Any Medfags on Sup Forums? Serious question. My wife's sex drive while we were dating was amazing...

Any Medfags on Sup Forums? Serious question. My wife's sex drive while we were dating was amazing. She wanted sex all the time and I could barely get her off of me. Since we've been married, it's decreased a tremendous amount. I attributed it to stresses of paying college loans and family drama, but we've settled those and her sex drive hasn't come back.

Physically, I haven't changed and I still do all the things we did while dating. (Surprises, cute things around the house, etc.)

So we saw a video on YouTube where a guy gave his gf "female viagra." She turned to me and asked me with a serious face if it was real and that she wants to start taking it to want sex more. That she misses that feeling and wants to get back to how it was in our dating days.

Does anyone know about this "female viagra"? Has anyone tried it with their partner?

Bump

It's psychological. All women, after getting married, have a loss in sex drive. The fact is that if they love you, they'll really try anyway, or make up for it in other ways. What she needs isn't female viagra. She needs to cut the shit, quit making excuses, and decide if she wants to do what needs to be done to make the relationship work. Sex is a must for men in a relationship. We can't function without it. It's not like you're asking her to do anything absurd or that she hasn't done a thousand times before. She doesn't have to like it, she just has to take the dick and smile.

Instead of that maybe you guys need more time apart. Try taking some time off from the marriage and see if you guys are excited to see one another. Also, try to spice things up. No routine bullshit, but do new things that could turn into sexy time. Maybe nature hikes or trips to different markets for fun. Just anything new to add some variety.

Also, you'd be surprised how just even getting a new shirt or clothing style for yourself could help her feel a little less monotonous in the relationship. Get some new clothes and swag up.

Her loss of sexual drive might be related to birth control. Has that changed in any way pre- and post-marriage?

That's what we're currently doing. She knows that I'm a dude and that's something I need in order to function. She wants to want it more. That make sense? I'm the one doing all the initiating right now and although she rocks it like a pornstar with how dirty she talks to me, she wants to want it. Not just participate.

>see one another
Fuck off you cuck faggot
You should kill yourself with such ideea

Agreed. I use to take monthly trips but I haven't taken them in months. Nothing big, just a day or 2 for out of town work. (Not an affair. I know there's going to be someone that says that.) She wants to update my wardrobe as well but she has HORRIBLE taste in clothes. I'm a simple guy and my daily attire consists of jeans and boots. I'm in construction. She'd have me dressing in designer shit and I despise that stuff.

It's been the same BC the entire time, I think. I've asked her about changing it but she refuses to. Says she is on this one and she's comfortable with it. Doesn't want to risk a new one not working and her get pregnant before we're ready to. But I actually agree with you.

OP here. Actually, I agree with that user. For the first year and a half of our marriage I did monthly trips and it's good to have some "me time." I love my wife and enjoy being around her, but sometimes I need to get away. I'm kind of a recluse by nature and that's helpful to just sit in silence every now and then.

This happens in like 90% of marriages. Did she start some form of new birth control recently? The pills sometimes destroy girl's sex drive. I'd try to find some other way than pills to get her libido back.

Run dread game, game other chicks, lack of intimacy will fuck with her mojo, then rail the shit out of her

birth control on the female side is fucking horrendous for their bodies, especially long term. synthetic hormones can stop their sex drives completely and/or make them as dry as the sahara, can also make them depressed without even realizing what's happening.

before making her eat some more shitty pills, just switch to condoms for now. I know it sucks but you'd rather have sex that both of you enjoy than sex that only you enjoy... which you probably don't even since she's not into it.

Have her not use any BC for a while, at least 4 months to be sure, use a condom in the mean time. Try that before potentially fucking her up even more. Not all women lose their sex drives with marriage, that only happens when they only pretended to get you to provide for them in the first place. Doesn't seem to be the case here.

Do you understand how relationships naturally progress? In the first six months you'll be all over each other than physical passion gradually declines to a plateau.

Chemically speaking, I completely agree with you. The purpose of the pill is to increase estrogen and in turn it destroys testosterone which is your sex drive. Makes sense.

No, same BC since before we were dating. We tried doing testosterone supplements from the health store and ordering other vitamins that help female sex drive. Didn't work. Put her in a better mood, but didn't increase sex drive that much at all.

I hear ya. Some times things get stale. Also I don't blame ya for jeans and the boots. She sounds like a hipster. Maybe throw some flannels in the mix? At least its kinda dressy and you don't have to dress like zoolander.

Brilliant user. Simply, brilliant. If only I signed that prenump.

True. She didn't do it to reel me in. She makes a good living and truthfully, we fit together. She's a nerd just like I am. We have fun together, it's just in the bedroom she doesn't initiate and she wants to desire it. Her friend comes over and talks about her sex life so I think that plays into it. (Her friend has an EXTREMELY high sex drive and is very open about it. I typically stay out of those conversations. It's rare they talk about that in front of me.)

I understand, but I don't want to end up old and grumpy like most couples. I want to be happy.

Ha! She's not a hipster, she just likes different stuff than I do. "Classy" if you will. I, literally, wear the same 3 sets of jeans and 6-8 shirts every single work. I find it a waste of money when what I wear is comfortable. I don't really care what anyone else thinks. She has to "look cute."

Seems to be a normal female thing from what I can tell.

>old and grumpy
that's not the inevitable endgoal of a marriage though. It's just that the wild sex sessions of the first few months will most likely never return, that doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship or even great sex, it's just different, it's evolving into more "sophisticated" intimacy on an emotional level

Yeah it seems like the real thing. Trust me - no BC for her for a while, just use a condom. Stay with that for at least 4 months. If it still doesn't get better, you at least have that ruled out. It's almost always either the grill pretending and wanting a provider she's not physically attracted to, or birth control hormones fucking with their bodies. First one is out of the way, get rid of the latter and see if it gets better. If it doesn't you can still go to a doctor. If you didn't do this before, your doctor would just tell her to remove the BC for a while anyway. If you already took care of that and it hasn't fixed itself yet, you can investigate further. But it's almost always female BC fucking them up massively, male BC is a lot simpler as it doesn't fuck with your body's internal systems.

Valid point. I have notice the sex has changed in the 2-ish years. It's more of a connection than a physical satisfaction. Make no mistake, after a few days of not having it, it's a physical thing.

Also, if we don't have sex that often, we get "off sync" with each other. Thought process, timing, etc. It's hard to explain. But sex lines us back up with one another.

Look into PT-141

Female viagra is just a low version of male viagra. And my gf tried it once, she said, she was super sensitive then. Her clit and vulva was engourged by every touch or thought about sex. It doesn't help with sex drive, but helps her getting in the mood. So if your girl wants sex with you, but can't, go for it. If she simply doesn't want to or doesn't like you as sex partner, it also doesn't help.

That's shocking logical thinking on Sup Forums. Thank you user.

I know that feel. 3 years together, only recently married. Was just trying to say, it's natural and if everything else is going well, no reason to worry. Though the other anons might have a point about the pill playing into it as well.

Even still sounds like it might be worth looking in to. You have no idea how much lube and spit we've gone through.

"Honey I know we're in a rut and the marriage is a dead fish but all that's gonna change cause guess what!!!!! I brought a purple shirt that says swag!!!!! Are we one on those crazy hip young couples now!!! Who knows what we might do next!!!! Maybe we'll even change our internet service provider haha wouldn't that be just wild!!!!"
You are dull, grey, bean paste with no flavor and a side glass of skim milk that's been watered down.

5 years with her. 3 dating and 2 married. Again, in dating it was constant she wanted it. It changed with external stresses. Loans and her family. We paid off the loans so that stress is gone, but her family is fucking retarded. So we've just been ignoring / avoiding them.

It doesn't help she was raised in a VERY conservative house where sex was labeled a bad thing. So when we had a pregnancy scare 6 months into our marriage, she cried. Because she was always taught sex was bad and that scared her. Honestly wanted to punch her mom and dad for that one.

kek

Not gonna lie, I laughed.

Well that sucks. Best of luck to you anyways

>no reason to worry
Hmm, tell that to my gf, she broke up after 4 years because she did no longer have the massive sex drive like in the beginning.

user, you're going to learn that women are dumb. If your gf left because of her sex drive, that's on her, not you. In that case, you're probably better off without her. If she couldn't see HER part to play in that, your life might be easier with one that can.

I know, I know, her parents still message me every now and then after a year and tell me she was stupid. I just wanted to tell user, that women sometimes think different and their problems are often your fault.

I'm well aware of how women sometimes have a twisted understanding of things, and it happens in my marriage too, but we do try our best to talk problems out when they appear.

OP here. I had to work really hard with my wife on that one. It took some time but I was able to get her to a point where she understood there's such thing as "female logic" and that doesn't mesh with the rest of society.

The best example I had was one of her friends that we spent a lot of time around. She's a remarkably illogical female that is constantly a victim. She's a hair dye away from being a feminist and it's only gotten worse through the years. My wife saw the way she was acting, didn't like it, and asked me why she's acting that way.

And just like that, "female logic" was born. We've only had 2, maybe 3 instances where she gets a little out of hand so I ask her to figure out a situation using the female logic she's so fond of recently. She snaps right out of it.

>inb4 daterape

There's a reason they call it a funeral with a cake... your sex life and freedom dies. That's why you shouldn't ever get married. Marriage is the longest running con job in human history. go MGTOW.