I am a 29 year old male from Minnesota with a STEM degree and a high paying job. I own two houses and rent the 2nd one out as a supplementary income/investment. I work out, am good looking, and I am extremely funny.
I have no friends and have sever social anxiety. the only people i hang out with are work acquaintances occasionally. I listen to and read books about how to talk to girls and be more social, and after years of doing this I have yet to make a single approach. I cant even hold eye contact.
When I am with my family I literally cringe when they talk about my sister's boyfriend, or so and so is getting married or is having a kid. When they bring up if ive been seeing anyone I bullshit them and say I'm still having fun etc.
Jesus Christ user. Is this it for me? I feel like things really started slipping when i got "red-pilled". but in reality perhaps it was the other way around. that my lack of social connection drove me to this.
Have any of you had similar circumstances? I need a way out.
I have made a pact with myself that if I am not in a meaningful relationship and haven't fond at least a few close friends by the time I am 35 I will an-hero.
I need a way out. with Christmas and family around I just have realized now that I cant be like this anymore. I need a way out.
>Jesus Christ user. Is this it for me? I feel like things really started slipping when i got "red-pilled". but in reality perhaps it was the other way around. that my lack of social connection drove me to this.
You could just try killing yourself and not shitting up the board with blog posts
sage
Brayden Gutierrez
Get over yourself
Connor Wilson
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Dylan Bennett
You've got my sympathy user, I know how you feel. I got over it, you will too.
John Hernandez
Pic related
Jaxson Gomez
>I am extremely funny Tell us all a joke funny man
Isaac Flores
I don't have social anxiety, but I sometimes go to bars far away from where I'm from, and meet new people. I can act completely different, and it'd have no effect on my life.
It's like Im learning how to act.
Joseph Parker
Stop lying to your family and have some honest conversations with your dad.
Michael Rodriguez
Same thing happened with me, user. Are you looking for RL friends on here? You sound like you are successful, doing the right thing. Maybe I'll be your friend? I'll post an email address if you'd like?
Wyatt Morris
You sound like me except with money. Don't feel pressured by your family and society, try to give less fucks and relationships are overrated. You don't need to be in one to fuck girls.
You sound autistic so if you ever get married you'll probably end up getting cheated on and your wife will end up keeping half of your things. If you get in a relationship and you're not happy, don't fall for the "if we get married or have kids it;ll get better". It won't.
Merry Christmas.
Adam Kelly
If you an hero make sure to takes some Race traitors with you
Kayden Miller
www.aforeignaffair.com
order up a woman, dude.
Adam Peterson
It can be hard some times but you are already financially successful and I'm sure there are women out there who would be happy to land someone like you.
Just don't give up man, it'll happen if you put yourself out there. Or try online dating or some shit. I have a few friends that have actually had luck with that.
But I understand where you are coming from and have a similar problem myself, though I'm 4 years younger and haven't given up hope yet. Don't talk about killing yourself though, it's stupid to talk like that.
James Williams
best advice so far
Joseph Hernandez
As a hardened veteran of the meme war I'd say you need to just man up and do it.
People aren't fucking shit. You have more to be confident about then most.
Especially if you are funny.
You are wasting your god given talents and qualities on an irrational anxiety. Think about where you stand as a person. Should you really be so twisted up about be social? No.
If you need to then start seeing a therapist. Not that it will work 100% but talking through this with someone can help you gain incite and perspective and guidance.
Best of luck.
Adam Nguyen
I felt bad for you until you posted I need a way out five times
What you need is a slap in the face you hysterical bitch.
Everybody's mind goes there when shit gets rough but when you come crying to fucking Sup Forums of all places this is the post you should expect to get in return
Michael Thomas
it sounds like you just need some friends user, perhaps someone who is not as neurotic and socially anxious as you are, these types of interactions will really help you break the shell. you give too much of a fuck about what impression you are gonna give people when you should just be yourself and the women and friends you want will come to you. you cant go looking for these people, you have to weed out all the shitty people to find those who you will genuinely connect with. just be social and it'll sort itself out. Drink a little once in a while, it'll take some of that anxiety away in social situations
Carson Adams
This, I feel pretty similar, though I do have friends but don't really talk to any girls at the moment, besides one who I have no interest in being more than a friend with.
Gets pretty depressing around this time of year when everywhere I go there are couples everywhere.
I think a problem can be your job. Sounds like you might be an engineer or something. Lots of couples meet up in their jobs, well my job is pretty much 90+% male so I don't have that access like others do.
Ayden Anderson
>sever Severe, why do people always spell this wrong?
Josiah Brown
>As a hardened veteran of the meme war how do you not fucking cringe when you type that? I understand shitposting but that's just embarassing
Evan Gonzalez
>I am extremely funny. Being this socially awkward, I can't understand how you would know this. It takes interaction, a sense of self, and an audience (even 2 people) to realize you are actually funny. If you WERE actually funny, you would already have a girlfriend, because humor is the best foreplay...
Wyatt Scott
Do this
Go up and start a Radom conversation with 2 people every day.
After a week of that do it with 3 people a day.
Do this until you get up to 5. By the time you've done that you will spoken to 100 strangers.
Men, women, ugly, hot, short, fat, tall. Whatever. With no intention of hooking up, just talk about random stuff.
Just random conversations.
Then start approaching women you find attractive.
By this time your anxiety will have subsided and you should be able to carry a decent enough conversation with a stranger.
Then get numbers, come up with non standard dates, cheap ones, then start fucking them.
Nathaniel Jones
>> Ask user where he is from
I am from _______
>> really? hey! you know how they separate the boys from the men in ______?
Adrian Reyes
What job?
Benjamin Lopez
you have money so you can just buy alcohol or drugs to offset the anxiety and you can just pay for the pussy and have a good time. EASY FUCKING GAME. God youre an idiot.
David Lewis
Woe is you. Man up, sissy. There are plenty of 30+ year old wizards out there. There is absolutely no need to off yourself because you don't have a gf, you weak ass bitch.
Kayden Thomas
Do you have Autism? Sounds like you have it. >Comedy is said to be derived from awkward situations, which I assume you are the butt of >Sever Social Anxiety, Check >STEM job. Are you an Actuary or Math Major or EE? These are jobs that most ASD people hold due to ow coworker interaction
If I were you user, I would be with people who like your interests, then you start to go from there...
Levi Sanchez
dude minnesotan here. Mortgage everyone of your properties, sell out your property under the nose of the bank. Flee country with like 2 million then find a job somewhere else in a cheap all white country. Fuck friends. Devote your life to WN.
Its never too late to waste your life in meanlingless war.
Dominic Thomas
you must be quite unattractive and will never get genuine attention from a girl besides interest in your money
you should be able to get friends pretty easily though just pick some dumb hobby and get into it
Gabriel Hughes
user, women can only like you if they see you.
Being good looking and making money and sitting where no woman can see you means no woman will like you.
Camden Ross
No, tell me, how do they separate the boys from the men in Texas? >hard mode: Ohio
Aaron Moore
Did your family have dinner together when you were growing up? Did you attend church? I've seen a few of these threads and I'm starting to get curious about your childhood.
Benjamin Brooks
>extremely funny >cannot even hold eye contact
pick one m8
but honestly, I think this is the future of the USA. Miserable lonely people everywhere.
Julian Richardson
The only way to get rid of your problems is to accept your contributions to them and change your attitude toward them. Being socially inept isn't anybody else's fault; it's yours alone, so you need to solve it. You aren't as good looking as you'd believe, nor are you "extremely funny" because you have nobody to confirm that. This isn't your blog, these aren't our problems. You're lucky you got this much.
Joseph Stewart
I'm a 29 year old male from Minnesota too. Are you in the New Ulm, Edina, or Fergus Falls areas? We can hang out. I am also good looking. I guess this sounds a little gay but I'm married to a woman so you're safe.
Grayson Jenkins
Too long. Read novels better
Nolan Price
Interesting advice there, really gets my axons depolarizing
John Walker
Take some omega-3's, and other mood stabilizers. Never use porn. Quit fapping. Meditate. Take up art. Go talk to people.
I would like to be in your position. I don't know if I'm going to make it before I'm 30.
You have a lot to be grateful for. Quit being fucking weird.
Carter Collins
You sound like me but with less money.
What I'd do is keep focusing on your life and if you arent able to get a gf/wife, just go to an international dating site and bring over a young foreign bride after visiting her a ton of times.
Christopher Powell
Why are you unhappy if you won? You have money. Lift some weights and do some aerobics each day. Realise most women are way way below you and scum. Stop having respect for democrats and other morons. Keep your finances top notch. Fuck your sisters friends. Youtube Tom Leykis, and yaron brook. You can have as much sex as you want for liek 150 backpage.com or goto craigslist and goto therpeutic and map option to find $40 handjob thai massage places. I dont think you have any money or workout in real life. I think your a fat lsoer who lives with mom. Get better. Stop saying stem. its engineering or not
Brody Gutierrez
how do you know you are funny if you have no friends?
Jose Edwards
Hey, fellow MNfag here. You need to get a drink bro?
Evan Murphy
I mean you can just buy a submissive wife. It's Minnesota and I've never met a Somalian who wasn't fucking at least 3 girls at the same time there.
Go to church and marry a 20 year old who isn't ruined yet. If you have money it's easy as fuck.
Dominic Butler
Step 1. Go to Dr. ask for Xanax Step 2. Purchase adult diapers Step 3. Go to bar/club drink 6 drinks, and try to approach women Step 4. Take woman home for sex and try not to squirt immediately Step 5. Put on adult diaper so you don't wet the bed
It worked for me except and didn't figure out the diaper part till later
Caleb Harris
if pussy isn't a good enough motivation to wake up then i don't know what to tell you user
Elijah Walker
With a Crowbar.
Robert Carter
>a hardened veteran of the meme war As much as I love memes and shitposting in the internet, saying shit like this thinking it actually sounds cool is just cringy. Say it in real life and you can actually hear the pussies drying up and crumbling into smelly crust in the distance.
Zachary Scott
This.
Leo Allen
Take the Xanax after you had 6 drinks
Caleb Thomas
>grow some testicals and get back in the game...even ugly low test betas manage to ball some bitch occasionaly.
Wyatt Rodriguez
Hey Bro, if you're still in the thread toss me an email at [email protected],
I have experience helping guys overcome these things.
Logan Garcia
How did you even managed to get a high paying job when your social skills are so bad?
Cameron James
faggot do u even hunt? don't you know what we do in the great lakes states?
Joseph Butler
reported and saged off topic shitpost
Ryder Wilson
>Be STEM >Own 2 houses >Making good money from job and property
I hope you are kidding user don't kill your self.
But I am in a similar situation, literally asked /adv/ how to make friends couple hours ago.
>Be me >Good looking >2 cars that I bought my self >Have GF >22 >Decent shape but fucked up my shoulder so had to stop lifting for 3 months >B.A Degrees in Criminal justice and IT >Know fluent Polish some Italian >Asked by FBI, ATF and CIA to intern >NO FRIENDS, NO SOCIAL CONNECTIONS FEELS LIKE ITS GONNA BE LIKE THIS FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE
Some time I sit and think how in 5-10-15-20 years I will be social lifeless while everyone will be hanging out with their buddies that they met in college etc.
It's driving me mad to the point that I have been thinking about writing a book titled "My world, my life, my struggle" and going into politics for a good story
I am convinced that a lack of social connection with people drove me to this "red pilled" state and this site.
I really don't know what to do with my self.
Gonna continue being a NEET drinking beer on this winter break before my last semester at uni and see what happens after that. I have found solitude in reading books though so that's fun.
David Jenkins
somalians fuck dogs only I mean the animal, not ugly democrat women.
Michael Ward
You just a little faith, OP. Faith in god can change your life.
Cooper Butler
go to Vegas and go to Bunny Ranch. spend a weekend with those hookers and you'll feel better. you just need some pussy and sadly sometimes it's easier to pay than bother with the bullshit.
or start going to church. they'll be nice
Nolan Martinez
>saved In case i ever choose to stop being gay
Owen Lewis
Kek
Cameron White
You've got all that and you can't get a girl even off the internet?
Maybe you're gay.
Cameron Kelly
You can probably snag a top top tier somali girl
Benjamin Watson
This
Sage faggot
Mason Johnson
What the fuck is wrong with you? Just stop giving a shit, it is literally that simple.
Caleb Myers
For the love of God stop being a pussy OP
Go to the bar, approach an attractive female, create small talk that reveals you own property, a respectable education and a good job, and POOF you have a future wife and family
How fucking difficult is this, seriously
Blake Rivera
No need to learn how to act based on some criteria you are defining for yourself, your anxiety is self generated in the same manner. You are reacting to self defined meaning. You are looking for a way to justify not being anxious so you can not be anxious. Stop trying to create a reason to give yourself permission to relax. Once you learn to cut out the convoluted process of creating justification to feel a certain way you are free.
Brandon Jackson
Listen, user. This may sound silly, and I'm completely, 100% serious. No trolling or bullshit. Have you ever heard of "NoFap"? Ignore anyone who stultifies it or says it doesn't work, it fucking does. It basically cured my social anxiety. Learn about it, apply it 100%, and your life will improve. I guarantee it. What have you got to lose? You seem pretty desperate at this point. Either you try it and it doesn't work, or you change your life in ways you never thought possible. Good luck.
As for me, I managed 108 days, and it changed my life forever. But then, I started again, and it went back to how things were. Now I'm on day 57 and things are starting to work back in that direction again. I've tried everything, all sorts of placebos. I'm too rational of a critical-thinking mind to fall for tricks. This shit is the real deal. Very few people manage to do it, so that's why you'll hear people say it's bullshit. It didn't work? Oh, yeah, probably because you gave in and fapped and didn't see any progress after only a week. It took me around 70+ days to notice any drastic effects, and it only got better from there.
Brody Garcia
Err. that was worded poorly. Everything went back to the way it was, but there were certain aspects of my personality that I was able to apply during NoFap that stuck with me even after I started fapping again.
Elijah Bennett
nofap is a good suggestion. has real benefits.
Gabriel Powell
OP I am so sorry. Have you attempted any sort of counseling service yet? You sound out right /r9k/. If you are full blown autist not much can be done. If you merely have sever social anxiety you can be helped. Have you considered a quick month long expat vacation to south east Asia. I have plenty of acquaintances who seemed quite changed after that. If it comes down to such a horrid situation try and make friends through Sup Forums, there are plenty of discord and skype groups that pop up.
Eli Williams
I have thought about trying it.
I fap on the daily.
how drastic of a shift did you experience?
Mason Gray
>what waaa I don't have friend im gonna kms Those who cry about it a always weakling faggots who need others to validate their existence Fuckoff your whiny blog post to >>r9k
Sebastian Campbell
Spend some of that mad cash you're making on a psychiatrist.
Neglecting your mental health when your quality of life is otherwise great is retarded.
A good mental health professional will be able to help get you on the right track and it'll be the best money you've ever spent.
Thomas Lopez
Hire a surrogate.
Have a kid.
Meaningful relationship=solved
Fulfill your biological purpose=completed
My older brother used to be like you, raising a child literally saved him as far as I can tell.
He even found a fucking wife somehow, and he was an 11/10 on the sperg-o-meter.
Brody Flores
I can't even put it into words, man. The thing about NoFap is that, it alone won't do a whole lot for you... but what it does is restore dopamine to normal levels in your brain which is robbed by porn/fapping. Around the 70+ mark, everything started feeling more vivid--music is way better, and for the first time I was able to just socialize with people without being in my head. It's like you're becoming the true version of yourself you were always meant to be. You realize how life is actually supposed to feel. Remember how rich and magical things felt when you were a kid, and how you lose that? It's very similar to that. I've had plenty of experiences where I'm just experiencing life and everything feels... colorful, if that makes any sense.
In any case, that newfound dopamine provides you the motivation you need to make real improvements in your life. When I don't do NoFap, it's nearly impossible for me to get into a rhythm of regularly working out/running, eating healthy, reading, meditating, etc... but it's damn-near effortless when I'm deep into NoFap.
It sounds too good to be true, but it's not--the catch is, it takes a LOT of willpower to maintain abstinence. It's kinda scary to realize how dependent you can be on the shit. I never thought I was addicted until I tried to stop. I would literally set up systems to where I couldn't access porn, and next thing I knew I'd be lying in my own juices with my dick in my hand feeling like a piece of shit. If you want any more advice I'd be glad to offer it.
Jaxson Campbell
Look at all these depressed beta goy. Your tears make me stronger.
Josiah Reed
You can jalways ust horde guns and ammo and dedicate your time to making propaganda and making jews cry.
That's what I do.
Ayden Wilson
>has shitload of money >complains how shitty his life is
What a fucking faggot , you achieved more than 95% here , and you complain that you don t have a grill or grills are not miring you , besides if you were good looking at least some bitch would approach you . Stop caring , stop masturbating , do what you like in life not what society imposes you ( having a wife/gf)
Angel Flores
Nofap is placebo , the only true thing is dopamine levels . But in my case nofap=i become a giant asshole .
Also you can fap but without porn , porn is problem not masturbation
Blake Campbell
That is incorrect. I was skeptical, thought it was bullshit, until everything started. I'm skeptical of pretty much everything. It works, trust me. If you became an asshole, you're doing it wrong.
Samuel Edwards
That sounds so cozy desu. Maybe you should get into something degenerate like smoking weed or playing video games to take the edge off.
Thomas Campbell
>I am good looking and physically fit >girls don't make passes at me
Wrong. If you're physically attractive, there is zero chance that you don't get approached all the time by women. It used to happen to me constantly when I was single and worked out more.
Dominic Carter
Have you read "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World" by Harry Brown?
You should stop worrying about what other people expect of you.
You are a loner. An introvert. This is exactly what is needed to be an inventor or an author. You should keep reading and learning. Then put your mind to work creating something new.
Michael Lopez
user, you read about meeting women, have you ever tried putting what you read into practice?
Henry Lee
If you're serious about this, go see a psychologist since you're pissing money anyway No one on the internet can help you as well as a psychologist can
Parker Harris
OP you sound a lot like me.
If you're thinking about killing yourself, at least take as many niggers as you can with you before you go. That's the pact that I made and it may well have saved my life. Like I'd get depressed and think "fuck it, maybe I should just get this over with" and then I'd remember "I would be such a failure if I didn't kill at least one nigger before I went" and then I'd go do something to further that goal and then I wouldn't feel like shooting myself in the head anymore.
So yeah, this is not something you're going to hear anywhere else and I don't even know if it's what you need but it's something that's worked.
Brody Gray
Telsa didn't worry about being an introvert. He was too busy creating a revolutionary technology.
Lucas Williams
This. If you don't naturally attract girls you will land one because she had to settle with you... and she will cheat. Divorce you. Take half your stuff.
I'm glad I'm not a turbo autistic. Have an engineering degree but no job. Sometimes we can't have everything.
Jose Rivera
You were able to get a degree and find a good job while owning two houses, but you're unable to make friends or even talk to girls? Smells like total bullshit dude. You wouldn't have been able to do any of that with no social skills.
Michael Jackson
good read, smart man
Josiah Collins
Thats terrible advice, pal.
William Carter
Female - same issues, here's what helped me :
- Wellbutrin; seriously medication can help with social anxiety - realize you may be task-focused instead of people-focused. That's totally fine and part of why you are successful. I am this way and so I do task-oriented things to make friends (fencing classes, playing in a band, structured activities) - everyone lies to their families at xmas about how shit is going - yeah it's annoying but it's the drill. It's none of their business, try to care less what they think. - most women are pretty insecure and are terrified of guys and act cold or bitchy or whatever as a defense mechanism. - I put pressure on myself and got married at 33 only to get a divorce after 2 years because it was the wrong situation and not fun at all. Remember life isn't about checking off boxes- it's a creative thing. Do the stuff that makes you happy.