My wife had been a bit too flirty with a guy over the last few weeks. Nothing happened between them...

My wife had been a bit too flirty with a guy over the last few weeks. Nothing happened between them, I know because unknown to her, I'd been monitoring her online convos on my work pc which i linked to her account.

The guy was prodding her to go out with him while I was at work (she's not working right now) but she kept saying no. But as each day went by, I sensed here resolve was breaking. The guy was smooth af though. I give him that.

Anyways, it was sneaky fun observing the interaction but I put an end to it. I called him and told him to lay off. Then I called his wife and told her that I was uncomfortable with their messaging. She went ballistic on him.

Finally I called my wife and told her I wanted a divorce because of her relationship with the guy. She broke down bawling and screaming saying nothing happened etc. and that it was all innocent.

I don't want a divorce btw. I only want to scare her out of similar future episodes. I am now giving her a deathly silent treatment "while I think about things".

What can I do to ensure that these kinds of things don't happen in the future. And also to make her squirm for a while?

Pic related?

nah, just a random hotwife

Wow pretty clever on your end. Way to handle a situation before it got out of hand

why are all women fucking cheating sluts?

You gave up your trump card way too early in the game lad
If you just stormed off while letting her know you were angry about this she still has the fear that it could be worse

You dun goofed. If you get back with her, she's gonna program herself to think that there is no real consequence for flirting with other men.
Just a slap on the wrist and she can go back to doing shit again after a few months.
If you want to make a squirm then proceed with the divorce and stop before the last minute if she begs enough. That will make her realize you're not fucking around.

dudes who let their wives fuck other guys really are the most loser.

>download grindr app
>have unprotected sex with cute twinks
>get aids
>give wife aids

OP think about it. do you really think if your at work and your wifes at work and shes not around you 24hrs aday, she doesnt get tendencies? shes got needs like everyone else. everyone has hectic lives and being around the same people 24/7 makes it monotonous, your bitch gonna choose who she wants to fuck, just be happy when she come home to you.

cuckboy

trips confirm op is a cuck

what you said is literally being a cuckboy

he is the opposite of a cuck

You could get a new wife? Maybe reflect on your choice in women, or your actions that left her unsatisfied with your flaccid cock? One thing is for sure though; you're not teaching her not to cheat, you're teaching her to be smarter about it. She already wants to fuck someone else, and now she knows she needs to be better at hiding it, so enjoy the constant stream of paranoia and 'what if' that is your relationship to come if you don't end it.

no hes the cuck, im betting his bitch already fucked, if not that guy several others.

way to blow your metaphorical load, OP

Problem: you confronted your wife, and gave away the fact that you were watching her... after she stayed faithful to you. Bad move. If you’re not super careful about what you do next, this will backfire on you, hard.

Now she knows to be more careful... and she now has more motivation to cheat on your creepy ass.

Though you were probably right to put a stop to it, but you should have figured out a way to do so more stealthily. Kudos on telling the dude’s wife though - I actually agree with that part

never ever show your hand OP, thats where you f'ed up. she wants to fuck and you cant stop her and next time like that other user said, she will be discreet and keep it on the dl.

Tell her you need space. Go get a hotel for a few days. Or send her to her mom's for a few days.

The fact that you want to make her "squirm" bothers me to a point where i think that the reason she is flirting with other guys is because of you. you are the problem here. I think deep down their are issues within your relationship.

She does not know how I found out. She asked how I knew. I told her it doesn't matter.

/thread

once again OP. your an idiot, your making it look like your some kind of all-knowing god and you "control" her and your like "A-HA" look what i know bitch and you dont know how i did it.

bitch is guaranteed to be fucking someone else, your too posessive and definitely a CUCK.

Nice OP. With all the cuck shit floating around Sup Forums these days it's nice to see someone being a fucking man.

how would you have approached this then?

here's some advice friend.

if your wife wants to cheat on you, she'll cheat on you. once a cheater, always a cheater. instead of clinging to a marriage doomed to fail, what you should have done is waited to see if she would shut down the interaction with the dude, or cheat on you.

she would have resolved the issue in one way or another, and then you would have your answer. now you're in limbo where you think your wife is unfaithful but you don't even fucking know if she would cheat on you or not.

and now, she's on guard over potentially nothing, and you're worked up because you're assuming the outcome before anything even happened.

if she would have cheated, then you divorce her, that's where the story ends. if she told the guy to fuck off, you don't say shit to her and you sleep with confidence that your wife is faithful.

instead, you chose the worst option, which was to quit before you had any answer at all.

You’re being too harsh. Every woman needs some strange dick every now and again. Let her reverse cowgirl this dude bareback. What could it hurt? Nobody cares about your feelings, by the way.

Good read. You should write, put out more content, give dr phil a run for his raviolis

first of all, never would of told her i even knew. I would of played it cool the whole time, until something actually happened, just kept watching her and see if she would actually take it "there" you gave up like a pre-ejaculation because you felt that you "won" but you didnt win because now she knows she can "play" you and shes not scared, it will backfire.

this dude gets it, fully hit the nail on the head.

Good but useless advice, dont call it an advice please

"Sure she was about to cheat on you, but you got pissed off with her about it, so really you are both in the wrong" - Some cucklord

OP you fucked up. Accept your responsibility (as a man???) and divorce this woman, then find a woman (or man) that satisfies your tastes more appropriately. Is this so complicated as to be far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like? I don't think so.

Pic related. My wife.

HONESTLY, just drop her bro, see if her stud gives her a roof and substinance, make her pay for it, make her get a job and die missing her old life, she will only destroy you if you let that whore back in the house, there is no turning back.

user you did fine, ignore the teenage shitpots

>She asked how I knew
Red flag. Super red flag. I would have flipped my shit in ways i would later regret that i didn't flip harder. Start off with intense questioning "WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW? SO YOU CAN GET BETTER AT CHEATING ON ME!!?" right after this i'd hit her with the mop. then go on to my next question.

>Every woman needs some strange dick every now and again.

I have a strange dick. Come on over babby.

always go for the mop. then when people ask about the black eye she says she ran into a mop.

>What can I do to ensure that these kinds of things don't happen in the future. And also to make her squirm for a while?
You're putting your wife through hell because of what another guy was doing, and you come to Sup Forums for advice because you don't have a plan?

You need to die. KYS.

>ITT: yeah you were wronged but really they're the victim because you didn't trust someone who is untrustworthy
Absolutely amazing job anons

This. When did people become such massive faggots?

When will guys learn, ALL girls/women are ball busting cheating assed cunts who will screw you and you any chance she gets.

In or out OP? Mind games are for women and fags. If you're in let her know right now that; she fucked up but despite that you love her - and make it work. If you're out tell her where she can find her things and just go.

BUT: If you can't trust her then get out. There's no point in trying if your trust is gone (but I'm thinking that happened before this anyway if your spying on her?), you'll only torture yourself and her until one of you split anyway, less painful for you just to say fuck it now tbh.

I think you also missed a step in not laying this other guy out.

I've found that mounting the heads of my wife's suitors on the front walk has really cut down on the number of guys chasing her.

you have to be 18+ to post here

>femanon detected

>she flirted with a married man online and it's all his fault
>op is victimizing her
Jesus user grow up. Women need to be held to the same standard as any adult

I'll be 400 in 2 years you fuck.

Yes. I'd go as far as even signing the papers and then after she signs them and you send them in only then you should tell her you were just kidding. That's the only way to teach her a lesson.

Kek.

I'd go through with the divorce, remarry and have kids, grow old and die, but have jk etched on your tombstone. It'll be hilarious.

pay off the guy at the courthouse so he's in on it too. then actually sign the papers, and when she's crying say "HAHA JUST FOOLIN, BITCH!" and have the guy shoot confetti at her.

make sure you video that and put it on youtube, 1million + views had.

First of all, if you break the confidence between you two, this is a huge step to happen again.

she was seducced but she didn't anything. But when you ask divorce and threat her, you are destroying actively the relationship.

Huge mistake in the emotional layer.

>>why
>bcause attention thats why

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you dont know that you are a cuck. although your firat statement is correct. but op should also spend time with her so that she doesnt feel lonely and she wouldnt be compelled.

1) how flirty was she getting?
2) how did they meet?
3) your wife is eventually going to prod you for how you got that information. what are you gonna say then?
4) it seems like you don't even like your wife, let alone love her. why not just divorce her?

you fags are losers.
You can never win a women's heart.
She will either cheat or she won't... nothing you do matters.
If she's flirting with other guys, you were 'the fall back guy'
You need a woman who wants you, without any strings attached. This type of woman loves the real you (but she will suffocating).

If you already went to all the trouble to spy. You are insecure and apparently for good reason. If you weren't such a beta she wouldnt be entertaining another man. Nothing you can do but bail and step your game up.

You should have take this opportunity to draw a line in the sand and make it clear what the consequences are for crossing it.

Maybe you married a stupid woman and need to help her understand why flirting with another man while you are at work is wrong. (I think she is stupid because of the screaming 'nothing happend')

You can't make sure that it won't happen again but there is no point in making her squirm because she is too stupid to know what she did wrong

ITT: teenagers trying to give marital advice

he cant just end it, he's married. she gets his shit.
>NEVER get married
Roastie ahoy

you're x3

Just as well you didn't insult his intelligence or anything.

/thread.

The only true way is to cuck her before she cucks you. And keep monitoring her

So you'd wait until you've been cucked to do anything about not becoming a cuck. Solid logic.
You're right op is such a cuck.

Did I use the buzzword enough?

I counted 5x!

nah, u the cuck in denial fgt lmao

Also i hate your cuntish overuse of "quotes". I can tell you look at the dicks more than the puss when watching porn.

Fuck you, asshole.

last thing you want to do is underestimate her. She could be planning your own demise in a few months or a year. She just needs to make it look like you hit her once and it is game over.

The only way to win this game is not to play.

Leave her now OP

Ultimately this.

>(I think she is stupid because of the screaming 'nothing happend')
A lot of people will immediately reason that, because there was no physical contact, or dating, or anything of that nature, "nothing happened." That's true, nothing did happen; however, she was seducced, which leads one to come to the conclusion that she is in denial of perhaps an emotional affair due to her emotional state. Whether she's stupid, or not, is better left to the descretion of OP.

You're right, I couldn't keep reading through the post, you have a strength my friend, let's hope it gets put to good use.

wow thats a strange dick

Dubs says you have to do this.

If she doesn't know what she did wrong, then OP should spell it out for her instead of playing passive aggressive mind games.

IDK if she is stupid. IDK her but the fact that she hasn't figured out what she did was wrong makes me lean towards dull tool in shed.

OP you married a whore. If see was faithful she'd never even allowed that shit in the 1st place. Your only option now is to take her back and make her watch you fuck her sister.

Should've broken his legs and showed your wife a picture of what happens when people fuck around behind your back.

She really should've cut it off the second he made advances. The fear she feels now will mean nothing in the future, keep an eye on her.