Question for those with bfs (or gfs, I guess)

Question for those with bfs (or gfs, I guess).
How do you balance video games and your s/o?
I don't feel like I have time to focus on video games since I live with my bf.
I don't want to ignore him since I hate being ignored myself.
Also, to immerse myself in Pokemon, for example, I have to give it almost, if not all, my attention.
Even though he's asleep right now, I know I'll drop Pokemon as soon as he wakes, and I don't like giving up the game because I might not be able to get back into it if I stop playing when I'm not ready to.
I'm real bad at multitasking and have focus problems.
It's easy for me to slip off into bad habits, so I avoid them as much as possible.

Really depends on if he plays videogames himself. If he does, do you enjoy the same games?

He's more into more of games like fps, Twisted Metal, Grand Tourismo.
He's not THAT into video games.
I grew up with Nintendo, so I'm much more into Pokemon and Mario.
He ended up really liking playing 3D world with me, which led to us having a lot of fun together.
Thing is though, I feel like I can't really play stuff like Pokemon now.
I feel I'm just too bad at balancing everything around me.
I tried getting him into Pokemon, but I was stupid and introduced him to the series with Moon, which turned out to be way too slow and story based.
Besides, I think that's more nostalgia-based by now.
I love playing any video game we can together, but I feel like I can't really play single player games anymore.
He would tell me to not worry and go ahead and play, but I don't wanna fall down a slippery slope and get carried away.
Growing up I had no friends and only played video games by my lonesome.
I worry I'll get into that sort of mindset again.

have you tried maybe playing a story based game to get him invested in something else?

Just tell him what you just said. Tell him to let you know if it does actually start to become a problem, and you'll reel it in a bit. Be sure you let him know it won't hurt your feelings if tells you it's becoming a problem, and just start from there. If you're really concerned about it, and feel bad, just talk to him a bit while playing every now and then.

I've been telling him I want to get him to play Twilight Princess, but he says he'd much rather play something we can play together at the same time.
Something with a co-op story mode would be great, I think.
I do think I can convince him to play Mario Odyssey after he loved playing 3D world.
Hoping for 2 player mode on it.
Despite spending all my time playing video games growing up, I don't know many others than the ones I replayed a lot.
Do you think I'm ridiculous to be stubborn about playing any single players myself?

It's easy - get a job

another thing is that I used to get upset when I felt ignored because he'd be using the internet when I wanted his attention
at times I feel needy and am very sensitive and do not like feeling ignored or unimportant
I don't want to do the same to him, even if he's not insecure like I am
I did try that before and he did tell me he thought I was focusing too much on my phone during my obsession with Duel Links.
Problem may have been he wanted me to see the road as we were driving around the US because of his truck-driving job.
It may also have been my addiction to the internet that crept up and messed me up there, though.

well, I think you guys are just stuck in sharing different preferences about games, but maybe he just isn't that keen on nintendo. I grew up with nintendo consoles, had zelda, smash, etc. and I honestly don't feel too connected with those games. Everyone shames me about it, but I guess I decided to be different. He could be like me and may find interest in...a different kind of platformer. pic related

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Hmm, you may try consciously setting limits on yourself, even if it means setting an alarm. Maybe play an hour or two, then see what he's up to, hang out, do whatever for a little bit, then go back to playing games. That way, there's never a huge gap in between attention given to one another. Also if you don't already, make sure you explain how and why you like the games you do. It's entirely possible he just never grew up playing the type of games you enjoy, and never grew any sort of attachment to them. Worth a shot.

he did have a sega when he was younger, and did like sonic
difference in taste only affects me since he just doesn't like Pokemon, which was my number 1 game series
/adv/ is terrible
I've used them multiple times years ago and gave me the equivalent of "just be yourself" when I needed help with my terrible social anxiety, and got mad at me when I told them that's not how it works
>he just never grew up playing the type of games you enjoy
he didn't even know pikachu's name before he met me, which was ridiculous to me
but also cute cus I never met someone like that, especially since he's in his 30s
I am gonna try that time limit thing, I think that'll be the best way to go, at least for now, until I learn how to balance life
it'll happen soon enough, no worries

>affects me since he just doesn't like Pokemon, which was my number 1 game series
well, in the end, I don't think you can force him to like something. if he can't try something new that is akin to your tastes, maybe you can try something that appeals to his. it's just video games, in the end, as long as you can learn to have fun with your partner, I think that's all that matter. the question is, what game?

with this magical 5

I gave up on trying to get him into Pokemon already.
I've been wanting to try playing HeartGold, since I only played through it, like twice.
I focused much more on replaying Platinum in the past.

L O N D O N

I only play video games when I'm not with my girlfriend and I'm bored

>setting a boyfriend alarm
who needs /adv/ when you have Sup Forums?

Why don't you have a gf (or bf), Sup Forums?

You should probably prioritize your boyfriend over video games. You're not going to have a stable relationship if you're too deep into vidya. I've had to break up before because the person I was dating cared about games more than our relationship and got lost in them. If you're serious about him and want to commit to your relationship, you should be able to put down your 3DS.

Personally, I just drop everything else when it comes to hobbies if I have something I want to do with someone I'm dating, video games included. I've never lived with any of them and they've had tight schedules, so every bit counts.

The main problem seems to be that your bf is a normie.
Try giving him fast paced games like fighters or reaction based games because those are quick and easy to get into.
I don't know the first thing about picking up a girl.

>fighters
>quick and easy to get into

There's no way a normie bf would be able to get into fighting games.

Believe it or not, you can play a fighting game for fun without knowing the mechanics well and have a good time.

Pick a game that goes outside of both of your tastes, a relationship is all about exploring new things together.

I've been living with my gf for about a year now

She is very needy but not all the time. If I'm playing a game she likes, she'll will watch me play for hours. When I'm playing something she doesn't like and she's bored she usually complains a lot but understands (most of the time).

I work from home and she only works on weekends so we spend time together all day every day. When I really want to do something and focus without interruption I wait for her to sleep.

Because i'm a shy beta and have no confidence
I have nothing to offer

didn't read lol

Because even though I workout I have a personality that drains the life out of a room.

I developed a routine in which I stay up until 4~5 am every day just to get to play some vidya while she goes to sleep at 1 am max.
I'm constantly exhausted and want to stop but fucking hell there's no time for everything.

not sleeping is the simplest and best solution. have a nice day user.

just date someone with better taste

Grab left breast, place thumb near sternum and twist until she lets you do whatever you want.

No need to balance it out. Just don't obsessively play and make the other feel neglected. You can't play nonstop for all the free time you have and not do shit with your partner (gfs and bfs included). Your hobbies are your own though, no need to drop any for someone else, just be considerate in the amount of time you put into everything.

He isn't a woman, so he'll understand you have your own things and not nag all the time of wanting attention. Try to make some time together. Eating/cooking meals together without anything else being a distraction is a great way to have a bit of decent intimate time. It's not an excuse to play more though.

married eat shit singles cooking ur own food

This is what I do.
The feeling of being needed/somebody wanting to spend so much time with me beats playing games she doesn't like to play or watch.
Sometimes you have to pick.