Need help Sup Forums, tips, similar stories, anything

Need help Sup Forums, tips, similar stories, anything

>Girlfriend broke up with me this sunday. I didnt expect it. It was by a text message, end up talking till 4am. Didnt want to meet in person.
>Im 33, she is 29, it was a long term relationship. She forced herself to do it, she wants to be selfish, wants to focus only on herself, her work -got fired and she is looking for another one of the same field like crazy-, her new studies and she thinks she has a hard personality which I dont like anymore -not true-
>"Sooner or later this was about to explode" "I made this choice, wrong or right but this is my desicion"

>I was hoping her to regret for this, she did something like this in the past and we talked, because she gets saturated about everything and doesnt know how to handle it, but she kept repeating over and over the same things.
>Today she deleted me from facebook. And I received a message from her best girl friend "Hello OP, Im XX, tell me a day and place for giving me all the things lended you".

Im obviously devastated, before her I came from a 6 years failed relationship and I was really thinking and believing this girl was the chosen one. Now I dont know what to do anymore.

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Sucks you put that time in user.

At the end of the day, you're a 30 something guy with the world ahead of you.

You're still young and have plenty of time.

That dumb ho? She'll recognize. She will come back.

Don't take her man, you are better.

Hey fuck stick look in the mirror two failed relationships, either you have a oh woe is be complex, or your a pussy

Only bad thing about this is the pain that’ll hang over your head. it’s only temporary. be glad, you got another chance to get a better looking girl with more to offer. make yourself into a better you, if she comes back, reject her and you’ll feel great. we’ve all been there OP. you’re still young but you got nothing but time. godspeed op.

Fucking beta. She obviously was with you out of convenience. Stop being a bitch

Nothing else to say after this.

user you're not alone, I'm in a similar situation.

You don't need her bullshit.

It's time to go no contact and dedicate to yourself. You will come out of this as better man and, believe me, she will regret this sooner or later.

I believe in you, user!

Million times this.
Not OP but in a similar situation.
Thanks for your reply.

Dubs don't lie.

It does suck, it really does. But you talked it out, and she seems adamant, and now you've got to let her have her way. Don't do anything more, or say anything more, to let her feel you've gone too far and justified her decision.

Agree on a time to get your stuff back ... NOT at your house ... somewhere else. Don't talk to her. Don't engage. Just politely take your stuff, put it in your car, and then drive away. No goodbyes, no posturing or anything like that. Just be polite, courteous, try to say nothing if you can, and go.

It was her decision, let her have it, and its time for you to grieve and then move on.

be a man with self-respect about it.
Bitch cant just treat you like that, cease ALL contact.
This will make her wonder if she made a mistake if you can move on so fast. she has made that mistake.
The pain you will feel will be temporary, it'll be with you all the time to start, and one day it'll lessen, and the next day more. shit will come at you in waves.
When its all behind you, you'll realise that yuou were a man with dignity through it all.

it all happens for a reason. you'll look back at this in better times and thank fuck you did it

Go MGTOW, you literally dodged a bullet

OP here

Knowing her, I was expecting her to write me back. This friday is my birthday and had a reservation on a fancy restaurant, I had to cancel it.

I know Im fool right now, its been only 2 days and I bet she wrote me asking me to meet I would go for her no matter what. But she didnt even wanted to meet in person just for giving her things back.

A friend says she might be regretting what she did. The best example is she was telling her friend everything all the time. I dont know, its TOO hard for me to meet new girls, and even harder to start dating someone I like.

Thanks for your replies guys, this really sucks. Whats worse for me is I cant focus anymore into my work, or even trying to watch a movie. Still thinking about everything and how I could fix what happened, or maybe what went wrong and when.

I decided to stop writing her. Wrote her a big big message yesterday and she didnt reply, so Im giving her space and stop writing or trying to interact.

>"I made this choice, wrong or right but this is my desicion"

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At least he has had 2 relationships you filthy nigger

You need time for yourself, not for dating and girls.

What you need to do is to cut her out of your life. Delete her and focus on yourself. It will be shitty but every day you will be better until you're completely through all that shit.

Ask yourself this, do you really want to be with someone who treats you like this?

there's no such thing as the chosen one. accept the fate and know that she was only the one for awhile. you made a 6 yr relationship work, you will find someone that makes you happier. she sounds high maintenence anyway

look Sup Forumsro, i get it that breakups are hard, but i wouldn’t consider it a failure if you learned something important from it, and if you had some good times in it. i myself at getting over a breakup right now, but you need to learn to get over it

listen to the song "somebody that i used to know" loud af and get drunk. fuck the bitch

I know, I need to think on myself, try to improve everything and try to be happier.

Of course Im not in the mood for meeting new girls right now or in the next weeks/month. Tried Tinder and other apps in the past and they are not my type, its extremely hard to find someone there for me.

And about what you all say, is to erase her from everything. I still check her profile on whatsapp and read almost every message she wrote, and I know in one of these times she will block me there too.

Very bad times.

Sorry op.

Some girls are just like this.

Wait and she'll be back, or move on.

this right here. get back into whatever stuff made you happy before your relationship, stuff that might've pissed off your ex and you stopped doing to make her happy. it's quite an efficient distraction from thinking about the break-up.

also, sudden break-up after six years and not doing it face 2 face, that's a lack of respect and even if she thinks she did you a solid by "not hurting you more from a face 2 face break-up", she's eating a massive turd right there.

much like the a day to remember track, you're better off this way

Good riddance bro... she saved you tons of money around a possible divorce. .. trust me I have been there.. it's hard, b u t try taking it 1 step at a time.. and yr Ms. RIGHT will come on a white horse...be positive.. life doesn't end with a bitch...

first of all figure out if there's anything to improve. if you treated her right and wasn't a straight up cunt to her for no reason, then there's not much point in fixing what ain't broken.

as far as tinder goes, that's an app for getting laid, not finding a potential significant other. would you consider having a future with someone desperate and lazy enough to meet people on a phone app meant for finding easy, meaningless sex or a dating website?

Your next pussy boy at least he had two relationships! key word FAILED he is the reason they failed. Man up and move on

Based trips of truth right here.

One thing I know, if she broke up, she was probably thinking about it for awhile before she did it. She won't come right back.

What she WILL do though, is try to make up with you sometime in the future. I cannot tell you the exact length of time, it's different for everyone. What's important is that you DON'T TAKE HER BACK!!!

She will do it again, but only if you let her. Be strong user friend. You'll get through this. I've been there, believe me I have. When you meet a new girl, you'll forget all about her forever. Trust in the process, trust in yourself.

Any reason a woman gives you for breaking up with you is always a bullshit reason. Bottom line is she lost attraction to you enough for her to find and fuck another dude and then leave you, or just straight up leave you. Learn from your mistakes. If you continue to have low value behavior as a man you'll continue to lose women.

The girl in OP's pic, her vageen hang like sleeve of wizard.

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Why do they come back? You broke up with me. You werent happy. I wasnt happy. Its fucking over.

I would recommend not basing your happiness and self-worth on a female. After all, it's just a hole.

Dis white nigga gets it. Never chase a bitch. Most chicks aint nothing but hoes. Same as guys most guys would fuck a 10 if they knew 100% they would never get caught. Holding that secret in is a different story. Chicks cheat all the time just as much as guys do. Get on a dating app plow a few bitches from there. Never date one though. its the bottom of the barrel but easy pickings.

OP again

I really insisted on meeting in person, I know she would admit many things and couldnt handle the pressure of seeing me, but she didnt have the guts to do it. Not even answering my phone and talking. Tried for 2 days, not insisting anymore.

Yesterday I sent my last message, a long one, telling everything what I thought about our relationship and all the story. She didnt reply. Read it a few times but nothing else. At least I said what I wanted to say.

But this last move about asking her best friend to write me for giving her her lended things is disgusting.

Online apps are just for that, right, sex and random relationships. I played with that between relationships and all I found was garbage, even nice girls who were totally trash, meeting dozens of guys.

I know, my previous exgf contacted me 1 year later "how are you user?". I didnt reply. In fact it was the day I first met the girl Im talking about.

This one, came back one time after she dissappeared and I accepted, she was almost crying when that happened. But I dont really know if that would happen all over again. She said this decision was fixed.

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They leave men because they're man exudes low value (beta) behavior which makes the man appear to have weak genetics proving to be a poor choice as a reproductive mate in the woman's brain down to the core of our evolution. If the man flip flops his behavior and shows qualities of an alpha male (such as not chasing her and trying to get her back/moping), he instantly becomes attractive again and possibly unattainable which sounds batshit insane but that's the way it works.

They always try, at least once. ALWAYS.

She will do it after, and only after she dates and has bad luck with a guy. When she is between that, she will call you.

Girls are like monkeys, they don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on the next.
When she is between branches, that's when you'll hear from her. That's when she'll try. It will be hard to say "No, I don't wanna see you", but if you do see her, you will fall in love again, and she'll be gone as soon as she finds a new guy.

She'll try to use you like a stop-gap. It's like girls only want you if they think they can't have you. So after you're over her, sometime in the future, that's when you'll hear from her. I promise you. That's ALWAYS how it is with a long term relationship break-up.

atleast make her come get her shit in person, if she knows where you are don't contact her friend wait for her to directly contact you about the stuff

Dude I just wrote basically that (more or less) right below you. I totally agree, and I really hope lurkers here are reading this and paying attention. It's 1000 percent fact.

Been there done that; it sucks but it's time to learn and man the fuck up bro. Worst thing you can do now is cry about it and have self-pity. You'll make your situation worse. Don't try to get her back or you're going to prolong your pain whether you're successful or not.

>begging for a bitch back like some mopey loser


no wonder she left you fag, grow a back bone

Im thinking in leaving all the things in a shop I know. Im not going to meet her friend, its too humiliating.

Tried almost everything to meet in person with her, its impossible, she doesnt want. So Im not giving her the pleasure of meeting with her friend.

Quit being a bitch. You need to pretend that you don't give 2 shits starting now, and then proceed to do and say what you would ACTUALLY do and say if you truly didn't care. Listen to us.

It is so hard to fight that impulse though. Every fiber of your being wants to tell her how you feel yell at her that you love her and need her, crying your eyes out.

But your brain, logical and sound, tells you that if you do ANY of that, she will be instantly scared off and see you as weak. You have to fight what you feel, do the opposite. You care, but you have to act like you don't care.

It's a fucked up thing. I don't understand it, and I learned it the hard way, but for some fuckey reason, that's how girls' brains work.

OP here
In fact, the girl Im talking about, I didnt know for her for 2 months, at the beginning of our relationship. I was starting to meet another girl. And we happened to be in the same group of people for a few times.

Guess what happened, she started messaging me and wanting to resume contact and start dating more seriously. She didnt react until that.

She wants what she can't have. Exactly dude. She saw another girl getting your attention, she then starts to want what she thinks she can't have.

That's why she won't come back until after you're over her. It's like they can smell it.

Just a reminder that if you keep texting her asking to fix things she will know you are a cuck who can’t live without her and that she can come and go as she pleases
>oh I broke up with him out of nowhere 1 week before his bday?
>lol no problem his dumbass would still take me back after the 2 weeks I spend in Cancun fucking chads like nothing happened
As other anons said, it’s shitty and painful but you just gotta get through it, delete her and block all kind of contact with her, you will get over it eventually and you will cringe at how depressed you were for some dumb slut

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Let’s play match game

Hey man, I just went through a break-up after a 9 year relationship, and I'm out here single after a very long time. My "senses" feel dull, like it's been so long since I felt I had to demonstrate value to girls, that I'm rusty.

Everyday I'm trying to regain that fire. It's a slow process, but I think I'm doing ok. You'll be ok too. When I was younger, I would've let a break-up like this destroy me. I would've wanted to fight the guys she might be seeing, I wouldn't be able to think straight, everyday would be an emotional roller coaster of anger and rage and intense sadness. But you have to realize it's not the end of the world, and there WILL BE ANOTHER GIRL.That's the most important thing to remember, no matter how bleak it seems.

I'm rooting for you bro. You'll be ok in the end, I promise you. Life will go on, and one day you won't even remember what it felt like to miss her. Hang in there man.

Dammit...

But this time I wont be around, I wont be hanging with the same people anymore, she wont notice anything, she deleted me from facebook. So.. I guess this time is really over

I know, I couldnt help writing her a lot the first and second days, specially because this came out of the blue, it wasnt something I was expecting. Now I have said everything I wanted to say.. so theres no need in keep writing her and contacting. this is so
sad but true

100% she cheated on you.

HOLY SHIT STOP BEING A BETA CUCK LITERALLY NO WOMAN WILL FUCK YOU EVER WITH HOW MUCH OF A PUSSY YOU ARE

I would say 100% she at least has a guy she has her eye on. She might not have "cheated" in the strictest sense yet, but she absolutely has a new guy she is thinking about getting with.

Again, "Girls are like monkeys. They don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on the next."

OP, I just thought of something. Think about this. Is there anywhere she goes, anywhere she hangs out where she might've met a guy?

You said she has a job, could it be there? In my experience, girls get with guys they happen to be around. Like at a job, or a friend's boyfriend's friend kind of thing. Has she been hanging out with new people recently? Or has she been working at her job, but hasn't mentioned anything about work recently?

She has met someone else OP, and chosen him over you. Forget her and move on.

Deep down nobody ever really cares about each other in a relationship. We pretend we do though. Truthfully she gave you certain things you enjoyed. You lost those. Oh well. The other 99% of things are exactly the same. Pretty selfish of you trying to keep her to yourself. Instead realize she isn't anything special, no bitch is. Thank the lord for your freedom, for the silence, finally having your mind to yourself again, to great internet porn, for online company

She is the alone type, she has been alone and likes to shut in her home, studying or focusing on her work. Since her last exbf she hasnt been with anyone else, not even kissed other guys. She just want to focus on herself, knows she cant be ready for a relationship and thinks I dont like her anymore because her hard personality. She became rude, dull and so cold.

The problem was another one, its not another guy, thats something I know 100% sure.

My last exgf cheated me, that was something totally different, you know that sooner or later, this is different. There are bigger problems on her mind and thoughts, and she doesnt let me enter and fix them.

Put the stuff in a dumpster and give them the address to pick their stuff up

My nigga

DO NOT take her back. She is obviously mentally ill and will try to crawl back. Do not give in. Just move the fuck on an don't look back. Trust me, if she is unstable you do not want to get any deeper with her. Imaging if she did this after you had a child.

Not exactly a dumpster but Im going to do that. I dont want to humiliate me and meeting her friend. I bet she has more to say or thinks Im even guilty for everything that happened

Pray one day she sees your new gf on your arm and she feels like the piece of shit she is. Man up there is over 3 billion women still. That movie bull shit about the "one" is just a caveman meme.

6 years of relationship and she doesnt even want to answer a phonecall? don't even answer the text wtf dude fuck her belongings