Sup Forumsaww thread? Anyone ever gotten their GF back after a break up...

Sup Forumsaww thread? Anyone ever gotten their GF back after a break up? I keep trying to forget about her as it's been about 8 months but I can't let her go. She's already dating someone else which makes things worse.

Yes, it was the worst mistake of my life,... Run and don't look back.

She moved on, you need to also

How do I start to forget about her? We dated since highschool and we were each other's first everything. I really hate seeing her with someone else while I'm wallowing

Remember the bad stuff. When relationships end sometimes only the good is remembered and the person is idolized. It's all a fantasy of what could have been. When u think about her, remember a fight or an annoying habit she had. Over time it helps. Then you can let go by telling yourself you want her to be happy and that u want happiness too and u can make memories with a new girl

Yeah I guess that could work. I just hate knowing I could have actually fixed things. I threw away an amazing girl all for 3 years of smoking weed and doing nothing.

Been about a little over a year for me dude.

I hear it's kinda hard to get your gf back. If it ended on a bad enough note it's a good possibility even if you did by some slim chance get her back, she wouldn't be the same.

You'd have to weigh the details of the break, who broke up with who.

I'd say save yourself the trouble and have some self respect. If it didn't work out the first time lots of times it won't a second or third.

People psychotically break up and get back together with each other for years and until drastic mutual changes are made that can be made by mature adults that can truly be honest with each other, you're going to be fighting a one sided battle.

I am sorry that this happened to you OP. I am in the exact same boat as you but I keep telling myself that (in my situation at least) the person that I loved isn't there anymore. She moved on a long time before we had broken up which is what started my shit. And that person will never come back no matter how much I wish that could be.

For now all you can do is be kind to yourself. I won't promise you that you'll forget but as time goes on it gets more bearable and eventually maybe by some miracle or something, we'll find not someone, but something that will be there long enough to distract you from something that is gone now.

I hope for your sake it happens sooner than later. I love yah Sup Forumsro. Stay strong, don't be a dumbass and keep fighting for yourself. Sometimes that's all you get to do. You'll be a stronger person for it.

"...but you will learn that their memories are heavier, BUT... carrying them will make you stronger."

Well just be better for the next girl. U need to forgive yourself...hardest thing for someone to do

Wow thanks man. Crazy how this place can be good for advice. Ever since we broke up I've been trying to better myself but I still have some days where I get really down and just want to end it all. I tried to kill myself twice a few months after we broke up. She's blocked me pretty much everywhere :/ at least I'm a lot better looking than her new BF

I still think about a girl from 8 years ago. Guys always have the one that got away. The one where there was so much potential. The one where it ended for reasons that lend itself more to a coincidence than a failure. The one that could have, would have, should have been but wasn't.

Absolutely.

I won't say "suicide isn't the answer," because people deal with shit differently. I won't endorse it but just consider other things.

That's all you can do. Take care of yourself OP. It's easy enough to become complacent and let yourself get a rut but now more than ever is the time for you to be "nice" to yourself. Even if you feel like shit. Just do reasonably good things to help you find some self worth in all of this.

Sacrificing that self worth is the worst thing you can do and it's nothing that you owe her. I don't know your situation fully man but know that regardless of who did what or how things turned out, you now have a responsibility for yourself and your own happiness, not hers and she doesn't have it for you either.

It's a real hard thing to let go but remember that you don't have to fight for her anymore. You are fighting for yourself and every damn day you get out of bed and do whatever your responsibilities are or make whatever tiny little progressions, you're one step closer to being better.

That is an accomplishment. It's never a fully gratifying one but always remind yourself that you can do this, even if you have to do it on your own, you can be strong enough to look out and see a future without her there.

Anything after that is your business, not hers or anyone else's.

It will always be hard but you can make it. You can choose to be a better person and to do the things you know you need to in order to move even a little bit closer to some sort of satisfaction in all of this.

Be safe OP, and be kind to yourself. Always work towards bettering you and in time maybe something better will come your way, either it's something you'll find that'll distract you from some of your regrets in this situation or maybe it will be someone new.

Just try whatever it takes for you to do that. Stay strong man.

Honestly guys just won't what are my odds with girls? I used to be very confident but over the last few years have lost almost all self esteem. I don't think I'm ugly but it's been hard trying to meet girls now.

Honestly depends on the type of chick you're goin after bro.

You look like a normie (if that shit isn't some random selfie you pulled from the internets lol).

Just be honest with yourself. There's some things about confidence that I won't even try to preach to you cause I can barely muster up my beta senses to go to work. This is the last place you wanna go to to ask for people to be "honest about your looks."

I say just keep doing whatever you need to in order to boost your self esteem. Go to the gym, take a fighting class or something, get involved with some new program or something or learn how to paint or build something.

Remember your self esteem is reliant on YOU because it's SELF.

Your self actualization and realization is dependent on how well you value yourself and should not be dependent on what other people think of you. So unless you know you're a calvin klein model or have the body of a greek god, I wouldn't go asking, because it's never going to be gratifying enough to boost your confidence.

Thanks man. I was having a lot of trouble trying to work tonight because of my depression. Though about hanging myself in the bathroom here.

PS dude, something I hard to learn too. You're going to constantly be looking at yourself and comparing yourself to your Ex's new boyfriend. Don't do that shit. You can definitely use it to drive yourself to be a better person but be cautious with it but be realistic. Your ex is dating this new guy for a reason and it's very likely he has some very scarily similar traits that you have.

Keep in mind though that those traits will be "better" in her eyes though. But remember no matter how much of a "better" light she sees this new guy in, you are still you and that's all you can really be for now. So make the improvements you need to, if it means you get your teeth cleaned or a new haircut or new wardrobe just find something you think you can and improve on it because YOU need it. Not because you think it'll make you more appealing to your ex.

Again it's been a little over a year since she broke up with me and I've made lots of improvements to myself since and not because she would have wanted me to but because I know I need those things in order to find some form of self worth at this point.

For you it's going to be about finding some sort of self confidence. & don't be afraid to be alone, sometimes that's another hard aspect to get over. Don't rush into a new relationship just cause "she got over you so quick," or "she found someone super quick." (Trust me if you look around, girls always have a backup guy just waiting around the corner to suck their dick after their current relationship trashes).

I don't know the available options for you but take it slow and don't jump back into something because if you don't give yourself enough time to heal, you won't be able to give your all to the next person that you're with. And that's not fair to them.

Let it go, try to improve yourself, act like you do it to get her back. Sadness will turn to hate, will turn to indifference. My "gf" and I both do it, but I'll move out next year anyway, I guess. Thought I'd have her for considerably longer. Tough fucking luck :^)

Sorry to hear that dude. Again I won't endorse suicide but I won't tell you to not do it either.

I think you just need some time to heal. And time is scarce in hindsight. I'm told it can take many many many years before you're truly over someone. I don't mean to scare you but realize that if you do decide not to kill yourself, you will be in this for a long haul. Prepare yourself for that. Have a contingency plan for being alone.

Be safe though above everything else though and always love yourself first.

I don't have a snowball's chance in hell to find someone else, and it does get hard when I think about that in a long term sense. But I know I can do that because (mostly because I'm too chickenshit to off myself) I know that I can do this.

I was doing just fine before I met my ex and I will be fine after the fact. I'm just a little damaged but I have the strength to be brave enough to do this without her and to try to find some kind of worth in myself that I don't want to kill myself. Try and do the same.

This ^

Yeah it just happened so suddenly. No buildup,no signs, had just took a little vacation the month before. I hate her and still love her. I don't think she had a "backup" or anything. She was always kind of a wallflower personality and was awkward. I think I broke her out of her she'll and now she's a lot more confident

That's fine, and going forward know that anything she does isn't your business. But the same can be said for her.

My ex was texting me several times after we broke up and I ignored every single one of those texts because I knew I was only feeding her shallow sense of "loyalty" that she liked to think that she had. I'm sure if we had a conversation now she would (in her own immature, idealistic mind) would tell you that "oh yeah I loved him so much!"

And that's not true. It's very cynical to say it like that but it's not. If she really did love me and cared for me, she would have either stayed with me even despite our relationship's hardships (there's a whole story I'll spare with that; lots of familial relationship shit that should NOT have been an issue but was somehow), or she would have broken up with me instead of dragging things out until she was comfortable enough to do so with whatever "backup" she was seeking. (She started dating someone during our "break" after she told me that we would be able to work things out).

I won't shit talk your ex, but know that women don't have the same ideas of loyalty that guys do. And we can talk to high heaven about how that's "sexist" but it's true. There's a reason guys seem to have better friendships than women do. And not that ALL women are the same in having a "backstabbing" or "flaccid" mentality when it comes to relationships, but just know that it's very likely she was already being hit on or was connecting with someone towards the end of your dating. (continuing below)

And it's sad, but sometimes true and the only thing that will help you get over this situation. That's one of the things I've been looking to with my ex to try and get over her. She wasn't loyal or loving towards me, because again we'd have worked it out otherwise.

Don't put your ex on a pedestal or try to rationalize her side of things because again, it's not your business to do so anymore. You have no connection or responsibilities to her at this time other than "memories" of a person who no longer exists.

Yes.
You think you want it, but you don't.
There is a reason you broke up.

Everyone in here is just a pessimistic faggot do not listen to them they're all just fucking failures who want to mope to seem experienced.

Maybe I'm just jealous idk really but I look her up a few times a week and it doesn't really help at all. It's so terrible because the break up was easy for her. I was already depressed while we were togetherness but when she left I really went off the deep end. I've bass had no social contact with anyone aside from my best friends

^(You)

This isn't even about being alpha what the fuck but all of you are such namby pamby jack-offs.
This isn't fucking productive, you're dumb for feeding into this melodramatic bullshit.
And the fact you think even the slightest hint of confidence renders me a wannabe-alpha just shows how fucking pathetic you've let yourself become.

Reconnected about2 months ago. She stopped replying to my texts a week ago, no reason given. Even completely deactivated her face book page. I got us tickets to see Star Wars at 6pm on thursday. Gonna wait for her in the lobby to see if by some miracle she shows up. If not I'm planning on killing myself the next morning.

She broke up with you in her mind months before actually doing so. That's why it was easier for her.

Jealousy is something you'll need to work on. Again, you're attributing a lot of your "I wish I still had her," to the a person who isn't there.

The person you want back is the person who used to love you and only see you. But that person who did that no longer loves you (in the way you'd want her to) and has already gone on. Even if you did get her back you'd probably only get back a different person.

You're probably a different person now too. Even though it doesn't seem like it 8 months is a long time and lots of shit can happen.

Again, remember that unless you've got some kind of amazing situation to overturn what broke your relationship in the first place (sorry OP, you wouldn't be on Sup Forums looking to wallow in your sorrow), you're not going to get back any semblance of a relationship with this chick. Just cut your losses.

If you want to be a sentimental junkie you can cherish the fact that you made it out alive and can continue to make the choice to not betray YOURSELF and try to do something cringy by trying to get back with someone who clearly does not want to be with you.

Be stronger than that man.

She couldn't make a choice for you to be happy or content and she won't be even if you can somehow miraculously get back together with her.

Make the choice to improve yourself and to feel better. I won't promise you happiness but seek contentment in yourself and find something for you to hold onto. And everytime you start to think about her again just try to think about this shit and the fact that she's not here with you for a reason. You are the only one who can be.

I have to take off for the evening but I do hope you the best op. I know how much it hurts and I really wish there was something else I could say to take away your pain. But do your best. The rest will come later I'm sure. Keep fighting the good fight. Stay strong.

I know. It's a really fucked up thing to do to someone. Just wish she would have communicated but I guess that's too hard. We never really sat down and talked things over. I honestly just got so lazy and unmotivated. Surprised she stayed as long as she did. I miss her a lot

You're typing this as you're stuck in your cardboard box out side of Denny's, more "alpha" is definitely a word I'd use to describe you dude.

Dude why the fuck are you so defensive about staying miserable.

Your personally is what matters, an ugly confident fuck could get with the girl of your dreams just because the way he carries himself not because how he looks.

Does anyone wanna see her? I don't have nudes anymore unfortunately.I really wish I did though she had a huge ass

You need an easy uggo to scrub your feeling chamber. The ugly chick will do whatever you want and treat you like gold. Then, keep her as a real girlfriend or set out to find someone else.

Why are you so defensive at someone calling you out on being a homless fucko who somehow has access to the internet? Did you break into the public library so you could snap one off to pornhub?

I'm better than you dude. The hilarious thing is is that because you think you're more "alpha" than I am, makes me better than you by default because you're still a dumpster jockey slumming off the government acting like you don't have an extra 150 lbs on your bacon grilled back and your parents don't occasionally give you a few bucks for mcdonalds when you go crying back to them cause you wasted the majority of your schooling years humping your palms.

Is this is a fucking metaphor what the hell I don't get it. I never even brought up alpha. What the fuck you're retarded.

Yeah one of the hardest things has been no sexy. I hate dealing with tinder though. Guess I'll just have to get over it

Dude this kid can't even read.

Thank you for proving my point. I'll always be better than you either way man. Thanks!

I don't even know who you are and you just fabricated this weird fucking story about who you think I am. I can read fine it's just nothing you said was particularly interesting so I kinda faded out halfway through.

I fucked up bad...
I have this secret "relationship" with the girl i love, and everything was going great. Then this weekend we didn't have any plans, so i let my bros convince me to go to a drinking trip to another city.

I forgot to call her about this though, and now she's pretty fucking upset.
Sucks, because she's the first one i genuinely care about.
She cancelled all plans we've had and i have no idea how to calm her.

If i lose this woman i'll be so fucking sad...

Just do your best to show her you still care and appreciate her. Wish I would have done that when I was with my ex

OP don't be a dumbass. Girls are stupid and there are billions of them. You're still attached to her because of chemical and psychological reasons. If you spend enough time with someone you get a chemical addiction from routines with that person. You're going through withdraws like a drug. Just go work out and sweat everything out of you. The psychological part comes from the fact that you never grew up and learned how to cope with shit like a man. Next time you see your ex just fart and pretend like you don't recognize her. This might sound like bullshit but its the best advice you'll ever get

Appreciate the advice. I've never had to deal with a breakup before so I got hit pretty hard. I thought forsure we we're gonna get married