im white, young, intelligent, and my life is going pretty well so far, but since my studies/jobs allow studying/working from home, i end up binging on porn, vidya and extreme music. like literally i stop gaming and then watch some porn and then game again etc.
how do i stop this?
i end up doing the necessary work/studies for the day, more or well, so it's not like im a total failure, but i mean i could be contributing so much more to society, im intelligent, talented in various disciplines and redpilled.
i'm just also addicted to short-term rewards and i feel like i can't control it.
You need to solve this problem the old way. >take the fucking amphetamine Hans, you grandpa was binging on fucking METH while invading Soviet Union, what are you, a pussy?
good to hear m9, knowing im not the only one is probably the best help i can get
so i have this girl, fairly redpilled (since she is a slav), and good looking, and we have made out in bed but she said she doesn't want sex "before she falls in love".
first i thought this is good, since that means she's not a whore
but then i remembered that she had told me before that she isn't a virgin anymore
am i being cucked here??
especially since the last time i slept at her place she said that she doesn't want sex before marriage
thanks a lot guys
Jacob Wright
Try at least fapping or gaming after doing something productive, not before
You'll still fap and game but you can train yourself to get things done and won't feel so bad
Grayson Wood
I was trying to discuss this in another thread a minute ago and it died :(
I think you make things a lot worse by acting like it's ruining your life every time you crank one out. Make a conscious effort to be better, don't sweat it when you give in, and don't offload all of your problems onto it as a scapegoat.
William Wright
STEM student here, not doing so well. Im hooked on Internet, weed and porn. Which means basically messing with dopamine in the brain.
I grew up with my computer. It has become part of my body, part of my life. Everyday I swallow tiny bits of different redpills. Knowledge is my drug.
But im not achiving my goals. My lifestyle is degenerate. I know that. I have tried to quit, but i always come back. Im a failure.
Elijah Hughes
Www.Sup Forums.org/r9k/
Justin Lee
Hahahahahahahaha
Logan Long
Connecting with the Higher Self through meditation is the only Path to what you seek.
What you sub-consciously seek is to distance yourself from the Ego. Not to be ruled by it. Meditation and looking at the inner Divine is the only way my friend.
Christian Ross
my spidersenses are starting to tingle
she might have had a change of mind, which would obviously be a good thing but I suppose you are just being cucked dude
Leo Diaz
Lol, all these whiteboy fags addicted to fun shit instead of using it to unwind from all the toil they should be doing while they're young and have the energy.
Work harder, dudes. Get out of your comfort zones and make it inconvenient to binge.
Set a timer on that shit at least.
Lucas Cox
intredasting, thanks a lot user
elaborate you fuckburger
Carter Mitchell
The way you capitalize the "spiritual" words in your post makes me pretty confident you're the type of fella to drink kale shakes and do hot yoga.
Kevin Baker
No dude, she's a whore and is trying to drain you. You are Le friendzoned and she's keeping you on the back burner while she's slurping Chad slime off her lips
William Martinez
Set some fitness goals then start exercising and eating properly to meet them. (protip: you need to be cooking because correct nutrition is 80% of it)
Get some books that you find interesting but are still sufficiently challenging. Start reading one per month and then pickup the pace until you can comfortably read one per week.
Don't get into the habit of being drunk all the time. You sound young and this is the time where people start cultivating either destructive or positive habits.
Josiah Ward
You should have a serious talk about it. If you reach an understanding you'll be repopulating europe with white children, which is a win for us all. If she's cucking you, drop her and find another.
James Miller
By the way I think has a good point too about how you spend your time.
>Set a timer on that shit at least.
When I was deeper into this NoFap shit and had myself convinced that every time I grabbed my dick I was ruining my life, I would agonize over urges to fap and resisting them for HOURS, going back and forth trying to reason with my "demons" in my head, for lack of a better term. It was so self-destructive both mentally and physically, I neglected doing tons of things I should have been doing to do mental self-flagellation over porn, my willpower, and all of the gloomy self-image issues that comes with going down that depressing rabbit hole.
Now-a-days I've changed my mindset a lot. I still think porn is overall bad for me, at the very least it's non-productive and pointless. In fact, I couldn't tell you when the last time I fapped to porn was -- not because it's been so long, but because I stopped letting all of those anxieties about it strangulate my life. I tell myself I'd prefer to fap and look at porn less, but if I gotta do it I just do it and move on.
Joseph Rogers
wut
Hudson Thompson
You all want cold turkey? Go have a weekend at an Orthodox Monastery. Seriously, it helped me with this exact problem in the thread.
Nolan Collins
But I'm black, aren't I doing the right thing by living through porn instead of actually breeding?
Evan Morales
personally i sort of feel like a combination of the internet and substance has ruined my brain my attention span is absolutely god awful, and i can no longer understand complex concepts as well as i previously could in high school
Aaron Reed
holy shit this is me 100%
are you studying computer science?
Brandon King
life has no meaning
Samuel Phillips
The internet has made us excellent multi-taskers, the internet generations have a very wide but shallow attention-span.
Do you ever try to actually practice holding your focus longer? That's all meditation is really, a gym for your ability to focus. I think reading books is a good way to do it, as well. You should look into it if not, it might help you out.
James Scott
Put your computer in a common room facing the entrance
Go to a park or cafe from 10am to 2pm everyday and work or study
start meditating, it's a good start for the next step
Eli Price
What is your life like? I'm very interested in Moldova. Is/ was your mother a prostitute? Do you see dying, starving children everyday etc
Nolan Campbell
no because moldova is great and proud nation we work hard and we are not cucked unlike you
moldova is 100% white also no gyspsies here
Leo Baker
Good post user. I think a lot of these 'problems' people are having could be solved by simply being honest with yourself. There's a brilliant line from Inherent Vice like "You know when I first started snitching the first thing I learned was how often people ask the questions they already know the answer to, they just wanna hear it from another persons mouth'. Each person knows what they need to change to get to where they want to be, its a matter of listening to yourself and not needing validation from internet (or any) strangers to give you that extra push, just push yourself.
Was in the same situation as you not that long ago the key is to understand that you can break out of the life but you need to understand what works for you. I'm not gunna give you a list of ways to try, or tell you how I got out of that, if you're honest with yourself good things will come. You know how to get out, but you're afraid. Maybe try and fail, then try again. You'll never succeed without some failures.
>>how to stop binging on dopamine? >I don't like the way my brain works on a fundamental level Well, good luck with that.
Jaxon Peterson
What do you do so you don't starve?
Do you live in Chișinău?
Jack Sullivan
yeah, non-whites see no point in being anything but pleasure seeking wastes of space (except maybe some asians)
Gabriel Perez
Dont pick on Moldova ya european nigger bitch!
Leo Baker
> Irish making fun of anyone else starving Shouldn't you be on the farm instead of shitposting, potato nigger?
Owen Perez
BTFO
thank you australia is truly moldova greatest ally
Ryan Allen
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Nicholas Richardson
You're welcome. By the way, I've been reading a bit about the unification of Moldova and Romania, what are the chances of that happening within the next few years? Do Moldovans say they are Romanians or their own identity?
Jonathan Watson
You like Pynchon?
Sebastian Moore
we actually identify as andorrans
Justin Jones
I've just started reading him but yeah, I like him quite a bit. Do you?
David Bennett
just gotta masturbate more
Connor Ramirez
I've got dopamine deficiency and it blows addictive personality, ADD symptoms, difficult to alleviate stress/anger Nothing save for chemical solutions works
>how do i stop this? >how do i stop this? >how do i stop this?
you don't!
John Lopez
You're getting cucked, friendo
Joshua Baker
>extreme music. kek. What the fuck is 'extreme music'?
Adrian Barnes
fuck, all this time I thought you were in Moldova because of the flag. get an original flag pls
Brandon Edwards
It's actually extremly easy, lol.
Juan Hughes
what exactly?
Jackson Edwards
why can't you stop posting this gypsy everywhere? i'm worried about you krautbro
Jacob Ross
I'm in a similar boat OP, my problem is that I've internalized the fear of porn into a fucking fetish for being addicted to it. I visit these autistic tumblr blogs written by people being like "ohohoho you're gay now silly white boy~" and trying to bait people into fapping to traps and shit goddamnit what is my fucking life.
It's just in your head though, you have to remember that. None of it fucking matters. Once you start feeling like it controls you or whatever, that's when you fall down into a meme spiral.
Josiah Ortiz
once again deceived by the eternal andorrajew
Christopher Roberts
Unless he married her and has kids it adds nothing to society either, she'll just get jealous of any leisure time he doesn't spend completely wasting with her.
Isaiah Ward
majority of people will dismiss this but this is it
when you meditate and achieve that clarity and that feeling of fulfillment from desiring nothing and feeling no compulsion to stimulate yourself you start to realize how sad and pathetic it is to be running on that hedonic treadmill
also - life fuckijg purpose. define some long term goals and break them down into smaller short term goals and start tackling them. you will feel great after a few hours of really doing what you feel you're supposed to be doing, like you are "where you're meant to be"
Aiden Butler
>a fucking gypsy
Stop coming over here stealing shit if we're not white you subhuman
Isaac Robinson
they aren't even hot, they look southern european at best, to start that and to finish it: You can choose wheter to masturbate or not to. I mean it's quite simple I started to watch porn vids just to laugh at subhumans trying to act like it's pleasure, some do have pleasure but even then just think how sucky it is. The only thing that I'd actually do, is masturbate to my own sex tapes, which I did but that's about it. Masturbating to people that have 0 impact or never had in your life is pointless.
Anthony Wilson
I'd like to know if porn had actually increased this sort of behavior in men, or if this is just the default of men - but now they has cheap access to porn. >Muh
Bentley Taylor
no idea what you're talking about
Wyatt Nguyen
My cucksenses are tingling
So she's activelly saying she's not in love with you and doesn't want you to fuck her.
That's pretty bad m8, I suspect she might be fucking with someone else. Women act like that when they are attracted / fucking another male. They withdraw from sex with the guy they are not attracted to.
If you ended up marrying her she will probably keep fucking him on the side, and if she ever lets you hit her with the lights off, you can be sure that she gets pregnant the isn't yours
Jose Gutierrez
So you're saying you gave up and took the easy way out
Xavier Harris
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Camden Mitchell
Find a higher purpose you sack of shit
Sebastian Mitchell
Whenever I read people telling others that it's okay to fap to weird shit I get this tingling feeling down my spine that I'm witnessing a conspiracy take place.
Has anyone heard of the spider mastermind?
Asher Green
I've been trying to get "out" as it were but I can't seem to figure out where begin.
"Find out what you like to do and do it." is a nice platitude, but meaningless.
I can stop video games, hell there are periods when I went months without playing, but that was taken up with equally pointless stuff.
And while I can go weeks without masturbating, I was still just filling that time with... equally pointless stuff.
I don't know how to begin doing "real" things.
Jaxson Gutierrez
try the noose for reality
Aaron Perez
same prob user, except porn and adderall and weed
Elijah Ward
Where are you from? I've been thinking about starting some kind of therapy group for young males like us, it's become an epidemic in our country.
Dylan Foster
Well, moderation doesn't seem to work for you. So, I guess abstinence is the next best option. Put some kind of 'barrier' between you and your addictions; block porn, vidya, etc. This way the slight amount of time/effort needed to get your fix will act as an impulse 'buffer zone' further disincentivizing you from indulging yourself. Stay strong you impulsive little monkey-man.
Eli Sanchez
>spider mastermind the doom boss?
Justin Gutierrez
I don't understand, do you realize that's the andorran flag? Are you all pretending to be retarded right now?
Aaron Flores
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Elijah Ross
For all you younger guys here: quit the fucking weed, drugs and fapping. I´m in my mid 20s now and I smoked weed for 10 years, fapped daily and did lots of drugs: I ended up a nervous wreck, and even though I got job and my own place etc. it fucked up my neurochemistry like nothing else.
I´ve been totally sober now for 5-6 months, and I mean total hardcore. No porn, no masturbation, no cigarettes, no weed, no alcohol, no drugs etc. and I´m starting to feel a bit more normal. But I can only say that drug-habit and porn habit somehow go hand in hand and they indeed both act on those same circuits.
I´ve seen lots of my friends in their early 20s just fucking up their free-time with 3 things: Weed(or drugs), porn and video-games
Time to grow the fuck up.
Jaxon Smith
I wouldn't worry about it germanfag. One day in the near future you'll undoubtedly be butt-raped by a gang of refugees. After that you'll lose interest in sex and can get back to your gaming.
Thomas Hall
so any stimulation is for kids?
Camden Gutierrez
Wtf happened to you, Germany
Luke Robinson
same user, just gotta throw the weed it out. I know its hard but you'll cope
James Martinez
Who is that, keep posting more pls
Andrew Hall
I bet the German government gives those poor refugees enough allowance to afford a simple pair of bolt cutters.
This kind of thinking is the problem. A better solution is to completely eradicate the people committing the crimes with extreme prejudice, not padlock your pants shut.
Lucas Torres
It's interesting to notice that behind our outrageous society that overload us with an excess of sexual images, the more sexuality is showed, the less existential enjoyment people live. And there is no need to be a traditional fundamentalist christian to realize we're all merchandise, submitted either to sell our body, our creativity, our intelligence to the capitalist class.
Behind the narcissic representation of people who claim porn does not affect us, there is a true anxiety. Healthy primitive civilisations did not have the urge to masturbate compulsively because they were not already reified as thing.
> i end up binging on porn, vidya and extreme music >extreme music
Do you have any deeper insight on this music thing?
Vidya and porn are obvious, but I've kinda been playing around with the idea of music playing a significant part on this too.
Jayden Bell
I hope you include alcohol as a drug because it is the ultimate waste of life. Nothing gif ever comes of alcohol and it only leads to more dopamine binging.
Ive quit drinking, smoking, and drugs ask at once. People think alcohol is an essential part of life but uf i truly think on it, there is not a single moment in my life where i was both drunk, and did something that im proud of. But staying sober and drug free makes me more proud of myself than any stupor ever did.
Sebastian Price
adults tend to use that stimulation to reward themselves for doing actual productive work. an adult has a beer and watches an episode of his favourite show after a long day at work. a child binge drinks or marathons a show because it feels good and they can. a mature person might eat a small piece of cake and realize that it's not 'good' but an occasional indulgence is OK. an immature person will eat an entire cake , develop diabetes and lose their legs because they lack impulse control.
I suggest looking into the science of how habits are formed (pic related is a good overview). Rewards are one of the most powerful tools you have for training yourself with successful habits, but it doesn't work if your default mode of being is masturbating furiously while stoned out of your mind.
Nathan Fisher
Thank you for this, user. It's inspirational. Your second-last line describes me perfectly. I'm the son of a single mother so I don't have the highest hopes for being able to transform myself into a real, functional man but your experience with being sober sure gives me a reason to at least try to fix myself up. Cheers!
John Baker
Girls only like outgoing and muscular guys. Shy and average guys can't get gfs.
Xavier Reyes
I realize now in the second paragraph you added alcohol to the list but i think my input is still relevant to the thread
Jordan Wilson
Any advice?
I have no problem with cigarettes i smoke them sometimes and i never do drugs and drink alchool very occasionally, same with video games i don't play them so much anymore.
But i'm having problems with porn, i can't handle more than 2 days.
Christian Barnes
>mmmmmmmm dat dopamine
God really knew how to make sex addictive
My body is my temple, and my temple's spirit soars
Gavin Sullivan
/r/equesting the video that had an older recording of some radio show host talking about porn and sexuality which had girls twerking over it it's a good habit to listen to when you get the urge, I just need to find it again
