How do you recover from being a neet? I've really been wanting to improve my life but I can't figure out how to fix it all.
All the people I knew in the past are getting married and having careers and here I am bout to be 24 and haven't had a job or even a real life friend in years. I'm starting to gain weight and be unhealthy and not sure how to stop it now before it becomes even worse
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Get a job, you have to start somewhere
Real answer from a reformed neet who has a good job and career. One of the problems about being a neet is you're too comfortable in your environment. Some neets talk about stories where someone threw them out of their home which would make them uncomfortable and then have to do something to change their lives. You don't have to go through that, but you have to do something that makes you a little uncomfortable everyday. I was scared of social situations so I forced myself to go out of the house at least an 1 hr a day. Most of the time I sat in a park or mall with my laptop playing games, but when I started to feel more comfortable I made another goal, then another to get me to be more social.
Push ups and sit ups daily. If men have conquered nations, you can conquer a job. These are stepping stones to a career and a female.
You just have to start. There's not other way. Hit the gym, eat healthy and start applying for the jobs. Either it's gonna be one day, or day one... it's up to you.
That's what I've been trying for a while. Originally I was super picky and wanted interesting jobs or jobs that wouldn't have me dealing with people. Stuff like warehouse/stocking. Then once that didn't work out I said fuck it I'll go back to cashier even though I hated it, still no one replied to my job applications. Tomorrow I'm gonna start going for as low as I can get and doing fast food the one thing I swore to never do in my life.
I'm losing even what lil bit of pride I had to try and fix this.
Dubs on dubs
...what's a "neet"? But yeah, just turned 24 here, had 2 actual jobs, at a gas station..meh. and moved out of parents house and got a serving job at bar and grill, was hard.. had to be a busser for a while, but just made about 400 last two days.. gotta work and grind before making real money. And was super anti social before working.. did NOTHING. But met people working and helped with the socialization... honestly getting a job with nice welcoming people will help most! :)
Fuck. Dubs on dubs on dubs.
GTFO
Learn a trade! Coding is a common one, and it's pretty good since most people will hire self-taught coders.
Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. I know it's tough, but I also know you can do it! You'll do great!
Best wishes.
Your a bum not a neet stop trying to make being a loser sound fancy
I can't.
Don't lose hope, user. I'm 5 years older than you and only recently got my shit together. I wish I could explain how; but it just sort of happened. I was a shut-in for years and all of a sudden I just felt the urge to start living some kind of life. Finally got myself a job, moved out of my parents house and will start at university next semester.
It was so much less impossible than it seemed before I started. I promise you if I can do it you can, I was an entirely non-functional piece of shit for longer than you've been an adult. Feels good man. Don't even dwell on the wasted time anymore, just feel excited about the future.
I feel your pain.. at least we aren't fucking NEETs
But thats the thing everyone makes it seem so easy. Just get a job, i've been trying so long, filled out hundreds of apps, and still nothing. Is america that fucked or am I just that fucked and unlucky.
I suggest janitorial/cleaning jobs. There should be many in your local craigslist. Most of them require "experience", but just lie (and continue reading). At 23/24 virtually all employers will auto-reject you if you have no work experience because they don't want someone to quit after 2 days without telling them and cost them a client. Cleaning companies usually don't do background searches, drug screening, or actual job references. They are just looking for someone who isn't a fat woman or a junkie; someone who can show up every day.
If you are paranoid to lie about previous work history, get a family member with a job to agree to be a job reference. A fool-proof method is to get them to tell any potential employer who calls that you were basically a 3rd party IT guy. When your family member, or one of their associates had a problem with their computers, laptops, browsers, ect, you would help them fix it for a small fee. You're basically self employed on a very basic scale. As a neet you should have the basic google skills needed to help mommy with her tablet, ect.
As for interviews: just don't be a complete retard. Don't agree instantly to everything they say. Bring a notepad and a pen and write down every important bit of info such as job location, hours, pay, ect. If you are uncertain of a job's location, or your transport hours to such a location, be honest and communicate that. As long as you can tolerate that actual work, tell them that and if you are uncertain of other factors such as job site location, inform them that you'll get back to them after you get home and hash things out (google maps heh).
Cleaning companies lose employees 2-3 times a weeks because they are desperate and hire addicts and fat chicks who can't even show up everyday. If you can show up everyday you have the competition beat.
Lurk moar
For me psychology really helped, if you can find a good psych and are willing to put in the time, effort and money, it can really change your life.
Ignore this shit. To get a job coding requires at least 5 years of intensive research and practice. Who the fuck hires a "self-taught coder" with 0 experience? You'd have to do your own startup which is impossible as a neet.
i feel you man, life is such a hassle, i dont know about you but i dont really like anything about this world and i wish i was never even born, getting a job or qualifications feels so pointless when you dont even want to be alive. I mean i can probably try learning a trade, getting a job, moving out and all that crap but at end of the day im still gona hate myself and everything around me, but im planning to kill myself in a few years so it probably would be good to move out so my mom doesnt have to be the one who finds my corpse
My nigglet, do yourself a favour and study something in IT such as software engineer. Thank me in four years when you in 6 figures and actually.make friends who like gaming and doing cool nerd shit. Then the womans will come or you could just buy one from the phillipines
I mean I tried college for coding and while I didn't fail my courses, I knew I could never do that full time as I was struggling. Had to end up dropping out cause I couldn't pay for the second semester cause it was too expensive
So yeah not gonna learn coding anytime soon, I mean I have a small dream of just wanting to be a pilot and even that cost 50k from what I've searched up.
Naw I'm not suicidal, quite the opposite in fact hence me trying to improve my life. It just feels like I was dealt 2-7 offsuit in poker while everyone else is being dealt at least a straight if not a royale flush.
Evolving from neetdom is possible for everyone. It takes time and dedicaction, don't expect change to happen over night.
Your aim is to slowly change your weird, disgusting or useless habits and hobbies to socially relevant ones.
First of all you need to get in shape, its great for mental health and motivation. DOn't overdo it in the beginning, but a Chad amount of exercise is about 10 hours every week, you need to aim for that.
Healthy habits are good. Don't do drugs, limit alcohol intake to one drink an hour, never drink outside of social events, don't smoke.
Dress well. Improve your wardrobe, it takes time, money and experience but its not out of reach. If you shop at a not too shitty store the vendors can actually help you find something fitting.
You also have to replace useless habits like vidya and porn with healthy ones.
Cooking and reading are a good start.
Once you have build up your appearance and self confidence it should be possible for you to not stutter as soon as you open your mouth and to land a job
You don't have to be a full time anything if you don't want to. Without a fat bitch and children, you can literally live very well flipping burgers part time if you have the discipline to budget.
I'm 20, I noticed my anti-social and neetish tendencies when I was 18, so I forced myself to study, I have a certifications in IT and Cooking.
I'm trying to get my license and I start studying again early next year.
Even now I have problems interacting with people, I'm not as capable as others when it comes to holding conversations but that's alright, I don't need to be perfect.
I'm also currently looking for a job and contemplating getting fit (It's a lot of work and commitment and I'm lazy as all hell)
So yes, it's possible to change even if you are still at heart an autistic lazy asshole.
>live very well flipping burgers part time
Spoken like a true wage slave. Whens the last time you went on a real vacation there bud? Bet you live off food stamps and pretend you're "budgeting" well.
Do what I do and lie on your application. Half my resume/job history is made up. Now I work in a hospital, making almost 20 an hour. Never lie in a skill set you can't back up with actual work.
good luck OP
Ignore this gay shit as well. As a neet with no job experience, the only thing you should focus on is getting a basic income, part time or full time, depending on your tolerance. You don't have to explode out of your parents house the instant you get a job and immedietely dedicate your life to lifting.
same thing happened to me, im now 31 though.
luckily i invested in bitcoin and became a multimillionaire. not even sure how taxes work but i bought a giant house and a car i cant even drive properly. i just sit here all day and order food / masturbate.
Everyday is a vacation for the part time worker. I make $150 a day working 5.5 hours a day. But if a real vacation means taking 2 weeks off to travel, no I can't do that with my current job.
Food stamps aren't a thing for males anymore you ignorant daddy's boy. Its single mothers only.
I put away 1.3k every month into my raw savings with basic budgeting. I'm not shiny or anything, but it would take like 20 years of non-employment at this point to fuck me over.
I mean I say I'm starting to gainw eight but I think thats just part of my living style. While I have food I don't eat and when I do its too much. I stopped having soda and sweets but I drink way too much alcohol. I weight probably around 198~ but I'm only 5'10 so I should weigh around 30 lbs less than that. Thats my goal since apparently I can get no where without at least a job, online applications aren't working so I figured I'd go to every place I can walk to within reason and apply. I doubt many people are hiring this time of year though.
What makes it worse is I have 1 year of job expiernce in retail but it was back in 2012-2013 and still no one will hire me. Meanwhile my neighbor is a 19 yr old with 2 jobs and a fucking 6 pack, hes everything I could be but I'm not.
This.
Listen to this user..
yea some poeple happen to live where local jobs are always hiring, but there are a lot of places where its fucking damn near impossible to find an aopen spot just cashiering groceries or something
This worked for me.
>I make $27 an hour flipping burgers guys rly!!!!
>I think only mothers are eligible for food stamps
You know you need to be at least 18 to be here, right? What are you, 12? 13?
Yeah a big gap in employment history is just as bad as no employment history. And since you are struggling with alcohol I really recommend a part-time job search because you will probably hit the bottle after work, at least until you get used to wage-cuckery. You'll need the extra sleep to wake up in better condition.
Your diet sounds like mine after I cut out soda and sugar. Infact eating sugar now-a-days almost always makes me have to take a nap, which sucks ass. I'm 5'11 and 158 pounds. I work about 6 hours a day and its all physical so I guess it keeps my weight down.
You could try conditioning yourself for part-time work by just heading out of the house for 4 hours or so at a time. Just go exploring wherever seems safe. It may be cold, but I've always enjoyed night walking for an hour or 2 to check out far off neighborhoods winter decorations.
1.3k in cash savings per month will get you literally fucking no where in life you dumbass. Who the fuck just sits on money? Do you not understand basic economics / credit systems?
I think to add on to it I over worry, like even now I feel like I need someone else to tell me thi sis right and what you should do rather than trust myself. I want to go to a gym for example and while I can't afford, well probably could but just barely, I feel like I'd go there and do everything wrong and just embarrass myself. I need someone to be like here is your 7 day workout schedule do this in this order and you'll be fine, even when I do research on my own and for the most part know what to do I can't trust it unless someone confirms it for me. Being away from society so long has probably screwed me over the worse despite the fact I'm still perfectly sociable. Even now I like to go to a bar once every month or so and talk with people I don't know while drinking.
>I make $27 an hour flipping burgers guys rly!!!!
What are you nigging about? If you need $27/hour to live its because you are taking care of your New Mommy and Tyrone Jr.
>I think only mothers are eligible for food stamps
I was on food stamps for almost 2 years until they changed it so that I needed to work at least 20-25 hours a week (cant remember exactly) to receive the most basic amount which is like $40 a month. UNLESS you are a single mother. So I ignored that shit and got off my ass to work more hours.
>1.3k in cash savings per month will get you literally fucking no where in life
Because you are financing Becky and Tyrone Jr. Being a junky and requiring health insurance, marrying a fatty, and raising your wife's son weren't mentioned in OP's post.
I've heard of people hiring life coaches for explicit schedules, so that could be an option. Do you have any *specific* short-term goals? If not then I'd suggest the simple goal of accumulating a basic amount of cash reserve. If you can get a job, suffer it out until you save up around 5k and then decide what to do from there. It may evolve into getting reliable transport, buying a decent trailer park trailer as a base of operations (it may seem beneath you but you have to start somewhere, and it will be all yours to sell when you are ready to move on), or simply make like 10-15k in savings and quit your job for a year to feel things out. Btw having a girlfriend will of course invalidate practically everything I've said, so you're on your own with that.
27
>No job in 6/7 years, only job literally lasted a day
>Gradually lost touch with friends from high school
>Overweight
BUT
>My dad survived a fucking brain stem stroke, physically independent again after 4 months, experience helped me become more responsible + lit a fire under my ass
>Back in school since summer, focusing on information security
>Getting back into the gym
>Do have 1 friend and he's the shit, is like a big brother
Things are looking up. I just might make it.
Short term goals? Get a job and hopefully finally take my drivers license test. While I do have a permit and drive semi-occassionally, very often for an elderly alcoholic lady who ask me to drive her to the liquor store or to her kids house(roughly 2 hour drive), I don't have car insurance or could afford it which is needed to get my license. Since that's a job I'm interested in and could likely get if I get my license which is a delivery boy or just being a truck driver. I spent a lot of time in euro truck simulator and found it quite comfy and I do really enjoy driving. Just have a huge hill to climb to get that license to do such.
>buying a decent trailer park trailer as a base of operations (it may seem beneath you)
I live in a trailer meant for 1 person, 2 at most, with my parents. I don't have a bed I sleep on a chair like bench that can hold at most half my body. If I could I'd upgrade but thats not an option. I have 0 intention of having a girlfriend till my life is in order, I'm not a crazy neet who wants one when I realize my life is shit still.
I wish you the best user
>Single
>28
>Greater LA area
Nah kid, it literally costs 5k USD a month to even survive here. 12k+ if you want to live like not a peasant (Which you are). I live in a modern society, not a trailer park. Sorry friend.
start by getting an entry level job somewhere like a grocery store, resturant, call center, cleaning service. It doesn't matter what, as long as its a job that's used to hiring people who've never had a job before. They don't all suck, in fact some of my favorite memories come from the first real job I had working at a Spencers in the mall.
Keep on that job for a bout 6 months, just start getting your feet wet, being around other people, learning how to be professional or engage strangers socially. It takes practice. If they let you go, get into another one somewhere else as quick as possible to keep momentum.
As far as dating and relationships, don't worry too much about that right now. Some parts of life you go through on your own and that's cool. Just keep that momentum going.
While you're working your entry level job and you're getting more accustomed to work-related shit, start peeking around at better paying gigs, try to get an assistant manager position in your own job, or maybe a new one somewhere else.
Think about doing college. A degree in business isn't super hard to get and its the multi-tool of diplomas. You can use it to jump right into a manager role in any department of any company. Those jobs can earn you 100,000+ annual salary which is more than enough to sustain yourself on.
Anyway first thing's first. Get an entry level gig, get your feet wet and have fun. You're not curing cancer, you're just boots on the ground. Low pressure. It's more fun and less scary than you think. I promise.
>Bragging about having an unnecessarily overpriced lifestyle
And you are here to give ridiculous "just 12k+ a month it bro!" to the OP who is an adult neet starting from nothing? Are you going to suggest he goes into self improvement mode for 2 years on 0 income while his parents get sick of his shit and kick him out?
I don't consider not wanting to live next to gang bangers, hookers, junkies and the general low life dredges of society such as yourself a luxury but simply a normalcy for any responsible adult that isn't a useless piece of shit as far as society is concerned.
So no, most of us cannot or rather will not live like a slave as you do, eating processed foods specifically tailored to turn you fat, weak and kill you young.
I don't live in America so maybe I just can't relate to the drastic income inequality you get in third world countries
Sure, join the military. Wasn't so fucking hard to brain storm now was it faggot?
You must live in some shit hole if you think metropolis cities arn't more expensive to live in everywhere in the world. Try Tokyo for a year, enjoy your pod bed / single room apt being all you can afford on a pretty decent translation gig working 60+ hours a week.
You might try actually going out your front door before presuming to have some notions of what the world is actually like, user.
The difference being Tokyo's expensive as all hell because it's actually a developed city in a first world country where you don't have to deal with giant concentrations of "gang bangers, hookers, junkies and the general low life dredges of society" as you described them
OP here
I actually would join the military if I could, in fact I tried, but I fucked up my arm back in high school and have two huge metal plates on my two bones and around 20~ screws in my arm. It hinders me in 0 ways in day to day life but its enough of an issue they won't take me in.
Have you ever been to tokyo you stupid fuck? Do you know what the Yakuza are? Do me a favor, if you're ever in Japan and you see a blonde asian go up and say hi. Or try sitting your dumb tourist ass at the bar counter and let us know how it goes, user.
You some kind of a fucken weeb thinking Tokyo is some magical paradise? Stinks worse than new york, thugs are everywhere, the average person is just more polite.
Holy shit you people live under some heavy rocks.
I have been to Tokyo, it's about a million times cleaner and more developed than any place in America I've ever been to
Based on what you've been saying up until I think it's safe to say you're just a drama queen
robo-neet
You realize there's a literal mountain of trash in the Tokyo bay, right? Like, you can see it from any vantage point in the fucking city.
How do you describe that as an image of "cleanliness"? It's been voted multiple times to be one of the dirtiest 1st world cities. The trash crisis in tokyo and chiba is a daily topic on the news.
How clueless are you?
Get a job, work said job, be punctual, keep good hygiene, make it a personal goal to do your work more efficiently than your peers. You don't actually have to exert any extra effort to accomplish this most of the time, as most people are lazy as shit and easy to position yourself as the better employee.
Youd be surprised at how fast you get your shit together if your family would stop enabling your lifestyle.
>neet at 24
>graduating with engineering degree Saturday
just disappear get a job make credit make friends find ur soulmate and mind ur own business and get a life seek god jesus jehovah and the holy spirit