Was my 25th birthday yesterday

>was my 25th birthday yesterday
>told myself I'd give up junk food and coffee and internet time wasting but I'm having all three right now (can't resist McDonalds)
>almost every day for the past few years consisted of me telling myself I'd binge on junk food then eat cleanly and work very hard on learning tomorrow
>literally had confidence in myself every time but always wasted my free time the next day

HOW do I get the motivation to work hard when there's no immediate pressure? Somehow I have the guilt but not the pressure.

I feel cucked when working but i also feel cucked for not using my free time. I already went through my entire time at university and youth without any female attention, so being rich / special is the only way I could ever get girls / a social life. But I may still be too ugly. The redpill is bitter.

I know the answer is "just do it". I know that every single philosophy and way of life is bullshit. I know everyone is trying to sell me shit. I see most people as frauds or having lives on easy mode.

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stop feeling sorry for yourself and just quit

drink only water and green tea, no candy no sweets avoid sugars and syrups at all costs, read nutrition labels, have some fucking pride in yourself , dont forget to brush your teeth

Try slowly cutting foods out of your diet and going out for walks more. worked for me!

Perhaps try to give up one thing at a time.

This is the best way to get things together man. As far as daily interactions go, give yourself a time limit on things and plan your life out. If you need intellectual stimulation read some literature, don't just look to Sup Forums to fulfill that because most of us are lazy degenerates and the behavior might validate your current state. Make a goals list for yourself, and try to achieve it.

Do something non tech related.
If you have a garden, growsome stuff and make it nice, if not do some woodwork or make models. It doesn't even matter if what you make sucks as long as you finish it because you can then work on doing better next time.
Do as much by hand as possible and you feel way more accomplished so spending time here doesn't depress you as much.

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Just try and follow this and you will be ok

Set smaller, more specific goals with reasonable deadlines. Build up small acheivements until they equate to big ones.

Willpower is like a muscle - it's only strong if you exercise it regularly. Your current approach is like loading all the weights in the gym onto one bar and declaring the struggle hopeless when you can't lift it.

>Don't forget to brush your teeth
>Bong poster
They don't care about that there.

>"You don't need to run today, but some day you will."

I heard a little boy screaming. At first, everyone around me was talking and enjoying the evening. Kids were laughing and having fun. Then through the noise and the chatter, I heard the screaming. I looked across the dark lawn that separated the property and saw a little ways away from where the kids were playing a patch of lawn with two pale hands clinging to it.

Without thinking, I ran as fast as I could. I got there right as one of the little hands slipped of. A boy, about 5, was playing with the others when he went off exploring. He had found the edge of the grass, and on the other side a 12 foot drop into a creek that was roaring like a river due to the recent rain. He had slipped and started to fall when he grabbed onto to clumps of grass at the edge. 10 seconds later and he would have fallen and drowned.

I hoisted him up and returned him to his mother.

I was a fat guy, and I started running and working out partly because if an emergency ever arose I'd be pretty fucking useless and make it worse. I had trained and the day came where I needed to use that training.

May sound cheesy but there have been many other times that being /fit/ has come in useful.

roleplay as a terminally ill cancer patient and gain a new perspective, read some books written by cancer victims, stop watching tv

Why is coffee a bad thing ?

YES

find something to do other than sit in front of the PC, it's really that simple

That's incredible man, it's funny how things like that don't go noticed outside of a few people, but can have such a massive effect (maybe that kid grows up and saves a lot of lives).

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maybe next year OP

It will get better man. Just kys

I don't give a shit about you being a lardass but please don't support McDonalds when they're pulling their ads from youtube for hosting extremist content.

Eat better more expensive redpilled fast food less often. McDonalds is for cucks.

stop setting yourself up for failure and give up once vice at a time.

t. Canalard

I can't believe you guys used to run the world.

I've got no advice to offer you, OP, but I'm a lazy piece of shit in the exact same situation as you. I know your feels.

I hope we can both improve soon. I've been showering at least twice a week lately which is good for me. Hopefully it'll be every other day soon...

Tomorrow is always a day away, user. Don't do things tomorrow, do them yesterday.

You're not the first burger to try and attack Canada for being lardasses.

Why? Canada has its flaws compared to the US, but being fatasses isn't one of them. Canada is relatively very healthy compared to the US.

Yeah, shit still haunts me. Like that kid was seconds from dying, if I had just assumed someone else was going to help, he would have been gone. I have three kids and I can tell the difference between different cries, his cry was that "oh shit I about to get really hurt" cry, like when a kid is holding something too big for them and is watching it slowly fall.

Anyways, work out. Only good can come from taking care of yourself.

buy a fuckton of water in bulk
if you need caffeine get tea, no sugar

getting rid of junkfood is easy if you get good snacks. Make sure to buy shit that's easy to just pick up and eat. lotta protein to keep you full. /fit/ has good resources on diet

Right now you're conditioning yourself to fail. By promising yourself a victory and then not following through, over and over again, your promises have lost some meaning. Tiny goals. Build up small victories and then things will work themselves out.

going full monk mode and then hitting a wall will just discourage you, just keep moving, even if it's one step backward for every two forward

Bro, I was you last year. Here's what you do. Choose one tiny stupid insignificant thing to change that is easy when isolated (drink a glass of water everyday, don't eat out but enjoy grocery store junk food instead, take a short walk every day). You literally MUST start SOMEWHERE. After a month or so, once your new habit is ingrained, add another one. It will get easier and easier to add new habits as you go on.

Two more things that are simple, yet highly effective for discipline:
-morning routine: when you start every day at the same time and do the same activities (I started doing a morning walk that was easy, yet made me feel like superman ready and primed for the day), it becomes a springboard from which to maintain discipline for the rest of the day.

-meditation: learn how to do mindfulness meditation where you clear your mind and focus only on your breath for 10 minutes or so. There are great apps to help you get started, but eventually you want to do it without an app if course. This has some kind of almost magical effect of making you feel more balanced and in control, and the more consistent you are (aim for at least once a day), the more the effect builds. When I miss a few days if meditation, my other habits ALWAYS suffer.

And one last piece of wisdom: absolutely positively NEVER give up. The road to success is loaded with failures. I have been meaning to get my life together for 5 years now, but I only managed to get a foothold last year after countless failures. But I never ever told myself that I would just accept that failure. I always reassured myself that I would try again and again. Meditation can also help this mindset. You have to accept what "is" (you're someone who lacks control) in order to make change happen. Don't RESIST your nature. Just make slow changes over time. And watch motivational people on YouTube. Elliot Hulse, for instance, was almost like medicine for me, especially when I felt defeated. Never give up bro!

OP you have to work on your habits, there is a good book on that (that I have never read).

There is a smart way in breaking down and dealing with addictions... and forming good habits only takes 21 days.

I used to be addicted to porn and masturation. All it took was 3 weeks of door to door sales job for me to break out of this cycle. I'm unemployed now but not going back to that shit.

Work on your habits OP.

You're fucked bub. If you don't get your shit together you never will. The only way to be the man you want to be is by being him today.

also

>i'll do it tomorrow
means that you'll never do it. If you really want something done you need to do it immediately, even if you only do it for a minute or two. All you need to do is start.

Does anyone have that self-authorship thing that Dr. Peterson wrote? That could help user.

Or you could just utilize your hatred of the likes to strengthen your resolve. Every McD's item along with every other fast food item you don't eat is one less dollar in some kike's pocket. That's how I stopped drinking soda and going to Starbucks.

Hatred keeps a man strong

Buy water?

Jesus OP, look at how many quality replies you're getting. You're fucking loved bro. You've got a message board full of brilliant people who believe in YOU! FUCKING GO!

binge on healthy food and work out

i didnt fix my diet until i had pain in my chest and couldnt breathe while i was eating some BK in front of my PC. immediately cut out all fat and sugar and maintained a solid calorie deficit for 2 months. lost 40 pounds and got down to 150. the fear of death is a hell of a motivator.

in hindsight it was probably just heartburn + panic. glad i cleaned up my diet though. the reason you cant change is because you dont want to change. if you were serious about it you wouldnt be pityposting on Sup Forums it would already be done.

sort yourself out you pathetic faggot. good luck.

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Seek freedom and you'll become a captive of your desires. Find order, and you will find your inner liberty.

You are the tower bro, try to enjoy the chaos outside and adapt. I'm sure someday someone will want to watch it with you

It's called will power. Humans are unique in the way that whatever we want, we can most likely make happen.
With that being said, stop eating junk food!

Also this anons right.

If you have to leave things until tomorrow you won't do them. If you leave things until tomorrow, it's because you don't have willpower today.

> I see most people as frauds or having lives on easy mode.

It's funny you say that, I was talking to a buddy in college who was very motivated about their appearance, they did some modelling later. The entire time I knew him, he exercised a strict as fuck diet, and worked out every day. He talked to me about how he hated fat people, but I hesitated to judge, because I knew the reason I was not fat was not because of any special motivation, I just naturally tended towards keeping my weight healthy, my diet was absolute shit. Some people are just lucky, like myself, but despite my luck, now I'm eating clean, with even less motivation to do so than yourself.

One thing I will say is that you will never succeed so long as your motivation inherantly hinges on the external. If getting bitches is why you want to get skinny, you will never succeed, because you can improve your diet for months, but if you continue to not get bitches, eventually the motivation that was driving you will collapse. My only external motivation was people making fun of my terrible diet.

Only when you convince yourself, and not just trick yourself, but convince yourself that you want to improve your diet and live at a healthy weight for YOU, it will be very hard to succeed. Until you decide you want to go on a diet, not to impress other people, but so you can be proud of the respect you've shown yourself, it will be very hard to improve your diet sustainably.

For me, I had to sort of hit a rock bottom, and learn about things that INSPIRED me to improve myself like listening to Peterson on youtube. Once you treat yourself like somebody you love, like somebody you couldn't stand to mistreat, that's when it becomes easier to eat right every day, because it becomes intolerable to mistreat yourself.

Count calories. There are 540 calories in a big mac so you can have 4 big macs each day without gaining weight (+2100 and you'll gain) but if you want to lose weight you need to get down on 1200 calories a day.
Internet time is second priority as it keeps you distracted from eating.

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Listen faggot,

If you can't spend a day not binge eating and jerking off then there's no point in you even trying. You're a waste of fucking space. Think you're ever going to have any success? Have a family? Contribute the slightest thing to society? Wrong. You're a fuck up neet. You're worth nothing.

UNLESS, you want to fucking change it. Only you can choose to improve yourself. Start going to the fucking gym. Go outside. Read a book once in awhile. Start cooking good food. Fix your relationship with your idiot dad. Just do SOMETHING. As soon as you've started the next thing gets easier. Tick things off, one by one, then start actually contribute something. Start helping other people.

It's fucking HARD. How the world isn't a fucking shitfest every morning you wake up is a mystery to me.

How do you eat an elephant? You take a bite at a time.

Now stop being a fucking degenerate loser. Throw your autistic happy meal in the bin. Download a good audio book. Start learning something useful. Give your mum a call. Join the gym. Go on a fucking walk.

Sort yourself out.

It's not easy to find motivation, in any case, I remember when it came to anything I wanted to do, I would try to pump myself up by making posts about how I was a failure on social media. It was partially masochistic, I wanted to hear people judge me. It was partially seeking advice. It was partially seeking some reassurance.

For some things, like working out regularly, I never stuck with them. I improved my diet though.

I don't think making posts like you're making ever really helped though. I think the key is not to hear how other people judge you for being fat, it's not hearing about how others succeeded and you can do.

I believe, fundamentally, you need to convince yourself that you're torturing yourself every day because of something you're doing, and you need to change not for other peoples approval, but because you want to make yourself more happy.

You need to get to the point you adopt new habits, and not adopting those habits is intolerable, it feels physically painful to not follow your habits. Not because of how other people will judge you, but because of how you will judge yourself.

It's not just about finding good diet tips, or trying to motivate yourself by getting others to shame you, it's about at a very deep and fundamental level, convincing yourself, not just fooling yourself, that you want to change. Getting to that point is a long journey that can take years. I recommend, although this is unconventional, philsophy, self-reflection, and really figuring out what you want from life.

I learned what a good diet was long before I adopted a good diet. For me, the hard thing was finding that self-motivation, but I found it.

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Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeoning of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

This is true, I started writing my tasks for the day down in a little notebook and try to complete all of them before I can do anything I enjoy.

Currently doing my press ups and I can now do 20 in a row or 100 through out the day. I do them between games of overwatch I just crack out 10 or so press ups to burn of the feeling I wana die.

Imagine a future hell that you could not bare to live in.

Imagine a future heaven that you want to work towards.

Shit that's what I forgot - goals have to be written down. Too easy to ignore tham otherwise.

Yeah it has helped me a shit load. once you do it for a few days you start to feel like shit if you ignore it but on the upside you can really relax when you had done your days work.

Disregard motivation; acquire discipline instead

Motivation is a worthless concept to base your lifestyle around, because it isn't consistent and requires a reason. You're motivated to hit the gym because you're too fat? So you're gonna stop when you're not as fat? Then you'll just get it all back. Oh today you just weren't motivated to cook yourself some eggs so you went to Dunkin to eat and drink 1000+ calories? There goes some days progress, depending on your kcal deficit.

However, discipline is different. It is built and maintained by you alone and should be engrained into your self worth. Have the discipline to eat healthful foods, get strong, and take care of yourself. You should be angry that you've been disrespectful to your own fucking body, deliberately making yourself unhealthy and chopping years off your life. But it's okay. Find that self respect you have hidden somewhere in your fat brain, be a fucking man, and fortify discipline. Day after day, your goal isn't gonna be to lose fat or fuck 8s; it should be you're going to make yourself a better man for the sake of being a better man.