Were you the kind of kid that went limp when all your relatives game you a hug goodnight or the type to hug back...

Were you the kind of kid that went limp when all your relatives game you a hug goodnight or the type to hug back? Why do you think you were this way? Did you avoid affection in general or just ritualistic affection or affection from those you don't "like" (not necessarily don't trust)

Want hug?

Hahaha white people hug their kids instead of beating them. And they expect to compete with China?

Don't hug your children you hear? Leave them alone in the corner. Don't teach them, don't love them. They will fuck up and that's okay, don't help them. Don't guide them. Let them make all the mistakes until they life is a huge pile of mistakes.

what?

This is without a doubt the most retarded trend I've been observing among SJWs lately, aside from all the other ones.

>Were you the kind of kid that went limp when all your relatives game you a hug goodnight or the type to hug back?

I hugged back because I love my mom

you need hug
*hugs*

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kids need hugs from their parents. it releases chemical in the brain that help them to experience and learn relationships.
daddy issues in women is due to their fathers not hugging them and so their brain doesn't handle oxytocin properly. thus, they become sluts when they are older.

familial hugs are one thing, but i understand the thing about not wanting to be hugged by aunties and random visitors to the house.

Was that all you had user?

My view may be skewed because I have 20 aunts/uncles and dozens of big cousins.

For the record I went limp all the time, except when I would cuddle with a cousin or aunt I liked when it didn't feel ritualistic. This came to mind because the exact same cousin has a daughter now who did the same thing to me. Went limp on the goodnight hug but wanted to cuddle when it was more natural.

I have another one that is just very affectionate all the time so I don't know.

Isn't that why Russian orphans are psychopaths?

Why are feminists so dead set on not loving your children what the fuck.

Watch hampow my brother which I care for. Amazing documentary.

Showing affection and hugging children is how they grow up normal and able to socialise properly with others

This sounds like some dodgy (((psychology))) to me

I'm pretty sure that you've completely missed the point.

A lot of you seem to be missing the point here. This is one of the few things that I actually agree with SJWs and feminists on. They're not saying that you shouldn't hug your children. They're saying that you shouldn't force your children to hug and kill people (such as aunts and uncles) when they don't want to. It's not unreasonable.

>ut i understand the thing about not wanting to be hugged by aunties and random visitors to the house.

I don't think this is usually a trust thing though. I think children are a bit like dogs and get a vibe of who is part of the family and who is just a family friend/visitor even if they hardly see them, and the ritualistic hugging helps to reinforce these bonds. This might depend on if the family they have is a safe environment in the first place.

Even still some kids just don't like affection in these situations, even if they like the affection from the person in general. I remember being like this.

This sort of early consent bullshit is paving the way for paedophiles to be normalized.
Wait and fucking see.
The slippery slope is real.

I hugged back because I was taught good manners, I respected my elders.
I wasn't going to fuck or be fiddled by my great aunt.
A hug is a hug.
A kiss on the cheek is a kiss on the cheek.
These perverts want to sexualize that shit? Why? To protect kids from getting raped in the future? Bullshit.
You can teach a kid consent with that cup of tea analogy.
Teaching them to think of their relatives as potential rapists/sexual partners is disgusting.

Grooming your children to assassinate your relatives might be going a bit too far yeah

Back up your claims, otherwise you're just talking out of your ass.

Freudian slip :^)

Idk Ive had issues emotionally since forever. Always hated hugs or any touching really. Only time that changed was once I got my current relationship.
Probably just fucked up like me

This. We should tell the adults to fuck off not teach the kids what to say to Uncle Lester so he doesnt have a legally justifiable rape.

Are you just meming or are you actually homo?

Im real gay. Have qt bf and everything. Why?

What the fuck is a hug?

The only reason I didn't like hugs from certain relatives is because my parents forced me to out of good manners. Also, because perfume stinks and it's not fun hugging a cold-handed auntie or grandmother who smelled like perfume.

I don't like hugs they freak me out.

Too much, too close. It's creepy.

I only like hugs from whoever I am dating

Poor Finland

Great so when I am an old man all the adults will be mega autists who have never been touched in their lives?

its sort of what you do with the knife, but without the knife. it feels sort of what it feels with the bottle, but without the bottle. do it too hard and babies come out.

Do you think boys should get hugs after a certain age from anyone besides their father on special occasions?

For me I always did a handshake with my uncles, and they would usually crush my hand. I think roughhousing is a better form of affection for boys with men, but they should still have traditional affection with woman.

Should girls have different affection with woman than with men?

I knew a dude from china who got sent to learn some martial arts by his dad just so he could fight back if daddy ever went too hard on him

This guy gets it. And forcing them to share has always seemed like a weird thing to do.
>No! Stop playing with that toy right now and give it to little Johnny, because he wants it now and he’s crying.

I think your autism is overthinking this a bit.

Seems creepy, just give the kid a knife and tell him :-"If anyone gets close, you know what to do."

So what's the verdict on familial lip kisses around here?

When they were still alive I would always lightly kiss my grandpa & grandma on the mouth before saying goodbye. Mom would kiss me good night. I think everyone else got cheek kisses from me.

The point is retarded. What is it that you are not getting dumbass?

The problem is that most SJWs see this as a license to make their children into insufferable brats.
I agree that hugging more or less strangers is nothing that should be demanded of a kid (or an adult btw - I'm a little bit autistic myself).

But a formal greeting (shaking hands, saying hello) is something that a civilized human should be trained to give early on.

Hugs are formal greeting in many cultures, gay culture in the west has polluted this because you now feel they may have an interior motive. It actually creates an issue with pair-bonding in men.

I had the same culture but only with my grandma, I think it helps single them out as a special family member even if they are not seen as often as some others.

I don't think adults should initiate lip kisses past the toddler stage. head/cheek is fine though.

I'd hug both my parents all the time
My Mom started to verbally abuse my father & I when I was young though
So I would always limp fish my Mom, but lovingly hug my Father
It hurts a little, but I have my Dad instead, and my Dad is the best

Make sure you spend as much time as you can with him. Not all of us are lucky enough to have even one decent parent. He should know that he made the difference and not your mother.

I agree. If my hypothetical 9 year old son or daughter wants to give me a quick kiss on the lips that's fine (if they're still doing such things at 12 or 13 it's probably time to have a talk but, usually puberty and all that comes with it tends to bring a definite halt to the parent-child kisses) but, like you pretty much said I think once their kid is past the age of 5 or 6 the parent should not be the one initiating lip kisses.

Sorry to play internet psychologist but, do you suppose your relationship with your dad compared to your mom plays into your political beliefs? Like, would I be correct or incorrect in assuming your dad leans a bit more right in his politics and your mom leans a bit more left?

He knows
I have him live with me
He will always be my best friend

Both parents are right wing; my mother is the same politics as my Dad, she was a retard, but she had the basics down
I've always been more right wing than them, I know its because the things I've gone though in life, which is a weird bit of stuff too
All experiences told me to be xenophobic, even from the start of my sapience

I really should have included a strawpol to see who went limp and who hugged back

My kid just raped me, little fucker just hugged me without warning, and i did not consent!

I locked it in basement, and i'm waiting for police