> Cousin is 32-year-old woman > recently received graduate degree in public policy > unemployed, hasn't looked for a job in 1 year (when she graduated) > in a relationship with man who openly cheats on her (she is aware, but says that the sex is too good to care) > uses alcohol, tobacco, and marijuana every night > has slept with hundreds of men > 250lbs > when I tell her that her lifestyle isn't healthy and that she's setting herself up for failure, she lashes out at me for "judging" her
How do I help her, Sup Forums? She seems resistant to any attempts to call attention to her self-destructive behavior. Have any of you guys experienced similar things?
Julian Nguyen
don't intervene
she will dig herself her own grave
she will figure out eventually
Luke Nguyen
It's too late for her. You're talking about the female equivalent of an excon 55 year old heroin junkie man. Best she can hope for is to find another degenerate to live her shit life with to stay away from homelessness.
You should start to think of her as dead. That's what I did with my junkie brother, I basically mourned his death internally while he was still alive once it was obvious that the brother I knew was gone forever, so when he further denegraded it hurt less.
Christian Martin
> she invites me out with her "friends" one night > all similarly overweight women > all of them try to sleep with me, even after I tell them that I have a fiancee > over half of them are unemployed > cousin frequently says that I have the "skinny genes" of the family (I am a triathlete and box regularly) > cousin regularly pound shots > whenever I tell her to pace herself, her friends egg her on > they start exchanging stories about times that they almost got caught cheating on their significant others (all of them are apparently cheating on their partners) > leave in disgust after cousin pisses on a wall as we're walking between bars
I honestly don't know how to reach her.
Joshua Perry
She's still young-ish, though. I'm just trying to mitigate long-term damage.
> mfw she goes on a rant about how her boyfriend doesn't "respect" her and then a minute later mentions that she stopped taking birth control without telling him so that he would get her pregnant.
Thomas Robinson
A...anyone?
I don't want her to end up another cancerous single mother,
Gabriel Cooper
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Liam Green
i understand that you want to help
but in reality "helping" will fuel her even more she needs to figure it out the hard way
leave her, and she will come crawling back for help that's the point when you try to help
its a tough realisation, when her lover leaves her, she goes into some kind of medical problem, or becomes a social outcast she will want to change
nothing you can do sorry
Matthew Evans
Artificial wombs and advanced sexbots will make women obsolete and will kill feminism.
Bentley Perez
you have to teach yourself to stop caring. Most people are lost before others notice or can help. You're actually hurting her more by being in her life because you are providing her with an illusion of difference. There's no coming back from what she's experienced. She is using everyone around her to fill the voids in her life. You're being used as someone she needs to feel attacked by and defensive towards. You have to cut off all communication with her asvsoon as possible. That will leave her to question and *perhaps* make further connections.
Eli Jenkins
that's it
the sooner he can cut off ties with her, she will realize the damage
John Reed
there is no saving the current victims of feminism and cultural marxism,
we can only save the children whom have yet to be indoctrinated.
Adam Adams
Here's the thing - I already did that and she only got worse. I didn't have any contact at all with my family while I was going to law school and getting sober - five years later they're even less healthy. My cousin moved to the same city as me, so I feel some obligation to stay in contact with her.
John Rogers
look man,
you can't stop her
if you want to try to help, just don't be pushy
Joseph Jones
Stop white knighting her. Saving her ain't your job.
Until she reaches rock bottom, her choices are hers. If you can't deal with her choices, don't go around her. If she has a substance abuse problem, your entire family can try and intervention, and get her into rehab, but she can choose not to go, and failed interventions can and will destroy any relationships with her.
Other than that, learn to cope, or just don't be around her. You're not going to "save" her - all you can do is be there if and when she hits rock bottom. Judging by your description, she can coast on that lifestyle for decades. Worry about your own life.
Evan Murphy
you can't help her, user. Not until she wants the help and is willing to help herself. it is sweet of you to want to help, put that focus into yourself and the positives in your life. maybe one day she will get to the point where she wants your help. and i really hope it does get there because watching family go on a downward spiral, especially when they're just making it worse, is so hard. take care user and good luck.
Wyatt Taylor
You have no obligations, she is only a cousin. I have degenerate cousins I havent spoken to in years - fixing them isn't my problem, and I don't let their chaos into my life.
It's called tough love. Learn how to do it.
Any obligations you feel, you made up in your head. She's her spouse's problem, and her parents. Let them deal with it, or not, as they choose.
Kayden Jones
I've always fallen in love with damaged girls in life so I've tried every way imaginable to save and restore them. It's truly sickening how well they disguise using you with desire for help. They no longer have a functional conscience or ability to plan long term. It's selfishness masquerading empathy.
Nicholas Cruz
thats the kinda common theme for eveyone:
don't worry if she wants help she will come
cut ties don't help
Jack Thompson
actually he could help her, but he would have to be her caregiver and lover. you would have to lock her in a basement for a week or two so she get's off the drugs. you would have to make her read and watch redpilled videos.
it's just shit you would have to do against her will.....which is illegal,immoral, and a pain, but it's the only option.
William Richardson
32 is not youngish for a woman. Her prime years are over, and women, even non-degenerate ones, have very little agency or self awareness to begin with. It's ogre.
Liam Nguyen
thats a long shot my man
Mason Morris
i wouldn't say don't help at all. but definitely don't enable and that can be very hard to do. especially if you care a lot. ive been in a somewhat similar situation, where my help became enabling, so i had to stop completely and eventually i was able to get my family member out of that situation.
she's a woman which makes it tough. i fucking guarantee you she is waiting for her white knight to show up and save her. she's 32 and in a relationship where her needs aren't being met and her mommy clock is ticking.
she if she'll start idk walking, getting out of the house and being more active with you. losing weight might her feel more confident and willing to socialize with maybe some redpills you know?
Camden Martin
>she lashes out at me for "judging" her
Humans are judging animals. it's in our nature. fuck her and judge her to the extreme.
Oliver Jenkins
You cannot force someone to choose life, user. Speak the truth, but if they will not receive it, let it pass them by.
Juan Cook
and you wonder why women turn into feminists lol
Julian Perez
No person can be helped unless they decide for themselves that they want help.
You can be there for your family, honest and open, without being judgmental.
She's not going to magically start taking your advice one day. That's not how it works. So stop cramming it down her throat, and either try to enjoy her company because you think she has value other than a project piece, or stop going out of your way to spend time with her just so you can look down from your high horse.
Focus on your life, let her worry about her life. Her life is not in your locus of control.
Kevin Sanchez
you'd be surprised what you can do to someone if you take away their free will.
their brain is fucked and needs to be unfucked by force.
round these people up and put them in a re-education camp.
Ian Lopez
>(she is aware, but says that the sex is too good to care) She's gone, who would ever want a former whore?
Elijah Lee
You already did your best, telling her that she is a complete failure degenerate disgusting leftists hippie waste of human life.
When she comes back for help reject her so she could commit suicide somewhere else. Just for legal.
Just Make sure she doesn't come close to any loved ones because of aids.
Joseph Ramirez
put her on an all liquid diet
Juan Bell
time for a soldier's mercy, user
Carson Peterson
Many of us have Im sad for your loss Maybe she can live as an example of how not to be
Samuel Reed
honestly man, i have hit the point in my thoughts about this issue to where i can draw a conclusion
if you want to help her >take her out back after a dinner >watch the sunset together >and shoot her in the back of the head you'd be doing yourself and the world a favor
but in all seriousness we all feel bad for you
its time to quit time to unplug the life support time to make a final prayer press f to pay respects
Justin Nguyen
the truth hurts, doesn't it?
Lucas Fisher
How about raping her. That may put some perspective on things.
Landon Roberts
>the sex is too good
Let me translate that.
>I'm a 250lbs woman with no skills and would rather be with a man who openly cheats on me and treats me like dirt than be alone.