Bored BDSM instructor willing to answer all you Sup Forumsastards questions regarding to sex, bdsm...

bored BDSM instructor willing to answer all you Sup Forumsastards questions regarding to sex, bdsm, and general degenerate behavior.

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Why most woman in BDSM-porn are so ugly? Isn't it supposed to be more elite?

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hot women are often egotistical to the point that they find more pleasure in beyond adored than being spanked. Not saying it's impossible to have a kinky hot girlfriend but it's definitely unlikely

Can you recommend a good book on how to be a better top?

What is the difference between an enema and prostate milk? And how do I make drinks what are they called

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Theres a guy in there named "jaundice" who likes pegging, but won't admit it because it's "unmanly".

He needs your help, desperately, to get over this sexual hang up, and I believe you and only you can do it.

bdsm is tacky, with all the silly sets and costumes

To be a good top means you know how to be comfortable with power over someone and to control the risk of accidentally hurting your partner.

don't force yourself to be aggressive. just have fun with it and practice your edge play in a controlled environment.

Whats your opinion on Doms and Dommes charging people?

I'm not your monkey. I can't change his mind anymore then you can make me help the guy.

lol 50 shades of grey and eyes wide shut are not a great source of insight.

if you want a real good insight to the lifestyle then check out the episode of Reno 911 where the black and hispanic cop goes under cover and attends a sex party.

That's honestly more in line then the movies.

how do i get my stubborn monogamous gf to cheat on me?

waste of money unless you get off on spending money for sex. If you live in a major city you can easily find someone who will do it for free.

It's like prostitution. I don't get why people would pay for sex.

talk to her about starting a cuckold relationship.Not going to lie i will make or break your relationship.

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What's the best way to spank yourself harder?

get a paddle and spank yourself. i suggest bamboo sticks or a back scratcher.

how do you feel about subs being diapered?

indifferent. I personally don't play with little's that have no blader control.

How should I transition from being her loving partner, to her master in the bedroom? It feels weird sometimes

it's going to be weird for a while because your transitioning. if you both want this then you should both be able to push through the initial awkwardness that it brings. Don't make this transition serious. Have fun with it and once your comfortable then you can start to get more into the roles.

Not op, but I know my shit, too. Are you looking for instructions or a novel?

Enema is using a hose to pump water into the butt in order to flush out poop.
Prostate milk is using anything to massage the prostate in order to cause the man to secrete semen.

Cheers user. Appreciate the supportive response

There's such things as BDSM instructors? !
Wtf...

yea it's kind of nesscary for a lot of edge play like shibari, fire, impact, blood, scarification, hooked suspension. People don't just randomly do this kind of thing. You have to be taught by someone or else you're going to hurt yourself or your partner badly.

Besides, it's fun to play with more partners, too.

After you beat or flogg it's my understanding you are supposed to gently touch or tickle the agitated skin and it's supposed to feel very nice. I would just try it On myself but it's not quite the same as some one else doing it ya know? so I wanted the opinion of someone with actual experience.

yea any kind of impact play will make the area more sensitive because the blood is pooling to the surface from the swelling.. That's why it hurts to sit after being spanked.

If you want to know how sensitive it can get watch this how to video.
youtube.com/watch?v=hxwvByiQGbg

Why is it that there are no "average" female tops? Every one I've met is either super chill and down to earth or a total stuckup bitch. lol.

It's hard to find "average" people in a community that embraces the weird and obscure.

Ayy lmao thanks user.

What's a good way to avoid or at least mitigate the perminant damage and scarification of burns? I love the way they feel but the left overs are a bitch to deal with

depends on how you're playing with fire. fire play should be about have a long single exposure to fire. it should consists of a lot of flash fire.

I can't really go into detail about fire play because it would be like learning painting by listening to a bob ross podcast.

where can I hang out to find people that like this kind of things?

make a fetlife profile and look up local events around you. if you live in a major city chances are you will have a community that hosts munches/play parties. go to the munch, get to know the community. if you like them then go to the play party.

what is a munch and a play party?

munches are social get together where people just hang out at a bar or restraunt.

play parties are usually hosted at a dungeon or a house and people go to them to perform in front of people. Sometimes a place can be sex positive so don't be shocked if you see people having sex in designated areas.

Where do you go to get high quality straps/restraints? Everything I buy ends up being cheap junk no matter what I pay for it.

yea it can be pretty hit or miss if oyu buy on line. try to find a bdsm store or vendor near you city. I lucked out and happen to have one in my city.

has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?

da fuk?

I have an urge to kick that door in, kick in that fat fuck's face, and liberate that ginger so she can be treated like a human being (or at least a wife).

its a simple question

the best kind of submission is the consensual kind. don't assume she's in a environment she doesn't want.

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I always got a kick out of these kinds of comments on BDSM porn videos. Do the people who up ironically say this shit actually not understand that everything going on in the scene is agreed to?

yea most people that have that view on bdsm sees it as the exact opposite of vanilla sex. which mean it has to be non-consensual and we get off extreme pain. lol simple arrogance

It is degenerate preying upon and exacerbating mental issues. You'll get yours on day of the rope.

Yay lmao

wow way to call a whole group of people retarded. I'll make sure to tell your girlfriend you said that next time she comes over to do a scene.

How do I get a obedient and submissive wife?

find a GF who's into being a service sub. marry her.

my slave is only allowed to eat dog food. how do I know she's getting all the needed nutrients? can you recommend a brand of dog food that's good slave food?

Right I get that general gist and start out being an attractive&valuable guy and start as soon as possible with telling her to do things to service me or cook or clean or whatever, but where do I get into more detailed ideas?

by reading the labels and feeding her things like meat, vegetables, and fiber.

what do you mean by detailed ideas? you start with simple small task and then work your way up to larger task.

what is the best and safest way to get choked?

lol, you're no 'bdsm instructor'

I get a boner when my gf cries if we get in a bad argument. Why does this happen and what does it mean?

adam apple placed in the pit of your elbow. flex arm and curl your arm slowly. release after a few seconds or until your partner taps out.

for more effect lean back as your are curling to put more pressure on the blood veins.

is there any safe way to pass out?
also any thoughts on doing it solo?

lol what you think I'm the tooth fairy or something. I bet you think public dungeons are an imaginary places as well. lol

you get off on mental anguish. That's usually a good sign that you're a sadist who likes to humiliate or degrade in some capacity.

no and don't do it by yourself. always have do the buddy system.

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There is no absolutely safe way to get choked out, but the blood choke described by is the one that is generally safest.

Also I haven't been able to reply to this for a minute because my signal is shitty (innawoods) but
Vanillafag pls, there is nothing degenerate about BDSM when done between consenting and appropriately experienced people.

Figures. Had drunk sex with her last night and was spitting on her face and in mouth and all i could think of is leashing her and whoring her out

either your trying to sound edgy and failing miserably or you actually did that and yea I think your a sadists. I would check in with your GF to see if she likes that kind of treatment. If she doesn't then break up with her and find someone more willing.

She is not ugly in my opinion.

Sorry for sounding edgy. We talk about it and she says shes interested but needs to work up to pain related stuff. She's not into the full blown lifestyle just likes the extra stuff during sex. I'm fine with it, tho wish she was open to group play. She said she was open to that idea, but evades the topic ever since our initial talk. I would like to leash her up and blind folder her and have her fucked my me and someone else. Or maybe tie her up and blindfold her and just use her. Would also like swapping tho. I really need to find someone more compatible huh? Or maybe have a serious talk with my gf and see if we can explore more

No one will be 100% compatible to you mentally or sexually. I would recommend thoroughly exploring what you both in common and then talk about explore new areas. she may have kinks that you don't initially like so do a tic for tac agreement where you explore her fantasies and she explores yours.

Cool. Thanks OP. Last question. How often do you recommend we sit down and talk about new things we want to try? You know in case interests change?

Is it weird I am more into the intimacy and trust of bdsm than I am the actual acts being preformed?

When it comes to the new stuff talk before and after. Once you've done it a while you can stop talking about so often and just throw ideas around to spice things up.

ding ding ding.
That actually why I teach BDSM in the first place. Once you experience the level of trust an intimacy that bdsm has to offer you can't go back to vanilla relationships. It's a lot harder to maintain a BDSM relationship but when it works it can be addicting.

Hi OP

New to the bdsm world here, need a few tips from someone experienced.

1. How do I learn to use ropes better? Have tried some basic rope stuff but nothing too fancy, is there a good source of how to properly tie up in kinkier / more exposed positions and such? something like step by step
2. This is cliche, but what are some good tips for cleaning your ass properly before anal play? I do switch, very rare, but both me and her are interested in anal play and the cleaning part can be a pain in the ass, pun intended. The anal experiences were very strong as she played with my butt and i did with hers, very hot and intense. I am considering getting pegged too at some point. Also, giving anal might be a bit of a problem because my dick is pretty large.
3. How do I learn to spank / whip better? How do i teach her to do the same, a better control and just give pain little by little to be on that sort of pleasurable edge even if it is more pain
4. Any way to increase my cock sensitivity a bit so I can enjoy being edged more?
5. Also, about edging, after a point of being given a handjob, when she plays with my cockhead i get the urge to pee sometimes, any tips on that and how to avoid it?

Thank you OP!

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Ching dude here. Let me tell you. There are quite a lot of Chinese chicks who does bdsm along with public fleshing. Most doesn't show their faces or censor it. They got tumble websites and seek out other submissive chicks. In a different way, they are more attractive when all you can see is their mouth
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Not OP but I'll take an honest swing at these
>how to into rope play
Honestly I would seek out a local instructor to show you. Ropes can be dangerous and self teaching can lead to a hospital visit or worse. Consider getting a fetlife and attending some events to observe and seek help from someone who is trusted and established.
>how to clean the doodoobutt
Enemas. Get an enema kit. They have instructions.
>spanking
Once again this can be learned locally, but isn't nearly as dangerous as rope play. Just experiment with different things, and stay away from bullwhips and the like unless you have been taught.
>how to increase sensitivity
Easy way to get your dick more excitable is to neglect jerking it or sexual conduct for a few days. Some people like dick cages, that could help.
>having to piss after an edge
I've not experienced that one at all, maybe make sure it's drained sufficiently beforehand?

hard to teach rope through text honestly youtube has some pretty good tutorials. Type in "shibari tutorial" and you should get a long list of things to practice.

enema is the best way but don't do it too often or else you're body won't be able to have proper bowel movements without them.

spanking is kind of self taught. nothing special just hit the meaty part of the ass with something. floggers and whips are something that you just have to practice before doing it to someone. practice to the point that you know how to gauge distance and the intensity of your swings.

don't cum for a week and tease yourself only until your hard. then don't touch it. after a week you'll be blue balled like crazy and will cum a shit ton. only problem is making it through it without cumming.

Thank you for the answers.

The thing with anal can be tricky, but can be a lot of fun and a lot of new sensations. How often is it too often? I mean, I wouldn't go on about anal without an enema before.
Also, how do pornstars do it so often and how can they take such big things in their asses? And not only pornstars, various random camgirls, and it is always super clean. I do have one of those enema kits and it is pretty good, wanted to know if there are any special tricks on there because she experienced something like clean the first 5 times when she used it than the 6th time it wasn't all that clean, so...yea.

Cock cage, not really my thing, but not cumming and sort of teasing myself might work.

Also, any ideas on why sometimes i get the sort of need to pee when my cock head is being played with? I mean, not a big urge or anything, a bit of a small sensation really. It depends.

My GF and are are into light BDSM.(hitting spanking chocking tying up anal toys etc.) We broke up while I was abroad and she fucked this guy and went full on BDSM with him. I know everything because I made her tell me. It ruined our intimacy. Will I ever get over it?

Hire someone, not illegal in the slightest as it's not a sex act.

once every 12 days is the right amount of time in between.

they do anal all the time and they pay the consequences trust me.

I live in a major city and used to be an escort who specialized in domination services. Women need sexual attention just as much as men do, and if their husbands aren't willing to provide such, then they're gonna get it elsewhere. Paying a company is much safer than paying some random person who cannot be vetted and wouldn't suffer consequences from violating limits.

I used to be disgusted by cuckoldry, especially bbc related. I would tell my gf never to do that shit. But now I really like it and bought my gf two bbc didlos. Do you think my kink will become more intense and I will actually want her to cheat on me. I'm worried.

Are you me? I HATE bdsm. It's the one fetish I absolutely can't respect, because there's nothing healthy about wanting to dominate and hurt people. Even if it's all fantasy, even if no one seriously getting hurt, the fact you have it in your heart to do that and actually get off on it is just fucked up.

That comic was never good.

right in the feels. Yes it may take some time but yes. The down side to the relationships you create is that when they go bad they often hurt a lot more. Just know it's better to break up now then latter and that there's someone better suited for you then her.

Well, that i can believe, there are always consequences.

I will bug you a little more. Can something actually happen bad after too many enemas one after another when trying to clean, like a bit bloody the day after? also, how many enemas is enough? Does the attaching the end to the shower thingy work ?

the blood is because you stretched your anal ring too much and teared a bit. it happens when you put a lot of strain on it.

read the box for possible side effects of using it too often.

We are back together now, and the intimacy is coming back, but its tough having sex with her and not thinking about her fucking him. The way i found out is beyond fucked too. We are going our seperate ways(graduating college) and it seems like so is our relationship. I can type out the full story if anyone is interested.

no need. honestly your best thing you can do is just lay your cards on the table and have an honest talk with her. don't dilute how you feel and tell her to do the same. afterwards you should get a sense of where the relationship will go after you both graduate.

It was her anal ring and i was super concerned for her actual health when she reported a bit of bleeding. Now it is better. It may be so, the box doesn't have instructions on that, I checked.

Lately I wanted to try being submissive and so far have only experimented online through Kik. And so far I'm still not sure how to describe what I like or even want.
One girl I was fucking around with was open to it and said she would basically "sit on your face and play with your dick and tease you, untill you can't take it anymore and manhandle me. And even though you're having your way with me, you'll still be doing exactly what I want and I won't allow you to stop until I drain your balls". Paraphrasing of course.
I only want something like that, not outright physical and mental abuse (like spanking and insults). Has this a specific term?

we've had one. we are pretty clear for now on trying to stay together. The time that has passed is helping, but some days I just wake up thinking about what she did with him. I saw pictures, they used a toy of ours together that I used on her after because she forgot. I saw pictures of her bruises and cuts. Its like im having flashbacks ptsd of a an event I never attended.

Ok it's getting late calling it a night. see you guys later.

it's called being a sexual submissive and is very common for dommes and subs.

have you told her about the flashbacks. if not do so or else it will just remain.

Going to tomorrow. Thanks for the advice user