Adults of Sup Forums, how do lower your standards and learn to live a happy life?

Adults of Sup Forums, how do lower your standards and learn to live a happy life?

I'm 25 and the girls I'm attracted to are the top 1% and out of my league. The ones I can get are still pretty, in the top 5-10% but after I date them for a while, I just feel unsatisfied they're not the perfect models of my dreams and break up with them.

I've been doing this for a while and realize its made me unhappy but I can't keep myself from only wanting the perfect blonde bombshell. Any of y'all been through something similar?

Do shrooms and kill your ego. Your wiring is all fucked up and 7 grams would fix you.

Yo just raise your game

Geeze... go find someone to have fun with. Looks don't last.

Can confirm.

All women get unattractive over time. Find someone that makes you happy.

Stop looking disgusting, that's the first step, all the other things just happen

A hard cock has no conscience, is what my old man used to say. It also is wayyy less picky.

Find a woman who wants to fuck you. Put your penis inside her and ejaculate. Done and done, dude.

>I'm 25
stopped reading, come back when your 40 and still acting like a faget.

Also, even if you're fucking a slam piggie, there is no reason why you can't imagine you're giving it to Jennifer Lawrence. The mind is an amazing thing, dude.

Looks are a bit overrated get a chick that will suck your dick, make you a sandwich and raise your kids right.

Just make sure shes not a complete dumpsterfire

I realize looks don't last and it's just superficial non-sense. I also know the perfect girl probably wouldn't want to date an average guy like me. Logically I know what I am doing is objectively stupid and wrong. I should just be happy with what I have. I know all that.

But emotionally I can't stop myself from feeling sexually/emotionally unsatisfied after a while. That's where the problem is. I'm sure part of is wanting what I don't have.

I've dated/fucked my share of women. That's never been a problem. I always notice their imperfections lose interest in the long-term though.

Have you tried not being such a judgemental faggot?

good question, OP.

some of us really are obsessed with female attractiveness, to the point that i wonder if there's such a thing as a beauty fetish. I mean when you look a Sup Forums, half the threads are about chicks no one can get.

i'm like you, i can't outgrow appearance. it's really been a huge debate inside of me that's been lasting for years. i've sacrificed many things in a relationship for an attractive chick. i'm 32 now and i don't know if my example is going to be at all helpful. i decided to fuck looks as much as possible and go for an interesting personality. my current girl isn't ugly, but yeah, she's definitely not my type. she's interesting tho, she's got conversation and she accepts me for who i really am.

i do think about banging more attractive chicks every day, though.

gosh do i hate this desire. This thing inside of us that pushes us towards certain chicks and makes us ignore some others completely. it biaises our entire perception of people, the way we interact with them. we're all just slaves to our dicks, really. i hate not being able to control who i desire and who i don't.


also yeah, anons are right, looks don't last. one of the rare consolation i have is looking at chicks that used to be superbombs and got ugly with time. you look at brigitte bardot today and you don't feel a slave to her looks anymore.

become a street punk (or TekFreak), decide to marry the first decent looking girl who offers to share her flat with you. That's guarantee of a golden heart. I was a junky/alcoholic/ street singer guitarist of the gutterpunk sort, met my lovely petite accordion player right before my 25th birthday may last year, moved in with her in june, she's been nothing but sweet and loyal. Only golden heart girls swoop you off the street, and that will never get old. Plus she's got tiny tits, wont sag in the future/

Yo so, I may be able to help a little bit.

These anons are on to something, but you don't have to send yourself into galactic orbit to take to heart what they are saying.

Right now you are still young, but you're not as young as maybe some of your friends, and most likely not as young as the people you are trying to establish this feeling of "Fuck yeah, this is what I want" with.

Am I wrong? Do you primarily get with younger women, or at at least in the age range of 18-25?

You have a manifestation of what perfection is in your head, and this manifestation has (sexually) become visualized into a perfectly pleasing aesthetic.

"I want to be with someone perfect, and this is what my brain thinks perfect is, so I want to be with this."

You're obviously not fucking stupid, because you're asking the super important question: "How do I change the way that I think and perceive the things outside of me?"

You want to do this because you don't like how you feel, and how you feel is a result of your desires to find perfection in your partner. Right now that perfection is presented in your brain as physical perfection, but what do you suppose the chances are that you're actually queuing in on the fact that these people you are seeing also have no fucking clue what is going on in life, are still figuring their shit out, are probably just as likely to be dealing with their own warped expectations of reality, AND fucked up in the head as you are over the whole thing?

Take a breath, chill for a moment, and wonder if you trust your brain/spirit/ego/subconscious to give you everything straight out.

Our minds are renowned for approaching our conscious self with riddles, images, and irrational feelings and associations; do you really think that the look of someone's meatsuit, especially when ONCE found to be good enough, is going to turn you away?

Nah dude, I think maybe your brain is trying to tell you something else.

Don't listen to this guy. Settling is stupid. It's not fair to you, it's not fair to the person you end up with. Find someone you like. At 25 I could of settled for some okay looking girls but the worse personalities possible I would of fucking shot myself by now if I ended up with them. Doesn't hurt to give less attractive ones a chance, met one in my late 20's that would of been pretty easy to get along with if she wasn't so pushy. If you don't like ugly girls, don't date them. If you don't like sluts, don't settle for sluts. Neither of you deserve it.

>Have you tried not having purple as your favorite color

That's what it sounds like to me. I know I'm a judgmental faggot but how do I change a fundamental part of my nature? Can you just stop liking a certain color?

You get my pain bro, you're exactly right. My last relationship I was dating this girl Ash who is a pretty girl by anyone's standards, cute face with a great pair of tits and ass. And she was a good girl too.

At the same time I met this model Jessica and the entire time I was with Ash, I kept trying to think of ways I could fuck Jessica. Felt guilty about it but Jessica was just so fucking sexy I couldn't control myself.

Sometimes I feel like the only way I could be happy is if I was a millionaire playboy type character and could just buy any hoe I wanted.

Silent Bob: You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of 'em just cheat on you.

you can try reading a couple books by michel houellebecq, he's a bro, he gets us. his novel 'atomised' gave me feels

cont.

If you genuinely thought that impossible to achieve physical perfection was the key to happiness, then you wouldn't be second-guessing how you are viewing the relationships you have tried to cultivate.

Your question wouldn't be "How do I lower my standards to lead a happy life", it would be "How do I keep fucking hot chicks until one marries me?"

There's no shame in having a sexualized ideal of relationship compatibility, man, just look at pretty much every 1st world culture and how early we push our children into sex-based imagery.

If you don't like thinking like that, though, then there is a LOT of shame is not changing what your expectations are. It seems like you are already doing the hardest bit, so all of this will hopefully be some form of validation that you're on the track to the right thing.

As far as advice is concerned?

Remove yourself from the dating pool, and don't let anybody distract you from continuing to identify aspects of your past that you don't want affecting your future. Change them.
Become the person that you want to be now, vs the person you wanted to be 2 years ago.

Start doing this, and you will find beautiful fucking people everywhere that you couldn't see before, and the ones that are only skin deep will be about as romantically appealing as pretty rocks.

Just stick around here long enough. This chart should help you out.

>pic related

It's called stop being a little bitch. Honestly if that's what you want then keep going for it, just expect to fail 99% of the time

Yeah this but do the shrooms anyway. You'll fly through all this questioning in about 10 hours and wake up with a greater appreciation of whats going on and for some reason I quit smoking and drinking for almost a year. Didnt think about either for the longest time.

Your shallow. If you don’t find girls personality can bump 5% to 1% then you should kill your self now because you’re going to die alone. Get over yourself and take what you can get and look in the non physical that brings you pleasure.

Your illiterate.

Realize you can't get the top 1% because you are too ugly or just broke. Stay in your lane.

Seems like perception and ego imbalances to me.
In case you are for real (since this problem is quite common) I will give you my best understanding

I trekked a long road out of poverty and now I found a good job, a soon-to-be wife (4 years older than me, that doesn't look great at first glance, but is amazing in every way) I have aspirations, I want kids, and I keep myself busy.

The solution to this is this:

Fuck happiness.

Happiness is overrated.

It is important, of course, but don't make that your goal.

Your goal should be fulfillment.

Google these concepts, do some little reading, and apply them a lot: Growth mindset, authenticity, improv theatre, alan watts, tantra, start with why

Good luck.

Oh yeah, still me.

I forgot the most important lesson I applied in the past 3 years.

Love yourself.

If you can't love yourself how do you expect others to do the same, and genuinely authentically.

P.S. I'm 25 too.

*you're
So are you.

You’re the one bitching if you can’t handle opinions and advise don’t fucking ask child of Sup Forums . I speak truth get over yourself and look more at value of personality

>I just feel unsatisfied they're not the perfect models of my dreams and break up with them.
Perfection doesn't exist.
>I can't keep myself from only wanting the perfect blonde bombshell.
Chances are the "perfect blonde bombshell" will be dumb as fuck

despite what the faggots tell you in this thread, having standards is not bad.

i am a 6/10 at best and i only date 9s and 10s, physically and mentally.

inferior women don't just disappoint me, they disgust me and depress me.

keep your standards. dont fuck disgusting thots just to get off, its not worth the price you pay with your soul.

Yeah all the women I've dated have been between 19-24. I've been thinking about going no porn, no dating for a while so I can reset myself. I think that's a good suggestion, will be difficult to pull off.

I think the reason I didn't ask "How do I keep fucking hot chicks until one marries me?" is because I know if keep trying, I could probably get that 1% out of sheer luck. But part of me knows even if I got that girl, I'd still be unhappy because then I'd want the 0.1% of girls then.

The way my personality is, I find it so hard to not be greedy and just be happy with what I have. I always want more. There are girls I've chased forever, I was obsessed with them. But once I was finally able to get them it didn't give my happiness or peace. It felt like I completed the level of a video game and it was time for me to move on to the next level (the next better girl, the next obsession).

I've been thinking about trying DMT. Less risk of a bad trip from what I read. Similar effects.

Very true. I don't think I love or even care for myself much. Maybe this is where I should start.

so why are you posting pictures of jayme langford? i thought she retired

loved that shit. i havent been long enough here though, im just at the third step

Just a quick reminder that the ugly girls try harder as they feel they have more to prove. You can go with top rated but they're nowhere near as fun as the middle ground. every time I've lowered my standards and slept with someone who I wouldn't ordinarily go with if not drunk/dry spell/on vacation etc the sex has been like crazy good...and damn right filthy.

By going MGTOW and live comfy on all the extra money you can keep for yourself.

Men propose, women dispose. They will never settle with a lesser man.

The thing is... Those 1% girls you're after... They don't exist. They are the same 5-10% that you already have except you didn't have the opportunity to examine them closely. Once the clothes go down every single one of them will have imperfections for you to notice. I've been a nudist for years now, seen ~10k nude women of all ages, not one of them were perfect. What they look when they have makeup and clothes on usually doesn't translate to what they actually look like.

I find her to be incredibly attractive.

I think she's a good metaphor for my problem. I like her and want her even though I know she's all style and no substance. Have you ever heard any of the "music" her band created? It's some of the worst ear-rape a person could be subjected to.

Still hot tho

> The ones I can get are still pretty, in the top 5-10%
we can't help you until you stop lying to yourself, faggot