, always have been, but ordering my gf around doesn't really arouse me anymore than I'd normally be. She'll do what I say whether I'm engaging in a dom/sub relationship or not, and all I care is that she doesn't act like a cunt.

Yesterday, she was like, "I'm sorry daddy, I've been bad I spilled a coke on the floor when you weren't here and didn't tell you. Do you want me to eat your ass?"

I don't even live with her, and I don't want her eating my ass. It's hairy and gross and I don't want her mouth anywhere fucking near it. The thought of her eating the dried shit on my asshairs doesn't turn me on.

She does whatever I say basically, but the whole taking orders thing just doesn't do it for me. We have great sex, like really great. But I can def tell she wants me to engage in this and I just don't care about it.

BDSM just doesn't interest me, never has. I don't get off on the dom/sub relationship because every woman I've ever been with has done whatever I said regardless, and I've never felt pleasure in setting up some weird set of rules or anything.

Do you think I'm going to hurt my relationship with my girl if I don't start acting on this?

depends on what she's into. she has a nice frame so wax play would be fun things to do on her. she seems to like restraints and sensory deprivation so maybe shibari and some temperature play.

Best way to find a domi lady in my city?

Thanks!
Makes sense talk it out before/after so I'm not ruining the scene asking questions.
And don't cut off the oxygen.

join fetlife and go to a munch.
if your between 18-35 then check out your town's TNG group. They usually have a munch and sometimes play parties. Be respecful but honest about what you want to find in the community and you'll most likely be guided in the right direction.

as a sub you should go at a slow pace because a lot of dommes are into turn and burning the newbies. know how to say no when you feel uncomfortable and know your limits.

(good advice for subs in general)

don't choke her for long either. probably obvious but better safe than sorry.

so your GF is kinkier than you in some regards.

do you have any kinks at all besides dom/sub. BDSM may seem like dom/subs but it really encompasses anything where a persons does something to someone else.

for instance you impact, wax, spankings, orgasm control, shibari, knife play, snsation play, temperature play, master/slave, humiliation, fire, slut training, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc. I feel like most people have something kinky about themselves.

TBH your GF seems like she's into sexual humiliation, and slut training.

What if my fantasy is to tie up and spank and fuck the female dom?

Forsure, I have the distinct feeling she'll be holding my hands around her neck well after I would have stopped.

Oh and when you said wax to some user, got me remembering that shit is neat if she wants to trade off.
But then she'd Wana tickle me, fml.

then your a bratty switch and your female dom is into power exchange.

yea wax play is pretty fun. just make sure you have paraffin candles and a bed sheet you don't want anymore to catch all the wax when you remove it.

applying coconut oil before pouring the wax will make removal a whole lot easier and cleaner.

what is opinion on male subs?

I've been all over the world, done a lot of that stuff. Never did it for me. So I suppose you're right.

I've heard slut training but never really looked into it. Where do I start?

Forgive my ignorance but what is a bratty switch? Never heard that one before.

same thing as female subs. Nothing different about them except one has a dick and the other has a pussy and tits.

what the hell is a bdsm instructor?
do you give lessons on beating the shit out of retards?

you gotta mix wet and dry user

I'm this guy

If I'm feeling it, I go for anal or make them beg. I can't say I'm into really anything outlandish. I'll eat her ass if I'm superdrunk, but it's not something that gives me a hardon thinking about afterwards. I'm into sex for the purely physical aspect, and I'm pretty good at that. She gets hers, and I can go for hours if I'm feeling like it.

I dunno, maybe it'd be more fun if I give her what she wants. No harm in trying, I suppose.

>paraffin candles
Specific reasoning in paraffin over beeswax or soy candles?
>coconut oil
Even the prep is arousing, sweet!

How do I find a local dungeon?
My GF and I want to hang out with some people and go to shows/classes

you take a slut and you gradually objectify the hell out of them. talk to her about being trained into a personal fucktoy and if she's up for her then get that bitch some clear 6 inch heels and fuck her how you want.

again make sure you tell her exactly how you want to treat her and find common ground before doing anything. then take to her afterwards to see how she feels. also after care is usually a good thing to do after doing humiliation based scenes.

after care?

a brat is someone who like to be dominated but doesn't like to show signs of submission. Essentially a brat is a tsundere. a switch is someone who likes to be dominate and to dominate others.

mix the two together and you get a bratty switch.

I am not OP, but try this test. It will also explain a lot about each of the kinks.

bdsmtest.org/

yea pretty much minus the retard part. it's mostly technical based with a demonstration to showcase the skill. sometimes it's done in a workshop format where people mimic what I'm doing and learn the basics.

so for instance I was teaching an impact class a week ago. I showed people how to use a flogger, use a cane, and even how to use whips without breaking or leaving marks.

I don't sub. I like a chick that will sub for me but I like the idea of fucking a female dom because to me seems like they wouldn't like it as much. Which makes it seem even more enjoyable for me.

Not OP.
It is what you do after a session to make them come back into the present. Usually tenderly spooning them for me, and saying nice things. Not sure how a pro does it though.

lower melting point and harder to burn your partner with the wax.

AVOID BEESWAX. that shit will cause some damage.

oh. normally she gets up and brings food and something to drink after sex.

i dunno if i wanna give that up.

My wife is coming home soon and wants me to tie her up.

Whats some normie tier shit I can do to her, so I can get back to retro gaming.

if you don't like the physical part about it then focus on the mental and emotional aspects.

Think of it like dancing. you can bump and grind all night but you can also dance slowly and listen to your partners body language and do some really awesome intimate things.

for me I like BDSM because of the intimacy with my close trusted partner.

what state do you live in? I can find the nearest dungeon for you.

Why do you think BDSM exists, and do you consider it counter-productive?

pretty much what you said. just indulge your partner and reassure them they are in a safe place.

op here

that's aftercare.

Awright. Nothing like the feel of something new.

Any advice on introductions to it? I'm sure she'll be down for whatevs, but what'd be a good starting point? Just get her some whorish clothes/accessories and give some sort of slut training talk?

don't tie someone up if you're going to leave them alone for a long period of time. shibari is dangerous and can lead to nerve damage if you're careless.

Good to know, I'll leave beeswax for ambience.

Last one, I'm easily and hatefully ticklish, she wants to tease that hard. Would forcing myself to be ok with it as her sub help to end the ticklishness or break me?

why does it exists? same reason why every other recreational activity exists. people got bored and decided to do something different.

what do you mean by counter productive?

Southwest Florida, USA around the Naples area

talk to her not me. if she as slutty as she sounds she probably has a few ideas on how to look slutty for you. If you have some ideas on what would look good on her then talk to her about it.

for me nothing is sexier then a schoolgirl outfit. not the stuff you buy at a sex shop. I'm talking about legit plaid skirt and a oxford shirt.

if you don't find any enjoyment out of it or see any benefit then tell her it's a limit of yours. if you want to compromise then test out the idea of using it as a punishment only but with small doses.

Similar to previous user, gf is 100% sub and I've been trying to be more dom to satisfy her despite my total lack of interest. She really likes rope. Are there any good books/online resources you could recommend for learning the ties and stuff? Couldn't find much helpful info online. Did plenty of knots in scouts long ago so not a total rope virgin.

make a profile on fetlife and once you made it go to this link fetlife.com/groups/1338/group_posts/11785893

you probably have better luck in miami since it's a bigger city than where you live.

What's your best tip to make someone reach subspace?

Well, xmas is coming up, I've got a few weeks. Figured I'd get her something and make her wear it. Might be a start, right?

Thanks for the advice, Sup Forumsrotha. I'll take it to heart. Take care man.

believe it or not youtube is a pretty good resource for this.

here's a video on what you need to get for shibari.
youtube.com/watch?v=XcU6-Fr6fiA

Here are a couple of channels that teaches ties.
youtube.com/channel/UCM5WPHGRarPW3XtKgzNFYvg/videos

youtube.com/user/CrashRestraint/videos

youtube.com/user/ShibariShamster/videos

>TBO

that moment when you just spelled 'honest' 'onest'

>join fetlife

its 90% dudes 10% grannies

lol, i think i'm making 'onest a thing.

Everyone has a different thing that makes them subby but it's not a thing you should aim for when playing. just because you made someone go into a subspace mindset doesn't mean you did a good job.

It just means you made their mind a bit foggy from all the endorphin and adrenaline rushing through their body.

Unless that's what the Sub wants and in which case you should ask them for information about what makes them go into that head space.

Fucking lost the thread, thanks again.
Nah I fucking HATE being tickled, and only slightly considering letting her do it for her enjoyment, so maybe minor punishment.

Opinion on switches. In general and in the same relationship

Oh And CheckIn Trips.
Lastly the op pic is fucking spectacular.

I wouldn't say it's 90%. more like 40/60 female to male and 45/55 18-35 to the rest. a lot of women don't make female profiles but fake male ones to be left alone from creepers. They do it just so they get info on what events to go to around town.

people at events are usually respectful either out of being polite or out of fear that if they act like a tool then people will be more then willing to call them out on it.

they are people. whether they mesh or not isn't really based on there roles but on their commitment to each other.

A good and stable relationship isn't dictated by their labels but by the chemistry between them.

Join fetlife you can find events from there

Kinkiest thing you have ever done?

are you on Fetlife?

I've got a few questions but I'd rather ask them there..

thanks either way.

Do girls like to fuck guys with strap ons?

hmm, This happened at a play party at dungeon. I had my at the time GF tied up in a partial suspension where she was on the balls of her feet at ll times. I did some heavy flogging, whipping, spanking on her tits and ass. slapped her face a couple of times to get her to focus. Some really basic stuff for us.

Tonight was a bit different. she usually doesn't like public sex and humiliation but she begged me to do it. I soon found out that a guy was bothering her all night about playing and she wanted me to claim her in front of him.

Me being the exhibitionist I am didn't skip a beat and ripped her clothes off. all that was left was tattered rags pinched by the rope. I adjusted the rope so she could get on her knees to suck me off. She took a quick glance at the guy and started to go down on me.

after a while I took the ropes off and bended her over one of the spanking benches and made her face him. she was moaning loudly and pushing her ass towards me whenever I thrust into her. She was talking about how she was my personal cum slut and no one can fuck her but me.

The guy looked so dejected but I kind of like humiliation so I played along. grabbed a belt out of my toy bag and tied it around her hips loosly enough where I can pull her in with my arm. She started to cum and loose herself in the moment.

after she came multiple times we came together and I filled her to the brim. She falls onto the bench and he pussy is dripping with cum. I rotated the bench so that her dripping pussy was facing the now fairly large crowd and looked at the guy for a couple of seconds before starting to clean up our play space.

yes but not everyone. in my experience women would be more willing to try anal if they can do it to men as well. It's not a guarantee but it's a trend I see a bit.

ask here. no offense but I don't really trust Sup Forums with anything personal information wise. Weaponize autism is too real of a threat.

TL;DR
OP cucked a bitch boi.

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Fuckin A, here we are getting lessons and this obvious question was yet to be asked.
Good for you op, fuck that random trying to get up on your play things.