Are friends necessary for a healthy mind?

Are friends necessary for a healthy mind?
I used to think I'm the coolest for not having friends but it is getting very lonely lately

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Why don't you socialise?

Friends are absolutely crucial to one's well-being.

haven't had a friend since i was like 14 lmao

Maybe not friends but a little socializing with other human beings a day it is.

I live in ghetto in Barcelona and if I want to speak with people I travel to other towns and engage activities in civic centers.

we're all friends.

You just have to be mentally strong and believe in yourself, point out everything wrong that is happening in the world and plz (RAPE AND POO IN THE STREETS are NOT OKAY)

Easy with the racism there m8. Having no friends is quite painful.

Yes, at least for me.
When I spend time with my friends I feel happiness. If I'm alone for long periods (weeks) I feel down.

Yes they are
Try to make many friends
The man is a social animal and need to socialize

>this thread

>only made it up to green

c-can Sup Forums work for belongingness and love? y-you guys are my friends...

What do if repelling people, even when shower everyday?

why else do you think you repel people?

normies only like normies.

How do you socialize if you don't have any friends in the first place?
Who's even going to introduce you to people?

Why do you think your here. Int r9k pol bant are refuges for autistic people hohoho can socialize with 3d people

Who* what the heck autocorrect

user, I want you to pay close attention to this post. Even if you think you're the edgiest motherfucker on earth please listen to what I'm about to tell you.

Do you need friends you can trust and love and put your faith in? Not really, that's fantasy shit.

Do you need regular human contact and to put an effort in meeting people? YES.

I went full NEET mode after two years in college when I realized I didn't like what I was studying and wanted to take some time to study and see what I wanted to do. I ran this plan by my parents and they reluctantly agreed to give me a year and see what came of it.

I spent the first six months in heaven, I quit Sup Forums and spent my days studying japanese without a care in the world. It was fucking amazing and I loved it and would love to repeat those six months as many times as possible if it were possible.

But then I started to notice things were changing. I would become incredibly irritable and lash out at my family over tiny unimportant things. I would wake up in the middle of the night with my heart beating as if I were on the verge of death. Sometimes I would become violently nauseous for no reason. I started becoming anxious 24/7 and went from being a productive NEET to a full recluse Hikkikomori.

Of course I'm no doctor so take what I say and compare it to your own situation, but I think natural stress on the mind and body is an important stimulant and that we require obstacles and schedules to live our lives the way our homeostasis intended. My lack of stimulus and challenges led to my body creating its own stress and anxiety in an incredibly unhealthy way.

I won the japanese scholarship I was aiming for and will be leaving in a few months, and I don't regret having taken this extended vacation, but I sincerely regret not having been more active and maybe finding a part-time job or volunteering more frequently. I took it too easy and the human body was never meant for that.

Don't make my mistakes user. Take care.

but I have a girlfriend :thinking: and I make fun of losers irl because they normally can't socialise like people here

when I look at Sup Forums everyone has bants, the losers I know irl that nobody likes can't have bants, but people who have bants like this irl have lots of friends, like me

it used to be different when I was very young but autism is actually very popular, maybe the US didn't get this phenomenon.

that's all in your head. try some special interest groups with your hobbies.

tried many times, I'm socially inept, normies notice sooner or later.

What do you do in your spare time? Do you work? Study?

I didn't have many friends when I was younger (fuck I didn't have a friends group until I was 18). You probably hear this a lot but you really just have to put yourself out there.

Most people won't give a shit about you but every now and then you'll meet somebody that's cool enough to kick back with

>Having no friends is quite painful.
This too. I appreciate family but they're pretty much guaranteed to like you. When you can't name anybody in your life that's not obligated to spend time with you, you feel like the biggest sad cunt in the world.

>When you can't name anybody in your life that's not obligated to spend time with you, you feel like the biggest sad cunt in the world.
I've been through this stage a few years ago. One of the toughest times of my life.

Of course user:)

But meeting people irl won't hurt.

>c-can Sup Forums work for belongingness and love?
no. It can count for mental illness though.

>I'm a grown ass man relying on chatrooms to socialize
I rarely realize how sad this is. I have literally 0 friends lately.

>not even full green

fuck me

How did you get a scholarship and what did you get ?
I'm in the same situation, studying Japanese after realised I hated my field of study and trying to figure things out.

>I appreciate family but they're pretty much guaranteed to like you.

Yes and no; they are "responsible" for you and might care about you but they might not give you what you need to move foward in life. Actually odds are that its their fault if they didnt teach you how to socialize correctly. Or other important things for that matter.

Also loneliness is possibly hereditary.

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come make friends

Don't even have all the purple needs.
>pls end my suffering

ayyyyyyyyy at least you have us ;)

If you're still young i recommend getting a job where you have to interact with a lot of other people to build social skills.
Once you're comfortable try out university and get to know new people, you'll eventually get invited to some party and shit will sort it self out from there
worked for me.

>If you're still young

Is 23 "young"?

Why are you not safe Luigi?

>Actually odds are that its their fault if they didnt teach you how to socialize correctly. Or other important things for that matter.
I agree but it's best not to obsess to much about whether they did or not. It's up to you to turn it around if they didn't.

Yup

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People need affirmation. Friends are the best/easiest source.

Make yourself valuable, and friends materialize. I started a YT channel, and made some good pals.
youtube.com/watch?v=2Vxabu0YlFg

>friends you can trust and love and put your faith in? Not really, that's fantasy shit.
>regular human contact and effort in meeting people? YES.

This, one million times over. Existence is inescapable. You can dislike it, but you must participate.

Improving is healthier than running or hiding.

No such thing as friends. Everyone in this world is out to use you.

Friends mutually use each other. It's not bad, once you understand it

It's the monbukagakusho scholarship user. It's world wide and there are quite a few placement spots, especially if you live in the first world and in a country with good relations to Japan.

I applied with an N2 under my belt and perfect english and I also applied for the humanities section which meant I only needed to take three exams, math, english, and japanese. I'll be honest and admit I failed math pretty bad but aced english and japanese which is how I made it.

If you apply for STEM then you need to take math, english, japanese, physics, biology, and chemistry and the requirements are generally more stringent I hear.

If you have an interest and you're not older than 21 years old I recommend you check it out and see what comes of it. The only other guy to make it to the interview stage had an N5 and spoke shoddy english but he was good at the sciences so make sure you know what it is that you want to apply for.

Here's a word of advice, don't be a weeb and to try to sell yourself to them as a cultural ambassador between canada and japan, if you make it to the interview they expect you to know how your studies will impact relations between the two countries. Also they really check your background and involvement on a social level so if you want to be seen favorably participate in as many japanese related activities in your area and volunteer too. You gotta show active involvement and have good references from people willing to advocate for you.

studyjapan.go.jp/en/toj/toj0302e.html

This isn't just for the user above. If you're a weeb and are interested I highly recommend you go for it, anybody with english skills and a speck of japanese knowledge can obtain this scholarship and there are investigative and postgraduate scholarships too for the old(er)fags as well.

Don't let your dreams be dreams, you deserve to be happy too.

This.
But if you think about it most friendships form long before this idea is understood (ie school and early college) so I don't know what to think of it.
I don't know if many people go about trying to build mutually respectful friendships on purpose as adults.
They barely do it with their marriages.

>Existence is inescapable

Guns aren't that expensive.

I've spent a long time building on a habit and foundation of isolation over the last ten years or so, and it's something me and the people who help me with that mental health shit are working on.

Socializing is pretty fundamental 2bh. The difference even a few hours of seeing family and being able to have stimulating conversation makes is on par with exercising or getting sun. It's easy to disregard these things as being small but if you cloister yourself away for months, they'll have a massive and pretty immediate impact on your mood the first time you re-engage with them.

But for me it's not so much about friends and more about talking with other humans. Like says. You can't neglect such a fundamental aspect of what we are for too long and expect to come out unscathed.

I've spent most of my life in isolation and I'm not experiencing any physical symptoms. You're just a weak normie.

what happens if you hate each and every one of your friends?

pretty good m8

How can they be your friends if you hate them?

Yeah well at least I pay my debts fuck you greece you're a fucking bully.

Ive had them for 10 years+ some even for more than 15 years. I feel now we're too different and I cannot relate to any of them and they cannot relate to me anymore.

First step, lower your standard of the idea of having friends and say hello to the dumpster man every morning.

i was in a similar situation, wouldnt call it hate but we had grown very different, i ended up gradually cutting contact with most my friends and tbqh i kinda regret it

Why regret it? Heonestly that's what I'm doing right now. And I'm not doing it on purpose. Its just that id rather do anything on my own than hang out with any of them.

>tfw only have the bottom two

it was just nice having a group to do something with when youre bored, and started to miss them t b h, i recommed you reduce time with them while you get better quality friends but not cut them off completely

i really have nothing to add so here's a (You). Good talk

I will be your friend,burger

Are you implying that we are here just to suffer?

You only actually need the purple part, everything else is fluff/delusion.

>(((Maslow)))
Dropped.

you form a group based on mutual hate of another group
we call this system "Islam"

This pyramid should be the foundation of your life choices.

I'm too lazy for the top one and I'm ok with that.

I have most of the basic needs covered, but there are anxieties around keeping them covered. Have none of the other needs, though. Certain elements are objectively impossible to attain for myself, unfortunately.

Psychology is a science where it's very hard to prove anything right or wrong. You might as well be talking about chakras or enneagrams.

>When you can't name anybody in your life that's not obligated to spend time with you, you feel like the biggest sad cunt in the world.
At least you have family. I've become entirely estranged from them and they've stopped bothering to even send a generic copy-pasted empty happy birthday email once a year. Pretty much have absolutely no one and started to feel absolutely disgusted in myself after noticing that I was letting irrelevant personal shit slip in speaking to my doctors because there was a need to get it off my chest and be judged accordingly for the actions taken, basically looking for validation as a human being from a fucking general practitioner.
Now that's a sad cunt.

>worked for me
works on my pc :)
Fuck off.

Just make yourself good-looking it's the most important part of having friends and people wanting to associate with you and be your friend, hang out with you and so on

alternatively, work on being rich

boring

Even introverts need at least 1 friend. I had a lot of friends in public school, but since college everyone just kinda fucked off to do their own thing and I've only stayed in touch with a few people. It's harder to meet people at uni when you work all the time, don't live in a dorm and go to a commute school like I do. I get bored sometimes but ultimately I am introverted so it doesn't really bother me that I don't go out much, but I do text a few close friends pretty frequently to talk about shit.

All I need is my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

Get a dog. Not memeing.

>suffering is virtuous

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