What are your experiences with getting back together with your ex?

What are your experiences with getting back together with your ex?

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everyone's different, but typically it doesn't work out. It's so easy to revert back to the old habits that caused the original relationship to fail in the first place, so unless you're constantly communicating and actively working on making it work as a team, it's not likely to pan out.

It does make for some great make-up sex though, while it lasts

Reasons you split are still there.

Same shit, higher milage.

easy BJ and sex...

i knew it was going to be bad. i was promised:

> no it won't be the same as last time
> i'll never hurt you again.

guess fucking what? it was the same shit as last time.
just don't do it.

you didnt want to break up in the first place you were only a dick

it happens. dw. go ahead if you miss her.

Don't do it user she's an ex for a reason remember the two rules.
>never go black and never go back

One reason was that she wanted an open relationship... And now that I experienced other girls I don't want to be in a closed relationship anymore, because I don't want to miss that in the future....

an open relationship means nothing, you damn fool. you may as well be single is what that fucking means.

And don't put your dick into the crazy ones.

Yeah i would rather be single, than in a normal relationship. But an open relationshio just seems to be the best for me. Are there many girls, that would be okay with that?

Actually I only want the crazy ones... Guess I am sick somehow

It's like buying a higher milage model of the same car you just traded in at the dealership.

look for ones with blue or pink hair

For to long user and don't tell them your real name.

Best sex I've had was with crazy fuckbuddy. But I'd never be in a relationship with one, she might try to kill me for bullshit reason ur fuck up my life.

I actually do already. Sign number one that these girls are the right ones for me is the haircolor

It's only a good idea if the sex was great. Even then it's a bad idea, but at least you get to have great sex again

depends on your reason for breaking up originally. If you broke up because you hate each other or fell out of love, then it's probably not gonna work out a second time.

If your breakup was amicable, or based on a distance thing or circumstances out of your control, then maybe it can work out.

You know your ex better than we do though, so the decision is up to you, unless you wanna give us more info

well my ex is a stupid hoe, everytime her current bf is treating her badly she comes over. She always claims its just to "talk", but it always evolves into sex. There is no pressure, but usually after 30 minutes I have my hands on her tits.. or in her pants.

but actually together, no way in hell.

What's the rush in actively trying to date crazy alt girls? It would just give me loads of anxiety 24/7 worrying about what she's gonna do next.

this. It's a false rape accusation waiting to happen in my view

I came into a lot of money soon after I moved out....She tried to "entice" me and Fucked a couple of times,
>(me lying my ass of what "we" could do with some of the money) hung out and "re-started."
I got tired of my game and......... Quote me on this....... An Ex is an Ex for a reason.

It was great for a couple of months, but no-one could really help me cope with depression, alcohol and drug abuse.
Maybe if she'd came back to me a year earlier.

The love of my life left for abroad after I've got batshit drunk one evening (on SSRIs, mind you - which made matters a lot worse) and became a fucking monster; also attempted suicide (slashing my throat) in front of her and her father, then tried to hang myself on a shop door handle.

Now the only positive thing I can think about is that she escaped before it was too late for her.

Life sucks shit sometimes; not saying it's not my fault, though.

It's tough.

Sometimes I just really wish that knife from their kitchen were actually sharp; or that I'd chosen another one. But instead, I have to walk this world filled with hatred towards myself.

I'll never find redemption. Perhaps I'll end up in an institution.

I've only had ex-girlfriends contact me when they're bottom of the barrel out of luck. They only come to you when they have NOTHING to offer.

Guess in America the Alt Girls are different than in Europe.

My story.
>Break up with chick a. Fairly mutual, we were okay compatible but wanted different things.
>Few months later meet chick b. She moves in a few months after that.
>12 months after breaking up with chick a get a call from her. In a bad place, abusive relationship, needs somewhere to stay. I have spare room. Chick a moves in. Chick b is fine with it, I'm a nice guy, relationship is not really old enough for her to be making demands.
>Chick b and I both work. Chick a stays in the house, cooks, keeps the place clean. Being the housewife she wants to be.
>2 or 3 months later we get fucked up after a party and end up in a 3way. Didn't realise that chick a or chick b were into each other. Over the next few weeks chick a moved into our bedroom.

Been living like this for around a year. It just... works.

Dated her for two weeks, she broke up with me because she used to be a bitch. 3 years later got back together and have been together for almost 2 years now and she is genuinely the nicest and most selfless person I know. Best decision of my life

pretty bad, never did that gettin back together thing again, once its over just carry on.

If you want sex, that's what you will get.

But no more.

Zero ex girlfriends deserve my attention, regardless of how/why it ended.

Ex lovers need to stay ex lovers.

didnt go well, since i was the 1 trying
but i forced another girl to be back with me with blackmail!

like fuck they are mate. they're all crazy.

which one do you like more? be honest.

Ex left me cause we werent moving forward at fast enough pace.
It was almost a year and i still didn't "Love her" I never said "I love you" to hear, she did after 3 months and she said she was fine with me not begin "There yet"
She kept saying she loved me when drunk and stuff, but never complained about me not being there yet.

Fastforward to 1year mark from us becoming a couple, 10 days before my birthday(which is also the day I asked her to be my gf) and she just hit me right out of the blue.
She think we are in two different parts in our lifes and she can't be togheter with me and some other shit I kinda do not remember cause i got so fucked up there and then.

2 weeks passes and we start back at it again, just having dates and fucking and enjoying each other company.

Fast forward 3 months after we have taken a vacation togheter going cross country and staying with her friends in some town and my family in another.
She suddenly start becoming cold.
And while planing our next date she's dissmissive and says she has a lot of work to do, and so little time "but soon ;) "

Then she suckerpunch me with " i dont think this works for me anymore, i need some time to think"
6 weeks later she's facebook official togheter with some fucking cunt.

Made me... so upset, i've been with 3 women since her(end of sepember) and they all drift away cause of shit reasosn.

And Im sitting here now, still torn and so upset over the whole thing.
I don't love her i think, but I sure as hell do miss her.

Forgot to mention after my ex got togheter with the guy I blocked all her friends and family from snap,face, etc and shit.
Unfriended the ex but didnt block her.. incase she has something important to say.

I don't know what to do anymore, random girls just tear me a new one and missing my ex is making me want to just fly to amsterdam and fuck escorts and back again to have my fix or some shit.

More of her?

i mean a year is a long time man.. i'd leave your ass too.

my parents were on and off in the beginning of their marriage.. they're still together after around 27 years so i guess its fine

girls are really big on commitment man. You not willing to even say you loved her probably stung her more than you'll know. Eventually they gotta just move on to someone who does, they're on a biological clock that we don't have to worry about, keep in mind.

Chick B. She's NASTY!

You're living the dream... until it all blows up in your face. Or maybe all three of you are fat blobbos, and degenerate sex is the best you could ever hope for.

A year is not a long time. If you're happy in a relationship and have no fear for it ending, you could look at the fact that you have 60-80 years more with that person. Being with someone for 1 year is a bullshit amount of time, and I'm sure this dude loved her but just wasn't in love with her. People are different in growing that feeling, but fuck off with your new age perception of time.
It'll be alright man, but you should really not respond to her if she does say something. She's a selfish person, and you can't force yourself to give her what she wants. It just wasn't compatible, and it more so sounds like the problem is on her end. I'd be sketched out if a girl told me she was in love with me after 3 months, and now she's going to say it to this new guy, and if he has half a brain he's going to drop her and she'll come back to you because mentally you're still waiting for her. Cut her out, move on and don't take her back.

>new age perception of time
>not loving a person in an entire year of spending time with them
>thinks that's 'too soon'

look at yourself.

There's a reason you split up. Coming from experience, don't do it. Ever. Move on. Just a waste of time. They're not going to change no matter how much you want them to. Go fuck some bitches and get back in the game.

>look at yourself
>in a healthy relationship for 3 years
>in a healthy mindset and leading a life that does not revolve around that relationship
>probably going to propose this year
>probably never going to get a divorce

Good things take patience, you fucking sperg.

I guess, I had another girl before her that had me mad in love and she burned me the hardest I've ever been burned and I still feel it, and I blame that for not moving faster, or falling in love with the ex
Worse is, the previous girl was just so co-worker that quit the job and was moving, so we figured we'd screw around and then I caught the feels, big time.

Told the gf before we became a couple how burned I got and she'd "understood" but don't think she remembers that.

*3 months into the relationship, total of 5 months.
Still took me by suprise.
Was at her birthday the same month she graduated and had moved back home with her parents, so she was all up in arms with everything coming togheter in her life... and then drunkenly she said it.

I am on Sup Forums since 5 years, but only once a month in average. Am I still considered a newfag?

Tried twice, different girls, both failures.
Comeback sex was fucking great in both cases. One with anal. One case we lasted a year, in other 4 months.

The problem is, no matters who ended it. A relationship ended for a reason, and that reason is still there. Can be you, can be your partner, but, is the same thing over again, with the subtle lie "we are doing our best to make it work". Is a lie. A beautiful lie, but a lie in the end. Worthy only for the sex, nothing more. My advice is move on, accept the true about that shit ended and move to the next, until you find your perfect match or die alone, whatever comes first.

This. I've been talking with my ex about getting back together. I've told her that I'm afraid of going back to the way I was, cold and distant, bus she still knows I love her and she loves me. I'm just a depressed piece of shit.
I fucking miss her.

And if you can't see how that situation is different from the one the discussion started about, I (a completely different person) don't know what to tell you.

What's with all the Russians lately?

I'm going through the same shit right now.
Ended a 3-year relationship because she always wanted to marry and have kids and I couldn't get used to the thought.

Still, even a few days ago, it was a good relationship as far as women go, there is only so much you can expect...

The sex was abysmal in the end though.

If we get together again, nothing will change. She won't change her life wish and her taste in music and games and I won't change anything of that either. It's just not possible. So I keep telling myself...

Keep strong is the name of the game.

>I am on Sup Forums since 5 years

Hang in there man. Life is shit, and you're well aware of it as I am, so why not just fucking do something with it while you own it? It's the only thing that's really yours, and you can do anything with it wether it's ending it or making it amazing, but just fucking make a difference for your own sake.
Cheers brother.

Steve Bannon?

Neither of us said we loved eachother until after the first year easily, it might have been longer even. Yeah we loved eachother as people, but there wasn't that overwhelming sense, we weren't IN LOVE. That's where people fuck up, they confuse loving someone with being in love, because they romanticise everything and watch too many romcoms. You need to slow the fuck down and pay attention to not only your SO, but to your own feelings, extensively.
Yeah it sounds like she makes rash decisions and then holds to them because it's "just the way life is taking me teehee". That's pretty common, but it doesn't blend well with a lot of people. You still have love for your ex, and from the sounds of it you're still healing. Most people can't be in love with someone new until they give up on the old. Maybe take some real time to heal from the inside out, fuck around and find fun, but really get your heart fixed before getting into another relationship right?

oh boy do I have a greentext for you
>be me
>meet 6.5/10
>date several times, the first times were cringe as fuck
>3 months into relationship, I break up with her because I no longer felt I love her, I was and still am an introvert to some degree and dating/going out was tiring for me
> 2 months later she texts me back
>"hey user, wyd"
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>make the mistake and text her back 2 days later after she kinda spams me
>remembered all the moments spent with her in those months we were together
>get back with her
>3 weeks later I was bored of her already
>break up with her again, she cried
>1 year and 4 months later we meet again at a new year party after kinda ghosting her all this time
>meet 8/10 girl, things were going so well until she told me "I can't do this user, me and your ex are good friends and I can't do this to her as much as I'd want"
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>tell myself "if I'm not gonna get laid because of her, she's gonna get me laid"
>somewhere around 1AM she comes to me, we chat then start kissing
>we fuck
>the next day I realize I'm the one who is really fucked because now I'm stuck with her, I was drunk and I promised her I'd never leave her again

never get back with your ex, user

Dude you are a selfish child.

There's no use in standing in a desert and telling yourself it's a rainforest.

It's better to just buy a plane ticket and actually go to one.

was about to graduate from U of H
ex comes to my house
she wants to get back together (this is after she just up and left/no contact/nothing after we were together in hs)
we get together for a bit. then again she ups and leaves.
find out that in college (she went to A&M) she was slutting it up 24/7.
in hs i would get constant blue balls with her, she never wanted to go all the way. not even underwear or bj, nothing. towards the end of hs she let me see/suck on her tits.

now how i found out about her slutty ways was that after she left. a few months pass and my friend has an invite to a party at A&M. so we go. the place got raided, but left all the beer. so we find another party at an apt. while there a guy comes up to me and says, 'you're ***... niria's bf'
i was like, 'the fuck? who are you? how do you know?'
he goes on to say she apparently talked about me while he was with her.
i asked if niria was still a tease.
and he was like oh hell no. she jumped from guy to guy and was very sexually active and experimental.
she was well known during the first 2 years of her A&M college experience.
i left.

so if any user is the son or daughter of niria geraldine deleon (houton, tx. class of 94 milby high school)
tell your mom she's a fucking bitch.

also get all her nude photos and post them up cause i'm owed.

In my experience it ends for the same reasons it did the first time
Now I'm not saying that fucking your ex is a bad thing just be sure not to let feelings come back because you already know how it ends

She's a financial advisor hahaha how fitting. Most sluts go that or the insurance advisor route.

She's also married.

too find more prey

i heard she got married. moved to florida then came back to houston.
a friend of mine said she split or divorced the guy.
i can't even find a picture of her. in hs she 'looked' like she had huge tits (D-size).
found out that she got a nose job (before i met her in hs).

>but really get your heart fixed before getting into another relationship right?
As of right now Im not hooking up with anyone, last girl was 15 december(from november) and she's mad at me, cause I didnt tell her I was allergic to her pet horses when we started dating.

So Im just trying to improve my self and looking.
fixing my teeth with bracers(hidden on the back side) working out non stop since ex got togheter with the new guy and just generally improving my life.

I did find some other girl right of the bat that was 9/10 and went for it.
1 date in and she invited me to netflix and chill.
I was feeling the same feels over again, but she shut me down a week later with some excuse we were to different, and from mutal friends I found out she was dating some other rich guy and sleeping over with him since when we were dating.
So... fake girl really, but very hot.
Out of my lane still.

Ok here we go....
>Be me, age 17, her age 13, was my buddies youngest sister.
>Thought she was a royal bitch when we first met, turns out it was her brother annoying her on purpose all the time
>Fast forward two years, we start fooling around
>Have great sex for the entire summer she is up and part of the next one...
>Too shy and self conscious at the time to really tell her how I feel...
>She meets another dude, starts dating him cause I haven't said anything other than our we are just "FWB" arrangement, I get massively heartbroken...
>I move on with life, other dude cheats on her...
>Fast forward four years, lost a shit ton of weight (was really heavy at the time), run into her at the brother's place, barely recognizes me, instantly starts flirting with me.. quick hook up sex
>She's got one kid (at the time, I had none)...nope not doing this... GTFO
>Fast forward another 16 years (circa December 2010), find out her brother passes away, get her number from one of her two sisters
>We talk, but she's got 3 more kids now (all from the same Dad who's a complete Douchcanoe), been with her best friend's brother for almost a decade..
>18 months later, they split up, she's been done with his shit for years, but had no where to go...
>We start dating around her birthday 2012...
>Got married October this year...

Point of all this...at the time we first met, we were both kids... and stupid. Both grew up since then and got our shit together, but realized even after all that time.. we still cared about one another.

Took us a long time, but it's possible to get back with someone you once dated, just have to be willing to set aside your selfish belief system and work to make it happen

Its not a great idea not untill A LONGGGGGGGGGGG TIME HAS PASSED

Even then sometimes it's not the best depending on how it ended. Just don't try to flip it around to make it better just accept that maybe you two aren't meant for each other if anything.

Yeah but you're talking to manchildren who think a year relationship is a long time and probably won't keep in touch with these girls for more than 5 years. Good on you, you glorious old bastard.

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Ignore Dr. Phil here. It NEVER works out. Ever.
Ever.
And even when it does, one or both secretly regret the decision and inflict their regrets on the other for the remainder of the relationship / life.
In a word - don't.

well uh, spiderman is cool
what do you think about spiderman Sup Forums?

It CAN work, but as I stated, BOTH parties have to act like grown up adults and be WILLING to make it work, and even then it's still hard... but possible, just rare by comparison

Point is - I'm raising another man's child with a promiscuous whore.
All the effort, none of the genetic legacy.
Winnar!

Not bad as long as the current gf doesn't know.

Here's the funny thing, she's been with 4 guys, I've been with over 30 women.. so yeah, nice thought.. if anything I have been far more promiscuous than her.. yet only have one child

The year isn't what was spoken about you colossal cunt. The problem was that it took you over a year to feel a semblance of love for a woman you spent that time with. That IS a problem. That means you're not compatible at all with that person.

A year to progress your feelings from like->love in a ROMANTIC setting is definitely fucky. The year itself, a year of a relationship, is nothing.

Perhaps. When you look into the soulful, innocent, wondering eyes of your step-child, do you imagine the hot, moaning, tight, wet fucking that brought him into this world, while you're left with the dry, loose, consolation prize pussy?

Mate, you need to lay off the cuck porn. It's possible for people to have children by different partners. What matters is what makes you happy.

user the relationship guru

Joking aside this is a really good point.

Does getting back together with your ex ever work out?

Oh, yeah. Time, effort, cash to raise someone else's kid. That's what makes us ALL happy.
You've got the right of it.
Fortunately, your genetic material is on the way out. So, we all win.

It's just a grumpy old troll, no need to feed it anymore then necessary..

Here's some real advice my dude
Don't be that guy, have dignity

So many guys are so pathetic in that area. Girls I talk to (for some reason) always tell me about their exs and how they beg for them back. I love hearing it because I like to hear about how pathetic other guys are but a small part of me feels bad for them.

>my ex called me crying at 5am saying he missed me etc.

When a relationship ends for me, I delete them from my social media and make sure I never reach out to her. Even if she reaches out to me before I feel its time we can talk again I just ignore her. If you constantly remind yourself of her it's going to take A LOT longer to get over. Don't try and replace her, just focus on you.

People like you are predictable. You have all these standards for others, but the second your life takes a turn you'll 180, or change your views.

These kids didn't choose for their dad to disappear or for their mother/father to have a bad dynamic. If a guy comes along in the future and can help raise them, isn't that a good thing for the kids? Moreover, if both adults are happy, who the fuck are you to judge?

Little cunt

user that posted niria story here..
i've also been with two other girls that have come back to me, but with 3 and 4 kids (respectively).
i couldn't be with them. sure i went out with them, had sex, but i knew i would never be #1 in their life. also the fact that when they left me for some bs reason (i.e. i'm too young, i'm not ready to be in a long term relationship). i wasn't 'good' enough for them to have/or entertain the idea to have a kid(s) with.
they'd rather fuck some asshole/douchbag (their words when they would tell me about their failed marriage/relationship(s) ) and have their kids.
but me.. nooooooooooooooooooooo
but now want me to be the father figure cause i'm a great person to them and their kids.
nah.
it's something that'll always be there when i'll see the kids/interact with them.

Tired many times, don't do it EVER

Never works

Source on her?

She was who I thought was the love of my life. She was damaged warped and changed by her life experiences and she turned into a monster. In my experience it isn't wise to look back.

Why the fuck would they Photoshop Imogen, she's already perfect

Same happened to me, once she was fixed she became an evil lying monster

It was cool. I still loved her, she still loved me.

She cheated on me after three years. Again.

I still love her.

maybe you should write a book for all your long ass posts

Actually just got engaged to my ex. Dated in highschool for a year and promptly broke up, but after reconnecting in college we realized that we've been great friends since childhood and we know and love each other inside and out

Forget the book, man! He needs to spend that time sharpening that knife!
You fall off a horse, you gotta get right back up on it. You want people to think he's some sort of loser / quitter?

Dude I've been here for 10 years and would still be considered newfag in certain circles.