How do i be normal, she unmatched me after i asked that?

how do i be normal, she unmatched me after i asked that?

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Why would you want to be normal for some basic whore?

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She had no intention of staying matched with you to begin with. The one word responses should have clued you in.

i seem to scare everyone off with my first messages, so i want to be able to control myself a bit more, like ease it in slowly. but yeah you make a good point.

Literally all this is missing is a
*tips hat*
*luck be my lady tonight*
... "want to go out with me"

what is with uk spergs spamming these text threads thinking theyre hilarious

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It's over for ukcels

The cuddle question is autistic, but her saying "Why" as the response is even more autistic.
This is literally how 99% of NPC girls talk. They can't understand basic social interactions and honestly, you probably dodged a bullet.

i'm not trying to be funny, i just want to learn how to hide my autism a bit longer. i don't know how to learn unless i experience it with experimentation.
this girl is confusing me so much, i think she doesn't want to kiss me but she never says no, she wants to go star gazing with me though. sometimes i want to give up trying to get a girl to like me, but i don't know what else to invest my time in to, i am bored of everything

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that makes me laugh user, i would say that just on the off chance that the girl finds it funny as well. my ex used to love reading Sup Forums with me and i would show her all the posts like this, she thinks its cute

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how about grow up

I cant save you but heres one small note; Dont start a conversation with a girl with “Hi *their name*”. Comes off with too much familiarity. Dude this girls a complete stranger. Also don’t follow that oddly formal greeting with a lame quip that probably made you even wince after sending it, you set yourself up to fail after that.

>You want to? In the car?
Maximum cringe. Please tell me this is a troll.

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it's easy to say that, but when i ask you 'how do i grow up?' .. how do you respond?

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>go on hook up app
>expect a relationship
you fucking soy boys are so annoying stop trying to date cheap prostitutes

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well she told me i can't come into the house and it would be cold to do it outside somewhere

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Act like an adult. Surely you know some adults
Last reply to your shitty bait

yeah i agree, i kinda knew when we matched that we wouldn't get on, based on her 'hey' message as well.

that's true, i normally do wince after sending most of my messages, or when i wake up and look at them the next day. but i think it helps me learn from the experimenting

How often can she say "haha"? Whats with her?

i have hooked up with a girl that does one word answers before, but she prefers to talk on the phone so it just lead to that when i asked her if she was interested in talking, based on those short answers - she told me she prefers to talk on phone so i asked for her number and got it and we met up

If she ever wants to be taken seriously, just answer "sure haha" and see what happens.

i don't want a relationship, i used to use tinder to hook-up with girls but then i tried dating one for a year and it just ended so i don't remember how to do it now. does my messages seem like i want a relationship? i am so used to talking to my ex that i never talked to anyone else now

i know a lot of adults, all of them are depressed and hate their lives, they all live in fear of revealing themselves and speaking up for what they believe in.
>Last reply to your shitty bait
first and last reply, thanks for helping me learn absolutely nothing

i have noticed girls seem to say it when they are unsure or not-confident with their reply, adding 'haha' on the end softens it, more feminine/innocent - or to indicate a joke

>does my messages seem like i want a relationship?
yes, you spend too much time on each girl, get to the point and move onto the next, if you dont have at least a dozen girls to try each day you arent chad enough

I liked what you said op. That was cute.

hmm ok thanks. i think i need a different method to make friends or socialising then, because sometimes i just get lonely and want someone to talk to, so i normally end up talking to my tinder matches and i guess that hinders my chances of hooking up. when i started dating my ex, i stopped talking to so many people and my social contact was limited to just her.

i am glad, if it makes me smile or laugh then i just send it and hope they do as well

why dont you just tell them youre autistic right at the start

sometimes i do, but i am a bit worried that someone will lie to me and take advantage of me, because they could manipulate me easily. whenever a girl tells me she likes me, or that sex is going to happen, i become a lot more easily controlled and weak to them - like a bitch, i just say yes and try to please them so much, i hate it. recently i did change my tinder bio to, "I can't give you kids, my sperm are too autistic to find the eggs." and i thought it was cute and funny and sexy but then i removed it again.
do you think putting it in my profile would be a good idea?

yes 100%
but not the joke. just put that youre an unmedicated autist

what was the 'yes 100%' in reply to, the risk of me being manipulated?
ok, i will try and think of a way to word it in a way i like it - that sounds a bit scary, though i guess girls might be curious to find out what it means

it was to the question you asked you fuckin autist

>i will try and think of a way to word it in a way i like
and you already fucked it up, you obviously cant think for yourself

100% to putting it in profile, but not mentioning my sperm, alrighty. thanks bro
you made me laugh. i always laugh when i realise little mistakes i make like that. i have to go buy some prunes from the shop for my grandma now. bye thanks for the chat and the help

i can think for myself, but i don't have confidence within my words when talking directly to other people, i make mistakes that i am unaware of - then people are scared to tell me what they are, for fear of upsetting me - but on Sup Forums i can post it and everyone is honest and blunt, so it's helpful to learn here.
also i did start telling girls directly about my autism and they have responded well before, but only after i have talked to them for a couple of days, i've never had the confidence to say it so quickly - but i will try now and learn

Don't try to be normal
But this convo is just a simple guide on how to fuck up contact with anybody
Why not accept that your humor sucks and don't make jokes anymore?
If you want to have a serious date, be serious about it.

bruh, pay for an hotel room? invite her to eat in a nice place? let her come into your lair?

she sounds open, you should tell her you're autistic and have no idea of what you're doing.

OP, forget the app and actually meet girls in bars. If you are lucky you may just meet one who is dtf for the night.

It's because you're British.

If you are British go to bars in the States, not the big cities, somewhere where they only hear British accents on TV. Your accent will be a talking point and your chances of pussy that night will be high. Minimal effort required.

because i don't let one bad experience stop me from trying again, also i know that i have a good sense of humour because of past experiences, i just don't always let it out freely - thus compromising, or "trying to be normal" makes it harder. and even though i know i shouldn't be trying, i end up doing it. it's a hard habit to break but i do want to learn.

i am a neet with not much disposable income, i have told her this early on before we met, also i live with my grandma so she can't come here (she knows this as well, i always tell girls early on)

i have thought about trying to go to a bar, but i am worried about how i will act. normally in social places i just sit down and wait until it's time to leave and i think i will make people feel uncomfortable and if i wanted to walk up and chat to a girl, i would feel bad to distract her from her friends and she would probably feel sympathy for me and be worried to be honest that she doesn't like me (damn i am making a lot of assumptions)
i like the process of writing down my thoughts, it helps me realise how dumb they are, i have no proof of this happening, yet it rolls around in my head constantly.
i am just scared. also i worry about another guy walking over and making fun of me and the girl will laugh and then chad will get my girl

>Minimal effort required.
just fly to america? i see your point, it's a good idea if i had the money to go abroad.

asian girls studying here seem to love having a white guy, not sure why. my ex used to brag to her friends just on the basis i was white, one of her friends said i look like a school shooter, but they are all muslim so i didn't mind

Before you say or do anything, just ask yourself in your head "is this autistic as fuck" and then proceed.

Your problem is trying to fuck them immediately. Talk to them like you would to a dude you just met or a friend, then if there's a connection proceed with flirting

i bought a pack of 5 donuts because i thought i could take 5 pictures for tinder of me eating all of them at once but ye i thought that idea was dumb when i got back from the shop.

i dont have any experience making friends or talking to guys, except anonymously on Sup Forums - but i kept getting banned from tinder when i had no filter like that.
yea i do focus on sex too much, i am trying to cut down on that, but i also want to show them i am interested in sex, i guess finding the balance is hard for me, it's always too much or too little

>ye i thought that idea was dumb when i got back from the shop.
actually that's not true, i still think it's a good idea but scared to do it, also i don't want to get a tummy ache

>but i also want to show them i am interested in sex

Holy FUCK user....thats implyied during the dating part without being direct about it.

I know where I am, but thats an extreme level of autism. You...you are better off finding a weeaboo or some other kind of mental issue case female for you, you have no hope of "being normal', because this IS your normal.

Or just by a damn real doll.

Open every tinder conversation with something like "where've you been my entire life *heart eyes emoji" then send related pic works like 95% of the time for me

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hmm ok. i find it hard to imply it without being too direct, ye it is normal for me to be direct like that - it saves time normally, but i can see how it would put some people off.
i have been tempted to get a doll, but to be honest it wouldn't compare to having a real girl to meet, i have had a lot of positive fwb relationships and just struggling to find a new one. i would get lonely having a doll. ye good point i probably need to meet someone who is a bit odd like me as well, then we can understand each other easily.
my ex had adhd and she was really understanding and cared about me a lot, but we first met for sex and to hook-up, it just turned out we liked spending time with each other too, but i just want to stick to sex because emotions are so confusing and tiring.
yesterday i asked a girl directly 'are we flirting now' because she said something a bit naughty and it made my body shake with adrnealine

i like how the fairground ride in the background looks like it is fucking as well. are you allowed to upload custom gifs/pictures to the tinder chat? or only by searching for ones that are already on there?

they instantly know how insecure you are kek

Searching only. Look up joe dirt

That's because he made autistic reddit-tier jokes

Asking girls to cuddle is cringe as fuck, dude. You look like a desperate virgin mommy's boy. You should not care about hooking up with a girl. She's interviewing for access to YOU. That doesn't mean be a dick, but it means you need to make it clear but not obvious that you are ready to walk away at any time if you need to.

what's wrong with you OP. your autism is off the charts. don't try so fucking hard, it's unbecoming.

they already know you are interested in sex, it's implied. When talking to new people try to find out what goes on in their life and i don't mean the traumatic shit, i mean what's their interests, hobbies, values, sense of humor and shit

that's ok, i tell them directly before meeting anyway, it makes no difference to me, if someone laughed at me or found it weird, i wouldn't want to meet them because i know i would not get on well with them. most girls talk to me about it and encourage me to be more confidence, i have learned a lot and developed myself in so many ways thanks to tinder girls, plus they relax more and love to teach me how to make them feel good.

oh ok. nice i will add it to my movie list

i like trying different approaches, it helps me learn and not become stagnant saying the same things

i have a feeling that youve never met one

never give up brother, we don't need any more incels in the world
we need to remember that everyone is fucked up, ourself, our friends and the people we date. i find security in that when i'm meeting new people

well i have no interest in them apart from making physical contact, so it seems like a waste of time to talk about anything else, i do walk away when needed - they might not be aware of that though

i don't know how to not try hard, i mean, this doesn't even feel like i am trying - i used to write poems and make memes and send them to girls, so just writing a bit of text is nothing to me

you tried to be too clever then insinuated that you live on some neckbeard edge of 'normal' which is exactly what every wierdo neckbeard says. You just facefucked yourelf into inceldom.

Just say HI. Jesus. Find out what they like.TALK.

i have very limited interests and hobbies, also my humour normally relates to sex, or something offensive. i just feel like i am wasting their time if i start asking them about stuff i don't care, nor will i remember. i like ask questions about random stuff to see how they respond, so they can give answers they don't have scripted in their head

Cut your dick of, You don't deserve passing on your genes

You sound like an unironic narcissist.

You should get your life together before seeking a mate. You don't want to wake up one morning without a dick and half your shit gone.

that's because you are basing my experiences on your own experiences and all the bullshit you have read online, confirming those negative thoughts in your head. i used to think like you, until i actually started trying and getting proof that i could do it, so it's ok - i know i can't change your view, it will only happen when you experience it yourself.

that's true, a lot of girls have told me they are scared to be themselves around guys, but with me they can relax because they know i don't care if they do silly stuff. it makes for a nice atmosphere, no preconceptions or judgements. i notice that as soon as i start being honest about things like this, they open up too.

im not the one asking advice on Sup Forums and humiliating themself lol. no one here actually believes you get puss m8

i don't understand how i tried to be too clever. also i can't see where i claimed to be 'on the edge of normal' whatever that means

>Find out what they like.TALK.
i did

especially when you have no money, live with granny, and expect these girls to invite you over

>You should get your life together before seeking a mate.
how am i meant to know what it means it 'have my life together' if i have never experienced it?

>You don't want to wake up one morning without a dick and half your shit gone.
i never invite girls to my house for this reason, also i never stay the night because i find it hard to sleep next to other people

that's ok, i already stated that i know you won't believe it's possible until you experience it yourself. your preconceptions are holding you back - they didn't hold me back.
you're going to suffer in life if you think asking questions is humiliating.

you are clearly delusional

Why do women leave guys on read?

99% of the things u wrote are pointless bullshit that make you look retarded. Cut all that out

>they didn't hold me back.
Isn't that the reason for this thread? Because you're deep off the spectrum chart and don't know how to hold back?

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if you say so, it must be true! there's no other possibility, if your brain thought it!

the context is important, too many variables to consider. example:
if i ask a question and they don't respond within a few days, i will ask again - still no response? i forget about them and move on.
i don't become angry with them though, and i always ask them for a reason - sometimes they give a reason, sometimes they don't.
we can make assumptions, but the truth is only found from the individual that you are talking too - sometimes they are scared to be honest, for fear of how we will react.
on the other side, i leave girls on read all the time, because i want to read the message, but i don't have time to reply, or it's not important to reply.. or.. whatever another reason could be, maybe i just forgot? if someone forgets to reply, it doesn't mean they hate you, or they are a bitch - life gets busy and we have priorities.

i don't find the act of asking questions humiliating and i see my 'mistakes' as experimentations to learn from. everything i do is to learn and i don't let made-up bullshit on the internet stop me from being scared to talk to girls, because i am poor, or because i live with my gran, or because i am autistic -- despite people telling me that i need to change these things before i can meet a girl, i have done it many many times without needing to change.
i am still aware i make mistakes in regards to communicating, and i know that is holding me back more than anything else - which is why i am open to learning more through experiencing myself and then asking others perspective on it.

what is the 1% to not cut out? i don't know what your numbers refer to

Holy fuck I'm cringing. Nothing screams desperate like not taking the hint

there is a difference between being desperate and not being aware of the hint. if you can not recognise the hint, or misinterpret it incorrectly - that's more to do with development, than desperation

so you can get your dick wet.

She insulted you by saying "Why not just be normal." You need to notice this and either change the topic or fucking leave. This random girl doesn't give two shits about fixing your life. You need to look at the situation in her eyes, it helps.

i did see that, but the reason i replied was to either get her to think about why she said it (and maybe change her perspective or maybe she would explain it to me properly. i have asked a lot of girls similar things and sometimes they responses are very well explained and i learn from it.
yeah i guess that's a good point, most people won't want to invest time into someone else's life, even if they can see flaws - or they won't even invest enough time to see those flaws, because they don't want to deal with it?
even when girls insult me, i don't take it as an insult, i am too busy focussed on what i am trying to learn - so i guess i don't even consider thinking how they would look at it from their perspective.

>the reason i replied was to either get her to think about why she said it (and maybe change her perspective or maybe she would explain it to me properly
thats your autism speaking

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You keep saying over and over how you are trying to learn but clearly haven't learned shit with all these girls you supposedly talk to. Just leaning towards bait at this point

Gotta agree with you man. Npc hos aren't wife material and this sperger has no chance with girls outside of Bible study

You robotic mong.

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what part makes it autistic? i just see it as an opportunity to learn and i lose nothing by trying

well i have learned a lot, i was a reclusive shut-in virgin with 0 experience with girls until i was 23 until i joined tinder, now i've met (fucked) 15 girls and had many positive interactions with them, some lasting weeks, some months. some problems with communication keep coming back though, normally when a relationship ends and i lose confidence within myself - thinking that i need to change or start acting different, to avoid the same thing happening again.

i know within myself that i am making progress, i don't know how to show that to you though. i'm just here to ask questions and i am open to anyones perspective on the situation.

i don't go to church, except to drop off cakes that my grandma donates to them. church people are quite nice as long as they aren't talking about religion

Lol

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Whoo! thinks was him...!?

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My point was they are autistic shut ins with the charisma of a syphilitic Indian Street shitter. You both have that in common and you need to understand that. Trying to fish for babes and normals girls when you're neither of those things yourself is a waste of time. Find the ones that you can relate to and stop talking to them like you're on some retard day out with your social worker. They want dick and money not the responsibility of looking after some retard with bits of pastry round his face. Learn quietly, not openly it's not a library.

You need to realise dating isn't about honesty. Honesty frightens Thots. Dating is about dishonesty, lies and illusion wrapped up in a packed of casual confident chadness.

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i disagree, the best relationships i have had have been built on honesty.
i used to lie and do dishonesty, but it only ended with me fucking them, being bored and moving on.
lots of girls like looking after me, it makes them happy and i give them good sex in return - they cook me meals, give me weed, cuddle me, stroke my hair. it's really nice.

do you just lurk, just to try and disengage people from the conversation?

if this isnt proof that everyones been baited, then youre all retarded lol

it helps if you quote your sources, instead of being vague because you're grasping at straws and don't know how to express yourself properly. i have had many conversations with different anons in this thread, yet there is only one person who is upset

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Holy shit, this makes me want to die inside. There’s no way this is real. I can feel my fucking stomach curling. It’s like you’re actively trying to scare her off. Quit being so desperate and sperging out.