I'm a 30 year old virgin male. Ask me anything you'd like

I'm a 30 year old virgin male. Ask me anything you'd like.

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Closer to 31 than 30 actually

What are your views on brexit?

Why haven't you had sex yet?

has you become the wizard?

how can i get my neighbour to stop mowing my lawn at this time? It's driving me ruddy well crazy.

Seems like a lot of people were upset and voted out of anger and misinformation. Sucks.

Unless it's at awful hours, just ignore them. Otherwise report a noise complaint.

Not yet, I've tried casting many times but no luck

I have a pretty bad case of cockburn from fucking like crazy the past week. Is there anything you can suggest to help me?

I'm 34, you amateur.

Why havent you paid a hooker? Despite social awkwardness i was gifted with pretty good physical genetics and get laid at least a couple times a month. Id still pay for a hooker in las vegas since theyd let me do more than the average girl theres no shame in it.

Crippling self-consciousness.

My father was really controlling and narcissistic, and discouraged any displays of sex or "vulgarity" growing up, like anything related to the human body, e.g. the sound of peeing or blowing your nose or etc.

He pulled my sister and I out of homeschool and didn't teach us anything. He chased my sister out of the house and tried to use his state connections on her after she got a boyfriend. He ended up disowning her.

I tried to get a job as a teen once to get out of the house and he refused to drive me to another after #1, saying he got more for claiming me as a dependent than anything I could make.

After moving out around 24, the reason now is just I'm a piece of shit. I can't fathom anyone caring about me and I have no real life experience besides a tech degree for a field I didn't want.

I bow to your experience

Icy-hot or bengay

fuck, I can't type.

Very little spare money / paranoia. I make decent enough money in a shit IT job, but rent is expensive (I pay more than friends with houses) and I also help my family with money monthly. In addition to taking on all of my father's credit card debt (he's disabled and convinced me they wouldn't survive without it, and my student loan rates won't be beat).

I'll bump once or twice then go gorge on fast food and get drunk and high and pass out for the night to wake up at 3am.

I suppose the big question got answered anyway.

tl;dr a pussy couldn't take some criticism

Do you masturbate
Anything kinky?
Do you hurt yourself?

I masturbate all the time, usually 1-3 times a day. Pretty much the only things I'm not okay with sexually or fetish-wise to some degree are scat and blood.

I waste a a ton of mental energy and time on porn.

Sometimes I'll get mad and start punching my thigh, but that's not a sex thing.

Sorry for posting and dragging anyone down. I usually try not to share or post. Sometimes finality and magnitude of the waste of a life just gets to be too much you know. My bad

Can we see a screenshot of your fap folder OP?

I want to get my place packed up and ready to be moved with all the items being listed where. I want to get some concrete or cinder blocks, a rope and a gun. I want to go out to the continental shelf drop in the Pacific and stay there, leaving the boat to be retrieved via GPS.

If you hear about this scenario you know I finally grew the balls. Until then I'm taking the slow and passive route and hopefully my life insurance will do someone some good.

Far more than a fap folder, I have multiple fap drives. The organization isn't great so I just use Search Everything to find a certain title or star

How do you organize porn pictures saved from here?

do you cum while masturbating to pictures?
i havent done that since i was 9 or 10

>blaming your father for being a virgin
Top excuse m8

Sounds to me like you like being miserable. You enjoy the poor me feeling, a lot of people do. Either go out and make a conscientious effort to change the things you don't like about yourself, or just kill yourself. Stop being okay with being so pathetic, you're just as capable as everyone else to sculp your life and make it the way you'd like it to be.

Saved by thread number and board, then live action or animated or text. If I reviewed it I'll write what the topic is in the title to find later.

After that you can Mass downloader with jdownloader or a bunch of others on PC, or Mimi on Android (which I like because it saves the filename with no extra work).

I will sometimes use a duplicate detector on similar topic folders.
Yeah, you're right, it's super weak. I have no reason to complain about anything. There are people with real problems in the world and here I am sitting with my thumb up my ass bitching about nothing.

I'm a piece of shit.

You're right, being miserable is comfortable. It's what I know. It's the only thing I am capable of doing well and successfully. I'm a useless piece of shit in every regard. I really do need to it. That's coming up more and more often lately.

What am I waiting for? What am I waiting to get better? The doctors I see are a waste of money because I'm incapable of following directions, and the the time they spend on me is so wasted. It could be used on someone they could actually help.

I'm sorry for wasting your time

>being this shit at reading comprehension

Fuck I can't delete the thrrad anymore

got you beat by 7 yrs. 37 yr. old virgin AMA

By those standards I am a young 27 yr. old virgin.

What advice can you offer o wise one?

have you become more schizoid in your ways with age or are you still suffering?

just give up when it comes to women and sex. Best thing you can do is accept the fact it's an impossibility and find other things to give your life meaning. Otherwise, you'll continue to be miserable.

Being more at peace with myself, I think I"m a bit less autistic actually.

Sex isn't the thing I'm concerned about missing out on. It's the intimate relationships, caring about someone and to have them care for you back...

I've already lost out on so much.

You don't get a second chance; this is it and my window has closed.

...

Just stop man. Jesus.

I'll just leave this here.

youtube.com/watch?v=Zf0-tsvyrnM&t=603s

You're still holding on to hope, that's why it's still painful. Let it go and move on.

You should kill your father. Low-life pieces of shit like him are the worst scum on the planet.

Once I let it go that will be it. I'm afraid still.

That's ok, I've been there. But at some point you will just get fed up with it all, the misery, the desire, the futile hope, and just drop it.

Try to find other things to make yourself happy in the meantime, take joy in the small things in life, get a pet. Sooner or later, you'll get tired of being miserable.

I want to (which I hate myself for thinking), or at least cut him out completely. But he's had my mom under his grip for too long and she can't get away. She tried a few times and he manipulated and scared us kids to get them back together each time.

I have such a connection between intimacy, and peace and love and whatever else, that when I stop feeling miserable I don't think I'll have anything left in me any more.

Hey man, similar story for me in some ways.
I was a wizard for a year and then I reached manhood.
You can still be a normal human being, it takes some work, but you are young enough to do it.
I realised I needed to overcome my problems by throwing myself out into the world and facing my fears.
If you have savings, go on an unplanned trip, alone. Stay in hostels where you are always around other people, shared rooms. You will quickly improve your social skills. Do it for as long as you can.
Socialising improves with practice, like most things in life.
Talk to girls, without the aim of having a girlfriend or sex, and you will find yourself becoming better at it.
Aside from that, incorporate good habits into your life.
Eat heathily, exercise every day - this is a big one for building self confidence. Overcome your body, master it.
Become strong, not for the looks or anyone else. Do it for yourself while you can. It isn't easy if you are 70.
Pushups, buy some dumbells and lift every day. Can be 30 minutes of your day, or even 15.
Wear good clothes, look in magazines for men who look admirable in some way. Style towards that. Keep it simple and at least half smart without being too much.

Take up a new activity, carpentry, music, art, stick with it. Even 15 minutes a day.
Take up a social activity too, hiking club, dance classes, book club, anything that puts you in a mixed group of men and women.

Most importantly, take risks, expose yourself to things you fear as long as they are not dangerous. If you fear dancing, as I did, force yourself to do it. After some time, it might be a couple of months or practice, you will begin to enjoy it.
Put your past and childhood behind you, you are old enough to raise yourself now, into who you want to be.

How old are you?

Are you wizard?
If yes, do you wear a robe and use a stick to cast spells?

That's good advice and I need to figure out how to follow it. I'm at the stage where I know I'll fail so why even bother investing time? Why so much hassle to fix something defective?

I'll save your advice. Hopefully I can follow it sometime

Also, stop porning.
Forever.
It's an addiction and it is really you chemically rewarding yourself for sitting on your butt looking at a screen.
You'll never change or seek anything else if you stay like that.
Would a dog change its behaviour if you gave it a biscuit every time it shit on the carpet?

Delete all your porn, in stages if need be. First the stuff you don't really like and don't look at much.
Then go through it in waves like that.
Deleting becomes easier as you go along.

No fap for 2-3 weeks at least, then start again with a light grip, while in the shower so you aren't near a computer. Do it to your imagination, based on a girl you know or have seen or spoken to.
Do it just 2-3 times a week max.
If you slip up and look at porn, don't make a big deal out of it, just start the no porn again.
It will become easier. First two weeks are the hardest, just stay busy and go outside more, limit your privacy, stay around other people if possible.
Within a few months, your brain will feel cleaner, and you won't be focussed on your next porn fix.
Stay away from it.

As for your job, look for training courses, live or online, short ones if need be. Do them to increase your skills and official experience/certifications.
Then start applying for better positions or jobs.
Always keep acquiring new qualifications, even a weekend course can make a difference.
Can be outside of your field too, like a short first aid course.
Make yourself more useful to people/potential employers.

It isn't easy, or a linear path, but by doing constructive things and to always keep trying, is the important thing.
I had no fixed plan, but I decided for one I would force myself to finish a project that took 3 months, so it was done and done well. That built my confidence and esteem. Exercise kept me going and kept me emotionally stable and focussed.
Eating healthily makes you feel better day by day.

Also, find time to spend it outdoors and in nature, even in a park. It reduces stress and lets you appreciate the world. Sunlight is really important too.
You don't have to do everything all at once.
Pick one thing and start small, there is no risk at all, if you practise something you will become better with time.
I've always had a big fear of failure too, maybe it comes from parents expecting too much at some point, like nothing is ever good enough.
Well, the best way is to do things knowing you won't do it perfectly.
Just do something and the goal is to do it and finish.
Draw a picture or paint something, some fruit.
The first won't be good, but say "that's done" and then next week you do another.
After a few months look back through them and judge where you have made progress and where you need to work on.
Then keep going.
I would do small things every day to give elements of risk, and separate to that, finish things so they were 'alright' when they didn't really matter, without caring if they were perfect.
That kind of daily 5 minute training helps you overcome these things.
Learning a new skill will build your confidence in general, because if you can do one thing, you can do almost anything.

Essential thing is, don't think or worry too much, just DO something, start it without hesitation and think "there's no risk, I'm doing it".

Are you still here?
It might take a year before you work your way up to meeting a girl, it might be longer or shorter, but if you are working towards it as I have said, doing positive things, it comes closer by the day in ways you can't anticipate.
I had my first real kiss at 28, sounds old, but once it was done, I practised a lot in a short time.
First girl I slept with was 31. Same again, once it was out of the way, practised a lot with her.
They aren't such big deals once you've done them once. You'll realise that.
Put yourself out there. The more women you talk to, the more likely it becomes. No pickup lines, no tricks, just talking and saying what you like, asking what she likes, sharing info bit by bit, taking it in turns. That's it really.
You gain confidence by doing.

Thank you for the advice. I'll keep it on my phone.

Like that image says, the concept of anyone being interested is unreal to me. Human relationships are a completely alien concept to me, one I feel I have no place in.

I'm slowly progressing. I don't know if it's progressing forward yet, but I'm keeping on the pills the docs are giving me and hoping I see some light.

Print it out and underline which bits you want to try.
Pick one thing, tailor it to yourself and do it.
Start without thinking and without thinking about the future, just do.
Remember that in this state your perception is clouded by your mood, so trust what makes logical sense and do it without waiting to be in the right mood, without motivation or the right timing.
Just do, like a machine.
Exercise should be your core routine, even if it is 10 pushups a day.
Read how to do good ones, then start.
If you only manage 1, fine, keep doing 1 until you can do 2, and so on.
No excuses, no obstacles, no delay.
This audio is good.

A guy on here said a couple of years ago, if you are depressed fight against it like someone is trying to take your life.
The link to the audio says the same.

Still listening to the audio, it says something else good too.
Develop and use your anger to give you focus and energy and direction.
Channel your anger into energy.
In your case, shout "fuck you dad for being such a dickhole", and then start doing pushups.
Turn the anger into constructive energy. It helps.

I'll listen to it. I don't really get angry at anything besides myself, just resigned; I'll have to see how I can work it

The anger is just to stir up emotion.
Try shouting or punching a pillow or a cushion.
Swear, think about something that angered you, and turn it into energy.
It's just a tool so you can fight.