Did you guys know about this?

I swear to fucking Yahweh that I'm not a Jew, but I'm about to go to my child support hearing in a few weeks, and I thought you guys should know why.

Have you ever heard of pregnancy causing massive hormonal changes in women? Course you have. Did you know that for a good many women, it manifests as an intense hatred for their partner? Search it. "Wife got pregnant now she hates me". I was one of those lucky dudes with a wife who got the haties.

Our doctor told us to wait it out when I told him about what was going on. I had to ask, alone, after an appointment with the wife and I, and afterwards, the next appointment, he dropped in with "oh and by the way, it's perfectly natural to feel some enmity towards your partner when you're going through the 2nd and 3rd trimester. So, user, just keep up those dishes, go get her pickles and ice cream when she wants, and try understand, and user's wife, go easy on him; I'm sure he's doing his best", or something close to that. I was so thankful.

I was a good husband to the end, but she just kept getting worse, until one day, in the shower, she says "I just.. I don't feel anything for you any more. I don't even like you..". Talked about separation, for a bit, and I was against it, told her to think of what the doc said. Nope. Two weeks later, she leaves me, just comes into the bedroom with her sister, says she's packing up, and so her being pregnant, I help her.

Then, she just ghosts me. Didn't think to ask for addresses, new numbers, any of that. She was my wife. No way she would just steal our baby, right? Ha. No emails, no calls, no nothing.

Hired a PI to track her down, they did, tried to get legal help through a place that helps out people who can't foot the bill for a divorce/custody lawyer in their early 20s. Told they weren't able to help me. Asked why, was told that their institution was more for women than men.

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Other urls found in this thread:

nytimes.com/2017/12/06/health/birth-control-breast-cancer-hormones.html
vice.com/en_us/article/bn3mw3/contraception-the-pill-depression-anxiety
ncregister.com/daily-news/birth-control-in-drinking-water-a-fertility-catastrophe-in-the-making
curiouscortex.com/blog/2016/3/19/unattractiveimpact-of-birthcontrol
healthline.com/health/birth-control/birth-control-and-depression
cnn.com/2016/10/05/health/birth-control-depression-risk/index.html
jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/2552796
health.harvard.edu/blog/can-hormonal-birth-control-trigger-depression-2016101710514
cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr062.pdf
scientificamerican.com/article/birth-control-pills-affect-womens-taste/
ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19254592
twitter.com/AnonBabble

Tried to start a child support case on myself so that I could at least meet my daughter, maybe learn her name, but they couldn't find anything based on my wife's SS#, and a range of estimated birth dates for my baby.

Tried every lawyer in my city that would sit down with me, and each time was told no. I fucked up my credit in college, and I only made $~25,000 per year. I lived in a cheap area and I lived frugally, but that doesn't matter when you're lawyer shopping.

So, this was all two years ago, and in order to be able to afford a lawyer, to be a man that my daughter could look up to, I decided to work my way up at my job, and I did so, quickly. I went from an average front desk person to the manager of my hotel in less than a year. Went to $50,000 salary. Turned the place around in terms of staff, efficiency, reviews, etc, but I am a terrible leader...

The work was fine, and the job wasn't even that difficult, but when it came to managing my staff, I could command respect, but.. I don't know how to explain it.. I'm attractive, was popular, never had any problems getting into a relationship with someone I liked, but after my wife left me, the way it shattered my worldview, heart, and life in general, something broke in me, and even though I tried to hide it, people would say that I made them sad when I was around, or that I gave them anxiety. They were always super nice about it, and I know that everyone could tell that I was trying to do right by them and the business, but it was a thing, and after about 4 months of managing, I decided to leave. I was making everyone a nervous wreck, infecting them with my own nervousness, and I didn't know what to do, had tried everything I could think to try, so I left.

My whole plan shot to shit, and still unable to hire a lawyer, I got a new job, and have been trying to work my way up again.

Two days ago, a police officer comes to my house and serves me child support paperwork. I'm to show up at the courthouse in about a month to set up a payment amount, and in the state I live in, it is not uncommon for upwards of 40% of a man's income to go to child support for one child. During the last 2 years, I've also purchased a small run down drug house and have rebuilt it from the plumbing to the roof, nothing left untouched, so I won't have to live with a roommate, and I have ideas for ways to make the money I'll need outside of my job, but for many many others in a situation like mine, the only alternative at this point would be moving in with parents or getting a roommate at an ugly age to be doing that.

So, thanks for reading my cautionary tale. Again swear I'm not a Jew and I fully plan on getting married to a better woman in the future. I just think that this is something that all men should be prepared for. Have talks about it before hand. Do something, I don't know, but don't just think "we love each other and we're married and we're having a baby. She won't just take off on me".

Post the oldest pic in your Sup Forums folder

lol here go

>I was a good husband to the end, but she just kept getting worse
You moron! Women despise the man who treat them good. Those are gay friends, not husbands. She's expecting a male beast to be afraid of (I'm not saying you should beat her. Just ignore her or tell her to stop bothering you, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE be at her service)
With respect to other people you managed:
STOP BEING OVERLY NICE! Just be yourself. Be fair but stern. You're the manager, not a friend.

quick bump

This is fucking sad, society has ruined women. If their were social restraints in place to prevent this shit things wouldn't be so bad.

I'm capping your post OP, this is quality posting.

Go MGTOW.
I'm gonna go around Europe and raw fuck bitches then disappear when they are about to have birth.

this sounds like a kike trick to scare us from geting a family. if this is true, your woman was mentally ill and you should never made her a baby, sry user. forget them, try to avoid paying anything, the bitch mother will teach your doughter to hate you anyways, she is lost. leave the state and start over.

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Don't bother with another biocunt, just save up for th waifubot and eventually the artificial womb.

Try to argue for visitation rights during the hearing. I don't think you'll get custody but at least it's something. Also there are pro bono lawyers you may be able to talk to. Look into men's rights organizations.

Good luck user. I hope you find happiness again one day. And please try to remember it's not your fault.

Somewhat this

Was she on birth control before you started for a baby user, or when you two first got together?

you should have put the house in one of your parents' names. also, if you need a low-cost lawyer, call your state/county bar association and ask for a referral. also again, since you're having divorce issues, try a local men's rights association. maybe they can put you in touch with an attorney who would help.

>I'm not a Jew, but
You're a fucking kike. Cool story, bro. kys

No user, really are quite simple creatures. The concept of 'love' as an eternal thing is mostly nonsense cooked up by men during romanticism era

Thanks user

Go to citizens advice (or whatever the U.S equivalent is) to find a pro-bono family lawyer. You should be able to argue your case to a judge as a litigant in person as to why you should have the right to see your child. Ensure you start collecting evidence together now, especially financial records. You'll want to be able to prove that you quit your job before you received the child support paperwork and that your child support shouldn't be based on that 50k income.

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I have a theory that most of the modern western woman's emotional imbalance is caused by use of hormonal birth control.

Did your crazy wife take the pill in the past?

>DONT HAVE BABIES GOYIM. SHE WILL RUN AWAY FOREVER!

Youre right, fuck that guy.

only real anons in a sea of kike proxies.
abandon thread

Birth control also alters attraction in women, meaning that if they got together when she was on it. She could very well lose all interest in him when she goes off of it to try for a baby. His story is more common then you'd think in that regard

don't show up for your hearing, sell the house, fucking vanish. fuck that cunt.

That sucks, it really does. I hope you get a reasonable judge or at least gets some sort of explanation and closure from the bitch. Personally I would love to hear her justifying leaving and denying you time with your own child.

Hormones are hormones. The pill doesn't introduce foreign hormones to the body.
Some women it helps to balance, some women it helps to destabilize.
Drugs can be medicine or poison.

It's more that society allows for this sort of thing now. So it happens.
And something tells me OP overlooked flags from his (ex)wife that hinted at this behavior.

That's a bummer. Sounds like you're the type to bounce back from it. Hope you find a better one next time.

Pic probably won't help you, but it's semi-related to the thread.

This is what happens when u marry a non virgin

>Birth control also alters attraction in women, meaning that if they got together when she was on it. She could very well lose all interest in him when she goes off of it to try for a baby. His story is more common then you'd think in that regard
Yeah I was reading that women shift from attraction to opposite MHC expression to similar through the use of the pill.

I WISH OP WOULD STOP BEING A FAG AND CONFIRM/DENY PILL USE.

idk man if I couldn't find a way to get out of it id just write a suicide note "why are you such a bitch" and neck myself. It's fucked but your story isn't the first and that's why none of us care about women.

Nah man we can't just not partake in, you know, passing on our genetic legacy, love, all that good stuff. I know a lot of guys on here are super anti woman and I don't think they really have a concept, or maybe they're just to able to feel anymore, what it is to be in love. I wouldn't trade any of it, even though my shit's about to get pushed in by the court. Love is life, dude. MGTOW is just what I've been doing for the last two years but you do it until you die, and that shit's fine and all, but there's more to being a human, I think. Totes my opinion, and I respect it if you don't wanna take the risk of a relationship. I certainly haven't got the courage up to take the plunge past a first date since all of this happened.

I dunno man, I know shit's fucked, but it's just.. Not even sex, but relationships, partnership, building a life and a plan together that you can be proud of and have hope for. I think I'd risk it all again, for the right person.

Exactly. As irrational as women can be, regardless of the reason, if we as a society didn't allow and even encourage them to act crazy the world would be very different.

I can't help but wonder if divorce would be way less common alimony weren't a thing. The choice between making a marriage work or bailing on it at the first sign of trouble would be a lot harder if the second choice didn't come with a big fat check every month.

>Hormones are hormones. The pill doesn't introduce foreign hormones to the body.
>Some women it helps to balance, some women it helps to destabilize.
>Drugs can be medicine or poison.
>It's more that society allows for this sort of thing now. So it happens.


The only people Ive met that are this ignorant about the health effects of ARTIFICIAL SYNTHETIC hormones are the very women that use them.

Are you one of them by chance?

My ex wife cheated on me while I was deployed. I had all the proof in the world and she still got half my shit. No fault divorce is cancer.

synthetic progesterone
nytimes.com/2017/12/06/health/birth-control-breast-cancer-hormones.html

vice.com/en_us/article/bn3mw3/contraception-the-pill-depression-anxiety

>They found that those taking the combined pill were 23 percent more likely to be prescribed antidepressants than non-users, while those on progestin-only pills were 34 percent more likely. When it came to adolescents, girls taking the combined pill were 80 percent more likely; on the progestin-only pills, over twice as likely.

ncregister.com/daily-news/birth-control-in-drinking-water-a-fertility-catastrophe-in-the-making

curiouscortex.com/blog/2016/3/19/unattractiveimpact-of-birthcontrol
> Oxytocin, the hormone produced when engaging in hugging, kissing and intercourse reduces jealousy and increases partner attractiveness. How unfortunate would it be if a product existed that could disturb this natural rhythm: altering the level of attraction and diminishing sexual functioning. There is - and almost 10 million women in the US are using it: hormonal contraception.

>The task was simple – lay in the scanner and attend to pictures of a partner, a close (same sex) friend, and a stranger. After the scan, the participants rated all photos on a scale of 0- most unattractive to 100-most attractive.

>In freely cycling women, administering oxytocin enhanced attractiveness of their partner’s photo which paralleled with increased nucleus accumbens and ventral tegmental area responses. The two brain areas shown below are part of the primary reward circuit which release dopamine in response to reward-related stimuli. No surprise there: the partner’s face elicits pleasant feelings and arouses freely cycling women.

>However, in women using HC this mechanism was markedly disturbed. Attractiveness ratings of women who received oxytocin were not different from those who just received the placebo.

>Birth control and depression:
healthline.com/health/birth-control/birth-control-and-depression
cnn.com/2016/10/05/health/birth-control-depression-risk/index.html
>^ cited research article from above cnn report: jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/2552796
health.harvard.edu/blog/can-hormonal-birth-control-trigger-depression-2016101710514
>^ "risk of depression ((small)) but real"

CDC outline of birth control statistics; good reference material no known propaganda use as of yet
cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr062.pdf

scientificamerican.com/article/birth-control-pills-affect-womens-taste/
>This year 2.25 million Americans will get married—and a million will get divorced. Could birth control be to blame for some of these breakups? Recent research suggests that >the contraceptive pill—which prevents women from ovulating by fooling their body into believing it is pregnant—could affect which types of men women desire. Going on or >off the pill during a relationship, therefore, may tempt a woman away from her man.
>without birth control, females prefer the scent of males whose MHC (major histocompatibility complex) genes differ from their own: their children are born with more varied MHC profiles and thus more robust immune systems.
>women on the pill undergo a shift in preference toward men who share similar MHC genes
>women paired with MHC-similar men are less sexually satisfied and more likely to cheat on their partners than women paired with MHC-dissimilar men.

ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19254592
>Changes in weight, total fat, percent body fat, and central-to-peripheral fat ratio associated with injectable and oral contraceptive use.
>Over 36 months, DMPA users increased their weight (+5.1 kg), body fat (+4.1 kg), percent body fat (+3.4%).
This one above is the ultimate fear weapon as the birth control weight gain effect has been pushed as a un-found rumor for years.

Good stuff user

OP I'm fucking sorry. I'll take your advice.

put in my redpill folder.

Anyone with intellect would see that putting this shit into you is russian roullette, but the propaganda campaign was so effective, i mean just look at this post

I think we're doomed because the intelligent people (like me) start to hate these idiots. I don't want to educate these doofuses, I just want to watch them evolve into cancer transsexuals while Im safe in my glass dome.

Dude I can't like post pics or anything but straight up I swear to you she was pol's dream girl. Bubbly, innocent, ridiculously nice, like not cloying or saccharine niceness but genuine, like Disney princess levels of it. Great figure, cute face, natural red hair, ghost nips, freckles. She wasn't the smartest, but that's ok, because she looked to me for like everything. Was part of why we fell in love; that I was edgy and persuasive and knew shit about shit, whereas she was from a very sheltered single-mom Christian family. She wasn't mentally ill before all of this hormonal shit, and I haven't even talked to her since the birth, so I have no idea where her head's at now, but she obviously still hates me, so I just wanna warn you guys about this because it's a thing.

I don't want anyone to not have kids or try for relationships. I tried, back when it happened and I was still pretty normie, to go and talk with people on reddit about it and they just gave me the whole "stronk womyns is great you evil man" spiel. Feels good to talk about it with sympathetic people, I guess. Not trying to pull anything on you. Swear it.

Passing on your genetic legacy is good, but getting married is not. Marriage is basically just a government certificate anyway, hold a ceremony if you're sentimental about it, but make sure it's not legally binding. Modern day marriage is so far removed from the original intention of marriage it's unbelievable. Also realize that women are not like men, they do not think like men, they do not operate like men. They do not hold their own beliefs, values, or have independent agency. It is not hatred to acknowledge the nature of women. To many guys fell for the equality meme and it fucks them for life. Learn from your mistakes and do better, don't give up

>Dude I can't like post pics or anything but straight up I swear to you she was pol's dream girl. Bubbly, innocent, ridiculously nice, like not cloying or saccharine niceness but genuine, like Disney princess levels of it. Great figure, cute face, natural red hair, ghost nips, freckles. She wasn't the smartest, but that's ok, because she looked to me for like everything. Was part of why we fell in love; that I was edgy and persuasive and knew shit about shit, whereas she was from a very sheltered single-mom Christian family. She wasn't mentally ill before all of this hormonal shit, and I haven't even talked to her since the birth, so I have no idea where her head's at now, but she obviously still hates me, so I just wanna warn you guys about this because it's a thing.
>I don't want anyone to not have kids or try for relationships. I tried, back when it happened and I was still pretty normie, to go and talk with people on reddit about it and they just gave me the whole "stronk womyns is great you evil man" spiel. Feels good to talk about it with sympathetic people, I guess. Not trying to pull anything on you. Swear it.
DID SHE USE BIRTH CONTROL PILLS OR NOT?

Wasn't there a Black Mirror episode like this and when he tracked her down and saw the kid it was half black and that's why she ran to cover up her cheating?

Don't pay child support user.

>single-mom
Found the problem

>single-mom "family"
there we have it

You sound like a drug addict. No offense.

It's a known fact that women lose their shit and keep it to themselves for a while before it comes to a head. She probably got the "I can do better" illness and got depressed when she realized she was locked down with a child. What she is doing now is trying to find a betabux cuck.

Sage this shit
>letting a pregnant woman leave
>not dragging her through so many courts she has to give birth in front of the judge
>making me skim through all this shit

user, why the fuck did you get married? Impregnate the bitch, put all your money in offshore accounts or in a corporation she can’t touch and let the lady know that if she walks off she won’t ever get a damn thing and she will be stuck with kids.
>also op is a shill. Fuck Jews.

>this sounds like a kike trick to scare us from geting a family.
Not everything is a kike conspiracy you fucking retard. This story is quick common. The fact is we're not a lifelong monogamous species, which was why marriage was set up the way it was. You can't give women incentives to blow up the family, or else they will.

did your girlfriend use birth control pills?

Exactly the opposite is what needs to be done. Why do men make lifelong friends? It's bazaar to me that women do the things they do.

>It's bazaar to me that women do the things they do.

fuck i hate Sup Forums after the election

theres 2-3 intelligent people here, who have figured out the problem, and we're drowned out by retard white noise

I'm going to try to. Been researching how it all works in regards to my state's laws. Even scoped the judge's FB to get a feel for where her sympathies might lie. Going to try to do this well, but there are article after article about my state's average with women vs men in terms of custody. It's almost a meme, if only to those dealing with it. Long story short, my odds are bad, but I'm looking on the bright side: My ex-wife is not the smartest lady but makes up for it in sweetness and kindness. I don't know that she won't poison my daughter about me, but even if, that's ok. I won't, and in the long run, I think that plays out better, plus she's still my child, and so someday, she's going to pick up an instrument, or get an itch that there's more to life than she's being told, and I'll be there to help.

Thanks for the kind words, dude.

Yeah when we first got together, but after we got married, she got off of it. Why do you ask?

He got digits so all your posts are moot as is the law round these here parts

Nigger please.
You can't deny that when men were 'in power' and women couldn't vote and blah blah blah it's not like control was seized away in violent revolution.

Men ceded control over.
You can not claim superiority without also accepting the responsibility that it entails.

The problem with the first set of information posted is that it's not set up with controls. That's merely correlation. No fucking shit that women prescribed birth control, who have to ask for it first, may be engaging in a lifestyle that's empty and depressing, i.e casual sex.

As to the second set of information, the pill makes women act as if they're already pregnant. That's how it prevents pregnancy. Can't get pregnant if already pregnant.
Of course 'pregnant' women respond differently than 'normal' women.
I'm not a fan of the pill either but this is very straightforward from a neurological perspective.

Understand that women reflect the values of their authority, that they communicate with one another for the purpose of data exchange. That in the modern world with seemingly endless amounts of data streaming in from all around them. With authorities competing with one another not just being two guys in the village, but potentially billions across the globe. Their behavior can seem inconsistent with any pattern, but it's there.

well, that confirms it, high-five to the 2-3 other humans in this thread

for you, OP:
read the thread, idiot

Fuck you nigger, I'm in 17 different threads on 5 different Sup Forums's across the internet. I've been here since Sup Forums was /new/. You're the newfag.

Birth control pills are known to alter attraction in women. A woman who finds a guy attractive on them, may have little to no interest when she goes off of them. Couples breaking up/having problems when they're trying for kids is incredibly common these days because of that.

Thought about it. Looked into buying a SS# lol. Would be nice. Just start over, new me, new state, clean slate. lol probably would get caught, and I'd not get to be a part of my daughter's life.

I would have a DNA test if I was you.

lol Sorry I'm trying to respond to people. Yes she was on the pill while we were together in the early years.

Ok to those 2-3 humans I referenced, this post right here is the root of the problem.

This woman (or whatever) is completely ignorant of hormanal birth control, but has a VERY STRONG (wrong) opinion.

But thanks to egalitarianism, these idiots are free to destroy their relationships, pollute the water supply, and send themselves down a road of cancer and mental problems because its their right to do so.

Fuck sorry dude. Any kids?

What you say is true, women do not have power. Weak men who fetisize putting women on a pedestal are in power. Women cannot be in power simply due to their inherent nature, they are eternal dependents. If we ask them to be a slut, they become a slut. If we ask them to be a house wife, they become a house wife. If we ask them to be a career woman, they become it etc

I haven't watched all of it, but I know there was one episode in the first season that deals with a woman covering up her cheating and the end revelation is that the husband's kid isn't actually his

user, if you're in the state of Illinois, I'm an attorney and I'll help.

Case closed. Your daughter will be pimped out long before you enter her life. It's vital you accept this to avoid suicide in 16 years when she tells you she hates you and asks why you weren't there and when you explain to her your sweet, kind wife was the one stopping you she'll call you a liar. Seriously. Wake up to yourself because this path your on is fucking grim m8

Thankfully no. I learned my lesson and won't remarry.

>Thanks to egalitarianism
This. This ideology is the root of practically all of our societal problems.

Sounds like someone is going to go MGTOW in the future. Congrats OP, you now have learned that gynocentricism is cancer.

This is true. Anytime I'm nice to my wife she tries to take advantage of it. I ended that shit. Told her she's going to end up in the swamp if she ever fucks me over. Call her every name in the book. Last time I was fucking with her I told her I'd bleed her dry. She got visibly worried so I told her I was just joking and that she wouldn't be worth my time. She gets even more sad that I told her she wasn't worth the time to bleed her dry. We joke and genuinely enjoy each other's company, but anytime I'm too nice, she starts acting like a cunt.

>This. This ideology is the root of practically all of our societal problems.
You might misconstrue me. I don't mean egalitarianism in the male-woman dichotomy.

I mean in the idiot-intelligent dichotomy.

>t. 14-year-old who needs to go to second period class
Sounds like you really know how relationships work, tard boi

lol my bad I went one by one down the thread and took my time to respond to people who asked me stuff, so I hadn't made it to the birth control part. It's weird. You'd think I'd care more after learning this, but it's like yeah, sure, our whole relationship was a lie based on hormones. Why not. lol

Am going to. I don't think she cheated. We legit had a great relationship, like spent literally all of our free time together, but the way this has all gone down, I'm going to ask for one.

Oh no I was speaking in generality, in every way, not just how it's applied to genders. But how it's applied to everything, even class equality with Democracy, Communism.

Then there's postpartum depression where they literally hate their newborn children. Women are funny creatures.

wanna know how to make divorce rates plummet? wanna know how to free up single dads and stop ruining families?

two words:

ABOLISH
ALIMONY

I could see this being a LARP post to further demoralize a majority-virginNEET reader audience. But if not a LARP, I'm terribly sorry user. I have no words of encouragement. Truthfully, you're handling things far better than I would were I in your position.

Damn, nah, in Texas.. Thank you though. Sincerely.

>You'd think I'd care more, but I don't
Men tend to deal with stressful situations well, but you might also be suppressing how it actually makes you feel. In which case, don't, acknowledge your feelings and work through them now so they don't keep you down for years like some anons here

Good luck and may God be with you.

>two words:
>ABOLISH
>ALIMONY

That's not how you spell acid attack, wtf?

lol what the fuck dude that doesn't sound healthy at all

Ok sorry I was so mean m8, I got triggered by the woman saying the pill is natural.

It seriously breaks my heart to think of your story, especially the way in which it has affected your career and the way you see the world. I have gone though similar experiences and the only saving grace is to use it as knowledge to inform the future.

For instance, ALWAYS ask your date if she has ever used the pill.

Make a few Twitter accounts, make some liberal friends and with abit of social engineering and finesse get them to start the #AA movement to abolish alimony because it's sexist and implies we women are weak. Fuck man they argue and push for the most redundant shit and get their way I'd honestly be surprised if it didn't work.

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Different strokes dude. We are both pretty fucked and kind of hate everybody.

In hindsight, were there any red flags or anything that would suggest that your wife would just up and leave eventually? I'm worried about this happening with my girl now because I've picked up on some pretty rough flags and don't want to take the next step in this relationship out of fear of something similar happening.
She's been nothing but sweet, but I imagine that you once said the same thing about your gir.

That's fucked up user, I'm sorry.

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Phrenology is fake and retarded. People bred for aesthetics for thousands of years.

Always assume it will turn out bad. Plan for the worst. Now that's just fucking basic.

Prepare for the worse, hope for the best, live by this and you'll almost always have a positive outlook on life. Even when things come crashing down around you

Find out where she lives, plant drugs on her, send drug dealers to her front door and then call cps on her. Get your child.

How would you convince your partner that you don't want to get married due to the nature marriage in the 21st century without sounding like she's not good enough to get married to and that you're just keeping her around until something better comes along?

F

Like this.

This is the way it is gonna be if you don't like it there's the door. I have no interest on getting fucked down the line because of an unjust legal system that will favour you. This isn't about you or me it's about us and if you love me you'll understand.