Married people of Sup Forums, does being a married man/woman really mean your sex life is over...

Married people of Sup Forums, does being a married man/woman really mean your sex life is over, or is there more to that story than most people talk about.

My sex drive went way down after I got married.
There's just something less thrilling about sex knowing that you have everybody's blessing to do it.

It loses the risque factor but my wife and I did find to l until we had kids. That's just sex drive and more didn't time to do it lol

Honestly, it goes in cycles for me. Sometimes, there isn't much of it, but it's a mutual thing. Other times, we fuck like rabbits. It's different for every couple, I'd assume.

Sorry drinking phone posting leads to bad grammar

Idk man, I'm not married nor have children. But last thing I want is a bunch of selfish retards cock blocking me

My wife would rather eat than fuck. Sometimes I think shes punishing me for something. Like many married women, she seems to have no sense of obligation to have sex.

So they basically stop trying, you get neglected and then wonder why you cheat

We fuck nearly every day but my sex drive is high. Been together 12 years.

Sex or blowjob at least 3 times a week. Married 10 years.

I've been with the same woman for over 11 years. When we first started dating we fucked all the time but after the first 4-5 year mark,things changed. It become a once a week thing or whenever she wanted it. I tried to keep it exciting by trying new things,buying toys and even bdsm. It worked for a while but it also dropped off after a year or two. Then we went back to once a week or whenever she was in the mood. This went on for a few years and to be honest,I did not care anymore. At first I was just relieved because I was already tired of going through the motions just for a dead fish lay. Once my urges came back strong,I decided I wasn't going to be like my Father or friends stuck in a fuckless marriage. So just like them,I started to cheat. Nothing real,just trolling CL and backpage until I got someone to bite. Since we both work and have no kids,it was easy to get free time to fuck around. I got away with it for almost 2 years until last Summer. We finally got into a huge fight when she tried to initiate sex after a long dry spell. I turned her down because I was pissed and I told her that that shit was not fair. She started crying and I just went to my comp room to cool off. Spent a few hours drinking and stewing in my anger for a while. Eventually,decided to troll CL for some late night booty. At this point I am just shy of blackout drunk. I never did find anyone but I was pissed enough to leave the house and head to my Brothers place 2 highway exits down. I get there,we smoke some weed and I crash out. The next morning I wake up to 20 missed calls, about the same number of texts and even some notes over fb and insta.

sex as often or as little as I want, married 13 years. sometimes I just want to fap, but I always have the option to deposit in her warm cunt

Been with the same woman 12 years, been married for 4 of those 12 years. We fuck maybe once a month and is a fucking chore to get her to do it. My sex life is Sup Forums and pornhub.

Is not over if you invite your children in.

Sex is actually more frequent after 15yrs together and kids. We explore a lot more of our fetishes and fantasies.

3-4 times a week.

Judging by the responses it varies by relationship.
Me and mine been together 10 years and stil at least a few times a week... We just have less time now to play around.

For me I kinda cum quick anyway and my girth is lacking so yeah, now that we've been married for 10 years sex is for me only. Now that she's let her looks kinda go it gets less and less so there's no real incentive for either of us.

Yea I think the key is to stay adventurous. We are considering bringing in other partners/unicorn eventually..always thinking of fun stuff to try or pursue

>This

Adventurous is okay. Don't invite any into your bed...

Been married for 17 years. Have sex as often as we can. She is still smokin hot!

Dont do it. quick way to ruin your marriage.
Adding another person to your bed is a fun fantasy, but it needs to stay just that...a fantasy.

THIS. This will end your marriage

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I think things have blown over and that we will be fine after we talk it out. She says she will meet me at my Bros after work. She comes over and asks me quietly if I am okay. I told her I was fine and that I was sorry about leaving last night. That is when she told me what she went through that morning. Turns out I was so drunk I left my secret email account logged in and the window open on my desktop. There was not much evidence on the account as I regularly clear out all my drafts,sent and received emails. Except for all the shit I wrote the night before trying to get some strange. She is crying,asking me if I really do feel like I am trapped in a loveless marriage. I said no but that I did hate that sex was a chore for her. Getting the dead fish treatment was awful and even worse than not having sex at all. It was at this point I thought it was over.

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Thank you for the advice. It goes a little beyond fantasy though in our specific case.. We have talked more about a polyamory type situation..she wants a relationship with another woman. More than just a fling.. It's obviously complicated so we have only been talking about our feelings toward it...most likely won't happen.

Same for me. We fuck like crazy, or have times we don't feel like It. We ain't too bothered or care. Prefer oral sex

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We did not get divorced. We actually turned things around and now we actually have sex 3-4 times a week. Things have been great for the last few years and have only been getting better.

been married 6 years, still getting laid pretty much daily. its tougher with kids around, but manageable.

The second you let her out with another man/woman, it will be over for you. Im not joking. She will fall in love with the side piece. At first shell tell you when she goes to see her, fuck her/him then she will start doing it behind your back. Ive seen this shit a million times. Don't do it.

Not necessarily true. Especially if it goes both ways.

If only you would have just talked to her about how you felt instead of cheating..wasted a lot of time and caused problems for yourselves down the road

i work sex therapy, id say 9/10 times it fails. Not worth the risk if you love your partner.

Glad it worked out pal. Be good.

If your already discussing bringing another person into your marriage you may want to rethink marriage period. You abviously are not make each other happy individually.

The story takes place over years and their are details missing. If you think I cheated at the first chance I had, you are wrong.

False. Talking does not really work with women. Nothing works better than dread. If you have any experience with women as a man you would understand.

You are completely right, if I could go back and do it over,I wouldn't have done it.

Married almost 15 years and we have sex usually 4-5 times a week.

The thing is in marriage, you have to work at it. This includes having sex. You have to make each other feel wanted, and that shit is a chore, so you just become best friends most of the time. You hang out, you live together, you make life work. Sometimes feelings get hurt communication breaks down, but you always love each other. It's when you stop feeling hurt is when you know your marriage is in trouble. It's like when you have a friend that you just don't care what he says or does anymore.

Couples meet up for evenings more often than you think. Most of them are sane and happy with each other,just looking for new bodies to play with. They are not looking for new love.

About 10 Times a year. Pre-marriage it was twice per week. Take from that what you will...

I hope that is not why things changed but I wouldn't be surprised if it is true.

Didn't marry for sex.
I married so she would have and raise my children while I'm at work.
It works out. She's sexless and I have the internet.
Not cheated yet, but I might.

When we were dating, my wife would give it up whenever I wanted.

However, once we got married after a year or so she started to bat my hand away, or say "tomorrow" all the time, and never follow through. We would have sex every other week or so. I was left sexually frustrated and it hurt our marriage cause the subsequent days I'd snap at her over small shit.

This went on for few years. One day, I woke up after taking care of myself for the umpteenth time. My wife had a fucking duty to service her man and her neglect was not cool. I told my wife this was non-negotiable and I was ready to walk if things didn't change. We had had a lot of fights before about sex and they alway led to some changes for a week or two and then reverting back to old behavior. This time was different though.

I just started taking her when I need it. She try to roll over or swat me away? I rip those panties off and fuck her hard. She go to bed early and falls asleep? Walk up to the bed, pull down her PJ pants and do her from behind. We are doing it around 3-4 times a week now, which is about what it takes to keep my sex drive in check. Our marriage is way better now. She still complains sometimes but is mostly resigned to our new life.

I've honestly notice she has gotten into it more now than she did in the past. Even if she starts out just laying there, she'll get into it before we are done. She has noticed I'm not longer as irritable during the day as well.

This! I am just lucky we worked it out. Feel unwanted and hurt long enough,you may lash out.

Gotta love church institutionalized rape

kek

>>be me, be married
>>wife never wanted sex after we got married.
>>sometimes dry spells lasting over 6 months.
>>She goes on a 'business' trip to visit her boss ( also female so she wasnt fucking her boss) but learned she paid her own way
>>found out thru neighbors they saw her having lunch with a sales guy that lived in the same town as her boss
>>when she gets home from trip, shes pissed that shes home, shows no affection
>>dog digs into her luggage and pulls out lingerie ( fucking dog had a used panty problem)
>>wtf.jpg do you need lingerie on a business trip
>>ask her if she still wants to be married.
>>two days later she moves out, leaves her dog

I have to say that I still havent found anyone after 15 years ago.
I havent had sex in 8 years. but I will have to say its more lonely in a marriage with no sex than not having sex....but both sucks

Now why cant I find anyone? fuck if I know. you would think a guy whos a millionaire, owns his own house and is pretty decent looking would get some play, but once you get close to 40, all of the bitches your age have a reason why they are single. Either they are drinkers or fucking nuts.

last chick I dated had 3 mug shots on a google search. fuck that shit. was actually scared to break up with her. bat shit crazy

I should try tinder to get some action....are older chicks on tinder ( late 30s?)

welcom to awalt and becomming chad, don't change for her change for you and don't compromise your wants and needs.

- be me
- maried 20 yrs this spring
- 2nd marriage both of us
- no kids (this marriage or others)
- wife = you +5
- menopause 10 years ago
- nofap is fuggin joke!

if you're rich and decent looking then you can get woman of any age. you're either lying or not trying.

rich and more than decent looking.

Problem is, after you get to a certain financial state, you don't want to even talk to the gold diggers. Last G/F ended up being one.

but yea, I will admit, I gave up trying. Plus one other thing to consider.
Herpies is all over the fucking place....last statistic I heard was 1 in 6 when you get close to age 40. I dated to chicks in the last few years that immediately said they were HSV+....fucking deal breaker. Some experiance is ok, swimming in the community pool is not.

Bmy wife and i have been married for 9 years and before we got married she was like a rabbit i couldnt keep up, then we had kids and slowly she started not to be as into it. But then a couple of years ago my libido started going up like i was in my 20's (im 38) but she was totaly not into it. We fought and fought because twice a week wasnt enough and for the past couple of years i have had this raging hard on for my wife that she doesnt want to due her duty by

You're going to lose half your shit you degenerate

I've known some people in your type of position.

They all seemed to meet other divorcees who were previously married to other rich people and were taken care of financially so money was not an issue. But they like being with other successful people so that's why they hooked up.

Maybe join a country club or something were other people will be who won't care about your financial status.

I fuck my wife 3-5 times a week. We have vanilla sex but we also have adventurous sex. Sometimes it's a quicky, sometimes we get a hotel room and fuck all night. It's a normal sex life. Virgin fag.

Married for 11 years with 2 children here. Sometimes it's the girl, but in our case it was the contraceptive pill.
When we first started dating it was as often as possible, but we got sick of using condoms after a year so she went on the pill. That shit killed her libido almost immediately, she hated it too because she had a high sex drive before she went on it, she said she would have to masturbate at least once a day (mostly twice she reckons, unless we had sex that day) and she missed it. Eventually we found a low dose one that didn't fuck around with her hormones too much so she was ok with it but sex was only 2-3 times a week (up from once every other week).
Eventually we got married, bought a house etc.etc. and she went off contraception all together because we wanted kids, fucking. could. not.keep.up. I would come home from work and she was already ready to go, zero foreplay just drop everything and fuck right there and then. She says she can't wait for the kids to start school just so she can rub one out during the day in peace. Has been like that ever since, we just stick with condoms for now because she refuses to go back on the pill.

chek'd

Please go on about this all night sex stuff
Are you saying twice by midnight
again at 3am
And again at 8am
Or what

Swinging. It's not for everyone, but it helps a marriage on many levels, the first being the sexual one.

fair, I guess it's pretty hyperbolic. Usually once before we go out for dinner and drinks. Home around 12 or 1. Fuck twice, shower, watch a movie, maybe doze off. Fuck again around 3:30 or 4, sleep by 6. Wake up around 11:30, fuck, brunch.

Lel getting real fucking tired of this story
>man and wife decide they want to be adventurous
>they agree that neither of them are jealous people so it's OK
>it seems great
>both find people to fuck
>a few weeks/months the cracks start to appear him/her are starting to hang out with the person they're fucking
>jealousy starts to show, the jealous one starts hanging out with the one they're fucking more now
>eventually it's not enough and jealousy causes them to take a break, and eventually leads to a divorce.
Fucking every time!

Problem that I have, is that I live in the peoples republic of Boulder.

Either the snobs here are so wound up tight, or you have to date a hippie chick who doesnt shave. 'Welcome to the jungle' is most bitches theme song around here. So hanging with folks with money is a fucking chore...and ever since Google moved into town, there are a lot more pretentious dicks around.

Really I'm a closet millionaire, only one person in my whole family knows how much I have, its my brother. and he is allowing me to invest his cash to get him there....lol I doubled his salary alone in the stock market last year.

Shit I will hang with friends and they will insist on paying for dinner...cause they dont think I have money.

But really what escapes me is that I do ask friends if they know of any decent single chicks....I have only had one that ever set me up with a blind date.

How in the fuck do you meet women these days....and fuck online dating.
I tried that, all those chicks want is their free meal, and then they take home food....supplement their grocery shopping. Its just like when they go to the bar for free drinks

>thinking of cheating
>it works out
Gg

My wife and I each tried it once. We fucking hated it, it was awful. Realized where it could go real fast.

might want to check out those iuds they might not have the same side effects.

Fair enough. My problem is I live in small town with nothing but country bumpkins. The only single woman my age already have kids and that's not ideal for me. You got any stock tips, lol?

You sound boring as fuck, bro. I can see why you struggle

Tech Stocks
AMZN GOOG
Business Stocks
FDX UPS PHM
Watch your gas and oil stocks this year.
XOM NObile Energy BPS, etc. Gas is going up this year...they are looking at 80 a barrel
Heathcare
Dont get into MCK...I just dumped them. after 60 minutes report their outlook isnt that great

I second this, been looking to invest. I hope thigns work out for you. I'm 22 glad ive still got time. Tho i defs wont settle for any chick's shit. Im gonna do what i want without any body telling me no. Best of luck to you man, hope you make it with someone.

Guess your dubs dont lie.
I should just an hero then

If you don't want anyone to know you're rich but still asking ppl to hook you up with some pussy, you're asking for people to find out about your secrets

Either pay some whores or beat your dick, you don't wanna end up having everyone know about your secret stuff and have some random fucking hag make you believe some lovey dovey shit just so they can get ahold of your money for themselves

In my 20’s and 30’s I banged dozens of married women. Even got one pregnant. So they are fucking...just not their husbands. Sad side effect is I don’t trust women anymore now that I’m old enough to want to be married.

Thanks for the tips. I've saved almost 100K and now I want to put that money to work. Trying to figure out what to invest in is harder than I thought.

thnx man. Ill keep this stuff in mind. Gotta save up some money to invest

Had to ask

I have regularly lasted nearly 2hours fucking till cramping from dehydration, lasting all night id need some extra.fluid aside from enough minerals to keep from cramping
I do wish i could just rip out a few 30 minute sessions before needing to recuperate, them again the joy of extended sessions is such a fine ego boost aside from quickies doing so little for me

So the majority of most successful relations ships are usually because they were set up by friends.

Which really isnt rocket science, as you tend to hang out with people most like yourself and are in the same social ladder as well.

You're gonna cheat. It happens. She will too. Just don't be too hard on yourself when you do, and don't feel like it's a betrayal to you if she does. It just happens.

double triple....
damn near the word of God

Any ass shot ?

Moar freaky, less frequent. It's a mixed bag.

Good for you, you withdrew before it ripped your marriage a new asshole
, I don't get how some guys do it and think yea this is sustainable

Yeah we heard the copper one is non hormonal but can make periods heavy with some women. She has an appt. with our doc tomorrow to discuss options. Def not getting the snip though

Why not try elite singles, it's a dating site success fags and success dykes

>TFW me and my wife do some kinky shit to keep the stuff interesting
>TFW after marriage and kids we started to explore even more swinger life
>TFW shes pegged me
>TFW we've had MFM DP threesomes
>TFW we've had MMF threesomes
>TFW we've had FFM threesomes
>TFW we've had FMF threesomes
>TFW we're trying to set up a gangbang

Not in the cuck stuff but DP'ing my wife turns me the fuck on.

>TFW shes pegged me

shut up faggot cumming while getting your prostate fucked with is insanely good. You're just insecure about your own sexuality.

I'm a guy - married for going on ten years with two kids. Have sex maybe 2-3 times a month, and would do it 2-3 times a day if I could. Wife was pretty good before marriage. Funny thing is it dropped off after engagement, not just the marriage itself. We have been in tons of arguments about it, and all I can get is that she just isn't interested in sex anymore. Says she has zero desire to do it. Says she still loves me, etc. but sex is the last thing on her mind. She is not on birth control and I had a vasectomy about three years ago after the second kid.

My sex life is xvideos and here. It is so bad that I have made a few dumb decisions by trying to talk to old high school flings and other girls on social media, but none give me the time of day because I am married. In the end I turn out to be the creepy, thirsty person I never intended to be. Probably perceived as a perv. I hate that about myself but I can't help it. I just want to have sex.

I'm real sorry to hear that bud. Wife sounds kind of shitty. Might want to get her hormones checked. I know from people personally in my life that HRT (hormone replacement therapy) really boosts sex drive.

>I'm not a cuck but I like other dudes fucking my wife

lol k dude

I've asked her to get them checked but she won't. She either has no desire to or is lying about something. Either way, for me to keep pushing just pissed her off.

Just read the whole thread, I appreciate all of the responses.

I just got engaged to my fiancée, we have been dating for close to 10 years prior and with sex it has been the same story through this thread... tons of sex in the beginning but now it seems to be a chore that fortunately for me she is willing to do... for now anyways. We both love each other and communicate very well. Sex sometimes isn’t a big deal to me but other times it is.

Any experienced/seasoned married Sup Forumstards have any advice to help keep the ‘spark’ alive?

>Call others faggot
>Likes things up his ass

Pick one, retard.

I just ended up getting a vasectomy. Shes not on the pill and we don't have to use protection. I was 35 at the time and have two children. Even if things didn't work out with my wife for some reason, I knew I didn't want anymore children.

I feel like all I'd need to do is sniff her pussy and I'd be diamonds. That's her. That's her unique scent. It drives me crazy. No matter how old, or how I'm feeling. Sniff her pussy, look into her eyes; done.

I'm 20 year old dude and this thread is pretty depressing tbh. Guess my plan of getting married after I hit 30 isn't such a bad idea, innit

I know two swinger couples and both of them have major marital issues from participating in the swinger life.

They both said it was good for a while but the lifestyle lead to bigger problems for both couples.

I feel for most swingers, you have to have been on baord with that lifestyle at the very beginning of the relationship versus adopting it down the road.

She’s banging someone else. I know you’re in denial. Get a PI to document it, get involved at school and start documenting your super-Dad-ness. Check coworkers, school parents, and ppl from gym then check neighbors. She’s getting it. Just not from you.

I've been married 17 years. We fuck pretty regularly, a couple times a week on a low-slump. Generally, at least one of those is her fucking me awake. She needs to stop. Those wake up fuck sessions are dangerous. I blame them for us having as many kids as we do. (She fucking sucks at putting a condom on me while I'm asleep).