I have no idea how to interact with people, even online.
How many questions are you supposed to ask? At what point does it get annoying or creepy? How often should you ask them to play games with you? How do you get to know someone more naturally? How do I stop driving people away?
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if it's online, it only gets annoying to them until they say so.
I usually just spout something random on the teamchat when a match of tf2 starts, like "So does anyone here like memes"
>How many questions are you supposed to ask?
You're asking too many right now.
>someone starts speaking directly to you online
I swear I start having panic attacks just waiting for a reply to my posts even here
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that's extremely relatable
faggot
You don't do any of that. You only play with your real life friends, and ignore any creeps who try to interact with you. Online gaming is a supplement for your real social life, not a substitute.
If it doesn't come naturally to you, you're fucked. Cuz you'll just come off as trying too hard and you'll give off bad vibes. RIP in peace.
How's it going user, what have you been up to?
>tfw play MMOs because I like playing alongside other people
>people start talking to me casually
>pretend to be AFK or immediately log out
>log back in and say "oh yeah my internet went out, can we jsut get back to playing the game"
it's okay user you're not the only one
By stop avatarfagging with anime maybe.
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>I don't know what avatarfagging means
Depend on the situation, like real life. This is for the first two. 1. By spending more time with them, usually. By remain in contact with them without sound\act like a needy dude.
Go away, normie! actually i think this for real
read the rules retard
I don't have any real life friends and can't make any because
>Only multiplayer games I play are anime fighters, no one plays these locally, I checked
>Want weeaboo friend to talk about other vidya with
>Even on college campuses here people only play EA Sports titles and dudebro crap
>Naturally unlikeable, tried to change it but can't
Even if I did find someone who played what I did it wouldn't work. Even online where this is less of an issue I have only a handful of close friends and save one person I am too afraid to even ask them to play games because I know they will reject me as they always do, and at best people will merely tolerate me out of kindness.
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He doesnt but he is right, having anime pics is a red flag right away in any game
And I like anime
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cuck
Its just underage kids spouting memes, feels just twitch chat, dont go there.
Fuck off Pardo
Just accept it and stop being a pussy
I havent have a friend for over a decade and likely never will again and I dont act like a pussy
wtf, thats untrue, people like you are super cute. theres a lot of people out there who'd play these games with you, you just need to put yourself out there, look up a forum, group, hell make a general. im sure some of my friends wouldnt mind saying hi either.
Be natural, don't think about stuff like that. Try talking mostly about the game until you're comfortable around the people you're playing with.
It takes a while to be accepted into a group so don't be annoying in the beginning and let them do ther group/insider humour without interrupting. Probably laugh about their jokes - even when they're not funny.
If you are too socially awkward it's probably better to talk less than too much,
Same, except not here. Unless I was to confrontational and I see the red "!" on one off my tabs.
Everywhere else tho I'd like a reply quickly unless I've known them for a long time.
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Youngsters will always be the most vocal
Just find the cool people and talk to them solo, that's what I do
>Be natural
Might as well say "be normal, why cant you be normal you fucking creep"
this
get on anti-anxiety meds and go outside - it will cure you
After a while I started to notice that people don't give a shit about you talking in team chat as long as your are not flaming around.
Always remember:
Tactical speech in competitive games
Normal day speech: Casual play
Asking is not the problem as long as you ask around once a day like "Hey I'm playing this online game, want to join?" and when they answer "no" so be it.
Most people don't think as much as you do about such situations. They normally give a damn about what you say, they just don't respond to things they don't like.
>bullying little kids on overwatch
>taking loud bong rips into the mike when squeakers start screaming
>dude weed lmao
Don't feel bad OP
I bought a multiplayer game and have yet to take it online because I'm worried I'm going to suck and ruin everything for everyone else.
The thought of that mixed with having to communicate makes me wanna cry
that's h*lla fr*ckin ep*c bro
Don't try to be someone you aren't. Because that will not work.
That's what I mean.
I don't think it's epic i think its fukinn siiiiiiiiick dude
>I see the red "!" on one off my tabs.
Sometimes I just post what I want to say on my phone and go out of the tab on my computer because seeing that ! makes my heart skip a beat.
Like I did just now
how do I join IRC and start talking to people?
Whenever you see someone go online, don't immediately message them asking to play with you. Play it safe, and message them once or twice a week. If you seriously have the need to always play with someone, go outside.
>tfw no submissive Sup Forumsirgin will ever awkwardly message you asking if you want to play games then get excited when you say yes
Why live?
From Steam friends threads on Sup Forums and /r9k/ I have about three or four close friends, only one of which I am comfortable enough to ask to play vidya without worrying and he asks me too, but this is the exception rather than the rule. IRL I have tried "putting myself out there" so hard. I hosted more than half a dozen Kerfuffle tournaments in the hopes of making a real friend to play it with, even after getting contact info nothing ever came of it.
As for being cute, I crossdress and people seem to think so online, but that doesn't form actual friendships.
You'll no longer be anxious if you talk to people more often. Phobias are generally cured by having the victim being exposed to it, and in doing so, conquering their fears.
i find shy people to be super qt.
personally i deal with social stuff by simply not giving a fuck, and thats it really. i play PR and other games where communication is key and often lead the squad, no matter how many times we, well, i fuck up, people end up following me anyway (because they dont know any better) and english isnt ever my first language
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Jesus you are a fucking stereotype of the beta faggots of today
But Ill form a friendship with your asshole
I don't become friends with crossdressers because they're usually damaged goods
Join the discord thats linked above.
people like you are the reason they are the way they are
kill yourself
I would agree but at least those beta faggots have a lot of people who like them, I don't. Therefore I am not quite the stereotype, unfortunately.
I am a virgin.
Im the reason he is an emasculated faggot?
And I dont hate him Im just saying Ive fucked boipussy before
If anything you white knights trying to shield people from reality are the cause
Damaged, not used. by that I mean you fuckers are usually extremely fucked in the head
from the reality you've created?
well right now you are doing the "im so lonely pls feel sorry for me" routine
You might not be a camwhoring trap whore but you sure are close
Good luck to you in any case
Go fuck yourself, seriously
I'm not trans so not in the way you are probably thinking. But yes.
From playing wow, I've really never bothered with making friends in it, just knowing people and being part of a guild to get shit done, yet once I made a friend with a chill dude and grill who soon after just stopped talking to, and they'd even try to talk to me.
I don't know why, I enjoyed it, I just stopped.
tfw you only have 6 steam friends and none of them ever message you
you're interacting with us retard
just b your'rself!!
good argument mr. well adjusted """""""alpha"""""""
its almost funny, i've faced many before, honestly you all end up lonely so it doesnt matter
And now you are assuming shit.
Im nowhere near alpha nor well adjusted, I emply my days masturbating to drawings and I have no friends
I just can function in a social situation if I was to be in one ever again
IRL, a huge chunk of people across the world are entirely dependent on alcohol to socialize.
Best case scenario for socializing with people is to be born under the circumstances of having been brought up in the countryside doing manual labour. As you enter urban, run-down areas or cities, you'll start smelling the alcohol.
Online, the climate is somewhat different as to most people, the internet is a continent set in space, far away from Earth where only very few can truly shake things up. The dependence people have online for socializing typically resides in memes and fandoms.
Not OP but I know I can interact with people on anonymous boards all day.
The moment I have an identity though I panic and clam up.
I don't even know why. I had a good handful of friends in high school and I still have a few now. Everyone that interacts with me at work tells me I'm a pretty good guy. It's terrifying though.
>Have shitty satellite internet cause I live in the middle of nowhere
>Want to play online games with my few friends but can't because of shitty connection and limited data caps
>Never bother with Steam friends threads cause I know I can't even play any games with anons though I do occasionally find erp partners from Sup Forums
Suffering.
i used to know how interact with people, in WoW i had hit the limit on my friend's list. all i really remember about it is being ridiculously friendly and stupid (i was 10 years younger, of course) and using an emoticon at the end of almost every message. now i don't have any online friends really.
Shy people: What would it take for you to get on a Skype call with a random stranger?
Learn Nonviolent Communication nigga.
All you need for communicating with other human beings and more:
what kind of erp
oh so you're just a lost, very lost possibly a k person in denial, as your emotions and how you feel dont just magically appear out of nowhere - if you're old and bitter then kys right now, if you're young then you still have time
good luck to you either way
I've got 6 friends that I met online between 5 and 15 years ago that I'm still friends with today. Casting a wide net will inevitably get you a few friends for life.
Now who is coming off as mr chad?
Why?
you say that as if that is easy.
get drunk and start streaming or something
If you aren't a vanillafag post your Steam or a throwaway email.
I used to have mild cases of this
but then I made a fake facebook and shit talked everyone
I also shittalk people on chat sites like omegle and chatroulette
implying i bother myself with these terms
if you need to label me, you might as well just call me an idiot, its what you mean anyway
You really need to have the last word no matter what huh, go on then reply to this and I promise I wont reply back.
I'm asking because I was in that situation a year ago. Taking that call is how my current job started.
Are you willing to give up potential opportunities because of your anxiety? Or does it only go as far as casual socializing?
I used to wonder the same things myself, but then I gave up
It's much easier when you just don't talk to people user
>tfw i have 0 (zero) steam friends so i don't have to worry about messaging them or them messaging me
>don't have to worry about them thinking i'm a low life because i'm online all the time
the loneliness is so much sweeter than having friends.
Mainly vidya characters, just depends on what my partners and I set up for the scene, as long as I know the character well I can usually work with anything. That all being said, some anons can be very uncomfortable to work with.
I'm a /d/eviant, but I don't exactly feel up to setting a scene up right now.
There was an /adv/ thread for people to gradually overcome their anxieties but it eventually died due to people hating NEETS and trolling all the time.
A shame honestly. I was able to go out and get a job because of those.
You wouldn't be interested in trying something later? I didn't mean just this instant.
Just say and do whatever, drive off the people that get annoyed. You probably don't want to know them anyway. Eventually, you'll find someone as retarded as you. Then you'll be friends.
just be yourself bro :)
>have about 10 steam friends
>know few of them irl and chat with them like few times a week, all the other steam friends are randoms and don't chat with them
>haven't seen ones I know irl in years or even called them by their real names
>still have to avoid buying weebshit and stay offline most of the day to avoid looking like a complete faggot
this middle ground loneliness is literally the worst feel human bean can feel
Eh, maybe, did you have anything particular in mind?
You sound like some pyramidal guru
I would need to know what you are into first. I intended on discussing this via Steam or throwaway email because I'm into a lot of stuff, and some of it is embarrassing. I'm open to a great deal of kinks.
Asking questions is fine. It gets annoying/creepy if you are asking way more than them. Let people reciprocate, it proves you arent forcing discussion. Same with asking to play games. Ask once, maybe twice, then give them some time to reciprocate (like a few days to a week). If they don't but you felt they were warm to you when you played, go ahead and ask again.
If they ever say no, don't say aww come on please play with me like a bitch.
Getting to know people naturally works the same way. Pace yourself in discussions and make sure not to initiate too much more than your friend, or say/type way more than him either. Silence sometimes is fine, getting nervous and talking to break the silence is a sign of anxiety, so try to relax during awkward silences. It's okay to break them after a while, just so long as you are actually communicating something worthwhile instead of just trying to make things not awkward.
Autists browsing Sup Forums - take note of this shit.
Basically this. I have no problems finding friends online but I've only kept in touch with a select few. Drop the ones you don't fully enjoy hanging with and if you can tell someone doesn't get your humor or doesn't like hanging with you fully, drop them too. Eventually you'll end up with a decent small circle of friends.
You actually have to put in the effort and test out different friends though. It also won't work if you don't have some cross-game way of communication. MMO friends that just stay on your mmo friendslist will always go away eventually. You need something out of game, like discord or steam or twitch or anything really.
Same
I have enough friends but i Just want to feel special to someone
Dont be a fag, FIFA and cod are fun and worth playing if you have to to make friends.
You can't change being unlikeable without practice.
>Don't like talking to people because I find discussion annoying as shit.
>How people would misinterpret the smallest things and have to be told the same thing in different ways until they accept it.
>How a lot of people would interrupt you when they get excited, making you wait a bit until you can get a word in.
>How noisy discussion can become when multiples are going on at once.
Somehow, I feel like I like people, I like their company, doing stuff with friends like playing video games, going outside to eat or playing tabletop RP but I just hate discussion.
I wonder if shy people feel something similar, or if I'm just not a people's person.
>I wonder if shy people feel something similar, or if I'm just not a people's person.
I think it's you, but it's not normal either and it's probably something that can be fixed. Need some kind of mood or anger management bro. You have to learn to tolerate people and get along with them. The more time you spend with people, the more you will get used to tolerating and interacting with them and the payoff is worth it. Humans don't want to be alone, it's a shitty feeling. There are no exceptions to this either, you would just be lying to yourself if you said you don't want company.
You're right.
I like company, I just dislike spoken discussions
I guess I just didn't do much of it lately, and I find myself lacking patience when subjected to it.
I'd give up a conversation easily because of how bothersome I find them. I'll keep trying though, thanks.
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