A couple years ago some chick invited me over to her house and then proceeded to initiate sex with me. She was coherent...

A couple years ago some chick invited me over to her house and then proceeded to initiate sex with me. She was coherent, not slurring her words, and could walk straight. She was drinking wine but I didn't think anything of it.

She initiated sex with me, and then when we were done she fell asleep. I went home while she was sleeping because it was hot and I had to be at work the next day and wanted to try to get a few hours in my own bed, and came back the next evening. She said she was black out drink and didn't remember anything about the night, but that it's ok.

A year later when other people found out about it somehow, they told her she was raped and she went along with it and blasted me on social media and within a couple days my entire life at the time was ruined.

I wrote a very short statement saying it's not true and to stay out of my life, then deleted it after a few hours after I thought enough people had read/screenshotted it, and quietly left town. I regret not doing more. What would you have done in my situation?

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>having sex and not being married and also using social media
Good you deserved it faggot

fair

>having premarital sex

You got what you deserve faggot.

If you have a legal problem and you don't immediately hire an attorney you're an idiot

It's the consequence of sleeping around, boyo. Should have listened to God.

I promised my parents that I wouldn't have marital sex until I was married.

was she a whore, or did you make her a whore

she was what comedians call "a chucklefucker".

>What would you have done in my situation?
Actually raped her cause everyone thinks I'm a rapist anyway.

>flag
kek
honestly idve told everyone that she liked it and that she initiated it
>muh black out drunk
>muh rape 1 year after
SeemsLegit
not even reddit would defend this shit roasty
if theres anythign i hate it's dishonesty

liars should be hanged and shamed publically

Women who lie about something like rape are absolute scum.

>accuse someone of rape
>his life gets completely destroyed
>he went from somewhat productive citizen to a literal criminal in everyones eyes just because of an accusation without evidence
>this is okay because we are pro immigration

women vote was a mistake

t. center left guy

>"women vote was a mistake"
>women & politics

never advocated it myself, wasn't even alive when it was becoming common place

don't post brainlet memes before you know at least 30% of the story

All extra marital sex is rape. When will people finally understand?

The #metoo campaign is /ourcampaign/. It is supposed to get us out of degeneracy and promiscuity. No more extramarital sex!

I hope you rot in hell.

Only feminists lie about rape, hell they lied about Weinstein.

>Interacting with women
That’s your first mistake

Don't lie Sup Forums.... if you had the opportunity to ravage a woman and get away with it you would...... YOU WOULD. REEEEEEEEEE

You will never get away.

The day of the Chad rekoning is here. Chads worldwide are afraid of #metoo.

No we aren't.

Chads, real chads, always leave them wanting more. Always.

I've seen the light, and I realize that I am 100% in the wrong in this situation and committed an act of rape because I had sexual relationships outside of a marriage blessed by the one true white god, Jesus Christ. Thank you, Sup Forums

Must not have fucked her good enough.

flip the tables on it, tell them she is into kinky sex and it put you off, say she was talking about liking kids and shit.

if it was me I'd say to the police how they are being used and its best to lock me up because if it even gets in front of a judge you are finished and will have nothing to live for as it destroys people just to be accused so you will rape and kill bitches.

This.

Sneaking out on a well fucked chick is impossible. You literally have to say: "Bitch I'm leaving now, no, I'll call you."

DESU she was fat but had gigantic beautiful fake tits and loved giving BJs so I put up with it, but it wore me out pretty quickly when she was on top. Imagine trying to do the bridge pose from yoga over and over and over with like 200 extra pounds on top of you

Are you being sarcastic, you fucker? You are 100% in the wrong. The difference between a man and an animal is that a man takes responsibility for his actions because he has agency.

I'm 100% wrong about what?

>Women aren't retarded or less!
>Lets make a hashtag to spread awareness against sexual abuse and harassment.
>#metoo
>Pound me too
>lolwut.jpg

I legit thought this was a Sup Forums troll tag for a long time. Turns out they are quite serious.

You fucked up. Women are "raped" when they feel taken advantage of, and by leaving her in the middle of the night you ensured she woke up feeling used. Remember that sex isn't the goal for women like it is for men, they're looking for commitment.

If you're giving her the impression that all you care about is the sex and it hasn't been explicitly agreed that that's all it is, then you're fucking up and putting yourself at risk of an accusation.

Tips for any guys reading this who want to avoid false rape claims: always cuddle afterwards. take her out for breakfast or at the VERY least send her a maintenance text a few hours later to check she had a good time and suggest the next meetup.

Come on man, this is basic shit. Take some responsibility! As a man it's your role to ensure she has a good time and isn't left without any doubts which could fester into a full-blown crisis the moment she tells a friend that she felt a bit used being left like that.

About blaming anyone except yourself.

I forgot this golden rule also - BE DISCREET. Unless you're a top 1%-tier guy, no girl you fuck wants to find out a week later that other people know she fucked you. If you're a less than stellar male specimen and someone comes to her asking if it's true what they heard that she fucked you, she'll pull the grossed-out face and deny it to protect her own reputation. If after she denies it your blabbering travels further until people start believing it despite her denials, then she'll start acknowledging it happened only now the story will have changed, and you'll be a rapist.

So a woman can consensually sleep with a man, and then revoke it a year later because she claims she was drunk when it happened but it's my fault?

Same. This is exactly what Finnegans Wake was about except for the fact that Anna actually tried to redeem Humphrey

This is a really good point and something I think about a lot too. Her and I were basically friends who banged once in a while. At the beginning of our relationship I actually asked her if we were more than friends and if she wanted to go on an actual date with me, and she said no. She wanted to keep things how they were. I said that is fine, and proceeded as such.

I am very willing to take responsibility for making her feel uncomfortable, and in fact I think I did by leaving her alone, moving away, and changing careers so she wouldn't have to deal with me anymore. Though maybe that is just more fear than anything, and if so I don't really know how to 'take responsibility' for something I genuinely don't think I'm totally at fault for and no one is willing to look at with any nuance.

Again, I'm really not trying to just shift blame and avoid all responsibility here. But I was very discrete about my sex life. The only way I can think of that anyone even found out about it is if she just told people, or if people put it together through gossip and seeing us together at events once in a while.

"I don't really know how to 'take responsibility' for something I genuinely don't think I'm totally at fault for"

The key word is 'take'. You need to be proactive in taking on that responsibility yourself, not just waiting until it's foisted upon you. The fact is your actions coupled with your lack of understanding of female psychology directly caused this, so it is your fault. Considering your established pattern of simply walking away from problems when they become difficult, it's likely that similar things will happen to you again and again throughout your until you learn to actually take responsibility for them.

I mean really dude, you made a rookie mistake and suffered for it. Women are incredibly sensitive to any feelings of being used for their sexuality, to the extent that even with high-end escorts the norm is to provide payment in the form of an enveloped 'gift' or 'cash donation'.

>Not sueing her for defamation

You fucked up.

>having sex

I agree that I made a rookie mistake and suffered consequences for it, but I don’t think that justifies accusing me of rape when it really wasn’t. I was gross and immature and stupid, but I did not force myself on anyone.

i think this needs to be said: youtu.be/ukTdKczzyt0

i refuse to take responsibility for this mess that women have foisted upon society. let them BURN.

By the way I also don’t want to sound like I’m being aggressive or angry with you. I actually really appreciate the honest and sincere response and you’re giving me some insight I haven’t really thought about.

yea

report her to police right now for false accusation!

I was a coward. My friends all turned their back on me and pretty much wished I was dead without even talking to me about it, I genuinely was confused and didn’t know what was happening, and I ran away. You’re quite right. This all happened 5 years ago so I don’t really know what I can do now beyond just learn from it, grow up, and apply those lessons to my life now. If you have any other suggestions I’d love to hear it.

It's really sad. People think guys cant be sexually harrassed (and raped) but it happens more than you think. I was almost raped in college by a girl when I was really drunk. She was chunky and waited for me to get really drunk (which I take full responsibility for as a stupid decision). She led me into a bedroom when I was at the point of blacking out and started to take off my pants but somehow I realized what was going on and pushed that tub of lard off and ran out. #metoo

In this day & age, where basically rules don't apply to anyone or anything anymore, fight fire with fire; meaning, you do this: you make up a story about how she blackmailed you and threatened you somehow where if you didn't have sex with her, she'd release the blackmail (revealing pics of you or a sensitive story about your life [molested as a child or something] you told her in confidence). So, you went along with it because you feared not doing so would immaculate you and make you look like a pussy in front of everyone or something.

You have an opportunity to turn this back around on her. You just need to think up the right "narrative." ALL WARS are fought this way today in the news/social media, etc. It's her word against yours and your word against hers. Obviously she's not fighting fairly here so all you can do is use the same tactics. It's all you got, man. Either that or be crucified unfairly.

so
u was sayin
we wuz muzzies?

(disclaimer_ im drunk enough to not know what board were on pls help haha)

>I promised my parents that I wouldn't have marital sex until I was married.
>marital sex

You like to be on the safe side huh

This except unironically.

It's your fault for disobeying the God of the Bible, he made things pretty bloody straight forward for you mate.

this, 100% this

>Obviously she's not fighting fairly here so all you can do is use the same tactics

Bullshitting only works if you are a woman.
He should have tried to defend his innocence.

Your first response should have been to sue everyone who called you a rapist for slander - except the chick in question, because that doesn't look good. The way to deal with her would have been to say, publicly, that if she feels that she was raped then she should obviously go to the police so a proper investigation can be conducted. Either she'll chicken out, in which case you can rub that in everyone's face, or she'll have to file a false police report and perjure herself. Btw, needless to say it's important you only do this if you can afford a good lawyer.

>"your honor, it wasn't rape because we cuddle afterwards!"

who would guarantee that she wouldn't accuse him of rape anyway's after spending the night? There are allot of crazy bitches out there... and he slept with a whore that doesn't embrace being one... though luck

do you only have women friends? it seems like that if they all reacted like that...

Back then, yeah. A lot of male friends reached out to me to say they’re sorry I was going through that and that they empathize, but none did it publicly.

Nowadays I don’t really have a lot of friends because I withdraw myself from a lot of social situations out of fear and paranoia of how people would react if they heard about it. It makes it very hard for me to trust a lot of people now.

children should be seen and not heard

you are just a normal dude from what you are saying, and if they were quick to jump to the conclusion that you are a filthy rapist without talking to you, then you better off not wasting time with people like that in your life...

women are like children that crave attention 24/7,and if they need a movement like #metoo to gain the courage to speak up about it, just shows how shallow and weak minded these bitches are...