How does /b feel about long distance relationships? Any Experience? Good/Bad idea?

How does /b feel about long distance relationships? Any Experience? Good/Bad idea?
Talking about long distance as in living in different states.

good

Had plenty of those and kinda is at the moment. Simple rules to stay happy imo
1) Stay in touch, just not every day. Once a while.
2) See other people, just like you were single.

The point is knowing, when life is gonna get you back together, you'll be there and ready.

sry for sounding so gay but relationship talk always sounds gay when being serious. Good luck Sup Forumsro

I have been in a long distance relationship for over two years. It is challenging but it is worth it in the end. If your relationship can survive distance, it can survive anything. Although you and your partner must be sure its the right call.

met girl online

fell in love, long distance for over a year

moved in, together for like 3 years. things didn't work but we are still friends.

have a good job and don't care to move back

my advice is it works if you are actually in love, don't bother if you aren't that into her or she doesn't make you happy, not worth the effort and pain.

we lived in different continents, but it worked for 3 years. saw each other twice a year for a month or so at a time. It was perfect. Then she actually moved in with me and that's when we realized it wouldn't work. We broke up after 6 months living together

Dated a girl who live in different states. This was pre-smart phone era Here's the outcome:

>met online chatroom
>hit it off well
>chatted online sending nudes for a long time
>phone sex every chance we got
>go to meet up
>both nervous a fuck so we split the bill and met halfway
>she rented the hotel we we're staying for the weekend
>finally met face to face
>awkwardness ensued
>chatted for the first day and only made out
>second day went out and enjoyed the town we were in had a blast. Opened up to each other more.
>after dinner went back and fucked like rabbits
>continued meeting up a few times a year
>eventually she moved in with me despite her parents against it hating me calling me a rapist from the internet
>live together for 2 and 1/2 years. She became distant
>sex stopped and she said she was always tired from working
>I was exhausted too. I made more money and supported most of us
>came one one day to her stuff gone
>she changed her phone number
>months went by I never heard from her
>didn't move on because I was worried about her. Shame on me for caring
>get a call from her explaining she's back with her ex and living back at home
>never really liked me but enjoyed the ride and free stuff
>hurt like hell
>lost the deposit on the engagement ring I was paying for
>never long distance dated again

That was my experience summed up.

I'm curious to hear from OP on those...

wow you fell on a major cunt Sup Forumsud, sry to hear

All just a learning experience. Met my wife on an online dating site. Together for 7 years. It all worked out in the end.

That sucks man. I know that my relationship is the right call and this is one of my worst fears. I'm 100% confident that this woman is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and it takes a lot of strength, determination, and communication to get through the long distance portion.

I'm sometimes astonished by Sup Forums compassion and caring. Just look at this thread so far...

My advice to you is when the time comes and you spring the question of living together, put it all out on the table.

Tell her your fears about it and be open. It's easy to support someone over the phone but when your face to face and they say the feel like they've hit rock bottom, you gotta be on that like shit on velcro. You don't ever want them second guessing their decisions.

Ive been in a few, I dont like them. You always find yourself missing them and wanting to be with them and they are never around. Also the distance slows down the really REALLY getting to know them process and it retards the time it takes to figure out if it is going to work on not.

Gotta stop a Sup Forumsro from spam posting anhero threads when it doesn't work out.

Future quality control

Thanks for the tip. I am absolutely sure that this won't happen since we have a system of vows to each other and she is vowed to me and I to her. We communicate extremely well and she is worth 75 quadrillion basic bitch Stacy's.
>You always find yourself missing them and >wanting to be with them and they are never >around

This is so true

>slows down the really REALLY getting to know them process and it retards the time it takes to figure out if it is going to work on not.

I actually disagree with this. With distance you truly get to know another person with most of the time not actually being with the person. Because it isn't just being horny. It is a personal connection sharing all of your interests, learning new languages and new ideas, sharing our lives together a thousand miles away from each other. This is of course if both partners know how hard this can be yet how rewarding it is when you both wait and remain loyal for true love.

Since you asked

we met on last.fm

hit it off quick with conversation and flirting

neither of had a serious relationship before and were both virgins, she was 17 i was 19. am 26 now. broke up just a couple months ago. am still living together but in different rooms.

Her mom liked me and let me move in ( i moved in before actually meeting in person, shit is wild in retrospect, we were both on dxm actually when we met)

a few things fucked the relationship up:

lying
porn
was shitfaced drunk and another girl kissed me / her being really insecure leading to her forever suspecting me of liking other girls constantly

my advice:

don't look at porn unless the girl into it

honesty is the best policy ( not always that simple but never straight up lie about important shit)

I've basically been a mind controlled sex slave of a bunch of people my whole life including people who track and harass me remotely does that count?

There's absolutely 0 reason to do long distance. Because there is always somebody in your local area you can date instead.

With long distance you don't really have an idea of what the person is like and how well you really get along in person in person. The online persona is not going to matchup with who they are IRL. You get almost no intimacy with them. You almost never do anything together IRL. Just stay away from long distance. I've never heard of an LD working out.

Like yes it is doable but what's the fucking point when its 100x easier to just date locally

met a guy online thru steam a while back

had a thing

didn't work out

was a little half-asian dutch twink who fucked with my brain

goes telling me after we break up that what we had wasn't real it was nothing it was fake forget it

>proceeds to date another girl online

>tells her im cancer, a bitch and nevers want to see me again

> said the same thing when we broke up (lol wyd, you same thing again, rat)

now we know who the real loser is

fuck online relationships or relationships at all

i got my left hand >:(

Don't last

My girlfriend has just moved to a different state for 3 months to further her career... we’re trying to keep it going, but she just told me yesterday she’s staying for another 3 months... so instead of coming back in March she’s staying til July. Feels pretty shit to be honest