The family in different cultures

>We value the family more than anything.

I don't know why but this mindset common in Latins/Meds etc. cultures just boggles me and bothers me.
Why should the group of people you were unwittingly born into be the most important thing in your life?
And then extended family of cousins that goes literally into the hundreds sometimes since these cultures seems to have massive families.

I don't know, maybe it's just because I don't like my family. But I would happily never speak to my extended family again. And that's fine to me

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>he never fought with his cousins against rude guests at a wedding of another cousin.

Then again I'm not wh*te

not been to a wedding in my adult life unfortunately

My friend let me tell you, your family is something you will have forever. The west is more focused on individualism so it's natural that you don't give a shit about the people who aren't your mom or dad.

My family is fuck huge it has some benefits but alot of messed up shit like feuds about money or land.
So yeah tl;dr love your family cause they are the only thing you will have all your life in good times and bad times

>My friend let me tell you, your family is something you will have forever

Except for when your parents die/go senile, which is probably when you hit 40 considering how late people get kids nowadays.

Siblings are just people you happened to grow up with. If you were birds you'd be killing each other.

This desu, friends come and go but family stays forever.

>people in this board care about their "race" but not their family

yeah I'm with Sven
hate to say it but I doubt I'll be close to my sister once my parents are gone
we get on fine but we just have nothing in common

My extended family is 1500 miles away so I don't talk to them much.

I'm incredibly close to my close family (father and siblings)
I can't imagine ever not caring about them, and the fact that it seems so common for siblings/children/parents to fall out or not talk to each other for years seems really fucking weird and psychotic to me

I don't really care about any of my cousins though and would happily not see them for years at a time

I'm half Indian if that's relevant. My Indian side (dad's) is pretty close. My mum was white (from N. Ireland) and didn't talk to her brother for years, which I found really fucking weird. The only time I ever saw her brother after I was a baby was at her funeral.

>Siblings are just people you happened to grow up with. If you were birds you'd be killing each other.
Wow, I'm glad me and my family live in Latin America.

That's sad me and my little brother have our differences but we have the same taste in movies so I can always watch a movie with him and talk about it without getting bored.

>my little brother
>brother
there's the difference

>Except for when your parents die/go senile, which is probably when you hit 40 considering how late people get kids nowadays.
>Siblings are just people you happened to grow up with. If you were birds you'd be killing each other.

Man that is a fucking sad outlook on life bro.

Its never too late to grow close to your sister man. Be there for here you will be the head of the family later

>tfw Turkish
>don't know my extended family
>don't have good relationship/barely see dad
>ABSOLUTELY LOVE MUMMY!!!!
>like my girlfriend's parents more

aren't we one of those people who are meant to have big families

My family is hilarious, they're all about MUH FAMILY but are backstabbing and gossiping about each other regularly.

This individualism and lack of love for the family is the reason why the west is fucked

Its not that different with my mom though, we have occasional family film evenings.
I mean living with people for whole your life generally makes you like the same things.
Ofcourse there are differences but there should be similiarities too.

On the contrary. This gives you an infinite amount of possible people to spend your life with, that you yourself get to pick instead of being saddled with.

That being said, your parents are still your parents and you'll just grow old and bitter if you didn't at least make an effort to see them every now and then. They love you, after all.

This is fucking retarded when I'm thinking about it

I think everyone has that, it exactly is what the other dutch guy was talking about.
Your family is with you during good and bad situations and many of them could be the cause of these situations.

Loving your race, country whatever but not your family is a bit retarded desu.
Nationalism should start at the family.

You care about your family because they are the closest thing to another you that there is, genetically and culturally. Even from a totally selfish standpoint, if you care about having children, or your race having children, you should care about your family, even if they anger you.

Our family values are still going strong in Malta. I like it, I like the sense of unity.

Agreed. It starts with caring about your family, then your friends, your people, and finally the country itself.

Yeah I'm not gonna abandon her completely maybe dinner once or a year or something idk.

I love my parents and this is kinda my problem

I want to get out of Europe, but I don't want to be absent when they will get old and will be in their death bed

>Siblings killing each other(?)
Feels good to be born in loving family like 90% of italians

I think that's the difference between meds and northern euros.
Here individualism is seen as the most important virtue ever, I think that its becoming destructive now. Occasionally there is news here about old people being found dead in their apartments weeks and sometimes even months after their deaths.

This is a good thread

It's the fault of capitalism.

This individualism has beem glorfied to hell. Tone it down and you'll see alot of problems dissappear

If it weren't for individualism they would have died 10 years before that. The human body refuses to surrender as long as it's constantly doing shit. It's when you let relatives/nurses take care of you that the body gives up.

This!

I want to have a big loving family 3+ children!
It's a great plan if it weren't that I'm gf-less.

> Occasionally there is news here about old people being found dead in their apartments weeks and sometimes even months after their deaths.
That's really sad. It happens here too though, they'd be either people without family, or they don't speak to their family for one reason or another.
Here, even between neighbours we have (back then more than today, we're getting more individualistic in this) some sore of an extended family
relationship. Back then, especially during summer, people living on the same street would get out of their houses with chairs, sit around and have
some good time.

I feel you user....

Its not about living longer or not its about nobody caring about your death.
People like that are sad either because they never thought starting a family so they don't have any kids to care about them or they did but they never thaught their kids the value of family so it they became lonely and sad fucks in the end.

That sounds very similiar to the stories my grandparents told me about when they still lived in turkey. Neighbours were like you said like adopted family who visited eachother often.
Appearantly there used to be even a neighbourhood wide solidarity where people of one neighbourhood would know eachother and help eachother out during hard times.
But yeah again liek you said things like that are becoming less and less things like that were apperantly also pretty common here 40 years ago or something.

>Appearantly there used to be even a neighbourhood wide solidarity where people of one neighbourhood would know eachother and help eachother out during hard times.
Yes, we did and to some extent, still do exactly that. They'd care for each other when in need. They treated each other as siblings.

I have extensive contacts with my family,and therefore im almost never in trouble because almost everyone in town knows I have no less than 60 cousins to call upon

my grandfather did that and he ended up with 15 children 2 of whom died at infancy

I guess those weren't all from the same woman.

OP here, thanks for saying. Fight the spreading cancer of generals on Sup Forums

I'm completely guessing here but I think this whole community of the neighbourhood thing is because people rarely just stay in one house forever anymore

so muh housing market and economy is to blame there

I guess on average a person moves from house to another each 5 years so that would still be enough time to get to know your neighbours.