yeah it's hard, because i really want a large family, and i'm starting to get up there a little.
It's borderline putting me into a depression because the way my lizzardbrain sees it, she's stealing my years from me, and not contributing anything to my life at all, since she's also unemployed. i feel like im raising a child instead of having a wife.
What happened to me is pretty cut-and-dry emotional damage she inflicted on me, which is not really a problem since it only applies to her specifically, not to other women.
What you need to do is have a long fucking talk, there will be tears and crying, and potentially walking away from conversation, but get to the bottom of it.
men are naturally more self-fixing, and emotionally closed and dont want to talk about this stuff in general, this is the stuff they talk to their best friend or dad to, not to you.
sit down and pry him the fuck open, use alcohol to loosen the lid on that emotional pit called "men's feelings" if needed. chances are, if our man isn't a complete retard, he's already done MONTHS of introspection, and knows exactly what's what, since he already told you what ISNT the problem.
he doenst want to tell you what IS the problem, because he knows itll hurt your feelings. trust me, i dont tell my wife a TON of shit about howi feel, because it's simply a case of what she dont know won't hurt her.
pry him the fuck open, give disclaimers that no matter wht he sais, it wont hurt you etc, give guarantees.
and IF you manage to open him up, tread FUCKING carefully, because men have that shit sealed away for a good reason, in that state, what you say can have enormous impact on him, so keep yourself together, keep your emotions in check, THINK before you speak, there's no rush, and for god's sake, try to put your woman-bullshit aside and talk like adults and dont lose your composure.
