Are you married? How often do you have sex with your spouse?
Are you married? How often do you have sex with your spouse?
Yes. It varies I’m shooting for daily when she is home because she away a lot for work
Married with kids. My life truly became that old TV show. But it's all good.
Have been married for 6 years. We have had sex 71 times this year, around 1,5 times a week.
Average 3 or 4 times a week for the last 17 years. Sometimes more. Sometimes once a week when things are busy.
Once or twice a week. Married 17 years this year.
Married for three years. Fortunately found someone with the same libido as mine. Generally about twice a day, sometimes more on the weekends.
These guys must be old, been married for like 9yrs, fuck every other day unless something random happens. Like I'm sick or she's sick or a kid is sick
I’m lazy so I get BJ’s and handies more often than we have sex.
Sex is good but as I said I’m lazy.
Probably averages about 3-4 times a week. I rarely go more than two days but at times I do. Others I might get off daily for a few weeks straight. During that time I might fuck her 4 or 5 times.
Also smoking more pot recently which brings my libido way down.
That's a nice looking anus
married for 17. haven't had sex in 7-8 yrs
Once every 2 months or so
Not even with a hooker?
Is it at least good? If it’s good, why do rarely?
Fucking laughing at the clearly unmarried posters in here.
Married 3 years. Sex life is zero. Maybe once per month, no exaggeration.
When dating it was all the time, blowjobs etc. Now nothing. Strongly considering divorce lately.
Yes, for five years.
Once a week, two if we’re feeling it.
Either way it’s mutual
How do you mother fuckers have sex so much and manage to keep an healthy relationship with your wives? Personally I have sex once or twice a month (by choice) and the reason is; the less, the better for me since I've been practicing semen retention for 2 years. Which means I do not ejaculate during sex or at all whatsoever.
We fuck every day
Yes and not often. Shes an ice queen
15 years this month. 3 times a week for first 10 years. Now down to once or twice a week.
Why? Did you lose a bet?
Married 10 years
3-4 times a week.
Usually, bent over the bathroom sink while the kids fight over the tv in the living room
You have my sincerest condolences.
Used to be awesome! Honestly; she was the best fucking I’ve ever had. A full hysterectomy, with both her ovaries removed, wiped out our sex life, COMPLETELY!
She’s so damn jealous, that she throws shit fits, if she catches me jacking. I’m supposed to just throw away all my urges for Pussy?!?!?
Recently made an ad on a no strings, cheating site. Can’t take no sex anymore.
Once or twice a month. Fucking hate her. Want to go back to hookers like before. Life was easier.
probably every other week, used to be up to 3 times a week before we had a baby
Married 10 years next month. I mostly get myself off but once in a while my wife's bull is away on business, then its my time to shine
tried to get something going with a coworker a few years ago
feels over jeans
never tried again
want to go back to hookers
Breh, you arent young anymore, it wont be the same. Getting older means everything EVERYTHING is awful.
I used to think going back to strippers would be a better life until I really thought about.
Maybe MAYBE all these sex apps wouldf be a better option since youd be fucking women your age or slightly younger, but I doubt it since youd literally be fucking someone elses fucked up exwife.
All we have is porn anymore.
Not really. She got fat pretty quickly after marriage. She’s got fat tits and a dimple-free fat ass, all of which are fun to play with, but she’s otherwise kind of repulsive to me.
Before anyone calls me out, I’m the exact same weight as I was when we started dating.
Can you please list the things that repulse you?
Im considering a fat gf and want to know what im in for.
Yes. I demand sex 3 times a week, plus a handjob 2 times a week. On her period I want 1 or 2 blowjobs. Sex on the first day her period is over. Repeat.
(saturdays and/or sundays are usually doubles.)
Been married 20 years.
yes, 2 or 3 times a week usually
Every other night because of her getting sore each time.
Married 2 years... sex 1-2 times a month. 1 kid and preggo again
Wrap it up right now.
Particularly if you don't have kids or significant marital assets.
So much cheaper and easier to cut the cord now rather than later.
married 12 years.
used to get it on every day, and 2 or 3 times a day on weekends.
plus kinky shit like public play (changing rooms, parking lots), watersports, sensory play, toys galore.
after kids 8 years ago, went down to once every month or two, although I had a dry spell that lasted 7 months.
for the last 2 years I've been meeting up with a work collegue about once a week. shes also in a sexless marriage, her hubby travels often.
she has a great body, face is a 5/10.
great sex, really sensual and usually lasts hours, with loads of foreplay in the shower/hottub, and we sext almost every day, and we use lovense toys frequently when we're home alone.
Biggest thing for me is I love giving oral, and she loves receiving it too. (something my wife totally went off)
plus she keeps herself healthy too. its great feeling a tight bod.
shes not after anything long term, same as me.
we're both comfortable in our respective lives, apart from the sex, so we make up for it when we get together.
not an ideal arrangement I know, but it has honestly kept me sane these last years.
is this good enough for you?
Do BJ count as 0.5?
Married for over 15 years. We haven’t had sex since 2017. Probably average once every four years over the last ten years. It sucks.
Married 8 years, 2 kids (3 and 1), sex probably 2-3 times a week. Nothing passionate, just a good hard fuck in doggy before bed. Oral is almost none existant. Sometimes in a morning she'll ride my dick before the kids get up. Still excellent.
Whats the age difference between you and the coworker
As a punishment?
You clearly married the wrong woman. We're you guys virgins? Only bjs but sex until marriage? My sex life has increasingly gotten better over 17 years. Keep laughing bro
Married three years, sex is at least once a day
she's 3 years older, I'm 38, she's 41.
How the fuck is that possible? Has she gotten sluttier?
Good job, user.
married last year after 10 years relationship, 2 kids. last 3 years we have the same procedure once a month. i lick her and then doggy. considering going rogue
Yes. She wanted to be spanked a few years ago. Then we played with ropes starting last year. We fooled around with anal over the years and she finally got herself a drawer full of toys. Now i get balls deep in her asshole while she gets her pussy off. Shes able to take 4 fingers in her pussy and occasionally squirts. Broaden your horizons
Twice a week minimum.
i am not married, but i masturbate virtually daily
Married, 1 kid. Sex life took a hit after the 1 was born, probably once every 2-4 weeks.
It's picked up again because we're trying for number 2 to probably 2-5 times/week depending.
Was probably 2-3 times/week before we got married, but thats cause we didn't live together and alone. We still don't live alone.
Yep....married 20 years. Zero sex since my last kid was born 11 years ago. It's pretty common. Ended up getting a gf/fwb on the side a few years ago. She's also married & no sex at home. So win-win for us both.
BULLSHIT, why you lie user?
Been married for 5 years, been with her for 10 in feb. We try to have sex once or twice a week. Usually it's twice a week
it's called larping, get over it
reminded me of this image user.
Haven't had sex since january
She fell out of love with me and I did as well
Just got engaged (her family is worth close to 9 figures).
She wanted to focus on her career and were finally moving in next month together as we've been in different states. Right now we have sex once a month or so.
I've managed to live out every fantasy with different types of women. I'm pretty much focused on living an easy life and if I have sex, then awesome. If not. I'll find another hobby.
So live action virginity then?
Together 20 years, married 11, 3 kids. Usually averages to about 3x per month. She gets bad ovulation pain, so we tend not too around that time.
Havent had a BJ in forever, but she isnt very good at them anyway, so I stopped asking.
technically not a virgin since my crazy uncle jay put his willy in my bum
How the fuck can you even have sex 5-7 times a week when you're married for more then 10 years, don't you have other shit to do?
How do you keep getting so horny over the same person for so long and so much?
Okay maybe in the beginning of the relationship but that shit fades away after a year or two.
I have sex once a week or so, been together for 3 years now.
Was it a game called cave explorer? If so I know your anal pain.
Been married for about a month and a half. Dated about a year before married. 2 to 5 times a week. It varies a lot because of my job. I have a small 5” penis if that helps anyone out there who thinks they can’t get a woman by the way. She absolutely adores me. We are both probably a 4 on the 1 to 10 scale. But we both are very clingy and love to cuddle constantly. She will do anything for me sexually. She sucks my toes, gives me rim jobs, and takes it up the ass. I still look here to satisfy my lust for hot women, but I know that the absolute unconditional love and loyalty she gives me outweighs any hot hot chick. When I was younger and worked out a lot I could pull in the hotties, but they were always high maintenance and other guys hit on them all the time, so it was always frustrating. Luckily I met back with a girl I used to live by in our childhood years and I have never been happier. I do masterbate a lot still. Example: yesterday we fucked, oral, pussy and came in her ass. Yet later I still jerked one out in the bathroom and again this morning. Everyone’s sexual relationships will vary so don’t think there is any one standard. Just be happy with who you marry. Do not get married Just because she is hot. You won’t like the outcome. My wife and I fortunately share a lot of memories from the past. We truly are best friends. I am very lucky.
Been with my wife 7 years and married for 2. We still have sex at least 3 times per week. As long as you're still attracted to each other it's amazing. Gets better, in fact.
2-3 times a week, she pegs my once or twice a month, a 3 or 4some once about every 3 months and im thinking about setting up a gangbang for her on our anniversary. all in all id say we have a pretty active sex life.
Yup I'm married.
When we first started dating we fucked all the time. When we moved in together we fucked twice a day Monday through Friday, three times a day on Saturdays and fuckes all day Sunday unless we got out of bed to go somewhere and then back home and fucking again. The last 7 years has been very little sex at all, if any. Hell I think about how to kill the bitch without getting caught more than I want to have sex with her anymore. And that is how anyone married for so long knows the rest of you are larping virgin faggots
Not married, but 25 and been dating for 4 years and we live together. We could have sex everyday and at times it's about that frequent, but honestly it's better if we don't. It's like the longer we go without it, the raunchier and more intense the sex gets as we both get super lusty. I like to feign a lack of interest for about week, all the while masturbating when she's not around, and then fuck her brains out. It's astounding everytime and I need like the rest of the night off to recover. I'm pretty certain that the longer I deprive her the more deprived shit I can make her do.
fo' times a year
Wrong. Even after 2 kids her pussy is still tighter than any of the other dozen women I've fucked, and I remember when I was 14.... It''s like my dick is getting a handshake from Michael J Fox. THAT'S the secret to a happy marriage, prime grade-A pussy.
Does she fuck random dudes when she's away?
She is having woman problems.
No sex until it's fixed.
Same. Marfie5 for 2 years. Get busy once or twice a month at most. Were usually bushed by the time we get to bed. Averaging 5.5hrs of sleep a night. Often don't get home from work/uni until 10:30pm. Get up at 5:30am to start the next day.
Married 10 years. Two kids. Probably 2-3x a week from when we were dating through married. Now maybe 2-3x a month. Once a week minus a week when she's on her period, if we are doing well. And the weird thing is I don't much miss it. She wanted to fuck last night but we just sorta .. didn't. I prefer stroking to fucking tbh.
And not like it matters and I'm not going to post pics, so believe this or not but she is a 9/10 milf regularly gets mistaken for early 20s at 39. Probably a better/tighter body than when we started. Same with her pussy.
Part of the problem I think is that I really want her to fuck others , she won't, so I've somewhat lost interest in her. She wants it more than be to be sure.
We fucked 1-5 times a day for 11 years then she had me son and he makes it so I'm lucky to get 3 quickies a week. Pic related
First wife, we fucked daily after marriage for a good 4 years.
Then every second day (at her request).
Then twice a week (at her request).
Then it quickly went down from there.
I am just kind of glad she is infertile so no kids with the divorce but damn I still miss her. 7 years married we made it.
Current wife is pretty good. Getting better at BJ’s. Currently married 3 years. 2 kids. She can cum a lot easier after the kids so she’d let me fuck her almost daily but it’s closer to once a week because it is a bit boring for me now. I need to spice things up.
Proper council bird that. Bet she wanks you off into her cheesy chips if you ask nicely.
Enjoy your prostate cancer.
Just give us a pussy pic, bro.
I can believe you on her being that hot at 39. My ex-wife was hotter at 39 than she was at 22 when I met her. It's rare, but it happens.
Been married six years. Two to three times a day.
Why wouldn't you?
Damn reading this as a 19yo make me sad. How quickly love fades away in marriage.
20 year anniv coming up, 2 teenagers.
Before marriage and before kids, sometimes 3+ times a day of everything - all positions, bjs, anal, etc..
Lately, maybe once or twice a week, sometimes weeks or month+ with no action. Almost always same position, no variations, no bjs, no etc.
I don't even care anymore.
I was dating a girl for 5 years and the sex slows down tremendously
male and female patterns of horniness don't line up. Around 25 males are less horny than females, and then it shifts again and again as we age
when you're with someone a long time, you become comfortable around them. Sex isn't supposed to happen all the time because it's not a necessity.
If you want pleasure all the time, start enjoying drinking water
There's more to life than sex user.
9 years. No kids. 3 to 4 times a week. Wife is bisexual so on occasion there is an extra woman in our bed with us.
Not married but been with the same gf for 7 years and we're pretty much gonna be together for life. Used to fuck multiple times a day, now we do a handful of times a week.
Honestly? Our relationship is so much better now than it was when we met. We've grown to love eachother as people much more. Sex isn't everything and she's not a lunatic who has problems when I jerk off.
Been married 21 years
Sex went down hill after our first kid, and the way of the dinosaur after our second born.
We have the neighbors 18 year old daughter babysit when we go out for dinner and drinks with friends. One night after we returned I started chatting the babysitter up. When she see`s me outside thereafter she comes over to talk, One thing led to another and I have been fucking the babysitter for the last year, she is now 19, and she is a freaky little bitch in bed.
Known wife for 10 years, married 5. Sex was infrequent at best, now it's once a month -maybe. Every so often she pulls something out of the bag and surprises me - but more often than not it's me.
And it's usually pretty vanilla.
Don't want to send a pussy pic, long story, but how bout this one.
I don't know how it happened but her body got much more lean and tight after having kids. That's gotta be a one in a million lmao.
Pussy is slightly looser but only slightly. 2 fingers was a stretch for her now she takes 2 comfortably but 3 is still too difficult. For 15 yrs (dating + marriage) and 2 kids that's a pussy I will happily take lmao.
7 year gf
2 - 5 times a week if I wait for her to initiate, 6 or 7 if I ask
Every so often she pulls something out of the bag and surprises me
shes fucking someone on the side.
Married 18 years. The frequency of sex ebbs and flows like anything else and is largely dependent on our work schedules. But we average probably once or twice per week.
Likely virgin detected. Vaginas don't get "looser" with kids or high usage.
The thing is sex takes time and as you get older other stuff takes time. We met in our 20s and nothing to do so we fucked. Now we are late 30s with 2 kids and jobs. So you gotta find 30 "free" minutes and if I have 30 mins sometimes I'd rather have a beer for 15 mins and jerk off for 15 than fuck her.
This sounds legit
Believe what out want. She takes a 8x3 dildo now. She couldn't have done that 15 yrs ago.
well if she is she's on expert mode
Married 11 years. Haven't had sex in 8.
After marriage 1-2 times monthly
After 1 year with birth control treatment 4 times yearly
Married over 25 years. Still get it mostly 5 times/week. We're both over 60 so sometimes we just don't feel like it
They actually do get "looser" during childbirth and times of high usage (ie dilation).
And she could have taken one 15 years ago, but she would have needed to slowly work up to it (ie dilation).
Once or twice a week. Married 17 years this year.
Or in other words 19 years in 2 years.
Or in less words 17 years
My wife of 18 years also is thinner than when I married her. She was simply full figured 5-5 140 at 21, after our first kid the weight just melted off and she was down to 108 for a while. Now at 39 she weighs upper 120s. But, sex has tapered off to once every couple weeks, maybe 3 times a month average. But my libido isn't that high so that plus my right hand is enough.
Mine went from about 130 when we met to 110 (lowest, post kids) to about 115 now. 5"7"
This was my point. Obviously anyone can take just about anything, that's why horse cock dildos exist. But you don't just shove em in wherever you want.
15 yrs ago I would start with 1 finbger and work up to 2. Now I can start w 2 and ease into dildo.
Same here.! Her hormone levels are zero so once or twice a month is about the most I can hope for. In a way I'm fine with it since I enjoy flapping more anyways
Similar here. Sex life died after the baby, I kind of wonder if the IUD is responsible. Currently it's like once a quarter. I need to start marking it on a calendar so I can see how long it is exactly.
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I dont think so. But there is no way to know...
How do you keep getting so horny over the same person for so long and so much?
Which is why I'll never marry or commit to a relationship. Seriously sex gets boring after a year max with the same person. Introducing some weird stuff to it doesn't spice it up, it feels artificial and forced. If you are tired of old pussy, get a new one, not like women are going extinct.
My sex drive has been ridiculous since I was 12 years old im now 45.my wife has never had a very big sex drive in fact even the years or the times she was supposed to get hirny she never did and still hasnt. She's going through the menopause early now as well. The sight of my cock makes her want to puke. On another note she'sthe best person I know. Everybody likes her she hasn't got an enemy and doesn't argue with anyone. She's easily upset and she the kindest most thoughtful person you could wish to meet just her and sex have never been compatible. We have kids but my sperm count must have been really high before the snip as every time we tried for a kid she was pregnant instantly just about. Best mother I could wish my kids to have. There is absolutely no way on this planet I could of lived in a marriage as happy as ours without fucking countless women on the side. I've always made sure I was out of town as the upset would kill her.if she had 5% of the sexual frustration she's put me through im pretty sure she'd realise why I've had to do it to keep me sane. Now I've started to pay for it. It's much better I can dictate what I want and I get a young slut to do it
She deserves to know, you fucking sleaze. Protection or no, with "countless women" and now whores you are risking her health, you selfish bastard.
R u me?
Married 3 years . Getting 3-4 times a week. She's into giving Bjs now. Make her wet. Nom
Married with kids. We have sex anytime the kids aren't likely to walk in the room (or are asleep) As we had more kids it's become rare. Nowadays we have to fuck in the bathroom with the door locked. Probably 2-3 times a week (we have 8 kids)
dude why havent you divorced yet? I would throw down the ultimatum, either suck your cock or your gone.
Help me understand why you don't have sex at night after you put the kids to bed more than bathroom quickies.
Trips checked. You're living the life, bro. Congrats. Pics?
please show bob and vagene, you so very sex pleese
I NEED SOME MAJOR ADVICE
I'm 30 and about to marry my 26y.o. fiance. We have been together for 8 years before I proposed. Literally just sent out save the dates today.
Sex used to be amazing. She was horny as every day. Sex multiple times a week. Then one day around 24y.o. just NOTHING. Zero sex drive.
Now we have sex MAYBE twice a month.
She is gorgeous, really pretty, killer body. Shes going to be the perfect wife and mother and she even makes more money than me. We live in the bay area of CA so dual income is essential. Literally perfect in every sense except for the lack of sex.
She thinks its hormonal from getting off of birth control and says its temporary, but shes too tired after work, and stressed to ever be in the mood.
It's starting to cause a strain on our relationship, I'm getting pissed about the lack of sex and shes pissed I keep making her feel bad.
How fucked am I? Or is this not a big deal?
Yes, 6 to 8 times a week.
well, If you try to treat her extra-special and make sure she knows she's loved maybe? but if that doesn't work nothing will -- just make sure she knows your dilemma and if she doesn't accommodate you'll be strained, then angry, then spiteful so someone's gotta' change! -- Best o' luck
I would say twice a year.
Not worth it.
not married, dating 3 years
sex atleast once sometimes twice a day if not every other day
Then one day around 24y.o. just NOTHING. Zero sex drive.
She thinks its hormonal from getting off of birth control and says its temporary
... 2 years? Yeah that shit ain't temporary at that point.
I'm getting pissed about the lack of sex and shes pissed I keep making her feel bad.
Yeah, that doesn't work. Being a whiner at any time in a relationship makes pussy juices dry up faster than anything and, as you can plainly see, doesn't make her want to have sex you. Just cut that behavior out right now.
Ultimately a wedding ring isn't going to fix your problems man. You're walking into a sexless marriage. Abort.
Perfectly salvageable. This shit happens to women. You need to talk about sex, what it means to you and what it means to her. Her emotional state is a huge part of her sex drive. Find out how to help her emotional state improve and she will come around on the sex side. But you’re emotions are important to, communicate that sex is a really important way for you to connect to her, because it’s one of the only things that partners don’t get to share with anyone else- as long as you’re not a cuck of course. A main disconnect in long term relationships is not talking about what sex means to both of you emotionally, you’ll find that men get more validation out of it than women when it comes to feeling love. Women typically need to be shown love in other ways and sex/ better sex is a by product of those other efforts you make towards making her feel loved and emotionally supported.
well, If you try to treat her extra-special and make sure she knows she's loved maybe?
You don't reward bad behavior with treats and expect the bad behavior to go away.
Are you me?
Married 15 years haven't fucked her in almost 2 years and have no interest whatsoever in do so again.
It doesn't happen to women who're sexually attracted to you.
If you’re religious- I recommend reading love and respect by Emerson eggerichs, or the 5 love languages. These will help you actually understand what your wife needs/ is saying when it comes to her emotions, or even just regular 1 on 1 conversation. Women speak in pink and we hear in blue. We speak in blue and they hear in pink. Gotta be able to decode what the other is saying. If you don’t communicate then the chances of you or your partner getting into a rut are quite high.
False, over time sexual attraction will always be there as long as you aren’t ugly as fuck and fat after several years. Saying that a woman isn’t an emotional creature is retarded. A woman needs love more than sex, if you believe otherwise you need to spend some time away from Sup Forums
No, no, you're an idiot.
It doesn't take any real cajoling to get a person who's sexually attracted to you to have sex with you, minus them being in a relationship with someone else or some other *real* barrier to do the deed.
If you're in a committed relationship with someone? And getting them to have sex with you is like pulling teeth? Then they're not sexually attracted to you.
There are exceptions. Maybe after a long day of moving into a new home and being completely exhausted and you gotta get up early for work? Maybe you both agree to put sex off for later that week. But if this is a consistent pattern where sex is continually snubbed? That's a lack of sexual attraction.
"Women being/not being an emotional creature," the fuck? Humans have emotions, sure. That has nothing to do with you getting played like a fool.
Thanks man. This is kinda the pep talk/advice I was looking for. Have any ideas on what we should be talking about? I've thought about asking her to see a sex therapist. It just seems like her mind is too busy to think about sex. Shes stopped masturbating and everything.
2 to 3 times a week if you really want to know. And 60something ladies at work let me know they're interested. Life doesn't need to be more complicated
If she has no drive whatsoever, that might be a medical issue.
Married 32 years, lately about twice a week. Vacations: twice a day -- unless friends put us up.
Not religious at all but I'll see if the book has some points that will work. I think we communicate well. I told her its frustrating me and she said sorry that she knows and she wants to work on it, but then 2 weeks go by and I get upset again. She said my constant jokes about not having sex gets her mad but it's just my way of trying to make light of the issues I'm feeling.
Well, I'm an oldfag at 55 now and I use Cialis to help me along.
1st wife I was with 24 years. Anytime I wanted, 3-4 times a week, but after the third kid it was pretty gross (she got fat, and I could fit my my fist in that sloppy pussy). She was terrible at giving head but would take it up the ass like a champ once in a while. But it was a miserable and stupid relationship.
Don't marry the wrong person just because you're lonely, anons. That shit fucked up my life.
2nd wife is 21 years my junior, 2-3 times a week plus excellent BJs pretty much whenever I want, been with this girl 5 years, married for two of them. She's never had kids, doesn't want any, is a little spinner (5' 2" / 125lbs or 1.6M / 57KG for the eurofags) and has a delicious and beautiful tiny pussy that I can fit in my mouth. I didn't take her cherry but she only had 3 lovers before she met me and all of them had 6" or less.
She won't do anal any more (I don't blame her - I have a thick 8" peen and her tiny anus would probably get destroyed). We did try it and she got off on it but it left her really bruised and sore and I only put the head in. She lets me put little toys in it and I hope that someday we can work back up to the dick.
Early on in the relationship I ended up bruising her cervix and I felt bad about it. I learned that I can't fit my whole dick inside her until I use it to stretch her a bit. The best feeling in the world is a tiny pussy stretched tight around your shaft while the head of your dick is pressed against the cervix, I highly recommend it.
And the blowjobs are great - she's worked hard to learn to give good head, throats as much as she can, and can even sometimes get the whole thing in her little throat.
6 years, two kids. We fuck every day unless she is on the rag. Sometimes we still do it. On the few days a month we skip, there are days we fuck twice or 3 times so it evens out.
I am on TRT, so my drive can be monstrous. Hers is high too. We love each other almost too much.
She swears its hormonal and it's from getting off birth control. She has an copper iud right now. But she refuses to go to the doctor to a hormone test or see if anything is wrong. This all started around the time she started working full time and adopting a dog. Almost seems like she cant handle the full day of work/life and I'm the easiest to put to the side.
I think just talking about what is stressing her out and tackling those things. Making her the priority for you well help her make you the priority for her, if that makes sense. You have to both be committed to taking care of the others needs before your own. A perfect marriage is selfless. But that’s hard because we are naturally selfish. The books I mentioned earlier helped open a lot of lines of communication in my relationship.
Good advice, talk about it. Maybe even see a therapist.
Do stuff together - go out walking, get some fun in. It goes a long way to keep the bond strong.
But - fix it before you get married. Else this will screw both of you up in the long term.
Horrible idea. Bad for health too like the other guy said.
OK, this is now an advice thread. To get the mood going try some affection. Flowers. Let's go dancing. Would you like to take a walk with me. We can hold hands again like we used to.
not 'looser' but with practice it will be easier for the girl you virgin
I would too. That bush is hot.
What is wrong with the bed? We only do the bathroom if we are in a hotel and the kids are awake or we could not get 2 beds, or we are at home and the kid is sick and in our bed sleep.
Get her on HRT, Hormone Replacement Therapy and that should fix her drive quickly.
4 years marriage. 1 child. Once a week. My wife is a little bit difficult about it. Sees it as a duty rather than something she actually likes to do as well.
That's a bit difficult. Getting therapy from a sexuologist to help boost up her libido a bit
Vaginas don't get "looser" with kids or high usage.
Partial bullshit. Not with useage, I agree.
But a couple of healthy kids will wreck some pussy. If the woman isn't super fit you will end up chucking hot dogs down a hallway.
WTF? Nobody can help this situation. You are completely out of line.
I personally witnessed my gf grow pussy lips over the course of 4 years.
Yeah getting frustrated and bringing it up is a vicious cycle. Find the underlying issues and work on them. Sex isn’t the problem, it’s everything else that is getting in the way of sex. But she has to be willing to work for your happiness too.
You are in for a ride. Get a thin one and let her hips grow naturally after kids. Trust me on this. My exwife was 160 @ 5'6". Ended up 240 with no kids. Current wife was 115 @ 5'2". Now she is 130 after 2 kids.
My man! That is how I roll too.
Married 2 & 1/2 years, we have sex about twice a week
Thanks for the help anons. Sounds like my bitterness and anger wasnt helping the situation and was probably putting added pressure on her. Guess that didnt help things.
I'm going to try working on the way I go about bringing it up too.
Sadly, the wedding planning isnt helping on the stress levels.
At this point leaving isnt an option so if I want it to get better I guess it needs more effort on my end as well.
Wish me luck
Not bad at all!
Wow. That's beyond horrible.
Lazy bitch, wtf? You need to put your foot down.
Wife and I probably 2 or 3 times a week
mannnn.... what a joke! How do you fuckers not get caught? Are they cheating on you guys too?
No. I don't have a spouse
Better hope your testosterone levels stay low like now. When you hit mid life crisis you might freak the fuck out.
12 years together, lately sex averages maybe once per week but she’d have it more often if my libido wasn’t shit
Damn! Good shit!
Nah, most these dudes have low testosterone. Some of these guys have other mental issues too. Some are just effeminate men and soft.
You are the X factor, not the bitch. Men lead, the women follow or leave.
a bomb waiting to explode.
Good luck bro. Lasting relationships are work.
That's brutal. What is wrong with you?
Take her off that shit and get a IUD.
Thank me later.
Married 30 years.
Have sex 5-7 x per week on average.
You must be young. Your stupid ideals aren't applicable to real life.
Take her to a clinc that does TRT/HRT. Get her bloodwork done and they can help you guys fix that.
She can go Ketogenic diet and use supplements and that might fix it too. Ginseng helps too.
All else fails, abandon ship and start over. Not worth it. You will be cheating like half these fools and end up getting shot when she catches you. Not worth the bullshit.
Her stomach is sexy.
married 3 years, together 12
2/3 times a week when she's not on her period
1/2 bjs during period
Good to see some men here are still red blooded men.
Why the long look?
Correction. Get a COPPER IUD. Skip the hormonal ones. Copper kills sperm. That hormonal crap is just like the pills.
Going on 2 months now i think
Thanks i completely agree she doesn't believe me!
2 times a week usually, sometimes once, sometimes three times. Been married for 9 years and have three kids.
When we were first dating, 4-6 x per week, even during period
After dating for a while, 3-5 x per week, skip period week
Married, 3-5 x per week, unless stressed about work/school/life, then it would dip to 2-3 x per week
Trying to get pregnant, 7 x per week during ovulation, 2-3 x per week otherwise
While very pregnant, 2x per week
After first born, drought until pussy healed
After pussy healed, 2x per week... too tired to bother with new kid in the house
Trying to get pregnant with 2nd kid, 5-6 x per week. Felt like work, but not gonna say I don't enjoy fucking. Just that it wasn't romantic or "fun". I would just be consentually rough with her just to cum, whereas before I'd make sure she came first before I starting the actual fun mistreatment part.
After having the second kid and pasted the pussy healing period, maybe 1x per week. We're just too tired, and with two kids there's never any private time during the day. Sometimes when the wife is ovulating she'll get super horny, and then we'll push through the weariness. Otherwise, I just bug her about it every now and again and we fuck. It's just so much easier to masturbate for 3 minutes than to do the whole locked bedroom door thing and bother to try to get each other off.
Probably will return to normal once the younger kid is old enough to just leave in front of the television, as our oldest is now. We shot ourselves in the foot by having a second just as the first became old enough to leave in the other room by his lonesome.
tldr- prob more than you user
Opposite effect for me. I have sex more often that when in my early 20's when. I was married. But I also went from 120LBS to 190, i am physically more attractive now.
Married 6 years. Second time around for both of us. We try for everyday still but that doesn't always happen. We make up for any that we miss during the week on the weekend with some marathon fuck sessions. This weekend I busted at least 6 nuts, gotta love the holidays when we send the kids off to their other parents.
Sounds like my marriage and now we're probably going to split up. When she stops taking care of your needs, you'll stop taking care of hers and then it's all downhill from there.
Been married for 9 years. It is sporadic. Id say a average for a week is 3 or 4. Sometimes its alot more but then there are weeks that we dont do much at all. When she was last pregnant and i was cheating on her we did it alot. A lot of awesome kinky sex. But then we split up and went to rehab and and half way house and once we moved back in and got back together things have been less exotic and often. Now that i have cought her trying to cheat on me (talking about it and leading guys on) it has kinda picked up and gotten better. I am not going to sit around and be cheated on, but I know she hasnt done anything,g physically yet and after all I put her through, while she was pregnant no less, i am going,to try to stick it out and accept her apology and belive she made a mistake and has learned from it. I cheated first and i regret the ever living shit out of it and would never do it again. I belive she can fill the same.
Used to get sex every night before bed last two years I get blowjob after dinner or sex and sex before bed too so twice a day
Oh this is over 14 years of a relationship, by the way.
Here's the thing- typically women don't initiate sex. That's why lesbian bed death is a thing. So as long as the wife is willing, it's sort of up to you whether or not you wanna fuck. That's the trad way to negotiate how much sex you get. Women might like it once it starts, but they don't have the testosterone drive to kick start the effort it takes to actually get into bed.
There are women who _do_ have enough testosterone, but they're fucking broken in the head. Wild fucks, but you can't have a long term relationship because they're crazy. If you have a stable relationship, then the women doesn't want to fuck until you're already fucking her.
This is actually a very reasonable explanation. I have sex pretty often with my wife, but if I dont go for it or say we are going to have sex, it wont happen.
What us men like and what they like or what they think we like, are two totally different things.
Nope. A few stretch marks on the ass and 5 to 10 extra pounds have never stopped me.
It aint rape if you are married. Once you are in that is all you need. She might even warm up to the fact you are all over her ass and love the extra attention she is getting.
you down to share more of her on kik or something user?
Nahh, you can still rape your wife retard. We dont live in the 1400's
Begging ass! This isnt about you!
Nobody is talking about a violent rape fool. You wont get regret sex rape like these bitches today pull off.
If she starfishes, at least you are getting your strokes in. Stroke her ass real good and she might get into it more. Guys need to put in the work and make it fun and pleasurable too.
This is like saying it's not assault if you hit your wife, because your married.
I was laughing until I finished reading this. Now I'm sad at this reality. Thanks user.
Okay, that's is completely different than I thought you were going. Yeah, a little sexual contact usually gets it going.
Married 15 years. Two kids.
Was averaging twice per month until we discovered my wife's a sub who gets off on BDSM and being completely dominated.
Now it's 6 times a week and nothing's off the table. She even complains when I don't fuck her now.
I make her start every day by putting my dick in her mouth. Some morning I make her blow me until I cum in her mouth. Most mornings I just make her taste my cock so her days starts off on the right foot.
We're talking butt plugs and hardcore ass fucking. Face fucking. The whole nine yards.
whole 9 yards...
how else would you do it after years of marriage? Haha
That's that shot that will make this nigga cry, real white people shit like love
Talk to a criminal defense lawyer about what could happen if your wife accuses you of rape. Don't be surprised if he laughs at you. So unless you knocked her out with a brick and raped her, prosecution is likely going to try and get you guys to patch things up and divorce without the drama. It's really hard to get a conviction off a married couple like that.
4 years and we do at least once a day. Have a kid, doesn't affect anything. Nice to have a libido that matches mine so I don't have to masturbate every day.
I genuinely feel for you poor bastards who don't get any <3
Married for 10. Both working professionals. I get sex 3-4 times per week + blowjs whenever she's not in the mood. I told her when we were dating that sex is extremely important to me and that I would always be loyal so long as she commits to meet my physical needs. She's always obliged. Sex with the woman you truly love and loves you back kicks the shit out of the mindless rubbing of genitals with strangers.
No kids yet, and I'd imagine it'll fall off a bit after she bears my children, but I'm good with that sacrifice to ensure my lineage continues on.
Well, I'll just stay with what I have been doing. If shes in the mood good, if not I'll back off. I have sex often enough that i dont really masturbate. So I guess you could say I'm satisfied.
Checked. Good on you brother.
Divorced a year and a half now. Highly inconsistent sex life, sometimes I'd go a month or two without, others we'd fuck daily (never more cause shed get sore). My depression was fucking with my libido hardcore.
Of course now I haven't fucked anyone since january
Married 10 years, I get sex or a BJ really every 2-3 days. She keeps count and reminds me when we get outside of that.
Onlything I dont get is anal. We only did it once and it lasted ten seconds. Not really my thing anyways. Once you live with a woman long enough you realize you dont wanna go in there.
Mental health got fucked up real bad after 3 bad experiences in a row. Failed every attempt to get with a girl after that, some 25 now. Will probably be taking with force what I need any time soon.
This has been an enlightening post, thanks to all who contributed. Married ten years here, average 1-2x a week... She wants more but it's not as exciting for me anymore. When we first dated it was 1-2x per day. I think it boils down to compatibility...if you like being around them, the sex will follow. If not, it tapers off as you really can't stand to be around them.
what the fuck?
you guys a sexual?
This is what I've come to realize in my 30 years on this planet, after having fucked and had relationships with plenty of different women and different types of women. It couldn't be any more true honestly.
Girls who come onto you, are forward, initiate sex - all the stuff you WANT as a man; they are absolutely fucked in the head. The girls who fuck the best in the ways you want to be fucked are always, 100% certifiably insane.
Girls who make good life partners, gf's, wives, etc - they don't initiate. You have to "train" them to do crazy or weird sex shit (if they're willing to even try it at all) - sex feels like a chore sometimes after a while because it is. I just wanna cum on your face, not listen to how you have to think about and decide whether you can do it or not for a couple months before trying it and giving it a laughable effort.
I haven't found a good solution to this except finding a girl somewhere in the middle. My current gf is a little crazy at times (Korean) and because of this she's a pretty good fuck; and I've been able to get her to try *most* things I want to do.... but she's also level headed enough she makes a good partner. Her issues are being a bit too cluttered around the house and not being good with money for the most part... not really crazy outside of that. I'm good on money, but if I wasn't it would be a deal breaker for sure.
butt plugs and hardcore ass fucking and facefucking
I was doing this with my gf like 1 year into our relationship, we've been together 6 years and still doing it. Although lately I want to do pee play, but she is "thinking about it" and isnt sure if she can do it yet.
Did we start too early? I can't imagine what we could even explore anymore after another few years.
Our relationship isn't a template, but I'd say that if you're already at this point is to keep pushing.
A year ago my wife would do anal grudgingly about every six months. Now she comes regularly while I fuck her ass.
Women want someone to lead and control them no matter what they say. The trick is to find her "on switch", so to speak.
My wife now says a FFM is off the table. But I keep reminding her that she has a bi friend at work that keeps complimenting her ass and complaining that her boyfriend won't dominate her the way I dominate my wife.
A year ago my wife said anal was gross and she hated it. Less than a year from now I plan to be fucking her and her friend while they're both tied up.
It's about leading her and making her overcome her limits. Make her push her boundaries. I'm going to do it until my wife is getting her pussy eaten by another chick while I'm fucking her ass.
It's about taking charge and leading her where you want her.
how do you increase your libido and erections without prescription drugs?
4 or 5 times a week
used to be 7 but kids
I guess if you're not going to use drugs, then the advice would be "sex is more about between the ears than between the legs."
You have to train your brain to behave like it did when you were 18. I guess stop jerking off, but use that energy to imagine getting hard and having sex.
Also, having a reason to get hard definitely helps. When my RL marriage was in the dumps, I had a brief sex chat affair with someone, and just having sex being on the menu again was enough to get me hard.
Married 7 years. Since the first kid it averages 1 time a month at most and she isn't interested at all anymore. We get along perfectly fine in all other aspects and do well with the kids... I still sleep with one of her best friend regularly (wife's aware and used to participate regularly, still does occasionally) so I don't sweat it too much. Between work and kids, I get it enough to not feel ignored...wife and I are both 30.
More time than you, nerd!
Not married but dating for almost 4 years. We fuck 2-3 times a month since I have a low sex drive. Reading all the replies makes me feel like I'm not pleasuring her enough which sucks
2-3 time a week
4-5 with my mistress
Been married 17 years. She was never really into sex much, and now im lucky if i get it twice a year. Luckily I befriended the twink boy next door now i got a warm mouth and boipussy to blow my loads into