Could you be with an asexual girl? Of course if you were both in love

Could you be with an asexual girl? Of course if you were both in love.

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>asexual
>in love
does not compute

Most normal people could not. There’s plenty of broken degenerates that would though.

Are you an asexual girl?

If it was a polyamorous relationship, sure. If it was a monogamous relationship, no.

nah dude thats aromantic, different thing

sure, just don't expect her to get horny at all

can't have love without sex, so it'd end up going terribly bad if i can't cure her frigidity

I mean if she just doesnt want to have sex bc she isnt able to get off on anything

Yes, without a doubt.

For the record, I'm not asexual myself.

Personally, no. If you're asking the question, do you have a low or absent sex drive yourself? Do you think you could do without it?

Yes, I am and that makes me really anxious about my further life

This

If she's okay with me fucking other girls still, I definitely could. Otherwise no.

Timestamp to prove you are a girl. Then we can talk about this.

Then your options are hooking up with an asexual guy or being in a relationship with the understanding that your partner still has sexual needs to satisfy.

I dont get horny at all, no matter what I do

Have you explored your asexuality in therapy? There's a range of expression within asexuality; e.g. do you get aroused in dreams; or regularly e.g. with your cycle; if so, do you masturbate and enjoy it, or masturbate just like scratching an itch; would you be repelled by the thought of having sex or could you do it for someone you loved; these all could make a difference to how someone might be with you.

Seen a doctor about it? It can have medical causes.

Assuming you are hetero-romantic, have you been close and intimate with a guy, cuddling, kissing, etc? (Or girl if homo-romantic.) If so, did anything turn you on?

you'll get horny if someone knows how to touch you right

Psych student here

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Im 17 and I cant tell this my parents, too emabrassing

You should read up on asexuality, because you obviously don't know anything.

how far have you looked to turn you on?
because yeah that's an issue, if you don't get that sorted you'll have to pick between guys that'll have to cheat on you because sex is a basic need (and even if you think you're ok with it it'll eat you from inside) or psychopaths who will use and abuse you

Oh god now we're fucked.

Then wait a year or so and see a doctor by yourself. if you go to college they often have cheap/free student medical services.

What about these?

I don't know. I've never been with any girl.

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>someone says something you don't agree with
>dont know anything about topic either
"Read up on it"
>gottem

No although I had an opportunity, now I avoid getting in any relationshitp bc I wouldnt know how to tell him/her about my sexuality

>Hetero-romantic
You know using made up terms encourages them user.

Have you ever considered the possibility youve been chemically castrated

No, you're just a retard who would rather spout an ill-informed opinion than just keep their mouth shut when they don't know what they are talking about. So STFU and learn something.

There is np such thing as asexualism. Only extremely prudish people (usually because of cultural/moreal reasons) and people faking it to seem different, interesting, to avoid sex requests or to make you believe they're gonna be more loyal.

moral reasons*

I'm not the user that made the comment. I just think taking the "read up on it" route in an argument is pretentious.

It's just a description. I'm romantically attracted to people of the opposite sex. You obviously aren't, and react like a tabloid shitrag. Stupid faggot.

Kek
Pretty normal in terms of sensory perception, the obvious route is medicalisation but attempt other things first before falling into that trap (If it's hormonal). Self-bodily exploration, diary entries, recognise how you perceive others/your emotional shortcomings.
Would need to know about any events that may have drawn you away from sexuality prior, yet helped you retain romanticism (if any have occurred that is). Explore your own reasoning; perhaps you may enjoy sexual contact with someone on a romantic/passionate level with someone you are deeply in love with (had an ex-gf like that, was pleasant) rather than for superficial lust.

I dont masturbate, it just doesnt work for me and I feel nothing, I’d like to have sex with the person I love but Im 100% sure I wouldnt get horny and he/she would feel disappointed and think its his/her fault

Yeah, because calling someone out for not actually knowing what they are talking about is "pretentious" to millenials, who have to have their fragile egos pristine and unchallenged. You've been brainwashed by a culture which values opinions over facts, and the right of everyone to be heard even if they have nothing to say. It's fucking dismal.

Impossible

*your problem
don't want to shame you or whatever but it's a problem.
there's an old remedy you could try...rum (or any strong alcohol), lemon zest, a few tea leaves and a few drop of blood from the opposite gender. let it macerate a few hours (take a bath or something) and drink it, then relax and let your mind wander (you're supposed to do this in a forest during deer mating season, but i guess just looping animal mating calls might work), the rest should come naturally

Assuming someone is a millennial based on one sentence is also pretentious, just so you know.

But nothing you named relates to me

Sue me if I'm wrong. If user isn't a millenial, I can only apologise but the point still stands about the mindset.

I think you're thinking of centennials m8

I never understood why asexuals can't into sexuality.
Sure it doesn't give you any physical pleasure and you're not excited about it, but the mere thought of pleasing your partner should be good enough?

I mean seriously. There's disabled people that have no sense of touch below waist, and they still happily put out to please their partner. Are you telling me you're worse than that?
If yes, then you don't deserve a partner. Only look in asexual circles and don't even consider a normal person.

I gotta agree with this user, its the centennials (born after 97) leading the social retard charge. Millennials are just lazy and most are in their 30s by now, the centennials are the one who made "safe spaces" and gene spliced 138.63 genders into existence.

Judgements like this won't help OP. It's why I posted above about exploring in depth how she feels about the range of issues around sex. Some asexuals feel repelled by the idea of sex, some don't. Everyone is going to be different and will have different comfort zones and even different requirements themselves in terms of physical contact, cuddles, etc.

I could touch my partner only to give him pleasure but not have sex. You are right, I dont deserve a partner, I’ll just focus on other things than my sexuality and be more cold, its kinda sad but there is no solution

But sex is also a means of pleasing your partner.
Why the double standard? Are you repelled by the idea? Is it "if I can't have it, neither will my partner" mentality?
I don't get it.

>there is no solution
There's many solutions, this thread alone gave you a lot of ideas.
Age one year and see a specialist.

And even if all else fails - get yourself an asexual partner.

yes, because love isn't a fee fee, it's a committment and a spiritual bond.

>Could you be with an asexual girl? Of course if you were both in love.
Protip: if you really Love your partner, then even though you don't feel sexual attraction, you should be willing and able to provide them with sexual pleasure because you enjoy THEM being happy.

it's not all about YOU, op.

Keep exploring it. Keep the question open in your mind. 'Deserve' doesn't come into it.

then you will never feel whole and will die sad and alone, i don't think this is the future you want, right?

yes,but i dont really care much for sex either. Wouldnt call myself asexual but i have had a partner drop me before because she thought I wouldnt fuck her because she was unattractive. I'd really like somone to love that doesn't need to be piped every other night tbh.

might come off as rambly but my advice to that person would be to find someone also disinterested in sex.

No double standards, I just dont want to force myself, probably I’d allow my partner to heve sex with other women, but it dont know how would I feel about that

this has to be b8 because you are ignoring everything in this thread

As long as she'd still deepthroat me and take it up the ass to make me happy. Sure. Also most asexual people can still orgasm so I'd still suck on her clit and make her cum really fucking hard.

That or really into self-pity and teen depression.

Sorry, Im a little bit desperate, I’ll attend therapy when I move out of my house, but for now I cannot do much, I have tried to some things so far but it doesnt work

>I just dont want to force myself
sounds like you aren't ready for a relationship, as you don't want to make efforts or concessions

Then take your time. Just be you and enjoy yourself. I'm an old git and I know it doesn't mean much to hear it at your age, but 17 is really young. There's a lot of good stuff coming.

I've been in a years-long sexless relationship with a girl before. basic plan of attack:

-You're clearly not in the right place for a relationship right now, mentally. if one happens great but don't pin your hopes on one for a couple of years
-Its often physical. When you can, see a doctor about it.you may just be a few pills away from being a horny little minx.
-If it's psychological, could be something you figure out or could be with you forever. there are psychs that specialise in sexual issues.
-it's possible to be in sexless happy relationships, but they're different and can be tricky at times. But you can be happy.

Either way, your problem is something that can be dealt with. if you want to talk through shit leave a kik or discord, but don't worry too much yet.

try what this user said, i vaguely remember seeing this recipe in an old druidic book.
and hey, it can't hurt you

This is nonsense. Just because you're a slave to some lizard brain impulse doesn't mean meaningful romantic relationships can't exist without some biological reproduction imperative.

>I can't understand it therefore it doesn't exist

there's not just the reptilian need to breed to sex, you know, it's an intense feeling of intimacy and closeness you share with a partner that you want to feel good with

if you can't be that close, everything is doomed to fall

Thank you very much, anons for your advices and opinions. I know, I might seem a stupid and egoistic teen.... I havent worried so much about that before, I realised that the problem exists 2 months ago actually.... But anyway I’ll try your methods. You gave me some hope

OP, there are asexual guys out there. Might be harder to find but they exist. Don't listen to all these assholes trying to "fix" you. If you don't like sex then so what? Just because they can't understand it and feel the need to explain you to you doesn't mean you should listen. Luckily you live in the age of the internet. Look up asexual groups or forums, or maybe you can even select it on dating apps.

Just because that's how you feel doesn't mean it's true for everyone. What you're referring to, that feeling of intimacy and all that, just chemical brain trickery to reward you for following an instinct.

just remember that most people on this board your age aren't able to fuck, your reason is just different. if it takes until you're 19 before you find out how to deal with this shit that's a normal time to start having relationships still.

good luck.

sure. one of the options is she's like this forever. then she gets to back to

You want an asexual girl? Get married, have a a few kids, watch her gain 70-100 lb and watch sex go away as she claims no libido, joint pain, busy, other issues. You can pick her up after the divorce with her reward of half the savings and money that I alone earned.

the issue is that most asexual guys have big mental issues and/or hormone imbalances, so that's not a great idea

And the, of course, there always the "I didn't understand the thread" post.

>the issue is that most asexual guys have big mental issues and/or hormone imbalances
>source: deep within my asshole

"what is testosterone" for a dollar, alex?

Not a kissless virgin: If it was monogamous i could, on the condition she at least dresses sexy/strips for me and lets me jerk off watching her

Testosterone level is not the primary cause of asexuality, just of low libido. They are not the same thing.

Hmm, I don't think you understand how this works.

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