How do you find happiness ?

how do you find happiness ?

thats an age-old question people have been trying to define forever.

you can start by not saving pornography

you don't find it
it finds you

what we think will make us happy often has nothing to do with what will, in fact, may work against you in the search.

where ever you're looking is probably the wrong place as well.

good luck.

align your expectations with reality (expect exactly what is most likely to happen) and over time, you'll be less disappointed with your life, and therefore happier.

Science tells us how the world works, and when it's wrong it amends itself. Either convince yourself or accept that what science teaches us is true, including evolution, atomic theory, the rejection of dualism (mind and body are separate entities) among others.

If you accept these things and use them to mold your expectations about how your life is going or will turn out (your job, your intelligence, your daily routines effect on your happiness, etc.), you will not be surprised, and you'll learn how to become happier by applying a biological context to your happiness.

This guy is admitting defeat. You're a self-conscious being, basically a god. Use that powerful brain of yours to take control of your life and make it your bitch. You've only got one.

The question is already well defined
Doesn't help, try again
>it finds you
Happiness takes more than getting lucky

We each have things we find fulfilling. Some of them rely on others, or resources, or unhealthy habits. The happiness offered by these things fades over time. The journey for true happiness is long and few find the destination. Do you have the conviction to not stop searching? If so the best place to start is usually within yourself.

This is funny because people who are religious/spiritual are happier and healthier on average (so says science).

Happiness is a warm gun

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peace and free of violence

This is because of the community benefit. Religious communities gather and do stuff together, whereas normal people usually don't have anything to supplement their socialization time like that. Unless they go out dancing or something which many people do.

Also, the world of religious people is complete. Everything has a reason, there are no unanswered questions whereas normal people have many unknowns that either consciously or unconsciously affect them.

I imagine the perfectly happy human isn't afraid of these unknowns and finds the fact that they exist rather beautiful. Even if those people don't exist now, we can push society towards the idea and away from religion and people will be happier once they realize how beautiful mystery is.

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>how do you find happiness ?
Come in the mouth of some cute little blond bitch

Wherever it is, it's definitely not on Sup Forums

subhumans get out reeeee etc.

by not actively seeking it, rather doing what your senses tell you, although that might be hard, but ye, i think you will feel happiness when you feel accomplished, and you must feel something,

but along that road i bet money help, and probably friends, but ye, dont do things just cause, ohh yee that supposed to make me happy, its probably different for everyone, i mean how bad it is, someone is happy to be the gang leader of a gang, and killing people, maybe in that position you would feel super shitty, even tho you would have power and all

someone loves to be a doctor someone doesn't etc etc.. so ye, TRY to do what you feel, i guess its harder if you are socially awkward and all, and ye for starters you can try to lose doing stuff like
says, cause beside trying to do what you want, i guess saving every fucking picture from porn threads including FB/insta shits is pretty bad compulsive behavior.

A combination of caffeine, nicotine, amphetamines and xanax.

DRUGS

Happyness finds you. When you deserve it.

My step kids bring me lots of happiness. Especially me beautiful 9yo girl. She has the funniest and cutest smile. And when she laughs everyone in the room starts laughing. Sleeping in the same bed as hers also brings me so much joy, to see her little closed eyes and cute little face just makes me smile. She's worth the world to me.

>This is because of the community benefit
Spiritual practice often does not entail a community and still has similar benefits (albeit less because communities really are important).

>Also, the world of religious people is complete.
Maybe fundamentalists but most religious people I know accept that there are grand unknowns, things for only God to see. Some can place their faith in God and move past those, some cannot. Some (like me) embrace the unknowable nature of reality - there is much to learn from uncertainty.

It starts with letting go. Remembering who you really are, but to do that you must forget who you are not. There isn't anything you must do find happiness. You normal is state is happiness, the only requirement is surrendering the illusion of the game we all play. Doing this is the hardest part, but you will know when its time to let go and let life do the driving.

Somebody is considered subhuman for liking the Beatles now? That's a new one.

I don't

Or, you could win the game.

But there is much truth to what you're saying. Especially when it comes to love.

Buddhism: The art of lying to yourself.
Your life isn't shitty, it's insignificant. Come, gaze into the grand illusion and forget your troubles.

I caught no Beatles reference lol I quite enjoy them, so sorry bout it.

I was raging because you're answers were severely lacking

"happiness is a warm gun"

Growth. You're miserable if you withdraw from responsibility and challenge. When you face the things that normally scare you away from being the person you want to be, you feel good. And that's by whatever values you personally hold. Happiness comes from the exercising of your life muscles.

None of those were my answers. "happiness is a warm gun" is a Beatles song off the white album, quite a good tune too give it a listen.

I would need to see the study you're referencing.

But true that most religious people are a blend of the two extremes, but on average I would argue religious people use God as an excuse whenever it's convenient for them, whenever life comes down hard on them, and this makes them happier.

There's nothing wrong with that, but "TO PRAY IS TO ACCEPT DEFEAT!"

Said a very wise MC.

this is why people collect art.
i could be poor as ever (currently i am actually gainfully employed and doing well, however) but i could still be poor i have tons of art amassed and that's what makes me happy

will do boss will do

Real truth is not limited to a certain religion. It's everywhere all the time. Can be found in every moment with anyone. After all, real love is seeing yourself in another being.

MODS

to think that forward, i think everyone is "seeking" happiness by default, actually kind of like
this says about "normal state"
happiness is not the same for everyone, and ye i think everyone WOULD BE happy [but that would be a lawful good IMBALANCED world] "only" the unlucky ones get derailed by a crippling illness/disability/mental disorder/sexual harassment/abuse/etc. and they would need to get back on their way, only, its not that easy,, and also, for some faggots happiness unfortunately means killing and stealing

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I see where you're coming from. I was raised methodist and became atheist. After 6 years of atheism I was meditating and came to a similar conclusion - that religion is most often used as an escape. This is the tool that let's people move past their struggles and regain their happiness.

Because of this I believe it would make more sense to say:
>To pray is to accept hope amidst defeat.

Then he should probably stop paraphrasing Buddhism.

It's actually non duality. You can experience it for yourself, either die or smoke dmt. Either one will lift the veil.

I go on walks with my wife.

you dont

>It's actually non duality
So are most religious beliefs, and I've done plenty of drugs user. Even without drugs I've had experiences few would believe. I'm no longer an atheist, I now identify as an agnostic theist.

I find happiness in reading filenames like that.

it started nice and cute but got weird at the end.
i like that

What does this gif mean?
Whats weird about the story about my little girl?

Interesting. I was also raised methodist and became atheist. But if you're truly atheist and there is no god then what are those people praying to?

They're literally playing mind games to make themselves feel better, which is all they can do at that point. When you can do nothing else but lie to yourself, you're admitting defeat.

I think even most religious people would agree that solving your problems yourself first is the best way to go, and when you're out of options a prayer "never hurts". But as long as you're alive so is your will.

The thing is we cannot picture god accurately. This my personal bias opinion based on my experiences like meditation/drugs etc, but I have felt god to be a form of energy if you will. Animating life. And bliss may be experienced when the creator and the creation become one and manifest the Devine into the physical world. Idk dude I use to be atheist as well. I believe in god now, but I guess it's not the way most people do.

I'm no longer atheist user, sorry to disappoint. It was when I realized the escapist nature of religion that I became an agnostic theist. I mean that wasn't the reason, there was more to it, but I won't bore you. I doubt you'd believe me anyway. From your perspective my beliefs are just a mind game. I wish I could show you everything I saw meditating that day, but I can only show you the things you already understand.

WTF MODS

a few million dollars, a house, a car and a cbr1000rr.

I believe that God is unknowable, that reality is fundamentally questionable, and the fact that some questions can never be answered is intentional. I like to entertain simulation theory as it gives me a good framework to make and test assumptions like the ones I just listed, but ultimately I can only live my life, same as everyone else. We all have our own perceptions of reality, of God, and of ourselves.

MODSMODSMODS RETARD

If you truly believe your set of beliefs could lead someone to happiness, you'll share them haha.

I'd also like to mention I only got this far by being exposed to things I initially DIDN'T understand. Like all learning.

Don't run user, this is a rational and anonymous conversation. Let's discover happiness on /b.

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Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact."

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Someday user. I appreciate your support but the biggest hindrance in your understanding my beliefs is my inability to accurately express them. I'm working on it because I do think seeing things the way I do could help people, but for now all I can do is tell you my story, and that might take a while.

You are correct. Nice talking to you user, hope you have nice day and abundant life.

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>It was the evening of my 24th birthday
>A couple friends and I were hanging out
>They were talking politics, I was uninterested
>I began meditating
>Took a catalog of my mental processes
>Racing thoughts about leaving home soon
>... I turned them off
>A desire to engage socially
>... I turned it off
>Awareness of my surroundings
>... I turned it off
>This continued until I "woke up"
>I suddenly knew the answers to questions I'd long sought
>I knew I'd forget them, I tried to force myself to remember by repeating a phrase
>"Death is in your head"
>My friends became worried
>I didn't remember who they were
>I thought I'd died and they were there to judge me
>They tried to reassure me, offered me food
>I believed it was a test, I refused
>I tried to get information out of them but they kept bringing the topic to me
>This continued for 20 minutes until I snapped out of it
>I suddenly remembered who I was, where I was, etc
>I was rattled to say the least
... Later I figured out what happened, continue?

yes cont

I've had a similar experince. It's like I came to state of mind where i could indentify the true from the false. I could no longer lie about anything. There was just an overhelming bliss from knowing death isn't the end on "you". Upon realizing I confessed things to people that i had kept secret because there was no longer a concern of what the world thought of me. There also no more fear, just empowerment. This state was drug induced but i have not doubt it can be realized with out drugs.

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take on responsibilities

It begins with self-confidence by way of self-improvement.

>Fast forward 2 weeks
>I'd just been accepted to UCLA
>OverWatch had just come out
>I was playing all day every day
>I began to notice a problem with my vision
>I was seeing two of everything, one above the other
>I called urgent care, they told me to go to the E.R.
>My father drove me because I couldn't see
>I told him "I think I have multiple sclerosis"
>He told me that was crazy
>MRI showed I was right
>There were lesions in my brain
>"Death is in your head" I remembered
>I was admitted to the hospital and put on an IV of steroids to reduce swelling my brain
>I began questioning the nature of reality
>I was considering simulation theory and its possible ramifications
>I wondered if people might know things they couldn't tell me
>I wondered if I could be a spiritual leader even with MS
>My father came back and saw my MRIs.
>"Going the holy route?" He asked me, joking about the holes in my brain
>It was so out of left field and so relevant to my thoughts
>I was completely taken aback

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At no point in life should you not give a shit about anything. That's how you truly create a life you don't care about.

Focus on the things in life that are actually important to you. You don't have enough energy and time to tend to everything. You definitely can build one hell of a garden if you work at it, however you can't grow a forest of the same quality. There's only so much you can do with your time. Find out what's truly important to you.

Secondly, you're an adult. That means you can cut people out of your life if you need to. If someone's only a negative to your life then get them out promptly and efficiently. They can raise whatever bullshit they want to in reaction to it but a majority of people have no impact on your life if you don't want them to.Surround yourself with the people who matter in a positive way.

Finally, the importance of self-insight cannot be understated. You need to understand that you can be wrong about things and people. You as a person should be constantly trying to improve. Some people never leave a high school mentality. Most people have a couple admirable qualities. Recognize them and make these qualities a part of yourself.

Silk Road

Seems like your story proves there are things we can't explain. Your claim to be a spiritual leader honestly means nothing to me if you can't provide any information that would help society as a whole.

Claiming your personal experience is evidence for any sort of supernatural behavior is a weak argument because your evidence is anecdotal, we cannot know if your brain was influencing your rational thought processes, and therefore could be coincidental.

Again, someone who cannot explain what they're thinking will never be thought of as wise unless they act on it.

>I left the hospital the next day
>I didn't know what to think anymore, couldn't focus
>I tried to find more answers, none came
>I'd been an atheist for so long
>I believed religion was an escape
>I didn't want MS to beat me, I wanted to avoid religion
>I meditated again (first time since two weeks prior)
>I decided that the logic of atheism was undeniable
>I knew I could never renounce agnosticism
>I knew what I'd seen so far were probably just coincidences
>I decided to test my beliefs
>I began to adopt the perspective of a theist
>I took note of the subsequent changes in my perception
>I found that life was brighter
>I found meaning
>I found a lot more

I still believe that God is unknowable, that religion is an escape, and that my MS had a large role in what happened in those events. After living the past year as a theist though, I don't intend to go back to atheism. I can't convince anyone of my beliefs, that's sort of the point, but I can show the power they have.

Your brain is coincidentally wired to believe in a higher order being.

If you genuinely found happiness and peace by believing in such a being, I commend you.

But rising above this human limitations and taking the role of gods for ourselves can lead to some great men.

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I believe that to be our ultimate goal, to become more godlike. The forces of the universe itself are leading us in that direction. We will inevitably make a new universe, perhaps many, if not infinite universes. We are the same as those who will come after us and those who came before us. The God I envision is that progression: the creator of our universe, us, and our children. I don't find peace believing in God, nor do I find meaning. Those things were already within me. They are me. God on the other hand is unknowable.

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Having good friends to hang out with. pic related

Conan, what is best in life?