they all compete like crazy and compare themselves to others as the main social sport.
Only the losers think that would not be of top importance.
Social status is the name of the human social game. It is not just cars, houses, clothes, jobs, money.
It is also quality of your children compared with the quality of the children of others.
If you think your mother and father do not care
how well you do compared with rival's parents children then you are deceiving yourself.
Probably your parents are disgusted with your performance and would rather have a better son if they could change it.
You are not lovable or worth something just because you exist. You are only as valuable to other people, your parents, and generally, in therms how much social status in social warfare you can achieve.
Think of yourself as an extremely ugly girl your parents are sorry to have and hide away socially, knowing she will never attract a good husband. You are that butt-ugly girl for your parents, you are a piece of dirt for them, an evolutionary failure.
If they had freedom to do it, many of your parents would probably kill you and try to conceive another son in the hopes for a better performing one this time.
Who do you think you are? You are that piece of dirt that ages in his tiny flat, drinking himself to death alone, dying in front of TV (today maybe PC) and being avoided by everyone.
And you hate family gatherings, because you know you are low-status human dirt that disappointed his parents and that you are a source of shame for your parents and because of that family gatherings, which are displays of social and achievement comparison, evoke anxiety and pain in you, and this is the reason you avoid them.
YOU ARE DIRT. YOU CAUSE PAIN TO YOUR PARENTS AND WIDER FAMILY BECAUSE YOU TURNED OUT TO BE A WORTHLESS LOSER.
This is the truth, and nothing but the truth.